#and I hate it so much

[dailymanners]

Always use "excuse me" if you have to get into someone else's personal space.

Someone at the store is standing in front of the shelf where there's a can you want to grab? Don't just reach into their personal space without warning, say "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" first so that they at least have a warning that someone is about to reach into their personal space, and most importantly, so that they have a chance to move before you get into their space.

Or if someone is standing on a walkway or in a doorway you need to get through, don't just silently shove past them or squeeze past them, say "excuse me" so that they have a warning that a someone is about to squeeze or shove into their personal space, and they have a chance to move out of the way before you do you.

People deserve a fair warning if someone is about to squeeze or shove or reach into their personal space. A lot of people are not okay with having someone, but especially a stranger, randomly shove or squeeze or reach into their personal space without warning. They also deserve a chance to move out of the way first for the sake of their comfort.

Try to avoid just staring at people who are in your way and expecting them to read your mind that you want them to move. Most people cannot, in fact, read minds, so having someone stand in front of them and stare at them often only leads to making them feel uncomfortable and frustrated.

But also more importantly, if you are standing somewhere someone needs to get to, and they say excuse me, you should move aside for them even if just temporarily, so they can avoid the discomfort of having to reach into your personal space or squeeze past you.

If someone is saying "excuse me" it's because they would like you to move because they don't want to have to get into your personal space, whether it's out of respect for you, or just because they themselves are not comfortable getting in your personal space.

All of this goes double for people with trauma and/or people who are neurodivergent. If someone has trauma related to abuse or assault they may find it more upsetting or possibly triggering to suddenly have someone shoving or reaching in their personal space without warning.

Or, many types of neurodivergence can make it especially disturbing and unpleasant to have someone else in your personal space, especially without warning.

You can never be 100% sure who is and isn't traumatized and/or neurodivergent, so always practice respecting other's personal space by giving them a fair warning with "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" before getting in their personal space, and moving aside when you hear those magic words. Or, even if someone isn't traumatized nor neurodivergent, it's still fair to not like someone in your personal space without warning and not being given the opportunity to move first.

#manners #politeness #courtesy #good manners #etiquette #I'm so sorry I really tried to make this one shorter I really did #I trimmed the fat as much as I could but this was as short as I could bring myself to make it #Where I live most people will just shove into your personal space without saying anything #or just stare at you until you get the hint and move #and I hate it so much #Especially because I am both neurodivergent and have PTSD so I really hate people staring at me and/or shoving in my personal space

[howglorygoes]

The phrase “why would I bother reading something nobody could be bothered to write” is incredibly succinct and galvanizing whenever someone tries to bring up AI

#my coworker and boss keep talking about trying to use it to write scripts for our theater camps #and I hate it so much

[nefja]

#poll #in 7 years I've seen MAYBE 3 golden golden retrievers #and I hate it so much #hashtag make goldens golden again

[lumiolivierlithium]

See what happens when I post polls on Twitter? They make me do dumb shit.

#fan fiction #zosan #one piece #goddammit #i wasn't expecting to jump into a new fandom #but here we are #god. fucking. dammit #these assholes live rent free in my brain #and i hate it so much #but i also secretly love it oh my fucking god #coming soon #coming attractions #lumiolivier doing zosan fic? #it's more likely than you think

[lovl3igh]

"daenerys became mad, what do you wanted jon to do? let her live?" not kiss her since he decided to stab her into heart for example

#fcking loser #i'd treat her better #if only she stayed in essos #or have better taste in men #or even better #she should have chosen yara #both dany and jon were ruined at the end #but that death scene was riddiculous #and i hate it so much #queen daenerys #targaryen #asoiaf #game of thrones #daenerys stormborn #daenerys targaryen #anti jon snow #jon snow #mother of dragons #yara greyjoy #anti d&d #anti daenerys haters

[unsurebisexualcore]

crushes are weird

sometimes they make you want to live forever and ever

sometimes they make you want to drop a brick on your head

sometimes they make you dance around your room until you smack your leg on the corner of your bed

sometimes they make you want to pick back up that passion project buried in the back of your closet

sometimes they make you want to grab them by the neck and shake them back and forth in frusteration

sometimes they make you want to scream into the void

sometimes they make you zone out with your friends as you think about them

sometimes they make you feel like you're gonna puke

sometimes they make you want to take the night off and make your favorite overly complicated meal

sometimes they make you glad you exist in the same timeline as them

sometimes they make you wish they never existed

...

crushes are weird

#dealing w a funky lil situation lol #to all my aroace moots does this ever happen to yall too? #liek not ina romantic context ofc but like just people #people r so annoying and complex #and i hate it so much #but i love it too #keep being complex its cool #just mildly frustrating when the complexity isnt deciphered in my lil peanut brain

[ganondoodle]

consider this a vent post

#ganondoodles talks #i kept seeing posts of ppl that this is about #and it jsut wont get out of my head #espeically when others that i like follow and rt them still #i dont wanna seem like one of those overly purist(?) people #i dont even have high standards #literally the only shipping standards i have is #both characters are adults and dont have a parental or sibling relationship to each other #thats it #how is this apparently so hard to not do #its making me anxious #all of them seemed so cool at first #why does shipping of all things reveal just how far someone is willing to go just to get off #god i hate it #and i care very little about anythign shipping related #i just find it disgusting when there is a minor involved and or they are related #thats not too high of a standard now is it??? #i have literally gotten more anxious talking to people just bc i now expect to see them be creeps #and i hate it so much #i want to make friends but apparently half the people that like the same characters as i are creeps wtf #and i swear im pretty chill #idc about shipping discourse or whatever #but this should be common sense no ?? #or is the need to ship stuff a thing other ppl have a primal urge to do stopping at literally nothing #and yes this is partly about ppl actually shipping zelda and urbosa #WHICH TICKS BOTH BOXES OF MY ONLY TWO NO GOES #i want to cry #if you have noticed me answering even fewer asks than before #well

[heartofalifer]

everytime I rewatch Broadchurch I get sadder as I get to the end of the seasons because Alec gets called by his name or even sir lesser and lesser when he's constantly shouting MILLAHHRRR

#Broadchurch #alec hardy #alec hardy is tumblrs resident grumpy wet cat #alec has a habit of calling people by their names #and it’s quite apparent with daisy and ellie #and I HATE IT SO MUCH #because our boy definitely have atrachment issues #his brooding schtick act is just a weak cover for his soft hearted ass

[ironpool99]

yes, chase is my favorite character. yes, I hate him with the power of a thousand suns.

#watching 'chase' rn #and i hate it so much #despite the fact i look forward to every chase scene #house md #robert chase

[backpackingspace]

okay I can't find my thanks I hate post. So here's a new one.

Jun wu: Okay xie lian let's get the lesson learned one more time okay baby. General pei either break the array and I'll reinstate you or don't and I'll release your enemies.

#Heaven officials blessing #Xie lian #Jun wu #General pei #i hate it here #This is so well done and so awful #And I hate it so much

[oifaaa]

not to sound elitist but like when people talk about pit madness like it’s canon i always question whether they actually like jason or if they just want a “bad boy”

I think they like Jason they just want a more palatable clear cut good version of him - saying he was possessed by the lazarus pit provides a easy out even tho it makes no sense and quite frankly takes alot away from Jason's character imo - all of Jason's actions are his own there's no mythical goop whispering at him to do fucked up things - I especially hate it when people use it as a Jason wouldn't actually hurt tim if he was in his right mind like I think the titans tower fight is stupid and don't acknowledge it but I still don't deny that Jason would still not hesitate to hurt tim bc hes willing to hurt people around Bruce to mess with him and that's fucked up but its just how Jason is - alot of people use it though bc it is just easy it's easier then actually writing a Jason who's unhinged and genuinely wants to harm certain bats it's easier to sympathise with and its a easier way to end a story with everyone now a happy family

#ask #anon #and i hate it so much #also was that elitist #omg am i elitist #damn #tbf i think its fine as long as im only saying this stuff on my blog #lol #any way yeah #pit madness is stupid #its one of those fanon things i cant stand #ive mentioned it many times before #but i just #its so dumb #why do people like writing away the interesting parts of a character #like people who use it to undermine everything that happened in utrh #get outta here #jason came back wrong #thats like 90% of who he is #stop trying to take that away from him

[didderd]

adhd sans is such a relatable character, seeing as i have my own issues. i seriously struggle with stuff similar to his problems so it feels comforting knowing there's a skeleton just like me and a lot of other people

yes omg

i love Duck sm. projecting heavily onto this boi, especially with the comic.

fkn. sorry, i hope you don't mind me using your ask as an excuse to ramble abt my neurodivergent ass. you don't have to read this.

ramblings bordering on venting, but mostly jus cus i wanna talk abt my disorders more, but not in a venty way, but hhhh.. under read more:

ADHD is such a struggle, especially the executive dysfunctioning. ppl would assume that the Tourette's is the more crippling of the disorders i have, jus bc it's more physical and more like. known for being disabling(?) but at least in my case it's nothing compared to my ADHD symptoms.

the most my Tourette's does usually is bruise my wrist or make me have to stop what i'm doing (like literally just now stopping writing to snap my fingers and clap several times lmao hkgvhc) for a moment to tic.

but my executive dysfunction stops me from doing just about anything. chores, basic hygiene, important life shit, even eating and hydrating.

and my dissociating does the same thing as my tics, making me stop what i'm doing sometimes. or it'll make me have to like.. slow down and not able to look at what i'm doing while my vision is unfocused and i stare off into space or at whatever's directly in front of me lol.

the sensory problems also. sometimes i can't walk around in certain cloths bc the texture is too much. it feels like sand paper. (there's more i could say abt the sensory problems, but i need to stop rambling skdbvjsdvk)

anyways, yeah. so fkn grateful for adhd sans, bc now i have a character to pour all these problems into lmao.

#i know the bit abt having to stop writing to tic seems too conveniently timed to be true #but tourette's is just like that sometimes lol #and thinking abt something happening can make it happen #sry again for rambling abt my symptoms hhh #im misophonic too which is probably largely bc of the sensory problems caused by my adhd #and i cant like.. eat chips and stuff with friends without something else drowning out the sound. like loud music or smthn #and them actively trying not to be loud with it #my sister's friends are such fkn obnoxiously loud eaters #like no one's ever told them to close there mouth while eating #and i hate it so much #(fkn. continues to ramble abt symptoms in tags) #(sry) #tourette's #tourette syndrome #adhd #adhd sans #neurodivergencies #neurodivergent #aez26 #didderd asks

[conwayconartist]

I hate when this happens.

#crow #this happens at least once a week for me #and I hate it so much #can never tell if its real or not #shape consists of spiders or small black insects #one time I had an eye floater while in bed that was literally just clyde the pacman ghost. like it was orange and everything. #The clyde thing only happened once so I'm not too crazy.

[larry-hiatus]

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#I’m so tired of being the way that I am dude #I’m sensitive and fragile and emotional about fucking everything #I’ve been pulling away from my friends the past few months so that they don’t have to deal with it #but now it’s just being put on my online friends #and I hate it so much #I don’t know how to change #I don’t know how to not get upset over so much #sometimes I feel like I’ve come far and other times I feel like I haven’t made any progress at all #it’s so frustrating because it makes me so paranoid #do people dislike me because of this? are they talking about me? am I just a burden that people tolerate? #I just want to be fucking normal lol and I don’t know how #I’m too autistic and just a huge baby about everything all the time #I’m so stressed and overwhelmed about so much lately #but I can’t just keep using that as an excuse #do people just roll their eyes when I apologize because they’re tired of it and know it will happen again? #I want to just hide away #so that people don’t have to deal with me #and it sucks because I’m not saying all this to be like woe is me please feel sorry for me please reassure me #I’m just getting my feelings out #now is a great time for my schedule to be changing to not allow for regular therapy lol #idk man #I don’t know what I’m doing anymore

[runawaymun]

I don’t know how many times I have to repeat this but I will keep repeating it

No, you should NOT be putting your age in your bio and NO you should not ask people to. That is personal private information and no one is entitled to know.

Minors putting their ages in their profiles (or simply saying “I’m a minor DNI”) opens them up to anybody who is looking for a minor online. If adults want to put 18, 21+ that’s fine. If you want to call yourself an old coot that’s fine. But no one should be running around asking people to put their ages in their profiles. It’s bad internet safety and this hellsite is built off of anonymity, which is a good thing.

If you are worried about someone’s age, ask them privately, but in general it is none of your business. If you’re worried about a minor interacting with your nsfw content, then tag it appropriately. You can’t get in trouble if a minor lies about their age and chooses to read some smut. You only get in trouble if you, personally, are interacting inappropriately with a minor. Stop asking for people’s ages publicly. It isn’t appropriate and I’m tired of seeing it.

This has been your old internet coot giving advice hour. Love u byeee. Happy safe internetting. Don’t ever feel like anyone is entitled to your personal information. That includes your name, age, country of origin, sexuality, gender, etc. etc. if you want to give those out that’s up to you. But it’s your personal choice. No one is entitled to know.

#I keep seeing this and it makes me so angry #this is a holdover from insta/Facebook/Twitter hell #and I hate it so much #hot reminder that this wasn’t called your bio here #it’s your blog description first and foremost

[beauty-grace-outer-space]

Ok I've been dealing with a medical-ish thing and I'm fine and it's fine like it is objectively not harmful and whatever but it's absolutely tanked my mental health, like I want to fucking die. My OCD has kicked into high gear and it's been 2 months, 24/7 "is it worse? Should I be doing something? What if it's worse? What do I do?"

Which has sent my depression into overdrive with, "Yeah, like we said, life is ever increasing misery, your body fails one step at a time, and then you die! And you are such a freak show you don't even get to have any of the parts that supposedly make it worth it anyway! Congrats, fuck up!"

And I've been trying really hard to explain to the providers I've been seeing that I'm sorry, I know I'm crazy, I hate it too, but I can't turn my brain off and I'm scared all the time. I'm trying. I'm really, really trying, but I am scared and stressed and worrying all. the. time.

The problem is that everyone at that office has decided I'm crazy and to just ignore what I'm telling them instead of actually listening to me and honestly they're not wrong and I just feel trapped and defeated and like garbage all the time now.

#mental health #ocd #it speaks #for real this has been absolute hell #any time I am awake even if it's just for a few seconds in the middle of the night to like turn over in bed #immediately my brain is like “but is it worse? is it back? should I be doing something? how did I fuck up this badly?” #all. the. time. #like straight up psychological torture #I stress lost 6 pounds in 3 days because I couldn't fucking eat #I genuinely am so exhausted and so fucking scared #and I hate it so much #I hate myself #I don't want to exist