#and advocating for it in real life

[lady-shadow-and-darkness]

"they HATE each other!" "they're not good for each other!" "They're toxic!"

Are you guys allergic to dubious consent and dead dove? Moral ambiguity perhaps? Nuance?

#if you are good for you now block it and move. #I'm not interested in arguing. #miscellaneous #I just. #Some of these ships aren't even toxic at all people just don't have media comprehension and make it my problem. #some ARE toxic but who cares? it's Fictional and interesting. I'm not advocating for it in real life? #soukoku #catradora #caitvi #carmillaura #sparxshipping #kavetham

[uncanny-tranny]

Stealth doesn’t help the trans community. I'm not saying we have to be an activist, wear a t-shirt announcing our trans status, but we have an obligation to help advance the human rights of the trans community we belong to

These viewpoints, while I can appreciate them, tend not to recognize the full scope of why people are stealth in the first place.

If stealth is not right for you, don't be stealth. However, not recognizing the nuances of stealth doesn't help trans people either. You can be an advocate for trans people without being out because you don't need to be out to help the trans community. Additionally, nobody is obligated to know one's trans status. I'm pretty stealth in my real life because I owe nobody that information about my identity. And I do my best to make trans folks one of my primary interests in my life. These two things coexist in my life, and that's why these viewpoints are generally confusing to me. You don't need to be out - or let anybody know about your transness - in order to advance trans rights. Hell, you don't even need to be trans to do that.

Nobody should ever be obligated to be stealth. The expectation that trans people fade away in society is wholly asinine. However, that doesn't mean that stealth inherently is problematic. Stealth is not inherently adverse to trans rights.

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #i bring up myself because i think it's a relevant example #because i just happen to be stealth. it's pretty nuanced as to why i am but i am also a severely private person #and i don't share my personal information. but i will do my best to advocate for trans people in my real life #i have conversations with cis people all the time about transness for instance #that's what i mean #i can appreciate moving away from stealth as a requirement to living a trans life #i think it's incredibly reductionist to EXPECT that from us #but i also think it's reductionist to say that stealth is inherently bad #some of us (like myself) don't think anybody will be entitled to that part of us #it feels like people think 'if you're stealth you don't WANT us to have rights' and maybe that isn't what anon is saying... #...but people really lose the nuance into stealth and what it is and why people are stealth so that it's easier to sort you feel? #like people assume why we're stealth when it's like... the assumptions are either wrong or sorely lacking as to the reason #i really don't know why this is being asked of me though #i think this is the third or fourth ask about this topic with the same(ish) responses to the whole Stealth Thing #so i'm trying not to assume what anon is trying to say but i also want to recognize that i really don't agree #like what do you propose to somebody like me who already does work with trans rights and who is stealth irl? #do i just come out even though NOBODY in my life needs (or even deserves) to know? #that's what i'm talking about with this topic

[runawaymarbles]

at this point i am simply uninterested in any opinion on a hot-button political topic that treats human beings as a mass of meaningless hypotheticals

#this goes for all of them!!!!!! #some people may die and that is the cost of the economy going #those are real people! #pro life people who shrug off the number of complexities and ways their laws will ruin lives for a nebulous greater good they can't define #pro choice people who groupthink each other into forgetting that a lot of people do want to be pregnant and the loss of a baby is a tragedy #places that don't think accessibility laws should apply to them #people who unironically advocate for murdering billionaires #people who shrug off mass casualty events because they think one side or the other had it coming/is not sympathetic enough #idk I think everyone should spend some time around babies (most future members of some undesierable class or another) #and have a good long think about the work that goes into making a person and the amount of impact people have on the lives of others #and those who haven't or don't know someone who has gone through the loss of a child should really think.about what that is like. #sorry fam im' editing a stillborn shoot and i'm very tired of the internet actually #op

[hazellvsq]

real talk beryl grace did nothing wrong she was simply removing her neurodivergent son from the oppressive school system and unschooling him allowing him to undergo a self guided curriculum driven by his own instincts and curiosity so he could gain knowledge organically

#she's simply a forest school advocate #abandoment issues? no employable skills? nearly died? #jason was learning REAL LIFE skills. like how to not get eaten by wolves. and surviving scurvy. #jason grace

[nerdgirlnarrates]

Found out I matched on Monday (🥳), but now waiting till Friday to find out where is KILLING me. The match has felt like this distant, looming horror for so long, and it's finally become real, and it's actually happy, and now I'm desperate to know where I'm going.

#I absolutely understand why we have to wait so I'm not actually advocating for them to change it #but I'm so eager now to find out where I matched #it just felt so far away for so long #but I for sure am going somewhere on my list! #like holy shit I'm actually gonna be an internist! #I'm starting relatively soon! #the next chapter of my life is going to take shape in a real and concrete way! #and I can start making plans around it! #and by plans I of course mean getting on zillow #anyway this is the most excitement I've ever felt about the match #I won't announce exactly where I'm going #far too doxxable #but I might include the region #maybe not though #I'm realizing that having talked about my undergrad and current med school state on here narrows down who I am quite a bit actually #so I might not share the region just for an additional layer of anonymity #medicine #medblr #med school #med student #my content #my text posts

[butwhatifidothis]

Y'know, I feel really bad for the people who are still in that server and have to put up with all the hateful rhetoric that mod is spewing out because they can't speak up about it in fear of getting banned.

Yeah, and just to serve as a general reminder that it is not everyone in that server are like this; it's mostly Shandale, a couple other mods, and a few other members, with the other mods who haven't engaged with this behavior directly mostly being responsible for never doing anything to actually rectify this issue like removing Shandale's mod status or removing them from the server for repeatedly saying shit like this (or doing anything similar to the other mods who have explicitly backed up their rhetoric). There's actually a good few people who will stand against the rhetoric thrown around, which is absolutely something to commend them for knowing that they could easily be banned (since, you know, the person that's saying this shit is someone who has banning privileges and is known to ban people for pretty innocuous shit).

It honestly must suck to be an average Edelgard fan in that server knowing that at pretty much any time there's a pretty damn good chance that one of the members - or mods! - will spout off blatantly racist shit and there's just. Nothing that will be done about it, ever, just cuz that person is friends with a mod or are a mod themselves. And in one of THE biggest spaces for Edelgard fans, at that! I hope they can eventually find a better place to love their fave in, since this one's such an unsalvageable garbage heap

#ask #anon #edelgard discourse #just to be safe #like damn man the mods really don't give a shit about the people in their server at all #they wouldn't be allowing this shit to get so bad that a mod straight up advocates for J*m Cr*we-esque treatment of a minority race #just because something something Fictional Race which totally means that nothing Shandale says could EVER reflect anything about real life #as they word for word bar for bar repeat the exact sort of sentiments that GOT irl people oppressed and killed en masse #but nooooo Shandale has shown absolutely no worrying behaviors at all!! they promise!! #it's just like. again. the poor fuckin' average normal Edelgard fan. #Shandale is only representative of the MODS of this ONE SERVER not of Edelgard fans as a whole; they do NOT claim this asshole

[chaosintended]

is it just me or does everybody else also choose different characters to whump based on their craving at the moment

like

a shit ton of physical pain and a lot of grumpiness/rejection of any sort of care: house

repressed emotions and minor physical ailments: sherlock (just bc it's funny to watch him act like he's going to die from a headcold and john getting steadily annoyed)

even more repressed emotions/emotional angst and minor-major physical ailments: remus lupin

tony stark is pretty much a catch-all for me, what with the pure amount of fanfiction out there. arc reactor shenanigans has to be my favorite, though.

i'd like more newt in the desert with thomas and minho angst but there isn't much out there:(

#to be clear this is about #fanfiction #i am not advocating for enjoying other people's pain in real life #i am PROJECTING #house md #sherlock #remus lupin #tony stark #newt #the maze runner #hoo boy this is a strange mix of fandoms #whump #angst

[atomicc]

>___O!

EDIT: Now has some pretty major inaccuracies.

#meet the artist #me #ive been wanting to do one of these for a long time! soo here we are #my art #😈 #EEEEPPP!! BEFORE I FORGET #Absolutely 100% NO towers or ministry related tags or reblogs onto blogs dedicated to that unless I personally know you #I'm serious!!! I will CRY REAL HARD if I see an advocate in my notes I SWEAR ON MY LIFE #UNLESS I KNOW YOU. STAY BACK. BACK! #I'm not expecting any of that but god does it stress me out to think about

[forwomenbiwomen]

Body hair is so swag I'm not even joking in the slightest

#im so serious rn #its so sexy #why the FUCK do people advocate for removing it #youre an ADULT #theyve never seen a beautiful bush in real life and it shows

[unlovablereject]

I'm going to tell all self diagnosed autistic people, I'm done talking this out with you.

You may have autism, but if you can't get tested, you can't get help for it officially.

Self diagnosis can be dangerous for people who actually do have autism. Excuse me for having nearly everyone in my life telling they are autistic and do not have a diagnosis. They actually do not have it, yet, their claims are stuck with us. You say you have issues like me? But you don't.

Imagine always feeling so stupid, because this flavor of the decade illness is constantly being thrown around by people who just want to be different.

If you can't afford a diagnosis, there again, is no point in you telling the world you are autistic. You will recieve no help or support without testing. Which, as an adult, will always cost you money.

Don't believe me? I worked in social work. I was the deciding factor most of the time if a child is supposed to be tested for a disorder.

I also have talked to all kinds of psyc professionals about this, self diagnosing autism does more harm to those around you, and does nothing to help yourself. You won't get medications, no. You pay for expensive therapy.

There is no point in hurting others, when there is literally no usefulness of self diagnosed autism.

Again you will not recieve any support or extra help, since, they need a paper diagnosis to prove it...

So...

My claim stands,

Do not self diagnose autism.

If you really are autistic, you would need a diagnosis on paper, by a professional to get help.

This is also coming from someone diagnosed with asbergers type autism, semi-verbal, and has issues from learning, social skills, and no emotional control.

You know what it's like to have people all around you claim to have autism, they don't, but it still hurts you. They said they had you'll diagnosis. They said they were like you. Why are they able to do things in a NT manner? Why do you claim to have no tone control, but you actually do.

I get depressed, we all do. We feel why are we so stupid.

Yes, I am well aware there is a spectrum of autism. But there is also a base diagnosis, which is what gets you tested in school.

Why are you so willing to hurt people just to give yourself a diagnosis that will never be any benefit to even you.

But go on. Self diagnose. I hope you find it easy to sleep as you destroy the minds of actual autistic people.

Stop advocating for "self diagnosis" you are a plague. You tear people down and don't see or care because you want to be in that small group.

Just stop.

Autism sucks, autism is a life long thing. Autism is hard.

Honestly I don't care about how much money you have, WITHOUT AN OFFICAL DIAGNOSIS ALL YOU DO IS POTENTIALLY DAMAGE PEOPLE WITH ACTUAL AUTISM, THEIR ALRRADY LOW SELF ESTEEM.

Stop advocating for those who don't need it. I don't have anyone helping me, yet people making up diagnosis' get tons of attention.

Karma is a bitch.

#autism #actually autistic #rant about self diagnosed autism #you dont care about who you hurt you just need attention #without a real paper diagnosis its a useless claim #it will not help you in life #so stop #stop advocating self diagnosis #everyone who ive talked to who “is autistic” wasnt #its actually very clear

[colossalarmin]

Fiction will always b like “it’s a worse punishment for this character to live and be in prison forever and think about what they did than for them to be killed” and it’s bullshit 99% of the time but I think eren jaeger is the one and only character for whom that literally would’ve been SO absolutely fucking true. If they’d found a way to cancel titan powers without killing him and stuck him in a jail cell instead he would’ve just been completely out of his mind bashing his head into the walls and munching on himself like a dog who lost his shit at the pound.

#TO BE CLEEEAAARRRR I’m not advocating for like the real life death penalty or anything like that #that is NOT what it’s about it’s about the Top 1 characters of all time who should’ve been caged like an animal #snk #snk spoilers #eren jaeger

[violetclarity]

my best friend is moving in with his boyfriend and I am Not handling it super well so real grown-ups of tumblr, how do you deal with it when a good friend has a long-term, serious partner who you think is...fine?

#I've not had to deal with this before because all of my partnered friends are with people who I either #a) genuinely like as people or b) do not feel bad about disliking #this man is fine? he treats my friend well but I personally would never choose to hang out with him if they weren't dating? #like I don't know what my friend sees in him #and I'm also not sure what he sees in my friend #not in a 'I don't think my best friend is worthy of love' way o b v i o u s l y #but they started dating fairly soon after the partner got *divorced* and it kind of seems like #he just really wanted to be in a serious relationship again but like. with a man instead of a woman. #but my friend also never talks about his feelings so I have no real insight into his pov!! #I'm kind of concerned about his logic but he also processes things way differently than I do and y'know it's not my life #so I'm sure it will be fine #also part of what I am having trouble with is definitely that I never thought this friend would *be* in a serious relationship #and there are some minor betrayal feelings happening (especially bc he's moving an extra 20 mins away from me booo) #(why you'd want to move from a cool place near things to a boring place in the boring suburbs is beyond me but I digress) #but (despite my friend's preferences) I'm going to be seeing a lot more of the partner now that they are living together #and I'd like to get to a point where I actually like him maybe? #that may be too tall of an order. where he doesn't actively annoy me?? #the man once tried to devil's advocate brittney greiner being stuck in russia I don't think I can be blamed for being annoyed lmao #that feeling when you think all your friends deserve The Absolute Best In The World when it comes to romantic partners #so you get pissed when their partners don't seem to recognize their amazingness