#and also that having your brain imitate pain isnt moral superiority cus the anti empathy as a concept

[catboyfurina]

that's not what being an empath means... it means feeling other people's joys and sufferings as if they were happening to you as well, not because u know EXACTLY what goes on on their head or their precise feelings but the thought of them suffering a loss or having a big success can impact ur life as if they were happening to you too

But the thing is you DONT feel other people's joys or sufferings as if they were happening to you!!! Your feelings are only mimicking what you ASSUME theirs are. And there are a lot of types of suffering that can't be felt unless it's happened to you too cus you just don't know shit about it and by saying you are suffering their pain it's like.... Super rude imo because you aren't. You're just feeling an imitation of the best guess you have for it.

#query #i dont mean to be mean anon but i am not entirely concerned with being nice #also gonna be real with u #it does not impact you as if it were happening to you either. #you wont get ptsd from your friends abuse #it will make you sad and it will make ypu feel helpless but at the end of the day you need to prioritize them #because however much your brain is imagining what if that were me and trying to mimic their suffering #you need to be aware that you will not understand the depth of their pain #and quite frankly ive seen people use their oh im just too much of an empath schtick to make the person in pain feel guilty #for being in pain because theyre 'hurting' the 'empath' #in conclusion. the idea that you Can feel someone elses pain or be impacted by their suffering is at best #self centered and presumptuous and at worst you are harming people #i acknowledge that the whole your brain is mimicking pain when you see other people in pain thing is real and uncontrollable but like #you do have to remember that it isnt their pain and that you actually have no idea whats going on and also that your imitation pain can and #should be ignored because it is just an imitation and the person who is really hurting is the one who needs to be helped #and also that your imitation pain is nowhere near as painful as the actual thing etc etc #and also that having your brain imitate pain isnt moral superiority cus the anti empathy as a concept #posting happened cus people are like really cruel to low empathy people