#and bad coping mechanisms lol

[leeb-leefuh-lurve]

found this on facebook

#meme #mental illness #oversharing #bpd #bpd life #bpd things #bpd meme #mentally ill #lol fml #ihatemylife #funny #coping #bad coping mechanisms

[odinsblog]

Holy crap. I went to open up a new browser tab and this popped up:

I never saw this before.

Imma digital pack rat. I never delete old text messages, emails, or voicemails and obviously I don’t close old tabs, in case I might “need” them later.

Fortunately, I’m nothing like that irl with my physical belongings. 😅

#lol #a post about me #500 tabs #pack rats #digital pack rats #actually im rly not that bad with physical things #but ​i used to be tho #i think its bc we moved around soo much when i was a kid? #i did and still do enjoy traveling #but holding on to stuff is a way to make things seem less volatile? #like ​a coping mechanism #im sentimental about text messages and voicemails

[glitter-alienz]

my art actually improved a lot in 2023, it didn't improvethis in the entire 8 years ive been drawing lol

#its bcuz i found art is a good coping mechanism for me annd i stopped caring if my art looks bad!! #there's a lot of turtles lol #and also randy #and also old gay men #art summary 2023 #👽 my art #art summery 2023 #2023 art #tmnt #tmnt fanart #rc9gn #rc9gn fanart #randy cunningham #serirei #mob psycho 100 #serizawa katsuya #reigen arakata #mp100 fanart #mp100

[iyxv]

jb at variety playhouse in atlanta — sept. 4, 2021

#julien baker #boygenius #this isn’t boygenius but they’re getting tagged anyways #back with more from atl #because i miss it so bad #i had a religious experience on this night #i’m so serious #i also got blackout drunk the next day 🤥 #very healthy people coping mechanisms yes 👍 #the tags are literally my void (free therapy) #stfu jess #literally stfu lol

[explodingquails]

To kick off the new year here is a low-effort meme that appeals to me and me only

They would actually have a lot to talk about methinks

#steven meme #gotta love well-intentioned undead women who suck people's souls as a coping mechanism #quail scratches #laudna #critical role #cr3 #kalista the spear of vengeance #league of legends #lol #ruination novel #legends of runeterra #my deadly flaw is that I am down bad for the butch wraith lady from League of Legends that nobody plays or cares about

[boatboys]

color/lighting studies trying to push myself a little. some of them are based on photos of real people but the rich one is just color-picked from a picture of a fancy butcher block

#Rich Merrill #Solace King #Rafael Caro #Connor Campbell #connor the embodiment of the ''*cocks gun* i'm a healer but--'' meme lol. bad coping mechanisms: the travelling vet! #thank you to the person photographing the butcher block for including a little sprig of some kind of herb so I could color rich's eyes haha

[drippyboycunt]

one thing that's always a little funny to me is when you go to someone's blog and their dni basically boils down to "if you have ANY kinks then DO NOT interact with me" like ok that's fine but bro why are you here lol

#for most people it's not that deep but some ppl just give off bad vibes #like they definitely think being into anything even slightly hard means you're Bad and Evil and using Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms #and it's like... babe i think denying the complexity of the human mind is far more damaging to society than ppl who like being degraded lol #personal ramblings

[nerdy-hyperfixations]

I’m posting this knowing it’s not what my followers here care about. Let’s call it self care and not willing ignorance.

Anyway, anyone feeling up for vent art? Vent art that doesn’t even make sense!?

#personal post #personal art #vent art #eyestrain #the longer my hair gets the more I feel I’m trapped in my own ugly body but I’m too afraid of change to do anything about it lol #I’m kinda actively depressed recently #which you wouldn’t guess by all the fanart I made- #but things have actually been going really bad for me and it’s common for me to use art to cope #it’s like my ONE good coping mechanism #and it helps pass the time while feeling productive #because at the end of it I’ve MADE something and that something is mine and it’s GOOD #At least sometimes it’s good #in the moment #idk #this is a bit of a ramble I’m gonna go

[befuddled-calico-whump]

Excuse this extremely self-indulgent ask but. Sarah and the rebels (?) taking care of drunk Cinder/Alex

Sarah's POV of This Scene

cw: bad coping mechanisms, alcohol

"Cinder."

"Nnn..."

"Come on, you need to drink some water."

It was a little past 4 in the morning, and Sarah was busy being impressed that the assassin had managed to walk all the way here in this state, much less remember which was the correct doorstep to collapse on.

Impressed, and more than a little concerned.

Attempting to shake him awake or drag him inside seemed about as safe as poking a sleeping bear, so she'd instead grabbed a bottle of water and sat in the doorway, a foot or so out of his reach, and tried to get his attention.

So far, the man wasn't giving her much in way of response. At first she'd assumed he'd been caught in a fight, but once she'd crouched down she saw that the bruises on his face were old. And she didn't need super-senses to smell the booze on him.

"Cinder," she tried again, considering splashing some water on him. How wrong could that possibly go?

Still, she needed to get him inside before someone saw him, and she didn't want to have to wake Akeela up and make the kid deal with a drunk assassin. Maybe...

Shit, there was an idea.

Sarah stood slowly so as to avoid startling the killing machine on her porch, and made a beeline for the kitchen. She felt a little ridiculous putting the oven mitts on, but at least they'd offer a little protection if she scared him.

Back at the door came the next challenge: where was the least dangerous spot to poke a bear? If it were anyone else, she'd just tap on his hand or something, but would he even feel that? Touching anywhere near his face or torso would probably startle him. Well touching him anywhere was sure to startle him, but if he wasn't responding to her voice...

With fingers enclosed safely in an oven mitt, she took Cinder's hand. He didn't respond to that, so she pulled on it lightly. Maybe he'd feel it on his shoulder, and that would be enough---

She let go with a start when his eyes flew open, his metal arm bouncing onto the concrete with a sound like shaken coins.

Cinder didn't move though, and when his eyes started to drift back shut---

"Hey. Hey! Wake up."

"Why?" he mumbled.

Sarah let out a frustrated huff. Okay. She really didn't want to add to his anxieties, but if there was no other way...

"Someone will see you," she said. "You need to come inside."

And though his breathing quickened and the muscles in his throat tightened, it seemed to get through to him.

"Do you... want a hand?" Sarah said, holding one out as she watched him struggle to stand.

His eyes landed on the over mitt, gaze sharpening for just an instant. "Wh' the fuck is that?"

"Don't laugh at it," she said, though she doubted he was about to. "I'm just trying not to get burned."

"'M not gonna burn you," Cinder mumbled, pushing himself the rest of the way up and standing with his back pressed firmly into the wall.

"Okay. Well let's go inside. You can crash on the couch for now." She held the door open, following after Cinder as he made his painstaking way into the building. She swore she could hear him muttering under his breath---little rhyming phrases---but she didn't try and sharpen her ears to hear what he was saying.

Once he'd collapsed onto the couch, she again tried handing him the water bottle.

"Drink."

"Why?"

"I know you know what a hangover is."

"Doesn't matter."

"You aren't about to die of alcohol poisoning on my couch. Drink."

He clumsily snatched the bottle away, chugging it like he wished it were something stronger.

"Happy?"

"Yes." Sarah stood up and started to leave. He'd be fine down here, at least for the night. Should she get him a blanket? Put some more water next to him?

"Wait. Spyglass."

"Hm?" She stopped.

"Am... Am I safe?"

She turned back around. He was sitting up now, something like fear under the glazed over look in his eyes. "Safe?"

"He won't find me here?"

He. Uriah. Sarah nodded. "He won't." After a moment, she added, "We'll watch your back. Just get some rest, okay?"

He nodded, silent as he lay back down, his eyes slipping closed.

And if in a few hours he woke up and disappeared without another word, that was fine.

Right now, all that mattered to her was that she could hear his heartbeat slowing to a calm.

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#just a lil drabble #this is going to happen sometime in the main story so i debated saving this ask but i wanted to write something now lol #it's not suuuper hardcore on angst/comfort but that's because i picture it as a middling scene #maybe even happening during the weeks he's spent at chopper's #wildefire #alcohol #bad coping mechanisms

[just-sarah-xx]

tbh redbull is my coping mechanism now it makes me kinda scared ngl i dont want to go down that rabbit hole

#redbull #coping mechanism #mentally fucked #idk how to tag this #im not okay #tw small vent #bad mental health #bad mental state #lols #my bullshit

[leeb-leefuh-lurve]

#meme #mental illness #bpd #lol fml #bpd life #bpd things #bpd meme #funny #bad coping mechanisms #self care

[hella1975]

the harsher parts of mental illness are always treated so so badly in media and it's genuinely very special to see someone handling them gently - especially because you've said it's very personal for you and that makes it so much easier to like? live in i suppose? because like you said the guilt can be overwhelming and the crushing weight of knowing KNOWING that you're one bad day away from wrecking an important relationship just out of pure FEAR can be so debilitating to live with especially bc people do fundamentally view that as just. a bitch response. knee jerk malice. but it's not half the time it's sheer fear (which doesn't excuse it but it does explain more) so it's nice to see that being treated like the actual complex response it is <3

yes omfg i need to stop getting surprised when taob winds up being incredibly cathartic for me bc i put a bit of myself in it and (shocker!) there are people like that who actually get it. like there are multiple people that to this day ACTIVELY dislike me because i not only said something bad to them but because i ON PURPOSE took the thing i knew would hurt them most and said it in the harshest way i possibly could. like that was a conscious effort on my part i went out of my way to think about what would hurt them and i just went for their jugular. but i wasn't doing it for the sake of meanness any more than i was doing it because they deserved it. like i said before there are two instances when i do this and that's as a defence mechanism or to self-destruct. i dont really do the former anymore - and that took YEARS to grow out of bc that was my Main Response to literally ANY conversation i didnt want to have. people are significantly less likely to ask you personal questions if you immediately try and make them cry when they do lol. this is where 90% of my 'i was a bitch in secondary school' posting comes from - but ironically the less i gave into the former the more it translated into the latter, so i lost either way and so did the people around me. i really dont think im that bad anymore bc i found ways around it and now i cant think off the top of my head anything even CLOSE to what i used to do that's happened recently, but i have YEARS OLD guilt from long dead friendships that i will - and deserve to - live with forever bc regardless of the reasoning behind it i still said terrible things. and like. it never gets talked about bc from an outside pov im very obviously being a complete cunt and who would want to sympathise with that

#like when i get a certain way my go to response to it nowadays is to isolate and typically that would be a bad thing #and a couple weeks ago actually boom noticed me doing it and naturally bc they're a good friend #they were worried and wanted to figure out a way around it bc isolating during a depressive episode is generally considered a Bad Call lol #but the reason i isolate is bc ive now learnt my own tells to figure out when my self-destructive behaviour is gonna start lashing out #like i literally remove myself from people now bc i KNOW if i dont regardless of if they're trying to help me #that dumb voice in my head is either gonna want to get them the fuck away #OR i'll want to like. 'prove' to them that im fundamentally this awful person and they're better off without me #and either way it doesnt end well for anyone involved #like the damage i deal myself by doing that is significantly higher than the damage i deal myself when i isolate #even if neither are particularly enjoyable #and it's got a twisted reassurance to it too like id rather hurt myself alone than take other people down with me #and i like to think that proves that - regardless of how rough around the egdes i am and the hurt ive caused - im actually a kind person #and like. that's what growing up is about! im learning coping mechanisms and ways around it! im getting better! #yes it's not perfect but by fucking god is it an improvement lol #ask #taob asks

[unproduciblesmackdown]

truly something that, amidst facing / going through a dramatic Life Change ft. unavoidable emotional effects of that, there are instances where i can't conceal any & all degrees of being distressed / upset, & repeatedly getting "it's hard for me too" as a Direct Response to that: really something & a half how the asserted theoretical Sympathy of [i feel similarly!] is invoked so as to, oh you know, preclude sympathetic Treatment. such as that what would be More sympathetic in these instances would be to say Nothing, "if there's nothing but dismissal / making it first & foremost about someone else's feelings to say, don't say it at all" style

#reading also that original Lovelessness essay ''love is meant to make me human / love is also the mechanism by which my humanity #has been denied'' always preferring to have [sorry! couldn't fully bottle up this Emotiona externally manifesting at all!] Ignored rather #than ''nicely'' interacted with so as to Invalidate; Dismiss; someone's annoyed at you for having it; etc #for bonus context like we are not in the same boat with it. #not a case of ''the same situation; mine is worse though'' like no; fundamentally different situations here lmao. mine is worse #If You Feel So Bad. Or At All. then at least now do me the favor of Not Saying That; Repeatedly #their feelings put on me too in other ways. stewing resentment into lashing out; tossing out ''but i'm justified'' like ok! Your business!! #the ol like. If You're Going To Do Something Anyways then how you justify it to yourself is Your business / b/w you & your god as they say #& the last thing to do is be making it the problem of ppl Most Affected by what you're gonna do anyways & Also ask their Absolution..... #like if you need more moral support abt What You're Doing Anyways: turn to Anyone Else. even No One if you have to. #bit going tf through it when it's spilling over into Posting but such is life!! we all have that [the horrors. girl help] blogger on dash #again the tl;dr like oh you don't say. the [umm but have you considered? My Feelings! (they're so sympathetic at all. yor welcome)] is #the mechanism through which Really basic sympathy is being denied & replaced with [Saying Nothing would've been less hurtful] #misgendering me the other night too while Also all 'hey I'm trying to talk to the customer service. why are You going up & talking first' #(that was me experiencing the latter. i didn't say it but i was like cmon. my glasses are fogging up w/surgical mask (don't have access to #more effective masks so doing what Nonzero i can there) i'm a bit carsick i'm weathering a crisis. can i have anything here lol) #just Oh You Know. The Horrors.... #balancing ofc trying to endure trying to self soothe etc etc. with ''it's the horrors. it's gonna be horrific & you're gonna be affected'' #ah the [being kind to oneself] like also means knowing how reasonable it is to Not solo contain & endure & Cope Through everything.... #crushing a paper cup in my hands genuinely i would like to generously thank my virtual allies out here today. mic feedback #irl In Real Life? life is Real asf here & nobody Realer than them

[aropride]

i am literally the bravest little guy in the world no contest. i have been so brave about it so many times. i will continue to do this forever

#text #remembered the time when [thing happened] and instead of engaging in [bad coping mechanisms] #i finished crying took some deep breaths and went to mcdonalds and got myself a caramel sundae #and it was so fucking cold out but the sundae was good #and definitely made me feel betterthan bad copingmechanisms would have #and before that i even made a playlist of songs that make me happy instead of Stewing In Misery #well i did stew in misery listening to my misery playlist when i walked back #all you wanna do came on my playlist while i was walking back and i started crying so hard i had to sit down on the ground and calm down #luckily i was on campus at that point so i didnt like. get hit by a car LOL #sry aywd came on shuffle just now so im. reminiscing.

[kaixserzz]

the desire for dottore is eternal. even when i play lol, i still think about him. even when i sleep, he's in my dreams.

#˚₊໒💉꒱kai talks₊˚ #I NEED HIM #I WANT HIM #im crying im so sad and i ned him #lord please strike me with lightning and send me to gi world #i beg #yeah you see me down bad but im just #dottore craving :( #he has become my coping mechanism /j #speaking of dottore i should stop writing him for a while LOL

[whatislifebesidesrehearsal]

Actor 1: *walking in* Hello, I have returned!

Actor 2: Hi. I did it.

A1: Did... what?

*The director storms in, slams a water bottle on the table with a grunt, and storms out again.*

A2: ...That.

Deck Chief, from the corner: (mumbling) I am uncomfortable with the energy we have created in the studio today...

#It's me I'm the deck chief #my only coping mechanism for stress is memes lol #(everything was fine btw A2 just liked to push buttons and director was already in a bad mood anyway) #<submitted tags #submission #theatre #theater #behind the scenes #theater tech #techblr