#and i fucking LOVE THEM

[nocek]

so I've been on vacation but now I'm back on my bullshit ;)

(doodle totally not inspired by a cute family in pikachu hats that I've seen but then during doodling I've decided Stitch actually fits Miguel better)

#miguel o'hara #gabriela o'hara #spiderman #spiderman 2099 #spiderverse #I so want such a bucket hat #because reasons #miguel's clothes are loosely redrawn from the initial designs for him the awesome spiderverse crew shared #and idk they are kinda retrofuturistic as in they look like a better designs of 80's tracksuits in not shiny material #and better color palette #and i fucking love them #anyway sharing this quick doodle before i sleep on it and realize all the things my perfectionism could stress me about it

[beauregardlionett]

ashton is so broken ashton is SO fucked up there is so much projecting there is so much "i can fix them by making sure they don't become me" there is so much trauma like boy you can only break so many time before you learn how to start protecting the pieces you have left

#cr #critical role #cr spoilers #c3e78 #beaureblogs #ashton greymoore #AND I FUCKING LOVE THEM

[gnomeboops]

i've seen split opinions on this so:

#personally i love it #i have recently rediscovered the tube yoghurts i used to eat in primary school #if anyone remembers those? #and i fucking love them #i eat so many #the packaging and the jokes on the front haven't changed since i was really small as well its so great #polls #autism #gnomeantics original 🌟

[mossy-covered-bones]

Reminder that gaboon vipers exist and move like this

#and i fucking love them #sev rambles #Youtube

[arcielee]

Thank you for the tag @poetic-fiasco 💜🦝

Last Song: i wanna be your girlfriend by girl in red

Favorite Color: Purple.

Currently Watching: I just started Shameless as recommended by @bhxrdy 💜

Last Movie/Show: I started season 2 of Loki and the movie was V for Vendetta

Spicy/Savory/Sweet: I love sweets, but this can be tricky since I am not a fan of chocolate.

Current Obsessions: Still Ewanverse... I get pretty fixated on things and the timeframe for them can vary... so we on month 13 with this fixation.

Last Thing You Googled:

So I could send my Canadian friend group this:

If you see this on your dash, consider yourself tagged 💜 [especially @bhxrdy, since you were mentioned]

#tag games #arcie lore #christmas trees little debbies are pure diabetes btw #and i fucking love them #because they have no chocolate

[twisted-tales-told]

Sometimes I wonder why I am the way I am

And then I remember I read these at a defining point in my childhood

Roman mythology meets time travel meets horse girl meets secret government agency meets aliens meets war story meets sphinx in love with a man who becomes a tree

#and I fucking LOVE them

[thetalee]

When I find myself in times of trouble Troubled_Angel_26 comes to me Speaking words of wisdom This is Good

#thetalee's adventures in fanficing #no seriously every fic gets a comment from them #that almost always consist of 'this is good' sometimes with embellishments #and I fucking love them #and wait for that comment to hit my inbox #after every update #it took almost an entire day once #and I was so sad #until they finally commented #i would die for troubled_angel_26

[andi-o-geyser]

a full SAGA of chaos choices at the diner in the centre of your mind

#so in summary: #coffee grounds; room temp vodka; the feeling of first having root beer; coffee and bacon; maple syrup; grenadine; and a calzone #they are all so insane and i love them for it #and also its such a perfect representation of a brain #bc like! yeah! that IS what my thoughts are bouncing between when i'm asked what i want for a meal! i am that fucking bonkers sometimes!! #dimension 20 #dimension 20 mentopolis #mentopolis #mentopolis spoilers #d20 #dnd #brennan lee mulligan #hunch curio #anastasia tension #conrad schintz #the fix #imedla pulse #dan fucks #alex song xia #hank green #danielle radford #freddy wong #siobhan thompson #mike trapp #d20 cast #long post #andis thought geyser

[tiredpinkpanda]

DogDay deserved better, change my mind.

#smiling critters #poppy playtime #dogday #poppy playtime 3 #poppy playtime chapter 3 #I love the concept of these guys I just hate the execution they went with them like what? #5 minutes of dogday and he fucking dies bs

[fanficmemes]

Love when writers do an insane amount of unnecessary research for their fics. I follow an author that did like 8 months of intense research into 14th century Scotland so they could write smut about it, and guess what. It was some fucking incredible porn AND I learned about old Scottish politics

#personal tag #and I’ll stand by them!!!! #author of this fic I summon thee to this post #I love your intense research and I don’t give a FUCK how long it’ll take to post a chapter #take your time I’ll be here :):)

[inkskinned]

it's been said before and i'm sure said better than i can phrase it. but really, really - if you like making "i'm going to kill myself" jokes, please try switching to being ironically conceited instead.

anytime something goes wrong, say things like "ah well at least i'm beautiful and charming and everyone loves me." when you forget something, try "my big huge brain is so smart and thinking about too many other very big wizardly thoughts you wouldn't even understand." when you're frustrated by one of your symptoms, start talking like you're in My Immortal. "Life has come for me but my eyes are beautiful pools of gorgeous fire and my hair is amazing. I stuck my middle finger up at life and told it to fuck off and it did."

just... try it for a month or two. try saying the most absurdly self-congratulatory shit you can think of.

i know it's tempting to make suicide or self-harm jokes. and for me at least, a decade ago (!) when someone suggested i stop making those kinds of jokes, i was kind of at a loss for what to replace them with. i wanted to make light of these moments, but genuinely (at the time) my first thought really was suicidal ideation. there was a part of me that even felt like ... i was kind of "making light" of that voice. that if i could say i want to die lol, it would help take the sting out of that genuine (albeit passive) desire. like i could turn my illness into a joke.

when i started complimenting myself instead, it felt awkward and stupid. it felt really, really ironic. what i was actually saying was nobody would ever think this stuff about me, that's what makes it so fucking funny.

but. the effect was immediate. first thing i noticed was the people around me. when i dropped a glass and said ah my skin is too beautiful and sleek the glass has swooned and broken for me, other people were suddenly overjoyed to jump in with the joke. rather than making an awkward moment, we'd both start cracking up. ah princess sleek hands, i've heard of you.

i was 19. i hadn't noticed i'd been making others tense when i said i want it all to end. i know now that it's incredibly hard to know how to walk that moment - do you talk to them about your concern? do you potentially make them uncomfortable by asking if they're okay? do you ignore the situation? do you help them pick up the glass, or do they need to do it by themselves? are they genuinely made suicidal over this small moment? and most importantly, how do you - without professional training or supplies - actually help?

most people want to help you pick up the glass in your life, they just have no fucking idea how to do it. they don't want to make anything worse. they don't want to make assumptions about you. they love you, they're scared for you - and being scared makes people kind of freeze up. it's not because they don't love you. it's because they do.

now when something bad happens, my first thought is how can i make a stupid joke about this. it isn't my brain saying you're a dumb fucking bitch. i spend more time laughing. i spend more time being gentle with myself. i spend more time feeling good.

and the thing is - what's kind of funny - is that you'd be surprised by how many people agree with you. the first time i said i'm too pretty to understand that, someone else said to be fair you're the prettiest person in this room. i promise - you really don't know how kindly your friends see you. but they love you for a reason. they sort of reverse-velveteen-rabbit you. your weird and ugly spots fade away and you just become... the love they want to give you.

go love yourself ironically. the worst thing that happens is that you end up tricking your reflection into actually loving you.

#something something toxic relationships notwithstanding #(re: the friends stuff) #most people love you. automatically. for being alive. like people are just MADE that way. #and the reason kms jokes don't always land is bc people fucking love you and are like - ahhh how do i help #let them help you!!!!!!

[m-aximumjoy]

wake up everybody new reaction image just dropped

#chainsaw man #asa mitaka #denji hayakawa #csm 114 spoilers #csm 114 #csm manga spoilers #they’re so fucking funny I love them sm #oryginals

[kavebot]

i cant with this fucking cat, chat

#fanart #hazbin hotel fanart #hazbin hotel #cursed cat alastor #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #alastor #stupid cat #nifty hazbin hotel #hazbin nifty #hazbin art #i love them so much #get this fucking cat AWAY FROM ME #i need to throw him off a building #affectionately

[dubiouslymelly]

oh youre a lesbian couple? which one of you is doubt, mystery and the night and which one of you is of summer, conviction and the sun?

unrelated question: if one of you were corrupted would you try to corrupt the other? completely unrelated. btw.

#d20 #dimension 20 #fantasy high #fantasy high junior year #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #theyre so fucking cute i love them #ankarna #cassandra #cassandra d20 #why are they so twilight sparkle and sunset shimmer

[somewhereincairparavel]

To the people saying "Jason wouldn't have jumped into tartarus for Piper, like Percy did for Annabeth" as a way to demean him. Jason, plunged into the sky from the grand canyon to catch Piper in the first few pages of the lost hero without even knowing who she was, and without the knowledge that he could fly. so he basically jumped to his death attempting to catch her. In the first few pages of his journey, he didn't mind dying to save Piper, and ironically, that's also what he did in the last few pages of his journey. Y'all just be making the most out of pocket claims abt jason fr

#If you think you're complimenting Percy by saying “Jason wouldn't have done that” no you are not. I love Percy too but cmon now #You are simply deluding yourself by trying to antagonize Jason in your head because of pettiness #He is canonically a sweetheart through and through so go cry abt it with your made up fanon version of him #But don't you dare claim it as canon #Get over the fact that both Percy and jason are good people and loyal lovers #Stop comparing them for fucks sake it's not 2012 anymore #pjo #percy jackson #pjo fandom #pjo series #pjo hoo toa #pjo hoo #jason grace #annabeth chase #piper mclean #leo valdez #frank zhang #hazel levesque

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop