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rileyslibrary · 8 months

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The Log Cabin: Hurt

Synopsis: You and Ghost are on your way towards your shared vacation in Scotland.

Relationship: Simon “Ghost” Riley x GN!Reader

Word Count: 1.4k

Notes:

This is the second part of the story. Here’s Part 1 if you’re interested.

Hurt/comfort.

Render by @gamergirlbonestaskforce141riot.

No warnings. Lots of emotions towards the end, though.

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“You sure?” You ask as you approach a red light.

Ghost closes his eyes and leans back in his seat. He lets out a long and loud sigh behind his mask.

“This is the fifth time you’ve asked if I’m sure,” he protests. “Ask me again, and I will throw you out of the bloody car.”

He won’t do it. He used the exact same threat when you voiced your concerns the third time. You understand him, though; you’re not even on the highway yet, and you’ve been bugging him with your insecurities.

“I’m sorry.” You whisper and lower your head to the water bottle you’ve secured between your thighs.

He turns to look at you, then shifts his focus back to the road as the traffic light turns orange.

“I don’t do charity work when it comes to vacations,” he reassures you and changes gears. “I’m absolutely certain of my decision.”

You drive through the city streets, trying to reach the highway. You look out the car’s window; there are curious glances directed at you from the outside. People look alarmed, old ladies clutch their purses tighter, and fathers hold their children closer.

You can’t blame them; they’re looking at two masked figures in a car filled with tools and gear in the backseats.

“We look like we’re about to rob a bank, don’t you think?” You ask, concerned, as you observe a woman ushering her son into a store upon spotting you.

“Don’t take it off yet,” he warns you. “Wait till we get to the highway.”

He’s right. His face is unknown in the city, whereas yours is, and any identification could link him to you. That’s why he handed you a plain black balaclava before you left the base, ensuring your mutual anonymity. It’s a small city, after all.

“What if we get stopped by the police?” you ask. “Someone might have alerted them.”

He shakes his head. “Unlikely,” he replies. “The police is familiar with me and my car. Many soldiers keep their identities concealed due to the base. Civilians aren’t accustomed to it, that’s all.”

He stops at a zebra crossing and motions with his hand at the people waiting, giving them permission to cross the road.

“Look at them,” he whispers as he watches them successfully reaching the other side of the pavement. “So eager to display their faces, like they’ve never done anything sinister in their lives.”

You look at him from the corner of your eye, wondering if his words hide a twinge of guilt or envy—a yearning for freedom, just like those civilians crossing the street. They are free to walk as they please, while he is doomed to wear a cloth on his face until he’s away from anything human.

You tug at your mask. “It’s getting quite stuffy in here; mind if I...” you say and motion towards the car’s A/C controls.

He shrugs. That’s your “go ahead” sign.

You enter the highway, and he removes his mask. He reaches into the back pocket of his seat and tugs his balaclava there. He scratches his left cheek.

You follow his lead but tuck yours into your door’s side pocket. Now that your mouth is free from obstructions, you can drink water. You open the bottle and drive it into your mouth.

“Easy with the water,” Ghost advises. “We won’t find any stops for the next three hours.”

“Three hours?!” You ask.

He nods, his eyes still fixed on the road, indifferent to your shocked reaction. He reaches into the side pocket of his door and pulls a pair of sunglasses out. He secures them on his face.

“I have never seen you with sunglasses before.” You comment.

He smirks. He looks very handsome when he does that. Not conventionally attractive, though. He has a very rugged, almost weird, to point out beauty. Like those second-hand objects you find in an antique shop; they are bizarre to look at, but you can’t shift your eyes away from them. You want to study and analyse them as closely as possible.

You stare at his profile and notice him looking back at you. He still has that smirk on his face. You divert your attention back to the road.

“Sorry.” You murmur.

He looks ahead and his smile widens.

After some time, you reach your first stop; a service station with a convenience store, and fast food joint. Ghost asks if you want to grab a bite, and you shake your head. In response, he motions towards the side of the gas station.

“Loo’s over there. I’ll refuel the car.”

You hurry to the restroom; the last thing you want is to hinder his program. You better be as fast and efficient as possible.

When you return, Ghost is already in the driver’s seat. You settle into your seat beside him, apologising for your delay. He clicks his tongue.

“You went to the restroom; no need to fret.” He says as he hands you a few snacks he bought from the convenience store.

“For me?” you ask, surprised.

“For you,” he confirms and starts up the engine. “So you don’t start whining that you’re hungry when we are in the middle of nowhere.”

The rest of the trip is beautiful. The landscape shifts profoundly, from the mundane colours of the city to the towering trees that grow denser, with hues of green more vibrant than any photo could capture. The radio plays some mainstream pop music, which doesn’t suit the scenery but makes everything less awkward between you.

Occasionally, you spot a flock of sheep and comment. Ghost doesn’t respond but shifts his gaze from the road to where you’re pointing so he can give you his full attention. He smiles every time, and you wonder whether he’s genuinely happy or just trying to act friendly. Then again, when did Ghost ever try to act friendly? He’s enjoying it as well.

You must have reached the outskirts of civilisation now since the radio has started to make white noise. He switches it off.

Silence. Awkward silence.

“Sorry.” He says, which is very ironic since he was the one who lectured you a few hours ago to stop apologising for things you can’t control. “I don’t have any CDs.”

An arrogant chuckle escapes you. You didn’t mean to come across that way, but there’s no need for CDs; although the car isn’t new, it has built-in Bluetooth. You wonder if he knows it.

“Do you mind?” You ask, showing him your phone.

He looks at it, raising an eyebrow from behind his sunglasses. He must be thinking you’re asking for permission to call someone.

You connect your phone to the car’s Bluetooth and launch Spotify. Music starts playing again. His attention alternates between the radio and your phone.

“Why don’t you look at that!” He remarks. “I knew you could do that; I just never bothered to figure out how.”

“I’ll show you later.” You reply.

“Do you take requests?”

You nod and smile. “What’s your poison, Lieutenant?”

“Johnny Cash.” He replies. “Hurt.”

You nod again, search for the song and press play. You try to enjoy the scenery, focusing on the trees and farms passing by, but Simon’s choice of song wraps around you.

“I hurt myself today

To see if I still feel

I focus on the pain

The only thing that’s real.”

You turn to look at him. He holds the wheel with one hand, his other resting on the car’s window. He leans against it, his face propped on his hand.

“And you could have it all

My empire of dirt

I will let you down

I will make you hurt.”

You want to comment on the song, but your throat feels tight like something’s choking you. You swallow hard.

“What have I become?

My sweetest friend

Everyone I know goes away

In the end.”

Tears fill your eyes, threatening to escape. You don’t have sunglasses like Ghost does. It’s a matter of time until he notices.

“If I could start again

A million miles away

I would keep myself

I would find a way.”

It’s sadness, melancholy—that's what you’re feeling. But is it for Ghost and his poor song choice? Or is it for you?

For your family, your friends, and the vacation you won’t get to enjoy with them? Who are you mourning exactly? He seems to be at peace with his choices. When will this bliss come to you?

Will it ever come to you?

“Hey,” he calls out, and you turn to look at him.

Too late; he already noticed.

“It’s okay,” he soothes you. “Let it out.”

As if you wanted his permission, you begin to cry uncontrollably. You gasp for air. Ghost presses a button on his door which forces your window to open slightly. The crisp air slaps your face, but you focus on the pain, just like the song says. Your nails bite into your palms as you squeeze your fists, and that water bottle falls from your legs onto the car’s floor.

Ghost reaches over, turning the volume higher as if he’s permitting you to cry as much as you want and scream as loud as you please. You turn your head to the side, looking through blurred vision at the colours of green blending together.

He clasps your fist in his hand. You refuse to relax it.

“It’s okay.” He repeats as you pass the blue sign marked with a white ‘X’ that welcomes you to Scotland. “It’s going to be okay.”

Your first unclenches and you open your hand.

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Part 3 (final) this way ->

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writing-for-life · 8 months

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Nuance in (The Sandman) Fandom

Send me asks about everything Sandman-related!

I thought a lot over the past few days, partly prompted by discourse on here, partly due to a couple of “interesting” asks and messages I received (the type you don’t answer). I *think* they might have been prompted by engaging in discourse on topics like anti-blackness/racism, misogyny/sexism, TERF characters etc in The Sandman.

Fandoms are always getting super sensitive if someone shines a critical lens on their favourite works, authors and characters. So to make this clear (in case it isn’t already obvious from my brain-rot blog):

I love The Sandman. I love Neil Gaiman. I have an extremely soft spot for Dream (and Desire btw, who deserves a lot more character analysis than just being summed up as “villainous, sexy bitch”. One day, perhaps ;)).

I can read The Sandman and just get lost in the story, even after decades and many rereads.

But I can also view it through a critical lens—these things aren’t mutually exclusive.

Not critical enough or too critical?

As fans, we can get trapped in certain thinking patterns, like:

“My blorbo can do no wrong”-syndrome

“Characters with flaws are inherently problematic and imply authorial endorsement of those actions”

“Characterisation and problematic subtext are one and the same” (aka overanalysing and looking for problems where there are none is the death of every story, but failing to see problematic patterns where they are clearly visible is a problem, too).

Don't say anything bad about my favourite character

I think this doesn’t need much further exploration. It’s not my personal way of looking at stories through permanently rose-tinted glasses (I always feel it stalls my experience, but my experience is not everyone else's). Some people prefer that type of escapism, and I’m good with that (although the downside is of course that by not willing to engage with issues, we can unwillingly perpetuate them). Live and let live, ship and let sail. But please, for the love of god: Don’t insult people via their inboxes or messages just because their opinions and preferences don’t align with yours. I’m not going to sugarcoat it or phrase it “nicely”: It’s infantile (and a form of bullying btw), end of.

How can you even like a character who's so horrible? And that author must be equally horrible, too

We have to separate flawed characters, even those who are written to be really problematic, from real-life endorsement of these actions.

Author, narrator and character are three fundamentally different things, and don’t overlap as much as some people seem to think.

We can write vile, despicable characters to make a point (for me, Thessaly was always a prime example for this, and I explained why here). We probably hate them as we write them. I don’t know what else to say, but this facet of writing seems to get more and more lost on people, and it’s a worry. Crying for sanitised characterisation is one step away from censorship. We explore what is problematic about people and humanity through story. That’s how we process and learn. It’s nothing new, but it becomes impossible if we can’t write flawed and even disgusting characters.

Face value…

Since I’m mostly in The Sandman fandom, I often read that its ending is hopeless, and that’s supposedly the entire message.

It is agonisingly sad, yes. But is it truly hopeless? I personally see it as quite the opposite, but of course that’s my opinion, coloured by my life experiences.

I also get that show-only fans often haven’t read the comics, or at least not the whole arc. And as such, their outlook from what they’ve seen so far (and choose to focus on) has to be different by default. I also understand that many people are quite new to the comics, even if they have read them in their entirety. I’ve sat with them for 30 years, and I still find new things on every reread (and I read it more times than anyone should 🙈), and I still don’t feel like I’ve understood it all. Perhaps because I still haven’t fully understood myself (and it’s unlikely I ever will). If there’s one thing The Sandman isn’t, it’s one-dimensional and easy to grasp in its whole depth.

I just wrote a ginormous meta on it, if you’re interested, it’s here:

Subtext, (not so) glorious subtext

This is where it gets complicated:

We shouldn’t mix up characterisation and story subtext. Overanalysing every line to death will always make us find something that’s “problematic”, when it really isn’t in the wider context of the story.

Zooming in is NOT always a good thing. Sometimes, we actually need to zoom out.

But subtext *can be* (accidentally) problematic. Even in stories we love. And none of this negates what I previously wrote.

Stories have real-life implications of sorts, and we need to be able to talk about it. That’s where those slightly flabbergasting, hostile inbox messages come in, and I want to expand on that "topic of contention" a bit:

Neil himself confirmed that the Endless basically warp reality, and that this is why, after Dream’s failed relationship with Nada, many black women in his vicinity suffer terrible fates (Ruby and Carla in particular). And that this spell is only broken when he dies, and that it is the reason why Gwen doesn’t suffer the same fate. And said Gwen then gets used as a plot device to basically absolve Hob (who canonically really is a problematic character, whether show-only fans like it or not) from his slaver past. Once again, very clearly: No one is making this up. Neil confirmed it (for the comics, and that was over 20 years ago. It remains to be seen if his stance has changed as we move into that arc in the TV show).

I don't think it is correct to imply that Dream as a character is racist (I've read that, too) because he logically can’t be. He holds *all* the collective unconscious. He is also, strictly speaking, not white. He is everything and nothing, and he shows up in many different ethnicities throughout the whole arc, depending on who looks at him. But Neil played with a subtext here (reality warping due to a bad relationship which then affects everyone with similar physical traits) that will read very differently to a black person than it reads to a white person, and we have to understand why that is an *extremely* slippery slope.

Plus, we are supposed to see Hob, who *was* a racist at some point (you can’t not be if you’re a slave-trader—it’s impossible by default) as redeemed. And yes, he *does* regret deeply, good for him (and if I were saying this aloud, you would hear the sarcasm in my voice, because it is indeed all about him. We are to sympathise/empathise with him and his character growth while there isn’t much mention of the people he maltreated). But also: it was a black woman who basically forgave him (with dialogue that personally makes me cringe). And that black woman who offers forgiveness is not truly a black woman—she is a character written by a white man. And as much as author and character are not the same (see above), there is an inherent sensitivity in that power imbalance that we can't brush under the carpet.

I don’t think Neil is racist. Probably quite the opposite, and I can even see that his intentions were good from a storytelling point of view. BUT intention and impact are two fundamentally different things, and telling the story this way (comic version) betrays blindspots only white people have. Just like women have blindspots when they tell stories about men, and men have blindspots when they tell stories about women (and there are a few of those in The Sandman, too). And and and…

As storytellers, we can’t always speak from lived experience. It’s impossible. And that also means we occasionally make mistakes that look bad in hindsight, even if our intentions were good.

I guess the proof is in the pudding: What do we do when people who *have* that lived experience tell us it looks bad? If they inform us why it is hurtful, plays into old stereotypes etc?

Are we willing to listen and yield (both are the foundations of allyship btw), or are we insisting that our viewpoint as someone *without* lived experience is right? That lived experience extends to all lived experiences (sex/gender, sexual orientation, age...), and from all we’ve heard from Neil so far, it seems important to him to rewrite what he sees differently today. Whether they’ll always get it right for the show—we’ll see. At the moment, it looks a lot better than in the comics, and certain issues are already being handled with a lot more sensitivity, but a few problems remain.

Pushing back on criticism that comes from people with lived experience is problematic—I’d encourage us to think about what it looks like if a white majority in the fandom is basically saying that the opinions of POC are essentially “overreactions” (and yes, that happened).

It’s complicated. The Sandman was written in a different time, and I think we have to distinguish between things that weren’t really problematic at the time but have aged poorly (again, Thessaly springs to mind, and I have lived experience as a queer person during that time, so I can see it in context while at the same time acknowledging that I would make changes to bring it to the present day), and things that were always a problem due to blindspots. They were a problem in 1990, and if they don’t get changed, they are still a problem today.

This fandom is generally so much more open and nicer than others I know. But that doesn’t mean it’s infallible, because it’s full of humans.

Nuance is sorely needed, in both story interpretation and interaction between said humans.

#fandom discourse #fandom blindspots #sandman meta #sandman spoilers #the sandman #dream of the endless #hob gadling #nada #morpheus #sandman

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iwanthermidnightz · 6 months

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*sigh*

The way some (because it’s not all) of *them* are acting over what someone intentionally picked out from the entire prologue to share online (lol after screaming not to leak things lol), knowing it would go viral and lead to harassment of Gaylors/Kaylors is sad.

Especially when it proves that they go with whatever satisfies their insecurities over the possibility (re: TK for the time being). Lavender Haze “ended Gaylors/Kaylors” until the entire song and video came out, right? Or what about when “It’s Time To Go” and “Right Where You Left Me” were released and ended Gaylors/Kaylors” because they were about Karlie’s “betrayal”? Which led to Taylor commenting and saying what those songs were about.

When she deleted the reel about the LH, who was in shambles?

It doesn't change the fact that Taylor:

Wrote queer-coded lyrics and had an entire era of queer themes

Asked why people were mad when they could be glad (GLAAD) in a video where she placed herself in the queer community.

Pushed for the Equality Act to be passed and wrote letters, which she signed and added a rainbow to.

Said “out now” while wearing a rainbow dress to say reputation was available.

Has said, “I want her midnights”.

Wrote an entire song referencing a tattoo and a Tumblr account that a woman had removed and deleted.

Gave permission for “Seven” and “Ivy” to be used during scenes between queer characters on “Heartstopper” and “Dickinson”.

But somehow, Gaylors/Kaylors are projecting these things and creating them from their imaginations?

I am straight, but I have picked up on the queer-coded themes, etc., that she puts out. I actually…take the time to observe and listen to her lyrics and ask my queer mutuals on here questions about things I don’t understand because conversations help, and they matter. I don’t disregard their feelings or discredit their perceptions of her lyrics because I am mature and secure enough to respect their connections from her music to their life experiences.

From the excerpt (seems to be getting all the focus), it seems they think she is singling out Gaylors/Kaylors, but I think she’s simply saying that she was hoping that if the focus was taken off her dating life and that energy/focus were placed into her female friendships and having that concept empowered, they wouldn’t sensationalize or sexualize them.

Yet, they still sensationalized her friend group by criticizing /saying it was elitist, non-feminist, and a publicity stunt because all of her friends in the group happened to be white, rich, and thin. As for sexualizing, she specifically addressed the media by saying for her 25th birthday, she would like for THEM to stop accusing all her friends of dating her. While this was after kissgate, when the main discourse was not only still on her dating life but whether or not she and Karlie had kissed, let’s also look at these select lines from the reputation prologue:

“When this album comes out, gossip blogs will scour the lyrics for the men they can attribute to each song as if the inspiration for music is as simple and basic as a paternity test. There will be slideshows of photos backing up each incorrect theory.”

The same people who say Gaylors/Kaylors are sexualizing (because let’s be honest, that’s the only word they zoned in on. Lol) her female friendships have (along with the media) been sensationalizing the alleged “beef” with one of those female friends specifically since 2017. They also engage in sexualizing her male “relationships” that are also sensationalized until they aren’t because they loved all her “boyfriends” (Calvin less than others, lol) until they ended.

Anyways, thanks for letting me rant, IWHM. I wish you and others who stand to be harassed or cyberbullied over this peace, patience, and strength.

you came in hot with that one! thanks anon 🙃

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littwlnettle · 1 year

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Random Relationship Astrology Notes

Composite north node seems to be SO significant when determining how a relationship will play out.

Composite NN in the 11th house: may have met through mutual friends. Those friends may be very influential in the relationship, like they helped bring the two people together or they could play a role in why they separate, depending on aspects, like harsh Saturn or conjunct Chiron. Could also be two people who are around other friends all the time.

Composite NN in the 10th house: may have met at work, through coworkers. They work well together and have similar career goals. Probably at least met in public somewhere vs in private. If romantic, the couple naturally sees their future together in the same light.

Composite Chiron conjunct North Node: lots of pain endured together as a couple, could have a very bad and painful break up. Healing after the breakup could take longer than normal, there could be a desire to go back to each other repeatedly to finish the “wound/healing” cycle that is Chiron. The house placement will show what area this will take place within the relationship.

This may be an unpopular opinion, but I don’t like mercury in the 1st house overlay in a synastry chart. I actually don’t find very many first house overlays to be super attractive but that’s just me and my nature. With mercury here, the mercury person can come across as being VERY nit-picky and CRITICAL about the house/ascendant person. This is more prominent if mercury is on the ascendant. I have seen this twice, and it was the same in both instances. The mercury person would often make comments on the house persons appearance, likes/dislikes, mannerisms, just everything about them. Lol. Not a good synastry placement in my books. The “good” side is that the house person makes the mercury person feel very comfortable expressing their thoughts(but it’s also why they say things abt the house person that should be left unsaid). Also, the mercury person is usually more talkative. This can cause the house/ascendant person to feel unheard at times. It can feel very unbalanced and even physically draining for the house person.

Mercury in the 8th house synastry overlay can cause the house person to feel way too vulnerable. The mercury person could pry too much and ask too many questions, especially if they aren’t used to this type of energy in synastry. They want to know everything, I mean everything about the house person. They get annoyed if they can’t get the information they want. If this is a romantic relationship, you might see the mercury person secretly going through the house persons phone or belongings. This extreme manifestation is usually if mercury is negatively aspected in the natal chart or if there are other aspects indicating immaturity. If well aspected, the mercury person could be able to understand the house person very well, they know what makes them tic, they know what makes them happy, they know exactly how they’ll react to things. And they use this knowledge to deepen their bond and intimacy with their partner, instead of holding it against them.

One first house synastry overlay I do find attractive is Venus in their partner’s first house. The Venus person loves the way the house/ascendant person interacts with the world. Even if it’s not normally their nature, the house person feels “soft” around Venus. And this is reciprocated with Venus feeling comfortable expressing their true loving nature to the house person. Venus here helps create more balance and harmony in the first house which is associated with Aries, vs a critical mercury or an assertive mars.

Also an unpopular opinion: I do find first house planets in the composite to be very rewarding for the couple vs synastry where it can feel unbalanced. I’ve hardly ever read good things about the composite first house. But the composite is a combined chart. Not how one person feels towards the other. It is just how the relationship is. So having planets here in the composite can make the relationship just feel… good and natural. Sun here is especially great. Like they can truly be themselves around each other and around everyone else. Mercury here isn’t as critical and much less unbalanced since it’s a “merging” of the two birth charts.

#composite chart #synastry #north node #synastry overlays #composite first house

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oshiawaseni · 1 year

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The deal with Togachaco

There was a little bit of confusion about what’s going on with these two and why Toga can’t use Shiggy and Dabi’s quirks. This is what I came up with about Toga's situation.

Disclaimer: this is all only theorycraft and any or all of it could be wrong of course!

My theory here is what’s lacking is not Toga’s love for them. She admits to caring about them. But their inability to love her. They lack any real connection. The two people who we know she has used quirks of are Twice and Ochaco.

Twice is obvious. They had a pretty close relationship and Twice felt very cared for when he died and told her that. Her heart broke for him so their feelings of love were reciprocated ones that had formed a strong connection and we aren’t talking romantic love, just love in general for another person. That’s what they had.

"But Ochaco didn't love Toga." True... but she did by proxy! One of Ochaco's key cornerstones is wanting everybody to be happy and smile. I think this was brought up again this chapter because it’ll be a very important theme for Toga’s arc to circle back to later!

During MVA, Toga’s love for Ochaco was reciprocated in a way - simply by default. There’s three points we should take note of here.

1. Toga was being loved back through proxy of Ochaco’s wide compassion for all of society.

2. Toga, someone who’s life has been utterly ruined from birth by her suffering of being excluded from society, is a *VALID* PART of society and is deserving of compassion, according to Ochaco's feelings.

3. Toga’s own quirk itself acknowledges Toga as a part of Ochaco’s “people," or "everyone," or "society." Even her own quirk knows she is valid and should be included in Ochaco’s compassion for everyone. (And now she genuinely cares for her too.)

And the deal with Dabi and Shigaraki: I really do think Toga’s quirk is affected by mutual love. Dabi and Shigaraki don’t have any love left in their body. All they are capable of right now is hate. They live for their hatred. This series is stacked up with parallels that juxtapose both love and hate against each other and this is another one. Those two will set themselves on fire in the name of hate. So Toga was unable to form a meaningful love connection with them. She can’t fully become them. Her quirk is the worst match with people like them.

Another interesting thing about Toga’s love is that Froppy (Hori) refers to it in Japanese quotation marks. I think this is more commentary of Toga not understanding what love means, and it’s like saying “love” to refer to it more as Toga’s concept of love. Something she obsessively fantasises about and thinks she understands, but doesn’t really.

Izuku also said to her: "If you love me, why don't you also want to share the same heart as me?" (values, morals, and protecting instead of hurting those she loves.) And this only made her think of her sad upbringing...

Toga never received any real love while growing up to form the basis of it. Not from her parents or her peers. Her quirk affects her personality a lot and is a factor in this too. So Toga-chan doesn’t really know what True Love is and I think that’s something Ochaco is going to help show her.

If her quirk works like this then her destiny was never meant to be a villain at all, as LoV are all bound together by hate for quirk society and they don’t know what love is either, which hinders her connection with them. So the only place her character can truly shine in, is when she is being surrounded by people she loves who can also love her in return. Like the condition to lift the beast’s curse in Beauty and the Beast.

I think Toga finding out what rule is affecting her ability to truly become people will be pivotal in saving her from all this mental pain she’s grown up with. This is her burden she's been baring all alone for years, and I believe whatever it is she has going on with Ochaco, will surely put some light into her heart, maybe for the first time ever.

#togachaco #Bnha 382 #kana writes #toga himiko #himiko toga #LOV #league of villains #bnha meta #i had this in my drafts hope it was interesting to read !#what do you guys think?

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yvnaology · 4 months

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HAPPY NEW YEAR ! 🎊

to you, my most devout followers, i thank you for following me along this journey since ( 10/31/22 ). i thank those who have been here in my past blogs, those who took a chance to read my silly works and give a follow ─── even those who are only lurking. i thank you, from the bottom of my heart for being around. you are loved, and if you believe you aren’t — then please know that i do. all 287 of you mean the world to me, and you always will. my dearest mutuals, even the ones i don’t mention here . . . you will always have a safe place in my heart.

TO THE FOLLOWING . . .

@ilyuu ( yui! 🤍 ) ─── yui!! honestly i know we haven’t talked much lately, but you’re an incredible person with a heart of gold. it’s a shame we haven’t interacted as much as i’d like, but i want to thank you sincerely for sticking around 🥹💗 you’re such a sweetheart and your works give me a great amount of serotonin. the way you write makes me want to hold my head in my hands and it gives off the vibe of holding hot chocolate and sitting by a fire, the kind of feeling of coziness and warmth. it feels as if i’m being coddled, a feeling of the purest form settling in my chest that i absolutely adore. i hope you take care of yourself this year && improve on whatever you deem needs work.

@rainswept ( crow! 🖤 ) ─── crow!! my fellow lyney enthusiast ( that needs to be put down and ykw so do i bc this man drives us absolutely insane we need to be locked up!!! ) i cannot express how thankful i am to have interacted with you in 2023. even the smallest interactions have brightened my days, and even when i swore i was at my breaking point — you were there like a ray of hope, and for that i thank you. having someone to be able to talk to, even someone who understands is such an amazing thing, i didn’t feel alone and afraid. i didn’t feel stranded and lost and it was because of our conversation, i felt a weight off of my chest and a lingering feeling of hope. i hope our conversations won’t be as deep in the future, having a bit lightheartedness every once in a while is enough to lighten the weight and warm the heart. i wish you the best 2024 possible, and i truly wish we can speak for longer. as you were for me, i hope to become a candle of light whenever you’re in need of one.

@scaramouffin / @seelestia ( odelia! 🩵 ) ─── i have too many words, lia. honestly, meeting you on this platform was a blessing in itself. i remember when i lurked around your blog for a good month or so before sending you an ask, feeling way too shy and afraid i’d come off as too excited 😅💕 the moment i decided to just, do it?? i had to stop myself from deleting my entire blog HAHAHA 😭 and when you answered i was incredibly happy, we had a similar circle of mutuals and it was such an experience knowing you wanted to do the same as me. 2024 for you is a year of adulting, and i sincerely wish you the bestest luck on your endeavors. a new chapter of your life begins this year, and i can’t wait to see the many things you’ll do with your life — the people you’ll meet and the things you accomplish. i’m incredibly honored to call you a mutual and a friend of mine, and i thank you for sticking by through this hectic year <3

@meidnightrain ( meisha! 💜 ) ─── meishie!! you’re another mutual i had the absolute pleasure of meeting in 2023. coincidentally ( or not… ), we ended up in the same server. through there, we’ve had a lot of opportunities to chat more, i got to know you a little bit better and i can say that you’re definitely someone i’d like to be friends with for longer. your personality is incredibly endearing, even if you may not think the same. you’re another extremely talented writer, and i frequently read your works to gain a bit more insight whenever i’m stuck, hope you don’t mind, ehe! 2024 may bring you an abundance of challenges, but i believe in you to be able to overcome them. you’re more than capable, more than you’ll ever realize. in moments that you don’t believe in it, ask anyone in the server and they’ll provide you with a similar answer — you’re capable and you can do anything you put your mind to. the stress won’t linger forever, and if it ever gets too much — my dms are always open for you! i love uu meisha 😠💓 happy 2024 mwah

@mhiieee ( mhie! 💙 ) ─── mhie!! another person i got to know through the server <3 best decision ever bc what the hell u are just!! amazing!! we also have a few of the same mutuals & i rmr just blinking in shock when i read your writing for the first time, you. you are a genius. quite literally felt as if i was being pulled by an unknown force because my imagination was so incredibly vivid while reading your works, you are just that talented and absolutely no one can tell you otherwise. your art as well, it’s absolutely stunning & i hope you get to work more of your creative wonders in 2024 as well <3 i’d absolutely love to get to know you better!! 🫶🏼

@boykissr ─── though i’m unaware of what you go by these days, you are a pretty old mutual of mine that i’m so thankful for meeting. i feel upset at the fact that we don’t interact anymore, and i hope that in 2024 we can change that bc you are honestly such a cool person :( talented & amazing fr <3 it’s been so long and genuinely the times we did interact, i’ve enjoyed so much. thank you for being around for the period of time that you have, and again — i sincerely apologize that we haven’t talked much, will be fixing in 2024 !! trust !!

@dumbificat ( dumbi! 💛 ) ─── dumbi!! i know we’ve only met recently, i’m raging at the fact that it was so recent & late in the year 😞✋🏼 but nonetheless, i’m glad we did meet bc you are an absolute joy to talk to and see in the server. you hold a maturity and sense of responsibility i strive to have one day, and i adore your blog’s theme!! thank you for welcoming me with open arms, i truly appreciate it. i hope that in 2024, we get to interact and talk a lot more, because you’re a really cool person & it’s a honor to be able to speak to you. i hope your 2024 has more good memories than bad, and that you find the time to enjoy it with the people you cherish the most.

@yinyinggie / @i23kazu ( ying! 💚 ) ─── mama ying!! we’ve been mutuals for quite a while, and at some point we did end up drifting, but the times we’ve interacted felt so enjoyable. you’re a source of comfort, a ray of sunshine & your positivity is something no one could ever hope to replicate. your outlook on life is inspiring, and i find myself feeling honored each and every time we do talk. thank you, for all that you do for not just me but for everyone you’ve ever talked to. you’d brightened their days just as you have mine. thank you, for creating the servers filled with such awe-inspiring people — servers filled with amazing and wonderful human beings that i find myself getting to know everyday. you’re incredible, beyond wise and kind. you have a heart of gold, and i’m truly blessed to have been able to find solace in your company both before and now.

@kizakiss ( rin! 🧡 ) ─── rin!! i also just met you a bit ago, and we don’t talk much unfortunately :( but! god, the time you ended up recognizing me and claiming you were a fan of mine — it warmed my heart so much. you seem incredibly sweet and i’d love to get to know you better in 2024 <3 to me, you’re a friend of mine even if we don’t chat often. thank you for welcoming me with such warmth and excitement, i was so fueled with serotonin that i felt like giving u a big hug <3 🫂💗

@nervocat ( nervo! ❤️ ) ─── new mutual!! i adore your argenti theme & i adore your kindness. i sincerely wish you a great new year, you’re more than deserving and i hope that you’re doing okay. trust!! we’ll interact lots in 2024 & we are going to become besties fr 🫂 giving you a big warm hug and hot chocolate, even take some freshly baked cookies.

honorable mentions ( in ying’s server! ) ─── ek, star, yukari, loqua, pen, silver, caz, esther, zee, snob & literally everyone else i’ve ever talked to ( I CANT RMR NAMES IM SORRY. )

despite the little time we’ve spent together, please know that talking to all of you and being apart of the server was the best decision i’ve ever made. i felt so at home, i felt accepted and appreciated. i didn’t feel like an outcast in the slightest, and i felt as if i belonged there. you all are such amazing people with your own little charm, and i hope to get to know you all in 2024. the little chaotic moments, the ones that can make you crack a smile and let out the sound of hearty laughter — the sense of euphoria i get whenever it’s someone’s birthday or whenever everyone seems like they’re having a fun time is unquestionable.

i want more moments like that, and i know i’ll make more memories and grow more comfortable with a lot of you, so please keep being yourselves. you all are so lovable and amazing, and my heart feels so warm whenever i get the chance to talk in the server. to those currently struggling, please don’t give up. bad days will happen, bad weeks will happen, bad months will happen, bad years may come your way — but you are so loved. you are loved if not by anyone then by me, i can’t promise you’ll be okay in a day or week, it could take much longer than that. but we’re all here for you, because without you — teyvat valley wouldn’t feel like home anymore. please don’t give up, because there are those that are ready to lift you by the chin and tell you that you’re safe. you’re not alone. you’re cared for. we love you. 2024 is sure to be filled with memories of fleeting joy and lingering sorrow, but it’s important to know the extent of your determination. what do you want to do? what do you cherish? what can you do now?

if any of you ever need someone to celebrate your joys or hear your woes, please dm me at any time, because if no one else will — i will be here. i love you all sm & i thank you for taking me as one of your own. happy new year, teyval & may your memories this year be full of unmeasurable joy. i’m thankful for each and every one of you, even the ones i haven’t gotten the chance to speak to, your existence is enough to give me a sense of peace and happiness ♡

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runnning-outof-time · 1 year

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K’s 3K Follower Celebration

~ Tales From the Flower Garden ~

Thank you SO MUCH for helping this blog reach 3,000 followers!!! I know I say it in every post like this that I make, but the fact that this many people have decided to follow me blows my mind.

This was a long time coming (thanks to the…certain type of blogs that kept invading my follower list) so I figured that we’d celebrate!!

And then I thought what a better theme to choose than ‘tales from the flower garden’ … because I’m sure we all know the saying ‘April showers bring May flowers’…even though it’s still raining where I’m from.

SO…if you’re a writer (or a creator in general) and you’re interesting in joining in on this celebration, there are more details below the cut for you!!

If you’re not a writer, I still suggest you stick around because I’ve got a feeling there’s going to be many, beautiful and floral themed fics blooming shortly! — You can read the stories HERE.

So you’re a writer!!! …or maybe you’re just interested in what’s going on...

Either way, thanks so much for showing interest!! I hope you’ll find this writing event to be one that you can join in on. Remember, you don’t need to be a mutual or following me to join, this is open to EVERYONE!!

Here are some guidelines, if you’d like to take part:

You can write either an ‘x reader’ story or for an OC that you have…or even a ship from the show.

You can also write a platonic!reader or a sister!reader if those types of scenarios are more your speed/interest of writing.

You can include nsfw themes in your story - just please mark them properly (and be over 18 yourself) … same goes for dark fics - you can include those themes but please use warnings!

This is only for Peaky characters - you can choose any character from the show you’d like.

Please use a keep reading/read more line if your story is MORE THAN 1K words!! — I can help you add it if you’re unsure of how to.

There is no time limit/deadline for you to post your creations!

Make sure you TAG ME in your story so I can find it!

Here’s how you can join in:

Send a message/ask to me with the details below:

Choose a prompt from the list at the bottom of this post — only one person per prompt (I will allow prompts to be used twice if it happens to be open when you send a message - i.e I don’t check my messages fast enough and two people ask for the same prompt)

Choose which character you’re going to write it with — you don’t need to include it if you’re unsure of who you want to write it with…just tell me you’re unsure.

REMEMBER: ALL stories need to include a flower garden in some aspect — it can be the main setting or just one of the settings!

If you’re still interested in joining in after reading all of the guidelines…here are the prompts you can choose from (I just had to put a few lyric-based prompts in there - I’ve included the song, but you don’t need to base your story off of it):

*prompts can only be used once*

Angst

“You deserve better.”

“I don’t know how we can get past this.”

“Just don’t talk to me like that, ok?”

“Are you hearing what you’re saying right now?”

“You really don’t understand why I’m doing this, do you?” w/ Tommy

“Do you feel better about yourself now?”

“You can be so inconsiderate sometimes.”

“People ruin people, I don’t want to ruin you.” (from From Austin by Zach Bryan) w/Tommy

“You thought I was a savable man.” (from Taker by Brother Elsey) w/ Arthur

“You’ve now created the things that’ll haunt you the most.” (from Graceland by Allan Rayman) w/ Tommy

“Do you miss me?” (from Too Bad by Rival Sons) w/ Tommy

“I can’t help you if this is not enough.” (from Pink Motel by The Glorious Sons)

Fluff

“I can’t imagine going another day without you.”

“You can’t leave without giving me a kiss.” w/ Tommy

“You’re bushing, aren’t you?”

“You’ve just made me the happiest person alive.”

“Did I just make you smile?” w/ Tommy

“There was no reason behind that…I just wanted to kiss you.” w/Tommy

“You’re the only one who makes me feel like this, darling.” w/ Tommy

“Isn’t it beautiful out here?” w/ Tommy

Concern

“Let me see…please.”

“What’s happened to you?” w/ Polly

“Promise you’ll come back to me.”

“I won’t let anyone hurt you.”

“Please, just tell me what you’re going through…I can help you.”

“Come inside.” w/Tommy

“It’s freezing out here!”

“Please don’t touch that flower!” or “You can’t be out here touching these flowers!” w/ Alfie

Misc. (Pick a Path) - choose fluff, angst, etc.

“We can’t keep meeting each other like this.” w/ Tommy

“We’ll get through this together.”

“Would you stop looking at me like that?” w/ Tommy

“If only you knew the reason behind all of this.”

“I can’t believe you just said that.” w/ Alfie

“I…I didn’t think I’d see you here.” or “I just didn’t think I’d see you here.”

“I don’t even know what we are anymore.”

“Is there any reason why you’ve been out here all night?” w/ Tommy

“How did I know you’d be out here?”

“I’ve been waiting here all night for you.”

“Kiss me, please.”

“It’s going to be ok. I promise.”

“You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me.” w/ Tommy

“I don’t know if I can say goodbye.” w/ Tommy

“Are you sure we can do that/this out here?” w/Alfie

“I really don’t think we should be out here right now.”

“It’s always do as I say, never do as I asked you.”

“You don’t understand the kind of love you’re getting yourself in.” (from Taker by Brother Elsey) w/Arthur

“We said we’d never let each other go.” (from End of Forever by Rival Sons)

“I don’t mind what you have to do…I won’t think less of you.” (from I Want More by KALEO) w/ Arthur

“Forgive me for everything I did.” (from So Much Love To Give by The Glorious Sons) w/ Tommy

“No matter what I say or do I cannot prove that this isn’t the first time.” (from Chief by Allan Rayman)

Once again, send me an ask/message with the prompt you’d like to use as well as the character(s) you’re going to write it with (if you know who).

YOU DON’T NEED TO BE FOLLOWING ME TO JOIN! — EVERYONE’S WELCOME!!

I look forward to seeing your lovely creations!!

Tagging some people who may be interested/have been SUPER kind and supportive to me: @there-goes-thefighter @zablife @cillmequick @notyour-valentine @raincoffeeandfandoms @toms-cherry-trees @acewritesfics @look-at-the-soul @gypsy-girl-08 @l1-l4 @padfootdaredmetoo @evita-shelby @peakyscillian @thomasshelbydrabbles @noforkingclue @theshelbyclan @mgcldydrms @areyenotfondofmelobster @holacia3 @rangerelik @midnightswithdearkatytspb @little-diable @daisyblinder @theshelbyslimited @peakyltd @peacexatxlast @fallatyourfeet @dearshelby @shelbydelrey @peakyswritings @midnightmagpiemama @dandelionprints @moral-terpitude @cillixn @shelbyssins @creativepawsworld @peakypolly @pherelesytsia @anotherblinder @scorpiussage @call-sign-shark @anonymooseforever007 @sneakyblinders @mythos-writes @shelby-fangirl00 @huntingingoodwill @teenwolf-theoriginals @forgottenpeakywriter (I’m sorry if I’ve forgotten anyone — please know that you are SO special to me!! ❤️)

#k celebrates 3k #tales from the flower garden #tommy shelby #arthur shelby #john shelby #finn shelby #michael gray #alfie solomons #jack nelson #luca changretta #peaky blinders #peaky blinders x reader

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ticklishraspberries · 9 months

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tl;dr - Please read content creator’s information - their pinned posts, bios, carrds, whatever, and start actually respecting their boundaries. If there’s anything that I or others can do to make this info more accessible or easy to understand, please let me know.

Okay, you know this is serious because Razz is actually using capital letters /lh. But seriously, I hate being a dick on here, but the genuine lack of etiquette and kindness towards fic writers has been getting on my nerves for years, and my annoyance has hit another peak. Rather than going off on the people who sent me the specific messages that triggered this, I’m just going to delete the asks and make this post instead.

If you want to send a writer a prompt, please, I’m like actually begging, take a minute to read their information. My pinned post has a link to my carrd, is that not clear enough or easily accessible? /gen like if it isn’t easy I will find a new solution, I want this to be mutually beneficial. I get less asks that make me want to rip my hair out, you don’t get snarky replies to your prompts, LOL.

Some writers have a pinned post, a link to a fandoms list, a carrd, etc...Is it actually that complicated to just check that someone likes the fandom you are asking for before you send them a prompt? I received an ask asking for a fic between two characters that I have never even heard of before, and I still can’t figure out what the source material is. I cannot write for fandoms I’m not familiar with, and I will not write for fandoms I don’t specifically list as something I’m comfortable writing.

Also, maybe I should put my fandoms list and boundaries on the same page? Because the amount of people that still ask for things that I have stated multiple times make me uncomfortable (parent/child tickling, bellybutton-focused stuff, “cheer-up” tickling, etc) is honestly insane, like I’m not sure if my boundaries aren’t clear enough or if people just don’t care.

It’s really discouraging to open my inbox and see it full of people who have no respect or regard for my rules. And oftentimes it will be followed by “I love you/your blog/fics” and, I’m sorry if this is mean, but I don’t believe the compliments when they are coming from someone who can’t even be bothered to check if I’ve watched a TV show or not.

Of course, whether or not I write something is not going to depend 100% on the fact that you ask for a pairing that I like or that you’re polite, but if you’re rude or ask me for a fandom I’m not familiar with, I’m not even going to publish those asks anymore, I’m just deleting them because I don’t want to argue with people. Plus, this isn’t just a writer’s issue, I see it happen to artists, too.

If there is anything that I can do to make my fandoms, rules, boundaries. etc. more clear and accessible, PLEASE let me know /gen. It is so discouraging and irritating for me and I’m sure that people who are innocently just making a mistake feel upset when I get frustrated with them, and I don’t want that to happen at all. I want this to be a fun, safe space for all of us, and a place where we can share ideas and be creative. I just think we could use a little more cooperation and kindness when it comes to interacting with content creators.

#raspberry talks

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kirythestitchwitch · 8 months

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Klaroline WIP Wed - waffle house fic - Eating Habits

Okay okay here's some Rebekah! 😊

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Rebekah Mikaelson sat down in her booth.

“Oh my god, is this where you’ve been?” She dropped her large, obnoxiously designer purse on the tabletop, scattering Caroline’s pens. “Truly, this is tragic.”

Caroline blinked, frantically wondering if vampires could have hallucinations, if maybe she just hadn’t noticed being bitten by a werewolf recently. “Rebekah?”

“Well spotted.” Digging in her purse, she pulled out a compact and a tube of lipstick. “Did you also notice that one tends to stick to the booth?” She squirmed slightly, looking disgusted.

Marcy bustled over, pulling her notepad and pen from her apron. “Well, I’ll be! Company.” She beamed at Caroline, who smiled stiffly back. “Can I get you anything?”

Rebekah paused halfway to freshening up her lipstick to examine the short, round woman. “Does everything here come with grease on it?” she asked.

The server’s smile went sharp. “No, we put the grease on special for flavor.”

Rebekah frowned. “Then no.” She returned to fixing her lipstick, Marcy clearly dismissed from her mind.

Caroline exchanged a look with the server, trying to convey some kind of wordless apology and mutual irritation. Marcy rolled her eyes but left with one finally squinty-eyed look at Rebekah.

“It’s a good thing you didn’t get anything, she probably would have spit in it,” Caroline said, reaching out to corral her pens in a pile away from her booth guest.

Looking up from tucking away her makeup, Rebekah looked disgusted. “Gross. Would you have warned me?”

“Not even a little.” She flashed Rebekah a smile as polite as it was fake.

The other girl offered her own version of the same. “It’s a wonder we left any of you alive,” she said, digging back in her purse.

Caroline tapped the end of her pen against her notebook. “So, about that: what are you doing here and how quickly can you leave?” Rebekah’s dorm was on the other end of the row closest to campus, and Caroline made an effort to avoid bumping into her when she walked past. Unfortunately, seeing her in Biology on Thursdays was unavoidable. They very diplomatically sat on opposite ends of the classroom.

“I’m hungry for a midnight snack.” Her tone of voice made it clear she thought this was obvious.

With a shrug, Caroline picked up a highlighter and started going down the list of vocabulary words. “Well, you had your chance for pie, I’m afraid.”

“Don’t be daft.” Rebekah pulled out a small, collapsible brush and started working invisible tangles out of her hair. “I don’t want pie, I want a nice brunette. Maybe a blond.”

Freezing mid-highlight, Caroline glanced at Rebekah and then around to see who was paying attention. June was busy with a table that had just been sat, and Marcy was in the back. The other tables had cleared out. No one paid her any mind. "Rebekah," she hissed quietly, "You can't just eat people in a Waffle House. Marcy's already had to clean up after some drunk kids who hurled on the bar tonight, she doesn't deserve to find a dead body in the bathroom."

The air of disdain with which Rebekah looked at her might have peeled paint. "What have the Salvatores been teaching you, baby vampire? I'd understand Stefan having no self-control–he never did–but surely Damon is old enough."

Caroline huffed bitterly. "Damon hasn't exactly been known for his self-control, either, historically. Elena's mostly guilted him into using blood bags, but I'm sure he has his cheat days."

Rebekah shuddered dramatically. "Ugh, blood bags. There’s always a plastic aftertaste, I don’t know how you stomach them.”

“Well, I’m not about to start Stefan’s bunny diet anytime soon. I don’t know how he stomachs the fur in his teeth,” Caroline said, making a face. Rebekah gave her a look she probably saved for unfortunate Dickensian orphans to lure them in before draining them dry, like Caroline was the most pitiable creature on Earth. “You know those aren’t your only options, right? Stefan’s guilt-fueled eternal Lent or the refrigerated donations intended for the injured.” She tossed her hair over her shoulder with a flippant hand. “I mean, I don’t care about that sort of thing, but you seem like the type that would. A Good Vampire, and all that.” Smiling as if that was funny, Rebekah seemed like she was trying to invite Caroline in on the joke.

#klaroline wip wed #klaroline for ts #tvd for ts #waffle house au #sorry this is really late #i was playing Starfield last night and forgot to queue something to post before work

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daja-the-hypnokitten · 1 year

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Thoughts on Consent – best practices, and when those aren’t necessary

As many people can tell you, I’ve been quite outspoken over the years on the need for better consent practices than the con-going hypnokink community had when I first started attending cons. And while we’re at that point, now, that I personally feel we’re teaching quality best practices, I wanted to talk a little about *why* best practices are what they are – and when they can be stepped away from, as long as everyone involved in the negotiation is on the same page about doing that.

I’m going to start by defining what those best practices look like, in my own words. Best practices in a hypnokink setting include:

Negotiation with everyone in full control of their faculties – no drugs that effect the brain, no recent hypnosis (within reason – usually 30 min since the last time they were hypnotized is plenty of time), etc. During this time, interested parties are negotiating as equals – the power dynamics don’t belong in this space.

No pressuring anyone into things. Asking for what you want is fine. Guilting them into something, repeatedly asking if you’ve gotten a “no,” and so on is not. It’s ok to need something specific to want to play with someone else, but if they don’t want to do that thing then the answer is “I guess we aren’t compatible partners.” No is and always will be a successful negotiation outcome.

Opt-in consent. That means only things that are negotiated are on the table. Didn’t ask if you could touch their arm? Then you aren’t touching their arm until the next time you play.

Clear discussion of what safewords, if any, will be used. If no safewords are indicated, then “no,” “stop,” and so on are all equivalent to red. If being unable to speak is a concern, you should also indicate a safe signal that can be done – I like tapping on the nearest surface, because I’m a martial artist, but anything works so long as it’s clear to all parties.

Discuss aftercare needs. For all parties involved.

Negotiating down mid-scene is always allowed (that is, saying you don’t want to do something that you negotiated.) Negotiating up (adding something new in) is not.

So that’s a lot – and there’s reasons for that. It’s all designed to reduce risk of emotional/physical/mental harm. But does that mean that all of these steps are always required? Well, no, but I am a firm believer that they should be the assumed default *unless* all parties involved are willing to have slightly higher risk. And that risk can be mitigated by other factors. For instance:

People who have played together before already know what their safewords are, so they skip that step. This could be difficult if one has changed how they use a safeword, or their partner forgot that they use “orange” for “I need a bio break” or whatever. But they trust each other to adapt on the fly if need be, so they’re both willing to take that risk.

Long-term partners don’t do more than a quick check-in before play. They have enough sense of each other’s likes, dislikes, and limits that knowing where someone’s at emotionally is all they need to have a lovely, mutually satisfying scene. This is built on long-term understanding and knowledge, as well as trust that should something go wrong, they’ll work together to solve the issue.

And lots of other examples that I’m not going to invent here, because we’re adults and can use reason to get the idea. The point is, while deviating from the “best practices” I outlined above – which will likely change and evolve over time! – can increase risk, there are reasons people may wish to take those risks, and circumstances that make the risks taken less so. So, especially if you’re at a kink party or a con, you might see people negotiating to what appears to be a lower standard than you expect. Here are a bunch of reasons that might happen, just off of the top of my head:

They’re established partners and are just doing a quick check-in before doing something

They negotiated in depth pre-event, and are just making sure they’re still on the same page.

They both agreed to opt-out consent, while aware of the risks

They negotiated somewhere else before going to the play area and you just didn’t see it

And probably lots of other reasons I’m not thinking of at the moment.

Basically, while I am a firm believer that the “best practices” should be taught as the default, and should be modeled during presentations as much as possible, that doesn’t mean we should act as though adults are unable to consent to riskier play. And there are plenty of cases where it won’t *be* riskier play. I’d never expect someone to negotiate the same way with their collared submissive as they would with someone they’ve been friends and sometimes play-partners with for years, which would be yet still different from pickup play with someone they just met. There’s space for all of these things, and as I’m gearing up for Charmed and doing my own negotiation with friends and partners, it’s been on my mind a little how different my negotiation looks with different people.

I’m curious what other folk think, and what I missed (because it’s 2am when I’m writing this and I should probably be in bed).

#hypnokink #consent thoughts

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wroteclassicaly · 1 year

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Please read the following:

After the events that have transpired these past few days, like many other blogs — I have decided to take extra measures to protect my peace of mind and my blog. This is my safe space, and I won’t have it ruined! I’ll be changing a few things, so it’s important to read through this post!! Saddened that it’s come to this, but we have to keep our community and one another safe and sane, & these are some of the ways that we can!

I have always blocked underage blogs and most blank blogs! I label things accordingly, I set out boundaries, and I expressed that those be respected. I’ve always had a policy of 18+ on this blog, or do not enter if you’re a minor. However, realizing how many people have truly crossed these boundaries myself and my fellow writers have set— I know that I need heavier measures. Which is why I will be starting the extra rules below, as well as my fic writing rules!

Do not attempt to contact me if you’ve been blocked from my page. I have my reasons and I do not owe you an explanation. Please respect this.

If you’re a blank blog, especially without an age in your bio — it’s an automatic block. I have a lot to still get through, as my followers accumulate pretty quickly and it’s sometimes hard to catch. If you’re of age — SAY SO IN THE BIO!

Don’t lie about your age or make duplicate blogs to follow or interact. I realize that can happen, and sometimes there’s no sure way of knowing, but I’m doing my best to keep my blog safe for my mutuals, followers, and myself. Let’s all be respectful here.

It goes without saying, that you’re getting blocked if you’re underage. Also if you’re a blank blog. This blog is 18+ ONLY

Do not interact with me or my blog if you’re under the age of 18. Do not attempt to follow this blog, either. Blank blogs — same rules apply. I sound like a broken record, but LISTEN!!!

NOTE: If you’d like to remain anonymous because of your own comfort levels — you can send me an ask via your blog, but ask me not to publish it. Maybe mark the username out? You must be 18+

Fic rules: Things I won’t write for, just send in an ask if you aren’t sure! It’s easier to answer that way than listing them!

I’m sorry if this upsets anyone about the anons, because if you’re of age and you’ve never liked sending shit off anon — I get it. But please understand. ❤️

I’ve lost an influx of followers, but I honestly don’t give two fucks, because safety is my priority here. If this bothers you — get off my page, kay? As an older community of writers, I feel that we have somewhat of a responsibility here. I’m grateful for this community and for my friends & fellow authors 💗

Note: Important Announcement

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noogit9000 · 4 months

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I love the House of Asmodeus musical number so much

Not only does it sound good (always a plus lmao) but there are a few key moments that particular stand out to me:

Moxxie’s intro is so tender and sweet and it’s just the beginning of the justice this song does for his relationship with Millie.

Enter Asmodeus and Fizzarolli, who challenge Moxxie and Millie’s relationship (but are also secretly gay for each other outside the public eye, I love them) and they have individually iconic voices that add some spice (pun intended) to the simple sweet (vanilla KYEHEHEH) exposition that Moxxie started the number with. They’re supposed to be mocking those with deeper relationships since their whole thing is lust, but really they are displaying their own chemistry, which is very romance hehehe

This is my absolute favorite part:

(Moxxie) I want to—

(Fizzarolli) Yeah, what do you want?

Butt stuff? Piss play? Bondage?

(Moxxie) Make gentle love to you

GYAAAAAAAH THIS IS SO WHOLESOME

This is one of my favorite lyrics in the show so far. Asmodeus and Fizzarollie’s challenge does two things in this number:

It demonstrates the strength and security that Moxxie and Millie have built in their relationship and it puts Blitzø and Stolas spot as well, calling attention to how shaky and unsure their relationship is.

Which brings us to my second favorite moment in the sequence, the Oh Shit Guys, Is That Stolas???

And the epic delivery of

“You sold your life for a thrust!

Now that’s the spirit of lust!”

And then immediately after this Millie cuts in to bring it back down:

(Millie) Hey!

I think you were trying to sing something for me, Mox

(Moxxie) Yeah, I was

I love us, I love us just the way we are

Don't have to pretend to like to do things we don't

I've always got you around to laugh at my stupid jokes

I'll never take you for granted, I'll always give you my best

And if you can offer the same thing, we'll handle the rest

'Cause I love you, 'cause I love you

Hello? Secret sauce here!! And the whole time this last bit is sung together like they are the only two in the room.

Because the only people who should be involved in a relationship are the people who are actually in the relationship. That’s the lesson that Asmodeus and Fizzarolli end up figuring out for themselves shortly after this. Blitzø and Stolas’ issue is a little different, since unlike Asmodeus and Fizzarolli, they don’t have a mutual understanding between them that allows them to exist together regardless of the outward conditions as Moxxie and Millie demonstrate. They aren’t there yet, and it’s gonna be real difficult for Blitzø to break down the walls he’s spent a long time putting up in order to have that necessary conversation.

Anyway that’s my analysis on the subject. I write this kinda shit for fun.

#helluva boss #house of asmodeus #Noogit writes essays for fun #Youtube

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yerluvinuncle · 2 years

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Mod: Different chemistry

This is a mod that changes compatibility between sims. It's based on @bstu's No Aspiration Chemistry Penalty and @dreadpirate's Zodiac Mod. It's the same kind of mod as those, so you can only have one. (There may be others out there that I don't know about.) Thank you to both of them for their work.

The astrological component of my mod is identical to dreadpirate's, which is less arbitrary than the original Maxis chemistry. See that post for all the details on that.

What is different in my mod is the way the aspirations respond to each other. There were some aspects of Maxis' aspirational chemistry that didn't make sense to me. This mod makes the matchups more “logical” in MY opinion and I figured I might as well share it if anyone else wants to try it out. bstu's mod gets rid of aspirational incompatibility (so no aspirations repel each other) and preserves the original attractions. dreadpirate’s mod changes astrological chemistry and preserves Maxis’ aspirational chemistry. Here is how mine works in terms of aspirations:

Just like Maxis, all the aspirations are attracted to "themselves"--Romance/Romance, Family/Family, Fortune/Fortune, Popularity/Popularity, Knowledge/Knowledge, and Pleasure/Pleasure all have positive chemistry. I also kept the extra mega chemistry for Grilled Cheese/Grilled Cheese.

The following pairs are also mutually attracted: - Romance/Pleasure - their goals are mutually beneficial. They often both want the same things and rarely want opposing things. - Family/Grilled Cheese & Popularity/Grilled Cheese - Grilled Cheese sims want to feed people. Works out for the big crowds that will theoretically build around Family and Popularity sims.

The following are one-way attractions (neutral on the other side): - Family is attracted to Fortune. Family sims benefit from a Fortune partner who will provide materially while the Family sim focuses on their family. Fortune sims are neutral to Family. - Popularity is attracted to Family. Popularity sims like having lots of people around to befriend, so a big family is fun for them. Family sims are neutral to Popularity. - Popularity is attracted to Pleasure. Pleasure sims are attractive to Popularity because they are fun at parties. Pleasure sims' goals are only incidentally and not necessarily social or party-related, so they are neutral to Popularity.

There is one one-way repulsion: - Family is repelled by Knowledge. This was a major complaint of mine. I really don't understand why originally these two have positive chemistry. Knowledge sims frighten and disturb Family sims by seeking out risky and unsettling experiences that can wreak aspirational devastation on the Family sim. I considered making Knowledge sims also repelled by Family, like they are condescending to the Family sim's provincial lack of intellectual curiosity. But on the other hand, Knowledge sims do enjoy teaching, and generally want to foster their children's growth. So I've made them neutral to Family, since Family sims don't really do anything that "hurts" Knowledge sims.

The following are push/pull: - Fortune/Pleasure - Pleasure sims are attracted to Fortune sims, whose material success can fund a luxurious and pleasure-seeking lifestyle. But Fortune sims are repelled by the irresponsible, anti-work Pleasure sims. - Romance/Family - Romance sims are repelled by the conventionally domestic Family sim. But Family sims (being attuned to the body's reproductive capacity) are susceptible to the Romance sim's aura of sexual potential. This gives this pairing a little bit of justification, if you play with the premades (where this coupling is arguably somewhat overrepresented). Besides...whomst can resist ~*~*~*the drama*~*~*~?

All other pairings that I did not specify are neutral, so there aren’t any mutually repulsive couplings. A lot of the aspirations are simply “indifferent” to each other’s goals, rather than actually destructive. This doesn’t mean chemistry is overall easier...in some cases, it could give more weight to other types of incompatibility (like turn offs). It’s not more or less dynamic than Maxis chemistry, it’s just different.

So, installing this mod WILL alter the chemistry among your preexisting sims. bstu's mod includes a readme that will allow you to edit it to your own liking, if you want to shake things up but can't find a mod that precisely works for you. So big thanks and credit to bstu and dreadpirate.

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#sims 2 #s2cc #sims 2 mods

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stromuprisahat · 2 years

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First, he’s the only person fighting for Grisha and Ravka both. Later the only one with viable plan and willingness to literally tear out parts of himself to defend them:

He understood then. The Grisha lived as shadows did, passing over the surface of the world, touching nothing, forced to change their shapes and hide in corners, driven by fear as shadows were driven by the sun. No safe place. No haven. There will be, he promised in the darkness, new words written upon his heart. I will make one.

The Demon in the Wood

“I think you understand me now. There are no Ravkans, no Fjerdans, no Kerch, no Shu Han. There are no more borders, and there will be no more wars. From now on, there is only the land inside the Fold and outside of it, and there will be peace.”

Shadow and Bone- Chapter 22

“You mourn the people killed in Novokribirsk,” the Darkling continued, “the people lost to the Fold. But what of the thousands that came before them, given over to endless wars? What of the others dying now on distant shores? Together, we can put an end to all of it.”

Siege and Storm- Chapter 23

“My name is Aleksander Morozova, but I have had a hundred names and I have committed a thousand crimes. I am not sorry. I do not repent! All I did, I did for Ravka, and now, I do this too. For Ravka!”

Rule of Wolves- Chapter 48 (shortened), when he volunteers to suffer for the rest of eternity in order to keep his world whole- a deed usually performed by heroes of the story

He’s realistic. He’s seen so much shit, he lacks “heroes’” naive ideals:

“Why do you have such disdain for otkazat’sya?”

“Not disdain. Understanding.”

“They’re not all fools and weaklings.”

“What they are is predictable,” he said. “The people would love you for a time. But what would they think when their good king aged and died, while his witch of a wife remained young? When all those who remember your sacrifices are dust in the ground, how long do you think it will take for their children or their grandchildren to turn on you?”

His words sent a chill through me. I still couldn’t get my head around the idea of the long life that lay ahead of me, that yawning abyss of eternity.

“You never considered it, did you?” said the Darkling. “You live in a single moment. I live in a thousand.” Are we not all things?

Ruin and Rising- Chapter 9

He loves his people. Grisha and otkazat’sya alike:

“Where are the students?” I gritted out.

“They aren’t here.”

“What did you do to them?”

“They’re safe and sound back in Kribirsk. Probably having their lunch.” His nichevo’ya circled around us, forming a perfect, protective dome that shifted and writhed—wings, talons, hands. “I knew the threat would be enough. Did you really believe I would endanger Grisha children when we’ve lost so many?”

Ruin and Rising- Chapter 17

Aleksander should be glad of that faith, that all it had taken was a bit of shadow play to get these people to march into a war with him. So why was he left uneasy?

Will you protect them?

He could. He would if need be. His powers had returned to him. He could form nichevo’ya to fight on his behalf. His pilgrims could enter the field with picks and shovels and they would still emerge victorious.

And yet, his mind was troubled.

Rule of Wolves- Chapter 33

I’m sure you’re no hypocrite and you fight as ardently against other mortal/immortal ships as you do against the Darkling stans... but in case you’re truly interested, the appeal of Darklina isn’t about wanting to fuck each other (the lust is canonically mutual), but the potential of “two sides ot the same coin” ship.

Even as the enemy, the Darkling wants Alina to become her true self, reach her full potential. Even when she’s against him, he admires her.

“Back to pretending to be less than you are, I see. The sham doesn’t suit you.”

Siege and Storm- Chapter 1

“I’ve seen what you truly are,” said the Darkling, “and I’ve never turned away. I never will. Can he say the same?”

Siege and Storm- Chapter 23

“There are two thrones on that dais. You could see me anytime you liked.”

“You’re offering me a crown? After I tried to kill you?”

He shrugged again. “I might have done the same.”

“I doubt it.”

“Not to save that motley of traitors and fanatics, no. But I understand the desire to remain free.”

Ruin and Rising- Chapter 3

As you can see, @royal-jester , his sex-appeal plays no part in our affections, though it’s a lovely bonus.

In case you’re not interested in both-sided constructive discussion, or you’re happy to buy what the narrative’s selling- simplified pseudoromance, where fictional genocide is treated like background noise...

Please, tag your anti posts properly.

It’s called basic human decency.

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anti-dazai-blog · 8 months

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how do you deal with hate? like from what I understand, you posted your first "controversial" post knowing that people might hate you for it, and you did so anyways. even tho it might have felt like you were the only one who believed those things at the time. where do you get the confidence? cause honestly that was such a slay.

Like, obvi we all have our own opinions and I don't agree with everything you said but the confidence you had.. grrrr i like it so much 💗💗 i love it when people are real with their opinions.

okay ty, im sorry for rambling, gonna stop here now 😭😭

I really want to play it cool and say something like “I just don’t care what people think of me,” but honestly? Yeah I was terrified of posting my first BSD-related post.

I had been enjoying the BSD fandom from afar for about a year before posting anything about it. I’ve always had this personal pet peeve when (fictional or real) bullies get a free pass to be assholes when they’re conventionally attractive, but that applies to all fandoms, not just BSD and not just Dazai.

(Note that that’s not a moral stance, there’s nothing wrong with liking a morally grey character, and there’s nothing wrong with finding a bad (fictional or real) person to be physically attractive. This pet peeve of mine stems more from how (fictional) bullies who aren’t attractive are seen as the biggest evil unleashed upon the world, while fictional bullies who are attractive are seen as The Ideal Boyfriend)

One day I saw a post pointing out one of the things Dazai did that bothered me, and I really wanted to add to it via reblog, but I was concerned I’d derail the original post, so I screenshot it and wrote a whole follow-up rant.

Then I saved that post in my drafts for three days.

I posted something vague like “I really want to talk about this one character from this one fandom, but the fandom is very aggressive and they’d burn me at the stake if I said anything too controversial”

I don’t think I intended to explicitly tag it with anything searchable, but I must have said something like “#yeah this is about bsd those guys are scary”— apparently that counts as tagging it #bsd by tumblr’s standards, and someone from the bsd fandom (who I’m now mutuals with) responded with something like “most of us are nice! We wanna hear what you have to say!!”

That was enough motivation for me to get that post out of drafts, and even then I didn’t post it immediately. I scheduled it to post for a time when I wasn’t home, so that if there’d be backlash I wouldn’t have to witness it live and I could just delete the post later.

Not only was there no backlash, but hardly anyone saw the post. Iirc it got between 3-5 notes. That was what gave me the confidence to continue talking about my (admittedly controversial) fandom opinions.

My main blog is primarily a Shakespeare/Classic Lit blog, and the online fandom for those things encourages controversial opinions (as opposed to the standard anime blog, where it seems like posting controversy is a taboo). So once I had the confidence to interact with an anime fandom in the first place, it wasn’t too hard to post my controversial opinions, because that’s the internet culture I’m more used to.

As for how I deal with the hate, you’ll be glad to know there’s only one person on this entire site who sends (bsd-related) hate. If you’ve received any hate, it’s from her. So while I have received hate messages (everything ranging from “your blog sucks” to graphic suicide bate and murder threats), knowing it’s all from the same person makes it all pretty meaningless. Everyone else on tumblr just blocks what they don’t want to see, either by blocking blogs they’d like to avoid or by blocking tags for subjects that annoy them.

Since I tag anything that speaks of Dazai in a negative way as “#anti Dazai,” I don’t often run into people who don’t want to see negative character analysis who’ve discovered my posts accidentally.

If you want to post about something, go right ahead! The people who enjoy the content you make will follow you, and the people who don’t will block you, and everyone will curate their own tumblr experience to make this site something we can all enjoy. Admittedly if the fandom you’d like to post to is bsd, you WILL get harassed by that one person, but everyone else in this fandom has gotten harassed by her too. We mostly just ignore her at this point.

Posting controversial opinions to fandom spaces can be scary, but if you have something you’d like to post, go for it! I personally would recommend starting a side blog for it, that way if things really do get out of hand you could delete it easily without losing your tumblr account. But the most likely outcome is that it wouldn’t gain enough traction for anyone to be overly bothered by it. Controversial things are more often ignored than hated on.

(For context, I’m referring to this blog too! I’m a tiny little blog. So please don’t interpret that as some veiled insult, I’m in this group of “tiny controversial fandom blog” too)

Anyway. Best of luck to you!! And remember, the point of posting things is to have fun! If it’s causing more stress than enjoyment, there’s no shame in taking a break or logging off for a bit. I’ve taken multiple breaks, and I only post to the Anti-Dazai Series when I enjoy what I’m posting.

[Also. I absolutely love controversial fandom opinions, especially if they’re well written. It doesn’t matter to me whether or not I agree, so long as it’s a cool or original take on the source material. So if you wanna dm me, I’ll definitely follow you and your blog full of all your hottest takes]

#Anti-Dazai Asks #The internet it scary! Fandom spaces are scary!!#You’re right and I agree with you!!#The hardest part is getting started. Once you start posting the people who like your stuff will follow #Plus maybe more people agree with you than you think!!#You never know until you take the initiative #I have more mutuals here than I ever would have guessed #I think you’ll find that whatever controversial takes you have. there are more people who agree with you than you realize #I’m honored that you view me as a confident sort of person though!!#I’m actually Just Some Guy (<-girl)

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