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my-castles-crumbling · 3 months

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Hello!!

I am so sorry 😭😭 I have a few things that I want to ask.

Let’s start with gender. I’ve been here a lot talking about my gender experience and how I feel somewhat connected to my agab being afab.

Personally, I hate when I am referred to as a girl/women. When my friends plan a ‘girls trip’ I get annoyed… when people assume I am a ‘young lady’ I get frustrated. I don’t get why I am like that specifically because it’s been as of recent (only about a year). Before that it never really annoyed it or maybe I just never thought much about the terms I was being referred to as.

Sometimes I feel as if I am faking my gender. Like I should just stop thinking about it and let myself be perceived as how I was born. But that feels wrong. But also doesn’t?

It feels wrong in the sense that I’ve spent a year thinking about gender and how I am not cis, that now I believe that I am not cis, but when I think about it again it’s like maybe I am just cis and I just want to show people that gender isn’t important and that people can dress how they want to without being perceived a specific binary gender etc.

In the past year I have felt comfortable thinking I was agender, but I still sometimes feel like I am just cis (minus the desire to want to chop off my tits 24/7).

That’s another thing. I only started feeling chest Dysphoria in the last 2 years. Before that I liked them… 😭😭 I hate saying that bc now they make me so angry and just the thought of them makes me feel sick.

This is me basically asking is if it is normal to doubt my gender or does it seem like I’m faking it.

Bc sometimes when I think about myself it’s as a girl and then when I think about it properly it’s like ‘ew why did I make my future self look like that’ bc I want to look visibly queer but my unconscious brain just perceives me as a girl.

Ok secondly, (I’m so sorry this might get really long) I’m questioning my sexuality?

I think it’s sexuality?

So I am bi. That’s a known fact. I’ve known that since 2021. But when I think about being in a relationship with someone it’s always so different to how other people perceive relationships. (I’ve never been in a relationship)

The thing is, I can’t imagine being intimate with anyone. Like it’s just weird. But I want it someday.

I read… a lot!! And I love reading all kinds of fluff that gets my stomach erupting with butterflies, I also love reading smut, it doesn’t make me feel grossed out or anything and I quite enjoy it.

It’s just when I picture myself with someone else it’s just like ‘nope, not for me’. BUT I DO WANT IT!!

Could this just be lack of relationship and experience or could I be on the ace spectrum.

I’ve looked at some of the terms and demisexual is kind of what I’m feeling but also not bc I do want to one day build a strong connection to someone and have a trusting relationship where I can express my love (ok yes that’s cringy to say but idk how else to word it).

I also have had crushes in the past but when I think about if I’d want to get to know them better it’s just a straight up ‘nope’ (that’s probably just my social anxiety tho)

and I’ve spoken to my sister about this relationship stuff and she is the same, like we both wouldn’t kiss someone after the first few dates and wouldn’t be thinking about anything further until there is a real bond.

Is this just lack of relationship? Am I just overthinking it too much?

Lastly, thank you so much Cas!! You are the most kind hearted person ever for always responding to my asks (yes I’ve asked a lot bc I crisis a lot) and honestly you’ve saved my life in so many different ways! I hope you have an amazing day/night!

🌼🌹🪻🌻🌸

(some flowers for you) xx

Hi! <3 I'm gonna answer this bit-by-bit

Hello!!

Hi!

I am so sorry 😭😭 I have a few things that I want to ask.

No sorries!

Let’s start with gender. I’ve been here a lot talking about my gender experience and how I feel somewhat connected to my agab being afab.

Sometimes I feel as if I am faking my gender. Like I should just stop thinking about it and let myself be perceived as how I was born. But that feels wrong. But also doesn’t?

You're not faking anything! These feelings are valid, and being your authentic self is important!

In the past year I have felt comfortable thinking I was agender, but I still sometimes feel like I am just cis (minus the desire to want to chop off my tits 24/7).

Have youuuuuu heard of genderfluid? Where your gender can kind of change depending on the day? What you're saying feels very genderfluid.

This is me basically asking is if it is normal to doubt my gender or does it seem like I’m faking it.

Absolutely it's normal! You are anonymously writing to me on the internet- you're not faking it. Truly, please look into genderfluid. I don't usually push someone towards one identity but yeah. What you're describing is very similar to how I feel, so I think it might be helpful.

I think this is something that a lot of people don't realize: when/if you transition in any way, it sometimes even takes YOU time to adjust. You've been conditioned your whole life to picture and refer to yourself a certain way. Old habits die hard. To me, it's not what's the first thing you think of, it's what feels the best?

Ok secondly, (I’m so sorry this might get really long) I’m questioning my sexuality?

I think it’s sexuality?

The thing is, I can’t imagine being intimate with anyone. Like it’s just weird. But I want it someday.

Hm. Why? Do you...want it because other people do? Because you want the closeness of being intimate with someone? Because you...(how do I ask this in a proper way)...feel you would enjoy it?

It’s just when I picture myself with someone else it’s just like ‘nope, not for me’. BUT I DO WANT IT!!

Could this just be lack of relationship and experience or could I be on the ace spectrum.

I think I a lot of people don't realize that being ace doesn't necessarily mean you're sex-repulsed. Many ace people have sex and still identify as ace. I think here, I'd encourage you to think more about WHAT exactly you feel when you read those things (I don't want to go into detail much incase you're underage).

Well...Only you can decide if you're demi. But I identify as demi, and I have those things!

I also have had crushes in the past but when I think about if I’d want to get to know them better it’s just a straight up ‘nope’ (that’s probably just my social anxiety tho)

Is this just lack of relationship? Am I just overthinking it too much?

Okay so I think this website could be helpful to you. I don't think you're overthinking at all, but I think it might be good to do some research on the ace spectrum. Like I said, being ace doesn't necessarily mean a person is sex-repulsed, so it could be that you do end up identifying as ace!

🌼🌹🪻🌻🌸

(some flowers for you) xx

Of course!!! Feel free to message me if you want more help! Thanks for the flowers!

#ask #asks #ask cas #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #queer community

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yuriiofthevalley · 3 months

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im new on tumblr n idk how to mk frnds i feel like the new character tht no on realises exists

hiii omg this is so cute and I have a ton of tips for you !!!

so before anything else you'll want to work on your blog's aesthetic. this is mainly your pfp & banner (if you want those),, your background and your accent color.

an intro post is usually optional but since you're looking to make friends i would recommend you have one. it doesn't have to be anything spectacular,, just basic info about you & your blog and anything else you think is worth noting will do. if you'd rather keep it short then there's a decent character limit in the "about me" section

next you'll want to decide on a niche // spaces you'd like to be in if you haven't already & the tags you'll use. a good way to decide on tags is to look up your niche(s) (on tumblr ofc) and pick out the ones that sound good to you. remember to be mindful when you use them bc people will report you for spam (or just be annoyed) if your post is tagged with a character's name for instance but the character is nowhere to be found in your post

scrolling through other posts under your tags is a great way to find people to be friends (or mutuals) with. back when i used to do this,, i preferred to scroll the 'latest' section instead of 'top' because it made it way easier to find blogs i actually had a chance of becoming mutuals with seeing as they were usually small(er) blogs

if a post on your dash catches your eye check out the blogger behind it. if they meet your friend criteria,, i seriously encourage you to find out if they'd like to be friends/mutuals via an ask (or just give them a little compliment). i've done this countless times and have been successful pretty much every time,, if memory serves me well only three people never bothered responding to me. everyone else was happy to become mutuals w me,, even people i thought might not be interested.

this one's negotiable but don't be afraid to let people know you're browsing their blog (as in liking and reblogging a bunch of their stuff. maybe even replying to a few). if my response to having this done to me is anything to go by,, i think it encourages the person getting notifications to give your blog a (quick) browse in return & if you're lucky they'll take an interest in you (don't go around spamming people though. i didn't tell you to do that)

this took wayyy more time to write than it should've so i hope it's at least somewhat helpful 😭 my following list is public & i'm mutuals w most of the people on there so if you want,, you could use it as a starting point of sorts. i have excellent taste so you can trust that everyone i follow is super cool 🤭

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m3rkur3 · 1 year

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i think this article has a lot of important things to say but does a bad job of saying them

I think something I find very weird about this article is the fact that its titled the way it is. like why is AJN in the title? It’s clickbaity and a little unprofessional. And I don’t even disagree with 99% of what it’s saying, the likelihood that 90% of the story is true is quite high. However, there are so few sources that can actually be traced back. There’s some very unneeded speculation. Alexander J Newall being targeted only in the title with nothing in the article really blaming him for anything is just weird. he's the ceo, yes, but you have placed your (named) blame within the article almost entirely on this one callum dougherty.

The fact that it was retweeted by a former TMA voice actor is pretty compelling. And the fact that former people who worked with Rusty Quill whether as volunteers or staff can attest to their poor communication. And bad practices in general. I mean I pretty much do believe a lot of it. Just I find the lack of concrete evidence within the article and the lack of good journalistic practice to detract a lot from the message of the article.

Also names of characters in TMA as pseudonyms feels very unserious. When I reached the bit that was talking about Georgie and Melanie I was like come on please be for real. like this is serious business😭. also I’m seeing the author does a freelancing work with another podcasting company and it’s been argued that they were only freelancing so it’s not that big of a deal. But I don’t know I don’t like that.

Either way the people we really need to think about other people affected by rqs bad practices. I think it really is just incompetence. But they could really really really do better. Also the fact of the author is blocking anyone with any criticism on Twitter??? I don’t think that proves anything other than that they do not know how to make their article look good. That coupled with the weird journalistic choices and the caption they put on their Twitter ("make your statement face your fear" LMFAO?! how unnecessary! again, be serious!) it really does make them look less credible even though in reality the article has legs.

at the end of the day i think it just needed more time. i get the point of releasing this as soon as possible to give fans much needed info on what their fav company is doing in the midst of their kickstarter (lmfao idk i find that quite funny) just… it wasn't done very well or with much thought as to how to actually deal with people who disagree. and by “well” i mean you cannot release an article full of unverifiable info with your (admittedly not TOO damning) background and not one first hand verifiable quote and expect no “hmmm…”s. cuz the author is out here blocking people lmfao. not for disagreeing with the points in the article but for saying “hey i'm not sure you have put much thought into how you wrote this!”

i also think it's very annoying the way people are in the comments of podcasters working under rusty quill talking about the article saying "but u can't say other people didn't experience this!!!' they're not saying that brother. they're responding directly to the “podcasters under rq won't say anything bc theyre not allowed!!!!!” portion of it which i would respond to, too, like don't be silly. like fuck u niggas no one can fucking gag me dont say that😭. again again again… i am very very VERY inclined to believe almost everything in said article. i just find its release into the world and its writing to be a little… subpar. better than nothing i guess. tho is it? people have literally been saying everything here about rq for a while. save the suing and contract stuff i think and even then, you cannot bring up something as serious as SUING and not elaborate lmao! good concept bad execution imo. anywaysssss

I don’t know I just feel like it’s a little bit juvenile for what it’s meant to be and what I think it’s meant to be is an important expose which actually says important things but does it weakly.

TLDR; this article has a lot of important things to say about rusty quill's bad practices but it does it in ways that are very unprofessional. Speculation and the clickbaity title and the lack of concrete sources and twitter caption and the author whose freelance work may or may not be relevant to disclose in an article about their ex-clients competition and the substitution of anonymous names with characters from the Magnus archives. They all paint a picture of a very inexperienced writer whose work amounts mostly to an opinion piece. However I am inclined to believe the allegations made in said article for the reason that there have been a lot of people who previously worked with rusty quill saying the same thing. or mostly the same thing. I just think this article uncovered very little new information and something about it seems mean-spirited, almost as if it was for something that isn’t just the betterment of the affected peoples conditions. But that’s just speculation 😛and honestly just my feelings, not backed up by anything. For me this is more an exercise in analysing an article in general than it is analysing the situation at hand. I’m a writer at heart I’m sorry

#rusty quill #the Article #the magnus archives #i basically just rewrote what i put in my notes before and put it in a post so if u saw this already fuck you its not my fault you can read #sorry i can't get over the characters names being used as pseudonyms #be fucking for real please #i want to take you seriously #this is a serious thing!!!#actual allegations of business mismanagement and treating the people who make what your revenue depends on poorly!#workers rights!!!!!!#and yet “make ur statement face your fear”#dont be silly now omg #also i guess i just thought this would be more of a bombshell than it was #idk #support creators but be careful!! capitalism will swallow up your favs #make them ceo #then give them a business to mismanage and workers to alienate #sorry:/

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kunikame · 2 years

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Omg you seem so into idolish7 … I’ve acc never heard of it but I looked it up and it’s not available in my area but you said it’s also a show? So maybe it’s like enstars idk but it sounds (from what you said) like it has very unique ?? characters yk? I love how passionate you sound about it tho I love when people talk about things they’re super into ^^ I do the same a lot but I also feel like I’m bothering ppl if they don’t respond with the same enthusiasm :’) esp bc I spam a LOT when I’m excited about smth I’m into so it’s nice seeing others who like to really go into detail about their interests yk?? ALSO omg fellow Dazai + Oikawa kin omg 🤝

Also, I’m sure tons of people would love listening/reading your rambles and not feel bothered at all 😊, though i def understand the fear bc i've had some experiences like that but I think it’s very endearing (if that’s the right word) as opposed to people just not being very passionate about anything in particular

I feel super cheesy sending this tbh 😭 last thing tho, do you have any song recs from it? (still not sure if it’s a show or game but songs are always great even before checking the actual thing out)

OH EM GEE HII !!!!! this made me tear up a bit in all honesty ! im so glad i piqued your interest enough to try checking i out !!!! i7 is both a game and a show ! exactly like enstars youre right !!! (you can get the game on qooapp if youd like to try but the show is available anywhere and im pretty sure it follows the exact storyline! (atleast i hope im not missing anything HAHAHA))

i also love when people rant about their interests !! its so endearing and i love when they smile happily and get to the point of waving their arms around and its like their eyes- no, they sparkle and and its so cute i swear

i understand exactly how you feel !! i also spam when im super excited and into the topic HAHA but then i inevitably stop bc ive been told im annoying too many times to count so now its, reflex i guess?

dazai oikawa kin twinsie !!!!!!

haha yeah i know of a couple people who dont mind when i ramble, its the opposite and they actually encourage me to talk to them and make sure i feel safe and comfortable and like im not a bother! i still feel super guilty and annoying though so i stop shortly after starting and they have to encourage me to continue :( i love them very much <3 (it is the right word yes !! and also you can always talk to me if youd like !!!! i love listening to others nerd out about their likes !!! maybe we might even find something to gush over together :D !!)

NO NO youre always welcome on my blog this is a safe space !!!!! <3 and omg yes youre so right songs just speak louder than your own words sometimes HAHAH ill drop a song from every unit if you dont mind cuz they all have a different vibe obviously !!

my personal fav of them all is 4-ROAR by ŹOOĻ !! theyre like an antagonist unit but that song is a banger i love it sm

from i7 it has to be WiSH VOYAGE its the 1st op i think and it holds a special place in my heart, but i also love MONSTER GENERATiON since its their first song ever <3

i dont listen to TRIGGER much but i rlly like Radiance ! it gives them a whole new vibe and personally i think it fits them well :) slower songs arent a bad change every once in a while ! i feel like they really needed it after all the suggestive songs they have HAHAHA

i repeat myself but i dont listen to re:vale much either (i have favorites can you tell) but if theres a song i really like it has to be SILVER SKY ! i think it suits their vibe really well ! i also like their cover of Dis one. though it isnt their original song, to me its theirs. idk

and finally i was never rlly invested in MEZZO" (dont get me wrong i love sogo and tamaki as a duo but i7 is just.. the more complete version, yknow?) but i really like miss you... and Dear Butterfly ! i like how their voices mesh in their songs, they sound really good together i think !

#! mailbox #i love gushing about i7 ueueue

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vineofroses · 2 months

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I mean yea in an ideal world that would’ve been great but mickeys background didn’t really lend itself to healthy communication like that. Like I’m not saying his actions were good, I just think the show was highlighting that about him and I don’t think at that point with all of those heightened emotions that it would’ve even been in character for him to respond the way you talked about. Imo he was hurt and frustrated not just because of Ian’s actions about the wedding but bc out also btought back all the other times Ian let him down. Again I think Ian’s choices in the past were valid and understandable with all he was going through but I think after everything they went through Mickey is allowed to feel how he feels in that moment. Was it the most healthy way of doing it? No absolutely not but neither were Ian’s actions. I mean also joined Grindr in response to Mickey & flirted with that guy at the gym after the fight with Mickey in Hall of Shame.

I’ll agree with u it’s all just lazy writing but it seems like you hold Mickey to a very high standard while absolving Ian of a lot of his wrong doings.

It's season 10 though -- I would expect them to be mature about these things. Again, it is mostly the writing and the writers in my opinion not respecting these characters enough to have them be anything but bickering and acting immaturely.

lol don't get me started on the hall of shame stuff. I pretend like it never happened. It was bad and definitely OOC on both their accounts. Ian joining Grindr is different because it is in response to Mickey. And I think he did it pretty reluctantly and it didn't go anywhere? I think ... I can't remember. Is that how Cole comes in? Okay yes I just remembered. Yeah , that's just in response to Mickey being ridiculous 😭😭

I don't want to discredit Mickey's feelings. I get that he's frustrated with Ian going back on his word. But to me, getting married is a very serious commitment and if one of them is having second thoughts for legitimate reasons then that needs to be addressed. They set them up perfectly for it, too. But then sent Mickey off on a childish tantrum with Byron. I hate it!!! It wastes so much time!!! Why is this the thing that leads to them being engaged!!! Idk I just know that I don't like it!!!

I guess I just see Ian actively trying to explain what his issue is and Mickey blowing that off. Which does annoy me. But I do think Ian isn't totally seeing why Mickey is mad either. And also don't get me started on the promise rings!! Lolllllllllll I cringed hard. uncommon L for Ian. But all these things stem from Ian's main point, which is that he's not sure he's good enough for Mickey slash he doesn't want to burden Mickey.

Also another point: The way the wedding comes about is less than ideal. At first they were doing it for logical reasons about Paula's death or something and not wanting to potentially testify against each other. I think it's good actually that Ian didn't sign the papers because once they find out neither of them killed Paula, their main reason for getting married just went up in flames. That definitely is the time to reevaluate. I don't think Ian used any of that explanation but I do think that led to his initial hesitation and realization that they were about to get married for the wrong reasons.

And as a viewer, I didn't want them to get married because of Paula, or even because they figured out it wasn't because of Paula. I did have the privilege of already knowing they were gonna get married but I remember thinking as I was watching the first time "wait this is it? This is how they decide to get married?" I was very disappointed haha.

I don't really see myself as holding Mickey to a higher standard. Really, I think it's mostly I hold the writing for his character to a higher standard, and they fall short constantly. I just vibe with Ian more. There are definitely things that Ian has done that I don't like. Buying the apartment w/o talking to Mickey, hitting Mickey in the bar in season 11, not exactly comforting Mickey in the wake of Terry's death etc. a lot of my frustrations just come from the way I've seen people paint Ian, as the villain, needing to be punished, etc. it's not everyone, I know. I just see it a lot.

sorry for going so long. I do appreciate these asks. Sometimes my frustrations are just easier to get out by making small comments like "Mickey annoys me here" but there's always more nuance to it. I just don't always have time to write it all out.

#shameless asks #was that person's name paula #i cant remember

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maxbernini · 2 years

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Kind of disappointed with sohan not gonna lie

yeah i get that, i think that’s valid, i’m kinda disappointed too. i do think it’s a bit complicated at the same time though. like, this isn’t exactly a “cast member says something offensive online” type situation. their boss has said something offensive - but in her mind is a loving open letter addressing hate 🙄 - and they’re responding to it by saying something similar about how death threats etc aren’t okay. and i think the boss vs employee dynamic (as well as her being cis & older, him being trans & younger) is important to consider; we also don’t know if she’s asked them, either explicitly or through implication, to say something.

like this isn’t meant to be a defence of him bc i genuinely wouldn’t be surprised if most of the cast do feel the same (not about the death threats, i think they’d all agree, but about her pitiful excuses for the season and skamfr’s approach to storytelling in general). but, whilst he wasn’t directly thrown under the bus the way ayumi & flavie were, he is the only trans cast member + is also openly queer, and like…idk, i think that’s important. and it annoys me less than lucie (tiff) jumping under the tweet does lmaoo. i do hope no one else says anything though bc at this point it’s either going to be support for her or them risking their job/image/careers etc, and neither are good.

but it is very very frustrating to have someone else completely dismiss all the valid criticism by focusing on an alt er love <3 no hate <3 respect for all <3 type message 😭

EDIT: i have now actually read a full translation of the notes app essay in question…well! (he is very very wrong, it’s laughable, but i’m still more annoyed at tiff n debs n shirls)

#alt er hate. no love. nobody is fighting a battle you can’t invite yourself into. amirite ladies #ask #anon #french posting

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domjaehyun · 4 years

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Sooo like he’s really bad at texting right and it’s been like that for a while now and I’m just like ok ig but yesterday, I was just so upset about the situation. I’ll give you an example. So I’m thinking that we’re having a conversation right and like I’ll say something, he’ll respond, and I’ll respond to his response and then like he vanishes. So I’m like ok?... and just kinda go about my day but confused af and then he responds like 30 minutes or hours later like nothing happened and...

more under the cut!

I’m like really confused. I understand that he has a life, I kinda have a life too you know but how are you going to just be talking to me and then vanish and return like nothing happened. He doesn’t say “I’m sorry, something came up” or “Hold on, I gotta go do something.” None of that. Like idk, am I just being annoying? But anyways, so after that fact, I’m talking to my best friend otp about it. I’m heateddd, so upset and salty right and she’s like “Well ask him if he’s busy” so...

I ask him if he was busy right and he answers like 10 minutes later and is like “No I’m not busy, what’s up?” And I’m still otp with my friend and she suggests that I say something a bit sarcastic and I end up saying “Lollllll” “So I ask my friend if they’re busy and they respond 10 minutes later” “Isn’t that crazy” (I’ve done some self reflection and realize how childish and petty that was but anywayss) and then he was like “Is it me?” And then I was like “Maybe” and he doesn’t respond...

After that and I end up sending him a paragraph talking about how it would be nice if he could at least let me know that he’ll be away from his phone or something you know and then he responds with something along the lines of ok, I get that but that doesn’t warrant the response that you gave me after only 10 minutes and I’m just shook at that point. Like I understand that but dude, you missed the whole point. I’m pretty sure he felt attacked probably and that’s why he responded like that but...

Idek anymore 😭😭 but anyways so that happens and my friend suggests me to talk to him otp bc obviously texting isn’t the way to go so I’m like “Ok, 10 minutes was uncalled for. Whenever you have the chance or are free, can we call and talk about this?” And he just says ok. So around that time, it’s late but like we sometimes stay up pretty late you know but he doesn’t text me after that so I just go to sleep. Then, I woke up this morning and sent him another long text apologizing and stuff...

Saying like “I’m sorry for yesterday, it was very immature of me to do that. We don’t have to call and talk about it, I just want to move on from this situation. You won’t have to worry about me doing something dumb like that again. I hope you have an amazing breakfast, a good lunch and a good dinner.” stuff like that. He didn’t respond yet but he’s probably still asleep but like other than the texting issue, I enjoy talking to him and I don’t want to ruin anything bc of this you know so like...

Idk. Am I making a big deal out of this situation or what. Idk anymore and like it would be dumb if he stopped talking to me bc of this then like dude, you didn’t like me anyways if this one thing makes you stop talking to me😒 but like idk guys are really interesting. How can you say that you like someone but you don’t really text them often? Like when I like someone, I want to talk to them often you know? Idk so I sent that paragraph and at this point, I won’t text him unless he texts me first

okay i’m gonna keep it super real with you: 10 minutes isn’t really that long! it probably feels like longer bc you’re waiting for something you really want which makes perfect sense. i mean my advice is coming from someone who routinely has slow reply times but i would try and be a little bit more patient with him. as long as he’s not ghosting you or anything i think you should be good! also your friend did not help you in the slightest sjrjsg her advice just put you in a tough spot because from what i know men are much more sensitive than they let on and he probably did feel very attacked. i’ve had a friend call me out for replying slowly and, while i needed to hear it, i still immediately got defensive although i didn’t say anything to her. so i think your apology was good and yknow quarantine is a tough time for a lot of people and he might not have the mental wherewithal to answer you in that moment. if he stopped talking to you because of that i would be surprised and disappointed in him because he’s clearly so insecure about something that he can’t handle a small confrontation. from what i know, guys don’t respond well to sarcasm–it tends to make them feel stupid; this isn’t just the case with guys though this is for a lot of people, regardless of gender. so moving forward i would hold back on sarcasm when you’re like actually upset with him and i mean when he answers (i’m saying when bc we are manifesting that reply, girl) you could say something along the lines of, like, “i’m sorry for earlier. i just enjoy talking to you a lot so it makes me a bit sad when i don’t hear from you. if you’re preoccupied or you just have a lot on your mind i understand and i’m here if you want to talk about it.” (something like that you can tweak it if you want) but you are right, i wouldn’t text him again until he texts you back because, whether he’s busy or not, relationships (platonic, romantic, familial–all types) rely on reciprocity and not on one person doing all the work.

i hope that helped!!

#answered #jaehyunandjohnnyloverr

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