#and invalid

[wizardnuke]

"i hate microlabels" yeah i also kind of dislike the idea of putting ourselves and our identities into very specific boxes, i think it can be really isolating- ohh wait you mean you think they're invalid. ohh no that's not the way to look at it. killing you

#IF there is an issue w micolabels/identities it's with the isolation that comes w that level of individualism but also like. there's #nuance there and if you think someones identity is invalid bc you don't understand or agree with it im killing you #there are many things i don't understand but agree with the concept of! being cishet for example

[sapphic-boy]

"How many genders are there" legitimately I think there are as many genders as there are people on earth, you can be a boy but is your version of boy 100% identical to any other boy?

#transgender #nonbinary #this isnt to invalidate anyone dont twist it #i just think that each persons experience with gender is completely and totally unique

[mixmangosmangoverse]

If you ever needed to know the extent of how the I/P conflict is fandomized, there is a popular post going around with a Sailor moon sticker saying Free Palestine and all the comments are talking about how it's their aesthetic and they totally need to buy it

Because this doesn't matter to them, it's just the cool hip and trendy thing

#and here i thought i could just return to talking about magical girls when WanPre comes out #seems not #seems no matter what goyim can freely talk about fandoms and make my life a fandom #while i need to defend my existence and feel if I talk about anything else I'll be invalidated #fuck goyim. my trust has been broken. I'm never returning to fandom again #mango rambles #personal fruits #jumblr #ישראבלר #ישראל

[sheikfangirl]

"Shhh Link... I'm right here. We're home. It's okay... "

♥ Hurt & Comfort time ♥

Post-Totk Link is still plagued with nightmares of the Light Dragon, Gloom Hands, Phantom Ganon...Puppet Zelda...loneliness.

He wakes up at night screaming, hyperventilating, sobbing. But Zelda is there and she comforts him with love, kindness and patience! Like Link did for her Post-Botw.

It's gonna take time...but Link is gonna be fine ♥ Zelda too.

They are all gonna be fine and live happily ever after!!!

And Hateno domestic fluff resumes.

PS: Check out my friend's @jdetan new hurt & comfort fic on Ao3!

https://archiveofourown.org/works/54982165

Gotta love when Zelda comforts her knight

#my art #zelink #legend of zelda #zelda fanart #tears of the kingdom #breath of the wild #loz fanart #zelda #botw #princess zelda #botw link #hurt/comfort #totk link #link needs a hug #hateno house #hateno village #he loves her so much #the power of love #Link is so freakin PTSD #Zelda has trauma too but without invaliding it #I think Link is waaaaay more of a mess than her #Link took care of Zelda Post-BoTW #Zelda takes care of Link post TotK #I have a crush on both of them #sheik fangirl #its her tunic now

[buggachat]

honestly just in general it's very exhausting to try to analyze media that is literally meant to be analyzed, only for the replies to be filled with people arguing not against your analysis, but against the premise that the media can be analyzed at all.

i don't even know what to say about it without starting to really betray my frustration, so i'll just settle with— just don't engage with analysis posts? I'm serious. if you're typing a response to a media analysis post, reread what you've written and ask yourself "is this comment/response against the very concept of analyzing the media at all?" and if the answer is yes then delete it all and go sit in the shame corner. throw your curtains away if you want to so bad and stop telling me that I'm not allowed to hum and haw at the fact mine are blue

#ml fandom salt #I suppose #and no amount of adding ''stop telling me to not analyze the media'' on my analysis posts stops people from saying it anyway #and yes. the leaks count. stop telling me that the existence of outdated leaks invalidates all analyses of the completed material #and no. just like every other time i've said this. me saying that i don't care about the leaks is not an invitation for you to try to #convince me to care about the leaks #do i tag this spoilers? it feels weird to. i mean this to be a vague overarching thing about media in general #also of course any ''or maybe the writers are just bad'' arguments ALSO are included in this. YOU guys have been my bane since FOREVER #would you guys consider commenting on fanart with ''umm.... drawing seems pretty pointless lmao'' rude? #i know this is not the first time i've made a post like this and i'm sure it won't be the last

[dailyjermasparkle]

I've seen a lot of stuff going down on tumblr and I just wanted to let you all know that all aromantic, asexual, and aroace people are valid members of the LBGTQIA+ community. It doesn't matter if they are cishet or not.

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #not blog related #important #i'll have replies turned off because I don't need discourse on my blog #this post is for my aroace followers to know they are supported #this post is NOT for people trying to invalidate aroace experiences to spew nonsense #love y'all #enter the new year with love in your hearts #not hate #edit: I don't know how to turn replies off for a specific post #so i'll just delete any replies

[confused-disaster32]

Happy valentine's day to all my aromantics.

the aroaces, the romance repulsed aros, the romance varourable aros, the aros in QPRs, the loveless aros.

I hope you all have a good day.

#aromantic #asexual #you should treat yourselves #couples can get kinda insufferable sometimes and we should get treats for dealing with them or being invalidated by them

[ladyloveandjustice]

tbh, Marcille does infantilize Falin and deny her agency at times-- it's something that definitely intentional in how their relationship is written, It's a flaw and (imo) a way that Marcille also holds herself back from acknowledging her feelings for Falin, which I think she has a hard time acting on because of her own web of issues.

Most importantly, I think the reason she's subconsciously afraid to act on her feelings and the reason she infantilizes her are one and the same, tied to her biggest hang up: Falin's going to die long before Marcille does, and Marcille cannot accept her own feelings because she's terrified of that. She also does the "oh you're just a kid who doesn't know better" thing for the same reason. To constantly remind herself that Falin has a shorter lifespan so she can keep herself from thinking of Falin a certain way, to remind herself that a romantic relationship would bring pain. To keep them on unequal levels. To try to dismiss the feelings she has as meaningless because look how "young" Falin is, look how short her life is.

Marcille is obsessed with control and deathly afraid of abandonment. So yeah, she's controlling in her relationship with Falin. And significantly, Falin is not the only person she infantilizes and tries to control. She does the same for ALL her friends and loved ones of other races. She often talks to them like they're kids, decides for them that their short lifespans are sad and they would be happier living a long time like her, that they need to be saved by her that's why she should be in control--because she doesn't want to lose them. Because she wants them by her side forever.

That's obviously something she needs to overcome for Marcille x Falin to actually work and uh, significantly, she does overcome that!! Laios and the others help her accept that death is outside of her control and she can't decide for them what's best. And then she let's go and says she'll accept it if Falin doesn't make it back. She now understands that short lives don't make the others lesser, that she has no control, that she has to accepts the terror of death and fear of loss. Now she can accept and love them as they are, as equals to her.

And in the unoffically-translated post canon material, she also lets Falin give her answer to Shuro (despite CLEARLY being outraged at Shuro and terrified she'd say yes), and accepts that she wants to go travel and get to know who she is without her brother or Marcille, because she's never really done anything for herself. And I think that's really, really good for Falin! That's necessary for her! She's spent her life in the shadow of both of them, and it's time to take some Falin time.

And Marcille lets her. She learns to let go. But that doesn't mean Falin doesn't love Marcille. She specifically says she wants to come back to Laios and Marcille. And I think when she does, the obstacles will be gone. Marcille now understands Falin as not a child, but someone whose potential death she can accept. Nothing is in the way of her feelings. And Falin, now more independent, still thinks of Marcille as home and wants to be with her. That's the journey they take and when they'll truly be able to have a complete relationship and express their love.

#I saw someone bring this up for their laios x marcille agenda and uh #no this doesn't make falin x marcille invalid at all? it just makes it interesting? #it's good to see people overcome stuff to have a real relationship! #marcille #falin touden #dungeon meshi #farcille #meta #post canon spoilers

[bifflesnitch]

The late diagnosed neurodivergent experience of being told you're wrong your entire fucking life.

You're too sensitive,

it's not too loud,

it's not too bright,

it's not overwhelming,

you're just overreacting,

it doesn't smell weird,

the texture is fine,

just eat it,

just wear it,

plans change get over it,

stop being so dramatic,

why are you so argumentative?

I was obviously joking,

why do you take everything so seriously?

I'm not yelling,

It's not a big deal,

stop nitpicking,

stop jiggling/rocking,

stop fidgeting,

stop humming/whistling/clicking,

stop talking about that,

no one cares,

you're annoying people,

you're so high strung,

just relax,

stop worrying,

stop overthinking,

just be normal

and then people act all surprised that you grow up to be an insecure, indecisive wreck. What else did you expect me to be when you spent my whole life teaching me my own perception was faulty and couldn't be trusted?

Grooming me to seek approval and validation from others for every decision I made because whenever I made them myself, they were always wrong.

#late diagnosed autistic #neurodivergent masking #actually neurodivergent #neurospicy #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #adult autism #autistic #autism #autistic girl #autistic adult #aspie #aspiegirl #aspergers #aspergirl #emotional invalidation #invalidation #ableism

[doesephs]

happy birthday ronan lynch you’re a real one

#if you draw ronan without a hooked nose you are invalid #trc fanart #the raven cycle #ronan lynch fanart #ronan lynch #adam parrish #gansey #blue sargent #digital painting #digital drawing #adam parrish fanart #alter idem

[mishacollins]

It’s time I started looking inward for validation…

#invalidated #twitter #verification #mishacollins #misha #spnfamily

[oro-junestar]

trans people are some of the strongest, bravest people on this earth.

so much could go wrong. surgeries could be botched. your body could have bad reactions to treatment. your identity could be shrugged off as a joke. people could try to stop you from doing the things you love. they could relentlessly harass you. they could commit hate crimes against you and no one would bat an eye. people who you thought had loved you could turn against you. your government could try to write you out of existence. your entire community could despise you.

and you take that risk with a smile, all while looking absolutely gorgeous.

cause there is NO ONE more beautiful than someone who loves themself, is kind to the world, and freely expresses what truly makes them happy regardless of what others think.

i will fight to the death for your rights. i will not rest in peace until all trans and other queer people can live peacefully and happily without risk of being hurt for who they are.

i love you. trans rights are human rights.

#trans #transgender #transgender pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #pride #trans rights #transgender rights #queer #nonbinary #i see u my nb besties #dont ever let anyone tell you you are invalid #xenic #xenic pride #i see u too my xenic besties and i love u too

[the-kestrels-feather]

Things my ADHD has made me forget:

Where I put my damn keys JFC-- (they are in my hand)

Due dates if I don't set alarms

What day it is

Whether or not I gave my dog her after dinner treat (which she's fine with because it usually means she gets to double dip)

The 200+ videos in my "Watch Later" playlist

To Eat

Things my ADHD has not made me forget;

That I copy pasted an entire book into a paper and didn't cite it

#james somerton #actually adhd #for the record im not usung that tag because I don't think somerton has adhd. I'm sure he does and im not invalidating his diagnosis #im using it because this is what adhd *actually* is. not “oops i dissociated and did a plagiarism”

[jamesunderwater]

Hi hello good evening, friendly reminder that identifying as asexual and/or aromantic does not mean the individual: has no sex drive; is never interested in romance; never desires romantic relationships; has never had and/or does not ever want to have sex; does not have fantasies nor masturbate; and so on..... but perhaps the most important reminder is: just because someone's relationship to sex and romance differs from societal expectations does not mean it is something to fix

thank you, carry on (:

#this is as much for me as anyone else btw #the self invalidation is real yall #asexual #acearo #aromantic #ace #aro #asexuality #aromanticism #acespec #arospec #charlie rants

[it-is-only-a-novel]

Reminder that it's aphobia if you tell an aspec that they need a partner to be happy.

Yes, even if you told them first that you accept them the way they are, and you're just "expressing concern".

#it's okay not to know about amatonormativity #but you are invalidating them #and that's aphobia #tw aphobia #fuck amatonormativity #amatonormativity #aspec #non partnering #aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aroace #taging with ace tags because this is for all aspecs who choose to be non partnering #or choose to partner differently #also non aspecs of course #yes I'm preaching to the choir #but I needed to say it #M's post

[nosfagratu]

if kim only cares about people's worth if they're in the RCM then why in the fuck was he about to give his jacket to some random ass kid

yeah sure the guy who only cares about other RCM officers if they're good was about to part with the only item of clothing keeping him somewhat warm in a place where there's ice thick enough to support two grown men and a bunch of other shit absolutely

(edit: i'd appreciate it if you take a look at this version instead x it contains way more nuance and some amazing additions)

(edit 2: here's a version with IDs as well x )

#i said i wasn't gonna engage or post much about de but that one post was pissing me off so bad and i was going through my screenshots #by engage i mean interact with the fandom aside from reblogging shit i like #disco elysium #kim kitsuragi #disco elysium kim #em talks bs #edit: #i may have worded some things very meanly here i am sorry #but this post wasn't made in the intention to bash or invalidate anyone's opinion just point out some things #that i think are worth discussing and boy did u guys deliver /pos