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prettieinpink · 6 months

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HOW TO STOP SELF SABOTAGING + DOUBTING

MAKE YOUR GOALS/HABITS AN IDENTITY. Your lifestyle makes up who you are, quite literally. If you want to wake up early, then start identifying yourself as an early bird. If you want to get good grades, then start identifying yourself as a studious student. And so on.

This helps with feeling more accountable and committed to our goals and habits. However, don’t use this as a reason to overexert yourself.

THERE IS SOMETHING UNDERNEATH CERTAIN BEHAVIOURS. All of your bad habits stem from your subconscious. This is why mentally healthy people tend to think more about their physical health.

The best way to recognise patterns beneath your bad habits is just to talk to yourself. In any way or any form. Identify it, see what might’ve caused this subconscious thought and then work towards a way to replace the feeling that these bad habits give with a good one.

DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME. The more you fixate on the long-term results, the more longer, strenuous and exhausting your journey is going to be, especially because you’re going to want to give up as soon as results don’t appear. Focus on the short-term results.

You exercised? Now you feel good inside. You studied hard and understood everything? Great job for being so productive. You did that one really scary thing? What a great start!

THE PART OF YOU THAT DOES BAD HABITS IS NOT BAD. It is the complete opposite of bad. It loves you and wants to keep you safe, so it refrains you from doing anything ‘scary’ (which is typically new things in our lives) and makes you fall back on ‘safe’ habits which are a coping mechanism.

So, instead of berating that part of you that participates in bad habits even if you know it’s bad, understand it. As these coping mechanisms usually stem from our childhoods, we turn to these habits when we feel stressed, anxious or depressed.

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lorephobic · 5 months

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“the class commentary in saltburn was shit” WHAT CLASS COMMENTARY???? NOT EVERY MOVIE WITH RICH PEOPLE HAS TO OR SHOULD HAVE CLASS COMMENTARY. EMERALD FENNELL KNOWS VERY WELL THAT SHE IS NOT THE RIGHT DIRECTOR FOR A MOVIE ABOUT CLASS COMMENTARY WHICH IS WHY SHE DID NOT WRITE A MOVIE ABOUT CLASS COMMENTARY.

#saltburn posting #saltburn #begging everyone who is complaining about the ‘message’ of saltburn to watch ANY interview with emerald #when you see her attention to detail and hear the way she talks about these characters #you will understand that this is a movie about obsession #and the cattons being rich heightens this for sure and pushes oliver into an uncomfortable position #in the exact same way that it pushes farleigh into an uncomfortable position #they will grant you help as long as you don’t ask for it #desires are messy and ugly so it’s better to just not have them #these ideas are absolutely a result of the catton’s wealth and status #but as far as the plot goes #their wealth is just a narrative tool to push these ideas about beauty and obsession #watch the cufflinks scene again and really think about it #think about venetia and what she wanted and farleigh and what he wanted #and all of the desires that are left unspoken at saltburn #and the desire to BE DESIRED #think about all of this and try to tell me that this is a movie about material gain

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 3 months

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The girls are plottinggggg

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen chao #wang lingjiao #Realizing she was supposed to have an upper lip mole was a cold slap in the face. So sorry ma'am. I won't forget again.#They are evil dumbass 4 evil dumbass and I think we are all missing out on the sheer potential of the comedy between these two.#They have way too much power and are using it for the wrong reasons - which makes them truly great villains.#And when things don't go their way they become piles of whining sludge.#Wang Lingjiao is forever fascinating to me even though we only get crumbs about her.#She's a servant girl who's greatest asset is her beauty and her attractiveness.#Meaning she's had a life being in the gaze of people with significant positions of power over her.#I can't help but read her childishness and petty tantrums as someone who has finally been given the chance to not feel powerless.#If she was a more virtuous type we might 'like' her more but honestly...I don't think she would have survived to this point.#WLJ has only known power hierarchies her whole life. Probably accused of seduction before she even understood what that meant.#I love contrasting her with mianmian because they have similar(ish) backgrounds but different approaches to moving forwards #But WLJ's story is about flying too close to the sun and mianmian's is about going too close to the water.#Like the sea mist dragging her down into complacency - all the sect powerplays are mandatory to 'go along with' if she wants to climb-#-the social ladder. Yet she is the cautionary tale (and a foil to JGY as well) she leaves before sacrificing her own morals.#Mianmian flies away with her wings only slightly plucked while those who sacrificed everything to reach for the top crash and burn.

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yardsards · 8 months

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do people who have listened to taz balance but not graduation Know that it was HEAVILY IMPLIED that lup and barry eventually adopted a lil sorcerer child who got disowned by his family for his natural necromancy magic, and they taught him how to use his powers for good and were overall great parents that he looks back on fondly

(and said child grew up to be a dimension-hopping lich, caretaker of the dead, and very sweet adoptive father of a major npc)

#eliot posts #taz #the adventure zone #taz balance #taz graduation #lup taaco #barry bluejeans #blupjeans #like they never specifically say ''my parents are barry and lup'' so it's left up to interpretation but #he says he came from another world other than nua (nua is the name of the grad world like faerun is the balance world)#he says both his parents were highly skilled necromancers that ''travelled'' a lot because of their work #he says that inter-planar travel runs in the family #and he likes to bake #also travis apparently said on a livestrean that he got something carved by magnus for his daughter #it's a fun little easter egg for balance enjoyers but kept vague enough where it's like. you don't have to know about balance to enjoy it #anyway tho it's adorable cuz he talks about how much of a positive impact his parents made on him #and how he wanted to emulate them when raising his own daughter #and he's a good dad and his daughter loves him (also she is an absolute delight i love her #and like the only older adult to look at our college-aged protagonists and be like #''yeah it's messed up that you have to deal with all of this you're so young you're the same age as my child i will help however i can''#like balance easter egg aside gordy is one of my fav graduation npcs (behind his daughter rainer who is my fav)

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natjennie · 11 days

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getting some responses on my post about kristen and her parents conversation, specifically the "isn't it kinda funny that helio chose you and you were the one to bring the daytime back" and I think it's really interesting how different people responded to it like. maybe it's because I live in the southern united states but. there is a lot of religion, specifically christianity, as that is the obvious analogue to the helioic faith, that is downright evil, I agree. and obviously the prevalence of it is harmful to a lot a lot a lot of people, just as it's harmful to kristen in fiction.

but you have to understand that the individual people are deluded, they genuinely believe what they're doing is right. it's really easy to be like "ugh they sicken me it makes me so mad" in a theoretical sense but. do you have drive through workers wishing you a blessed day. do you have people see your kt tape and offer to pray for your pain to go away. like. idk I just think we have to have a little bit of compassion and understanding for people that are so entrenched in their faith that they do truly believe from the bottom of their heart that what they're preaching is true. especially in a world where divine magic is real!! kristen TALKED to helio. she makes literal miracles happen on the daily. so faith in that world is gonna be heightened to a crazy degree.

obviously I condemn their human-supremacy and their cult practices etc etc etc but in that little moment I felt for the applebees. it didn't make me mad or disgusted or annoyed. it made me sad. because they saw their daughter perform a miracle of the sun and it meant nothing to her. that "that doesn't feel special at all to you?" wasn't from a place of arrogance. they weren't lauding it over kristen. they were pleading. begging her to see it from their eyes: she is the chosen one. she is a prophet of helio and has been doubting and they want what's best for her. she's their savior. she brought the sun back from the endless night. that doesn't feel special at all to you?

#im fucked up.#i mean maybe this is a privileged position to take because i wasnt raised religious #i dont have personal connections to the harm it does #but i know that most people who practice christianity genuinely love their neighbors #however they can.#it's easy from an outside perspective to be like 'theyre so evil i cant believe they were manipulating her like that'#but. i dont think they thought they were.#theyre not evil. they're trying to help her.#they are misguided YES. but intention has got to count for something #if you cant see the difference between mac and donna applebees and bobby dawn. i can't help you #fantasy high #d20 #dimension 20 #fhjy

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ash-says · 1 month

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The Art of People-Pleasing and how to Fail at it:

According to me, people pleasing is kind of an inherent nature. There's nothing wrong in it if you crack the code on how to do it correctly within your boundaries.

It's something that I am personally working on to chalk out a strategy for and use it as a skill.

But for now let's discuss how you can successfully fail at it cause baby you should not play in water at the beach if you don't know how to swim.

1) Learn to say no. That's the base.

2) Develop a sense of self. Be opinionated and believe in it. Practice it.

3) Delight in making people mad and uncomfortable. Enjoy that.

4) Be unbothered. It's okay if someone doesn't believe in your values and opinion. Don't jump in to convince them and sell your idea. Instead you go your way and let them go their way.

5) Overcome your fear of abandonment. Know this thing, when you don't please you are bound to lose connections and people. Cause everyone loves to be put on a pedestal and feel needed. That's exactly what you don't offer them.

6) Observe what situations compel you to people please and pay attention to consciously avoid doing it when exposed to those situations.

7) Ask yourself what you are afraid of? Is it losing the person? Being painted as the bad guy? Or your inner belief of not being good enough? Or upsetting the other person? Reflect!!!!

That's it for today. I want to go in depth with this one but I am not able to formulate it properly as of now. Still I hope this much will be useful even if a little.

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captainrufflebanger · 2 months

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Hi! I'm from twitter (simple follower) but i wanted to say anonymously that i love your art <3

Your Alcina depiction will forever be one of my favourite ones. She's so HERSELF & recognisable and i love that you give her a soft stomach and realistic bodytype in general.

It's such a treat among certain male gaze-y depictions (where all her weight centers at two places haha)

Your art is soo impactful and important!! It feels as you draw her while genuinely liking this character (sorry for being an extremely cheesy weirdo); as I've said, certain art feels soulless and objectified way too much

Thank you for being cool and drawing older women the way they deserve to be portrayed

Anon I need you to know I read this at 7am, cried into my tea, went to work, came home, read it again, cried aGAIN, and dug this sketch out of the WIP void just for you. You've left me speechless and I can't even begin to thank you enough for your kind words right now. May The Big Woman™ bring you happiness.

#FUCK I AM CRYING AGAIN WHILE TYPING THIS I'VE BEEN ABSOLUTELY OBLITERATED EMOTIONALLY (POSITIVE)#lady dimitrescu #alcina dimitrescu #re8 #resident evil village #resident evil alcina #little peeky of cheeky there sssh don't tell the mods #I like to think she's got a cadou scar on her upper back since that's where her dress has that little opening under the capelet #Sighs... Big Lady brought me so much joy the past 3 years... and now I need her help again more than ever #captain's art log

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nelkcats · 1 year

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Special delivery: Surprise Mini-box!

It had been a while since Danny was a hero in Amity Park, now that he was king he actually had fewer responsibilities than before, which was pretty ironic all things considered.

Meeting with the Observants was the most boring part of his day, but he had recently been entertaining himself with the Zone's ghost children, apparently many of his ex-rogues considered him an honorary godfather. The kids loved him so much it was almost worth missing out college.

His hero past wasn't a problem until Box Ghost told his daughter about his adventures when he fought Phantom on a daily basis, and how it was comforting to have your own hero. Lunch Lady joined the conversation and that could only end one way: Box Lunch wanted to be a rogue.

But she could not be one in Amity Park, her godfather took great care of it and that was already the place of his parents, so after she found a portal she began her search through different cities to find her ideal "hero" rival.

Neither the League nor all of their associates were ready for the baby ghost, the intangibility though basic had thrown most heroes off balance, eliminating the small list of colorful heroes Box had in her hand.

In exasperation she headed towards a new destination "Gotham"; by the time Danny found out about the mess from a guilty Box ghost, Box Lunch was making a mess on Crime Alley. Danny really hoped the vigilante would notice that the cause of the disaster was a child.

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howtodrawyourdragon · 3 months

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Whenever I see a post about Chief Hiccup (or watch Httyd 2, for that matter) I'm always reminded of how Stoick did not want his son to become chief the way he did.

Maybe it's because Stoick saw his reluctance to succeed him, maybe it's something Stoick went through himself when he became chief and he wanted to spare his son the pain, but he had a plan. He was going to retire. Step down and let Hiccup take over in his stead. That way, his father could ease him into this insanely big responsibility, could be there to guide him, help him with the tough stuff he knows Hiccup might have trouble with.

Except, then he dies at Drago's hands. And Hiccup ends up thrusted into a position a feared to be in. And yeah, he does it mostly alone, just as his father did before him, which is exactly what Stoick was hoping to avoid.

#in the shows stoick has the council but hiccup mentions that his father just ignores them whenever it suits him #and gobber doesn't count either because gobber helped stoick with hiccup specifically #we have no idea which role valka plays in all of this but stoick chiefed 20 years without her #and with berk's past with dragons there's the likelihood that stoick became chief because his own father died #and as for hiccup he feared the position because he wasn't sure if he could be the chief his father was #because he and his father are so different in his eyes #completely missing their similarities as well as the differences that could actually benefit berk and have been benefitting berk #i just feel like hiccup wouldn't have such a hard time or even take his ascension as hard if it wasn't for his father's untimely death #httyd movies #httyd 2 #how to train your dragon 2 #hiccup haddock #stoick the vast #the haddocks

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harlivies · 11 months

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“You aren’t worried about your position?” “I like this position. It’s quite comfortable.”

#rhaenicent #alicent hightower #rhaenyra targaryen #hotdgif #hotdedit #hotd #house of the dragon #brb gonna go eat some concrete to feel better #and what if i say that part of the reason why alicent ended up marrying viserys #and birthing his children #was to try and lighten the load on rhaenyra's shoulders #then what #of course her father forced her into that position #but alicent often rationalizes these things to give them meaning #ahem duty sacrifice #and rhaenyra often made it seem like she didn't really want to rule #but rather fight and explore what have you #so what if she really thought she was helping #by giving viserys a different option #my 13th reason #anyway back to the normal tags ig #mine: new #2023 #mine: gif #mine: gifs #mine: hotd #hotd: the heirs of the dragon #mine: rhaenicent #mine: rhaenyra targaryen #mine: alicent hightower

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prettieinpink · 6 months

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HOW TO BEGIN HEALING

ACKNOWLEDGE THE PAIN AND DAMAGE. Others will try frequently to avoid these feelings and the thought that they’re hurt or hurting. However, it is a massive roadblock to starting your journey.

You have to truly confront yourself. Journal, vent to someone, draw or however you feel is best to truly express how you feel, you do.

EXTRACT TRIGGERS. Don’t let your physical environment encourage triggers that resurface your hurt self or continue to hurt you. E.g. friends, social media, family, bad habits etc.

DAILY REFLECTION. You have to start to confront your feelings and experiences, but I know, it’s scary and we don’t want to revisit bad times. Please try to do some self-reflection daily about personal feelings and experiences, as it gets easier when it’s so frequent.

ESTABLISH ORDER & ROUTINES. Start putting in good habits in your life and slowly improve your mental and physical well-being. Healing is going to be all over the place and messy. So when we have a routine to fall back on when needed, it just makes us feel better.

ACTUAL SELF-CARE. Everything showers and face masks are nice and all, but they are not the only aspects of self-care. Self-care is doing the things that are good for you, disregarding how you currently feel. E.g. cooking and eating a healthy breakfast instead of eating takeout.

BE PATIENT AND PERSISTENT. Healing is going to be hard regardless of what hurt you. There will be days when you feel like giving up. However, I encourage you to fight those feelings of hopelessness and continue.

REMOVE SHAME FROM YOUR MIND. Another roadblock, it limits you from all the help and lessons you get in life. It isolates you, from everybody else who does care about you and wants to help. Asking for anything is not embarrassing.

RECONNECT WITH YOURSELF. Start doing hobbies that you love, learning about things you’ve been curious about, and reading books on your favourite topics. Reconnection is so important because it brings emotional and mental prosperity.

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epicthemusicalstuff · 2 months

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Is anyone else going feral over Odysseus begging for mercy and referring to himself as a puppet? I feel like it’s such an underrated character moment for a man defined by his hubris to be broken down in a way that he was so strongly fighting against. In Ruthlessness when Posideon told him to apologize, Odysseus was having *none* of it and I’m just very frothing at the mouth over it.

Yes!!! Especially with Circe also adding to the idea of making a kinder world with how she chose to let everyone go! Another view of the world for Odysseus to add to his list!

#I also view it as him trying to be tricky and place himself in that position as he realized that was the best way to get her help #But yes!#epic the musical #circe #odysseus

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dyketubbo · 5 months

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sunny also makes me insane bc like. little kids pick up on how others act around them so easily. and under all that bravado shes such an insecure kid and they want to come off as confident and only caring about money but they care so so much about having connections and of course they do. bc shes just a kid. she wants to come off as a cool kid who puts money and riches first but ultimately shes a daddys girl who just wants to be cared about

#something something little kids dont understand that what helps them the most is positive reassurance #so all kids like sunny are able to process is that being praised feels good #and being avoided feels bad (unless theyre taught that being feared is a good thing)#and so tubbo treating her like a little princess of course she loves him more than anyone else in the world #but then it makes it sting even more when she runs into situations like phil talking up em more than her #and tallulah being hesitant to befriend her #sunny doesnt have all the knowledge to understand that tallulahs paranoid/traumatized and sunnys just coming off-#-a bit strong #all she knows is tallulah doesnt seem to like her and phil seems to like empanada more #so of course thats going to sting. of course. and i feel her so much abt it. poor girl #mask mews #qsmp #sunny qsmp #sunnysideup qsmp

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foxx-queen · 7 months

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thinking about the way shadowheart, lae'zel and minthara deal with breaking away from a god/god-like figure they've dedicated their lives to. shadowheart immediately latches onto rescuing her parents as her new 'mission'. lae'zel immediately dedicates herself to freeing orpheus with the vigor she served vlaakith. minthara fixates on obtaining the power to make sure she's never controlled again.

its like. breaking away from gods/god-like figures leaves a void to fill. they're trying to fill it, and trying to choose what they fill it with. and they know that's what they're doing, in some ways, maybe to avoid the enormity of what it means to have broken away. maybe to avoid working out what they'll do as individuals. shadowheart doesnt know her parents, and they dont know her anymore, but she has to save them. you can ask lae'zel why she won't focus on herself, and she acknowledges there's no time for that. not yet. minthara wants you to use the power of the brain, but has dialogue/approval when you speak to ravenguard and she realizes hes still in there beneath the tadpoles influence, just like she was.

'my deference to him is a habit that will die hard, i fear'. minthara still calls the elder brain the absolute, even after she knows the truth. lae'zel still calls out to vlaakith in battle. shadowheart still wears the symbol of shar in her hair after dyeing it. indoctrination/ingrained beliefs are hard to break.

they've broken away from what was controlling their lives. they're free. they've lost everything. shadowheart can save her parents and but will always have that mark. lae'zel has been declared a traitor and will be hunted until vlaakith is overthrown. minthara can never go home, and would be executed if she tried.

they've broken away. they've lost everything. they're struggling with what that means. they're free. they wouldn't have it any other way.