Sometimes I forget why exactly I disliked ACOMAF as much as I did and then I see a random quote and am instantly reminded.
This is exactly the type of gaslighting that this book does that annoyed me so. fucking. badly.
'All he'd wanted to do wasn't free me, but fuck me' - ah yes, because it totally wasn't her who went for his pants first.
'He hadn't tried to kill her, hadn't crawled for me'
Excuse me? He crawled as he was bleeding out from a chest wound, still tied up. Not to mention he DID kill Amarantha in the end. (Also he couldn't kill her before, because that's how magic bonds work - none of the high lords could lift a finger against her. There was literally nothing he was able to do).
Also it makes no SENSE for Feyre to be resentful of Tamlin not rescuing her all of a sudden? Tamlin saved her already by returning her to the human realm. SHE returned to fight and die for him. She KNEW she'd most likely die but she was there to rescue HIM. It's not like she got kidnapped by Amarantha and he just watched, no she came to die for him. It's kind of weird to blame him for not getting her out when she came in to get HIM out.
So yeah, ACOMAF is awful in this regard and I just don't get it. It would have been quite easy and possible to make Feyre realize that Tamlin isn't right for her without literally making shit up about him that conflicts with book one.
An interesting little fun thing with team 7 is that you assume that Sakura's gonna, like, woobify and simplify Sasuke by putting him on a pedastal,cause her goal is centered around him and shes a 12 y/o fangirl so like of course her understanding of him is skewed cause she doesnt see him as a person, just an object of affection, right? She's can't get Sasuke, can't imprint on and/or traumabond with him like Naruto and Kakashi do. They don't see him with rose tinted glasses, because they've lived through their own Horrors and empathize with Sasuke's experience.
......right?
WRONG lmao!! They have too many ghosts!! Naruto's single-minded codependent ass won't get out of his own way long enough to see Sasuke for who he actually is, only able to empathize with the parts of his trauma Naruto relates to and not really capable of understanding him outside of the context of himself (because Sasuke is. His other half). And Kakashi is far too jaded to be fair to him!! He can't decide if Sasuke is gonna end up as a mini-him or a mini-Obito or maybe a mini-Itachi, but either way he ALSO is too traumatized to see Sasuke AS SASUKE.
meanehile SAKURA'S autistic ass may have dogshit empathy, but you know what she does have? A special interest in sasuke. Nothing better to do then give herself a degree in Uchihaisms. She can write character studies about him. she can read his soul. Whenever she says something about him she is right. Every fucking time! She is RIGHT!!!!
'sasuke would NOT compliment me this directly or explicitly express worry unprompted, especially if it gets in the way of his goals' correct.
'Sasuke shouldn't hide that curse on his neck its not healthy BUT if I tell anyone about it he'll never trust me again, which might be even more dangerous for him then the curse mark. Like he can probably handle the curse mark but no one else can stop him from ripping peoples arms off.' correct.
Speaking of! 'Sasuke would not hurt me even when he seems to be...possessed? whatever the only way to knock him out of it is to present myself as Alive and thus something to be protected rather then something to be avenged, because he gets really stuck in his own head about revenge' CORRECT
'hey so um. like. Sasuke's gonna leave Konoha. I'm not sure anything can stop him at this point and honestly I'm kinda starting to doubt anything should, so the only thing I could possibly do to help him at this point is ALSO defect.' CORRECT!!!!
I think one of my “favorite” things is when people misinterpret what it means to be aroace. Watching people so clearly not understand the complexity behind the spectrum of aromatic and asexuality and then proceed to say they “stand with” aroace as an ally is so hilarious to me. Especially when they use this to start bashing on a perfectly fine ship, especially because said ship gets in the way of theirs.
Aroace does not mean no attraction. The plastered poster face for it is people who don’t feel ANY types of attraction, but that does not mean everyone. Aromantic people can date and fall in love. Asexual people can fuck. Aroace people can do both.
Yes, aroace rep IS needed. But we still have it via Luffy—just because Luffy kisses someone (hypothetically) doesn’t mean we just yeeted the aroace label off of him. He is STILL aroace. You know who else is aroace? Bon Clay, for one. Zoro as well. Yet I don’t see people screaming that shipping Zoro with someone completely erases the aroace label, now do I?
Ugh, I’d totally make a whole ass essay about this, but it’s half till midnight. It’s just. Been on my mind for a few hours and I need to say a little shit
introducing the shipname blue hydrangeas for me and my f/o…!!! a little rambling about the decision under cut as well and well. in the tags
with the different vivid colors of hydrangeas, each come with their own special meaning in flower language as well!!! i think it’s very important to keep in mind when researching about such language is that they can be different between cultures/not all cultures have the same meaning for a flower (it’s super duper interesting to me that going through victorian era(?) flower language books have hydrangeas in general noted as ‘boastful’ with how little seeds it gave compared to how much flowers it has… and not only that but men sent it to women who rejected them to imply their frigidity, which. is so mean actually.).
blue hydrangeas i believe they’re not seemed as the happiest kind of flower with being given as an apology (stemming from the japanese myth) but i mostly see the flower for its meaning of deep gratitude and understanding which absoluutely applies to s/i (or. well. me but i’m too embarrassed to use the word ‘us’ uuumm) and f/o…!!! sincerity i think is a meaning the flower heavily carries as well and being true to someone like that and having that kind of connection really is what the highlight of their relationship is with what both have been through and stand for. f/o is not extremely trusting, and being laid bare open to someone like that is very unheard of to them until they have s/i in their life and slowly develop a sort of closeness towards him. s/i is somewhat similar to f/o but different in a way that their honesty is quite warped when it comes to people (i’ve mentioned him being a sunshine type of character but there are layers to that, in the way that he finds his truer and more negative emotions irrelevant and keeps the sunshine mask on as he grew more used to it & finds it much easier basically) so the type of relationship for the both of them where they can genuinely be themselves with their guards down is something really special
in a way both are extremely grateful for each other as well for walking into their life and wouldn’t have it any other way
Been thinking about historical beauty standards lately and the fact that being rounder and heavier was, in fact, considered fashionable for a very long time, and then the fact that people will always interject with the “it’s because weight meant you were wealthy and able to afford food and leisure,” which, sure, is true to some extent, but it’s not like… the only reason that was desirable? Like, is it that hard to believe that people genuinely found that beautiful? That both men and women would rogue their cheeks to make them look more lively and full? That men would tailor their waistcoats to give the illusion of a potbelly because it was the fashionable silhouette? That to be soft and plump was considered lovely and attractive? Honestly, I feel people’s insistence on the whole “weight meant you were wealthy” thing can quickly become a kind of backhanded fatphobia, this assertion that being fat meant something else desirable, and thus became the Desirable Thing. People have had fat and been fat all throughout history and been found beautiful for it, period.
barry being obsessed with going all YourFaveIsProblematic on 'great men' as a way to justify himself because if they could do bad things and still be regarded as great then so can he. he’s “doing” the “work” of “bettering himself” and berating sally for being drunk because it “sets a bad example” and hiding guns behind live laugh love decor. He’s literally putting on a wholesomecore front lol, he’s play acting as a ted lasso type and using lib therapy language which is indistinguishable from when he’s using evangelical language which is all utterly meaningless and he uses it as a violence. Ha ha ha
Lmao. For someone w/ such crippling perfectionism, Bakugo absolutely hates it when you’re mean about something you made. He’ll fight and fight and fight you over it until you at the very least admit you did your best and it’s okay for him to like it in your place.
And it’s a little hard to believe him. He can’t fake a smile for shit nor lighten his voice much less... express things with any couth. YET it’s honestly very sweet the way he pouts, crosses his arms and refuses to change his stance about something very clearly... wrong. Something he very honestly wouldn’t like if he made it himself.
Snatching the lopsided crocheted hat right out of your hands, putting it on his head, and refusing to give it back. Eating a slice and a half of deflated soufflé then having leftovers the next day. Keeping the shitty (joke) birthday card you made him before you were even dating at the bottom of his bedside table dresser until the moths start to eat it (and even then).
hi what has been going on in mcytblr ?? that post you rb'd about a poll runner being disrespectful and ppl leaving?? im confused
i dont wanna go into too much detail because frankly i am quite over it, but i'll give a short overview. um, basically there was a cat of the year poll. jellie made it to the finals. there was the usual annoyance of people in the notes making slightly mean comments about her due to it saying "mcyt" and them having no critical thinking. overall though the notes were pretty normal for a post that size imo.
however. the problem really came up when someone revealed that on their personal blog, the op of the cat poll had made a post complaining about how jellie was winning. it was just...kind of a very mean-spirited post that showed zero compassion towards her death and was just a generally cruel way to speak about a dead beloved pet. someone screenshot the post and added it to the poll to inform people of how op was talking behind the scenes and then suddenly everybody was reblogging that version. even non-mcyt fans in the notes were like "wtf i voted for the other option but now i want to vote for jellie instead because that was a messed up thing to say." op apologized and said it was meant as a joke for their 12 followers. people were like "that's not a real apology, you're just saying you're sorry we saw it and not sorry you said it" and continued to dogpile. op apologized again later in a much better way but it was overlooked. honestly, they probably addressed it multiple times, but i stopped following it after a while. op unfortunately continued to receive harassment and death threats from mcyt fans regardless.
i think a big part of the problem was that the screenshot version kept circulated, so you just got. literally hundreds of people who were ONLY seeing the version with OP's post on it and not seeing the apologies. so you end up with a post with like 25k notes where every other tag is someone pissed off and calling op a terrible person. and then there's non-mcyt fans who rightfully think we're being exceptionally annoying about this and they're adding to it. and all in all it becomes a great tangled mess where nobody is having fun and everybody is being mean to each other and the problem just keeps propagating instead of being left alone
irrelevant ot anybody but most important to MEEEE i went to see an utaite group (half of them anyway) ive waited 10 years to see in person YAYYY
i also went for my fav guys solo tour and ended up in the front row (MY INSANE LUCK (its by lottery..) most joyouse thing that ever happened in my life btw i also got to hold his hand get a smile etc so awesome ever
also met one of my best friends kiko again while i was there heres a wonderful picture
in more recent news errrrm i moved across the world and had to say bye to my cutest loveliest babiest kitty but heres a pic of her:
also last week i cleared my locker by accident so ermm everything falls on him when he opens it
and finally me and merr <3
ok those are the awesome things that have happened to me Thats all
most fucked up thing about the body's response to not eating is when you're so hungry you feel like you're gonna throw up. this does not make it easier to eat food actually