Do you ever feel like you don’t matter in fandom? Because that’s how I’m feeling right now, despite what people say in the tags, I just don’t think people care all that much to what I put out. I’m not saying the should, but it’s a little disheartening and I’m always weighing whether or not I should leave.
I’ll be honest with you anon, I deeply struggled with that exact feeling you’re describing for a long time and I am so sorry that you feel that way too.
I think fandom can be this wonderful place - somewhere that’s fun and super collaborative - but it can also be mentally a dangerous place. It’s so easy to lose yourself or to compare yourself to others in the form of asks or notes or comments or tags or anything.
But you matter.
Your voice matters, your content matters, you matter.
And I can guarantee that your presence in the fandom would be missed if you were to decide to leave.
There’s no easy answer to how you stop feeling this way - it’s really a personal process, but I can share a few things that helped me get into a better mindset.
I think you need to ask yourself why you don’t think people care? If there’s a specific response or validation that you’re seeking? Why is this important? (Are there certain people you are looking for a response from?)
This is a good starting point to identify what might be the bigger issue. Personally I would get a lot of nice comments, but never felt worthy of them and/or felt that people were only saying those nice things out of pity. So a lot of my work centered around seeing the worth in my work and learning to trust that people meant what they said about me/my work.
I think a short break from the fandom and tumblr might be beneficial. Take the time to detach from the constant stimulation and content and conversations here and focus instead on yourself. Use this as a chance to remember why you fell in love with the show and even create for the sake of creating, not to share with anyone.
Or if you find a source of your feelings stem from seeing other blogs on here or other content then take the opportunity to curate your dash and filter/unfollow. Be selfish and make sure this is a space where you feel safe and valued.
And it’s cliche, I know, but I think it’s important to keep reminding yourself that the most important person to make happy with your work is yourself. Make the metaphorical cake for yourself and let others opinions be the sprinkles. The cake is already complete without them, but they just highlight what was already great.
I hope you’re able to feel better about your work and the fandom, anon. My dms are always open to you (or anyone else) who wants to talk.
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omg did i read your mind then 😳 anyway i’m sorry things have been hectic lately, i can kind of relate :( i hope it slows down soon and you get a breather. as for the fights... YES CAUSE CHAOS😌 i hope you’re okay overall though? 💓
yes you did ily telepathic legend 😍😍😍 and it's okay I did it to myself when I decided to take six classes, have a job, volunteer, do my online store stuff, and participate in orgs 🤪 and THANK YOU yeah I got this asshole kicked out of one of my orgs but he doesn't know yet so shhhhhh
and yeah overall I am very tired but good!! But fr what have YOU been up to???
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