#and knew i needed to share

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[scourge-sympathiser]

SCOURGE SUNDAY 031/???

i gor a laminator

#scourge wc #scourge warriors #warrior cats scourge #bloodclan #wc #warrior cats #scourge #scourge sunday #to those of u who already saw this on twitter. shh. no u didnt #basically i waz 2 happy with this not 2 share right away but also wanted 2 hav it be a sunday. so. twitter got it. Quite Early #i will be honest ive been having so much fun making badgez i bought a bunch of suppliez..... #mainly keychain hardware && alcohol markerz LMFAO #need 2 prep fur my next market as well but. the thing is. furry badge fun #once i get a good idea of wht exactly im doing i will probly open commissionz fur these hehehe #ok. i need 2 sleepz byeee #idk if u guyz knew this but evry sunday scourge i actually do all this tagging stuff the night before bcuz i work 8-3 sundayz LOL #n sure i could post aftr work but i got into the habit of 9am i like it as a posting time. also forcez me to actually hav thm done lmfao

[beeduoo]

wonderful

#there is a ranboo that goes withthis but i didn't like how he was looking imma restart from scratch tmrw😭😭 #ctubbo #michael beloved #ctubbo fanart #Guys you have no idea what i went through today like it wa fucking crazy i need to share this #so i went to the mall after school right and im going home at like 8 on the train with my friend bc i was supposed to be picked up ay her #stop right but then im told to just go to my stop and take the bus and im like ok sure but the problem is my phone is on SEVEN PERCENT and w #hen i get to the stop my moms like u have money for the bus right and im like ueah and i check and i have NO MONEY #BUT I DIDNT TELL HER ANUTHING BC I DIDNT WANT HER TI GET MAD BC I KNEW SHE WOUDKNT WANT ME TO WALK ALL THE WAY HOME AT NIGHT (FOURTY BLOCKS #So im like ok im getting on the bus now my phone is on four percent i have to WALK HOME allll that way and there's this crazy ass upward hi #ll that's like ten blocks long ITS NOT EVEN THAT BAD but like my mom thinks im on the bus so im trying to speed walk as fast as i can and i #RAWDOGGED it too because MU PHONE WAS GOING TO IDE!!!! #I made it home at two percent U guys i was so proud of myself thank u for listening #IM SO MAD IT WOUKDVE BEEN OKAY IF I WASNT IN A RUSH And also if i had music uggghhh Whatever #I bought this really cute skirt at garage hold on let me find it #lexi pleated skort color Navy blue ITS SOOOO CUTE got some new leg warmers too yesss.... #I NEED TO DOWNLOAD THE TRANSIT APP i woukdve been able to attach my apple pay and buy the stupid ticket if my phonewasnnt #too dead to do al that... #Guys always make sure u carry cash with yiu goodbye

[revitalizationrat]

COALT turtles drawings

In one update I mentioned that Raph and Casey share a plate together, I didn't say then that it also means they fight over who gets the last piece of food lol

In the apocalypse I believe a lot of stuff would go missing, people woulds steal things or put them somewhere else, where they don't belong...There are more important matters than keeping a track of shared goods..yk thats why Casey&Raph have their own plate that nobody dares to touch

#rottmnt #crusade of a lonely turtle au #my rat art #a bit of rat lore i guess #That was the case at my old job #I needed geometry tools #pencils knifes to be able to work #but all those things always went missing #I once found a stray knife and bruh the happiness I felt that I finally yad my own knife #Me and my coworker shared a pencil and hid it from the rest of employees #bc we knew #If someone borrowed it #we would never see that pencil again #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #future leo #future raph #rottmnt cassandra #future mikey #rottmnt fanart #coalt #rottmnt raph #rottmnt leo #rottmnt mikey

[rendevok]

I like to think of tumblr as a place that values it's creatives, but it baffles me how even here, people still somehow think it's ok to "post first, ask me to take it down later". In what way is that ok?

My time spent on instagram made me realize how much this practice sucked, and how pinterest is the worst of it. But even here, people still do it. I love art, i love seeing art, but i don't like how it is carted around and posted so carelessly. Please ask permission from artists EVERY TIME before you go and share their work on another site. And if they dont answer? Too damn bad. Respect their art and their choices.

#the first time my art was reposted on instagram it was *before i had even posted it there myself* and i was heartbroken #the worst part is when these accounts receive much more attention than what you share. #how are you supposed to know that people enjoyed it? it's just all messed up #im burning pinterest to the ground at this point. if you repost art there you are public enemy no. 1 #sourcing art has become a skill i never knew i would need. please for the love of god stop following accounts that do this #i want to find artists just as much as anyone but i think that skipping the consent part is unacceptable #do better tumblr... for your artists

[syrupyyyart]

aaa fuck it. Deciding to put the motley webtoon on permanent hiatus and focus 100% on the cartoon, which is coming along soooo cute. I like storyboarding these characters a lot!

In lieu of big chapter drops, @askmotley will be getting much more frequent updates! New post later this week :)

Here's a little itty bitty wip clip.

#my art #motley #video #vibrating so violently i need to share the whole episode aaaUGGH #little clip is all ill show for now. im showing Self Restraint. but i like the whole thing a lot aaaughh #turns out i enjoy storyboarding a lot. who knew #gonna aim for weekly updates on ask motley since i have way more time to work on it now ohhh yeah

[sysig]

It’ll all go fine if you’d just don’t worry about it, probably (Patreon)

#Doodles #Handplates #UT #Fellplates #Gaster #Toriel #And technically Sans and Papyrus are offscreen in that last one but they're there! #Starting with a dress because Gaster always needs some pretty clothes! #His cute little angel wings expanded into a shawl :D With a feather-themed dress as well #I was thinking he'd look good in a bleeding-heart pigeon getup - just a little on the nose symbolism hehe - but it'd be very stark as well #But I mean Monsters don't bleed it's fine probably it's just a pop of bright red! Doesn't mean anything! #Thinking about the symbolism of his decorative wings normal-like as well...and of Gerson talking about the Angel of Death.....hmmmm #I'm sure it's nothing haha :) #Thinking again about Toriel taking issue with Gaster's new hole punches but not necessarily of her knowing what they mean #He has to be careful how much he shares of his progress! If she knew what might she make of him? Of them? #Two new little things to be subjugated? Or worse? All the more reason to keep them secret #I like both so much but hmmm he also wouldn't be held as accountable if he kept them secret #It's interesting as well - Gaster had a lot of growing pains with his experiments initially - I wonder how much Fell!Gaster struggled? #He always seems so placid and put together but surely Something breaks him - hard to avoid where and how he is now #Maybe not forever but just for a moment! A moment of weakness is all it takes after all ♪ #All the more reason to have safeguards in place! #Like teaching the boys how to heal! :0 Fellplates!Gaster would be able to heal wouldn't he? But nobody else could haha #Would the boys be able to from the beginning? Or do Fell Monsters have to develop it? :0 Through inaction or through intention? Hm ♪ #It'd be nice proof of concept if they could heal :) No time like the present!

[adhd-merlin]

#the way she brainwashed two of the people arthur loved and trusted the most and tried to get them to kill him. TWICE #girl do you think maybe we should talk about your unresolved trauma #do you think being betrayed by your father and by the only friend who knew about your magic #and your resentment towards your brother for sharing some of uther's beliefs #do you think maybe that has something to do with. why you're like this #honestly she's fascinating #you poisoned me so I'll poison you!! #I spent two years trapped in a well so I will seal you in a cave!! see how you like it #the funny thing is I don't think she realises why she's doing all this #she needed therapy so badly #* #merlin memes #morgana pendragon

[hephaestuscrew]

Minkowski would be so intense about introducing Eiffel and Hera and Lovelace to any of her loved ones back on Earth. She makes the crew sit through a PowerPoint presentation on suitable topics of conversation to discuss with her mother. She gives Dominik a folder of detailed guidance about how to interact with Hera because he's never met an AI before. She asks Eiffel several days beforehand if he has decided what he's going to wear to meet her family, as though Eiffel has ever in his life put thought into an outfit more than 30 seconds before getting dressed.

She tries to control every parameter of the interaction in a way that actually makes it more uncomfortable for everyone involved. She spends the entire time sitting right on the edge of her chair, looking anxiously between each of these people she cares about, trying to tell whether they are getting on, and attempting to communicate with them individually through urgent expressions.

And of course it doesn't work. Eiffel puts his foot in his mouth. Dominik is confused and curious about all the wrong things. Minkowski dares to leave the room for a few minutes and when she comes back, her mother is showing the crew her baby photos, and Minkowski knows she'll never live this down.

#wolf 359 #w359 #renee minkowski #renée minkowski #That last bit was inspired by a conversation with @commsroom #She said Minkowski's mom should tell the crew a charming anecdote from Minkowski's childhood #that Minkowski finds intensely embarrassing #and I agree #Also thinking about how intense Minkowski would be about this is funnier #if you share my idea that Minkowski's family is generally more chilled out than she is #Like I don't imagine her mother to be the kind of person you'd need a briefing to interact with successfully #but Minkowski is giving that briefing anyway #She'd just be very freaked out about the colliding of worlds I think #Eiffel and Hera and Lovelace are so so important to her #but she's also known them in this very particular context #in which the parameters of her life were fixed and limited #and she could (mostly) control what they knew about her #When they are back on Earth #they've got to work out how to be important to each other in a very different context #They have to work out how they relate to each other in this wider world #which includes Minkowski's husband and family and friends #(and Lovelace's loved ones. and Eiffel's. such as they are) #And I don't think that will be an easy process #but I think it will add an important new dimension to their closeness #the empty man posteth

[daily-haunted-tv]

Fun little fact I knew AFTER I caught them

#Pokemon #Hoppip #pkmnart #daily haunted tv #I did not even knew hoppip could LEARn that move #not rotom #but still art and it is cute and I need to share this #Lil trouble maker

[tj-crochets]

The options with the * are the ones I've already scanned, and all but the blorbo are sewing patterns (I've already shared the blorbo sewing pattern)

#I need to go back and check if I've actually shared that cat pattern #and the octopus pattern. I think I shared that? I do not remember #I seem to be doing better with the anemia tiredness #but then I had a stress-related flare up of my various health issues #handled the first one okay but the next day had a significantly worse stress #found out if I get stressed enough two days in a row while on long term steroids #I can crash really hard before it's time for my evening dose of steroids #I have learned better! I know now that if I start shaking badly and it's not low blood sugar it's 'take the next dose a little early' time #and I knew stress doses of steroids were a thing! I just though they were for physical stressors #despite me also knowing emotional stress can be an allergy trigger for me (yes I know that doesn't make sense) #(blame mast cell dysfunction) #it was only like an hour early and I have previously talked to my endocrinologist about stress doses #I just did not put two and two together lol #I'm okay now I'm just recovering and slowly hand quilting that baby quilt

[summershouto]

sometimes I forget how painful sanjis initial backstory is.. a kid so young experiencing starvation. carrying so much physical and mental effects from it. not to mention the isolation and loneliness he experienced as he sat alone watching the shore everyday. and the whole thing with zeff...

anyway I made myself sad so I saved a bunch of young baratie sanjis to cheer myself up

after everything he went through he found zeff- someone who gave him encouragement in his craft he had never experienced before and someone who proudly called sanji his son

#sanji and zeff mean sooooo much to me #zeff doesnt seem like the kind of person who ever desired kids #in fact I feel like he didnt want a kid at all #but then he met sanji and he saw and innocent child who shared his dreams and he knew he was going to look after him #he teaches him how to cook #he teaches him morals #he makes sure sanji is always FED #sanji didnt go looking for a mentor #or for a father #he was ready to face the world alone at the age of 8 and never questioned anything else #bc what could 'the failure' ever do but be tolerated?? #but then zeff sacrifices everything for him #and even more #zeff lives for him #they create a home together; a restaurant in the sea #zeff became everything sanji needed and even though sanji felt he owed zeff so much..zeff never expected anything in return #because that is his SON and he LOVES HIM #my sanji and zeff ramblings #of all the many found family parent-child relationship theirs really hits me #zeff was a pirate until he saw a child in need ; a child he saw himself in; and then he STEPPED UP. #I gotta stop rn or ill never shut up #red leg zeff #black leg sanji #baratie #I could ramble about bellemere and nami and nojiko too #they remind me of the dynamic of zeff and sanji tbh #met in a storm and prioritizing the kids #refusing to show anything but pride for being parents of these kids

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

i need to share the absolute fucking Experience i had playing minecraft tonight. i'm gonna be emotional about it for days

so me and my friends like to play on this server that's pretty much just a bunch of minigames. one of them is Murder Mystery - of a group of - i think its 13/14 people - one person is randomly selected as the murderer (spawns with a sword), the other as the sheriff (spawns with a bow). the rest are innocent. the innocents can gain a bow by collecting coins. no one knows anyone's status unless the player shows their sword/bow. i'm doing a quest where, in order to get points, i need to kill the murderer.

so as the game start countdown begins, me and my pal are checking out this Red Link skin. it's pretty neat! we're all crouching and punching at each other, as one does. i feel a connection form with Red Link. we're buddies now. we're in this together.

so we're all running around the map. every time i see Red Link, we crouch and punch at each other. the game is going fine, we're having fun. i'm delighted that i've made a one-game friend.

then my friend says that Red Link is the murderer, and i literally have a hard time believing it. Red Link? my Red Link? no, they must be mistaken. we were together at the start. they had ample opportunities to kill me. it can't be Red Link. but whoever the murderer killed was the sheriff, and i needed to complete the quest - picking up the sheriff tombstone grants me the bow.

so i run, trying to find it, and i turn the corner.

there Red Link was, standing at the end of the hall, by the tombstone, with a sword in hand. i froze. i was so upset - not Red Link! not my dear companion! i was so sure that was it.

but i walked forward anyway, thinking that maybe if i dodged around them, grabbed the bow, and turned and shot fast enough, i could get them. the thought was actually distressing! Red Link didn't put the sword away. they watched me slowly approach. we stood on either side of the tombstone, and i expected Red Link to cut me down. i was well within reach of their sword.

Red Link calmly, still looking at me, moved to the side and past me. i panicked and grabbed the bow, ran to the corner, turned and drew - Red Link was already at the other end of the hall, running away. i didn't want to shoot, but i needed the kill - who knows when i'd get an opportunity to complete the quest again. it's a tough one.

i missed, thank fuck, but man. i was in shock. i thought i was a goner.

then, after the game where awards are given - the murderer, who killed them, who collected the most coins - i went up to Red Link and crouched. they crouched back.

then they left the game.

#IM STILL WAILING #you know those movies/shows where a character befriends a dangerous wild animal / monster #and later the monster goes on a killing spree #but then it stops before killing the character that was kind to it. and spares them.... yeah.... this felt like that #it felt wild as fuck #ive never had that happen... kindness is real.... #red link if you're out there. i'll think of you fondly and often #the joy turned disbelief turned betrayal turned shock turned bittersweet euphoria #i knew that id never see them again... i was right... #but yes. this felt Important. i needed to share!!! #i was very emotional!! as my buddies can attest!!! #i talked about it until we said Goodnight! #absolutely unprompted #the relief i felt when my arrow missed... #i wished them luck in my head! even though i knew they'd probably die! #what would have happened if they hadnt i Wonder #what if i was the last one alive. would Red Link have killed me then? questions that will never be answered... #oh yes also one of my friends was also there for the Hallway Showdown and was spared #but! i will be honest! i tunnel visioned so hard that the entire world came down to me. that tombstone. and my dearest Red Link.

[unfortunatesassycannibals]

watching the baghera & jaiden convo from baghera's pov was so satisfying, like watching someone pick all the correct dialogue options to unlock the Secret Information

#of course it wasnt all calculated on baghz' part; there were definitely feelings involved #but she knew jaiden was hiding something and she definitely played on jaiden's trust & affection for cucurucho to get that info #she thinks jaiden played it the smartest by being nice to cucurucho and cultivating a relationship with him #cuz cucurucho has actual info regarding the islanders and their lost memories and jaiden might be the closest to getting that info #and when baghz did the 'a secret for a secret' thing she bonded herself to jaiden #making it more likely that the next big info jaiden has she'll share with baghz #once again there's also real feelings involved in this cuz baghz really cares for jaiden + she has her own past trauma #and baghz's attitude towards and opinion on the federation is evolving cuz she knows one of the fed workers helped her escape #(she doesnt remember who tho. could be a low-level worker or a cucurucho) #i just love it when baghz goes back to her roots: trying to get more info (even if she has to cook up another beloved cubito) #after that convo i had to go blast pomme pomme dapper dapper lmao #WE NEED MORE INFORMATION WE NEED MORE INFORMATION ATION #qsmp #qsmp baghera #qsmp jaiden #q!baghera #q!jaiden

[uncanny-tranny]

For TST

I just finished listening to Elliot Page's book and I have to say it was an interesting piece of literature. I highly highly recommend it.

I have never read a book that is so closely aligned with myself as a trans man and my upbringing. I never thought I would read book that defines what it means to be a trans man in the public eye. I do not want to be as famous as him but I would like to make a change to the world as he has.

I am comfortable in who I am and who I love and how I choose to express my gender. Things really can and often do get better with time. And I hope that any person that sees this knows that they are not trapped in the shoes that society has put them in and they can actively choose a different pair.

I would love to read Pageboy soon; these memoirs and other art and literature are our history, part of our lifeblood as a community, and it's vital that we read each other's lives and understand that we truly are here in this world💛

It's great to read such a glowing review from you, and I'm so happy that his words lit your soul like it has

#ask #anon #transsexual thursday #to any trans person reading this: please document your life however you can. make music or keep a journal or paint or write books #your existence is so important and leaving as much evidence of your life as possible is important no matter WHO you are #it doesn't matter if you're famous or rich or the top in society. it matters that you *exist* #if you can and want to: documenting your life is an amazing way to engage with community and who you are #you can document anything you want or need to - the good the bad the ugly - whatever you want to share is important #i know i for one am FOREVER grateful to see historical accounts of trans people - sometimes it's all you have when you first come out #the only figures i had that i knew to look up to were men like billy tipton and dr. allan L. hart and a couple others #and while it felt lonely at first i was so comforted to know that my existence as trans and as a man was not unprecedented or unknown #so if you can/want to document yourself please do #it isn't conceited or selfish or bad. it's human. it's natural. it's revolutionary - especially when you're trans #ESPECIALLY when our history is both impressive and sometimes limited

[omnipah]

hello i have made a playlist for my very special boy mithrun dunmeshi please appreciate him

#dungeon meshi #mithrun #music #we all knew this was coming. to be honest the only reason i didn't share this sooner was cus it needed a better name #now it has one. i bestow it upon thee. use it wisely etc #the songs are in no particular order btw. just the order i thought of them in #so feel free to shuffle the bitch #Spotify