#and my general existence

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

#i used to think it was romantic too and then i was like. now i see it as a HUGE red flag #writeblr #it is also almost EXCLUSIVELY said by immature ppl who think this is normal #fyi even if u think it's funny and ur like 'im an introvert it's just TRUE' like. you need therapy (ily tho) #healed introversion is just ''i would prefer to be by myself'' not ''i hate every person'' ... hate is not normal. that is not healthy #im sorry. i know it feels accurate. but if you're walking around with that kind of rage.... #1. you're making a LOT of assumptions about every single person u have ever met. which is often unfair and unkind #and also usually involves judging people based on their worst moments or little mistakes #2. you are being unfair to the person who is ur ''exception'' #3. there is a VAST difference between ''ur my favorite person'' and ''the ONLY person i like.'' #idk i think this is just a personal bias thing tbh #im sure there are people who have this experience normally #but i have YET to find a man who thinks like this and ISNT absolute DOGSHIT. although tbh.... like. im sure he exists #when u hit like 30 some of the things that were once kind of hot now just sound fucking exhausting. like ''im in a band'' #edit in the tags: i used to kind of be like this too. but the thing is that like. my life became so much more peaceful #once i started believing that people are generally good. like yes i am mad at the world at large #but it's just.... a very hard way to live. you're not a bad person or wrong for the ways other people hurt you and taught you to be angry. #but that anger will continue to hurt YOU. it will punish YOU. it will prevent YOU from making new deep connections. it will protect you yes #but it will also cause MASSIVE blowback. bc if you lose the One Person... your life will fall apart. i know this personally. #i really recommend just trying to be... cautiously optimistic instead. like. yes #people can be horrible and cruel and there are some communities (incels for example) that aren't worth that optimism #but i think like... most people will hold a door for you . most people want to help you find your wallet . #i hope one day you are able to find peace. i hope that rage eventually smooths over. i know how hard it is PERSONALLY #and i know what must have happened to you. and im deeply deeply sorry we share the same wound. #but i promise - sometimes we all need someone else to help us carry the weight. eventually the rage has to die so that we can let help in #i had to spend years biting at outstretched hands. i still often do. im still very wary . and my heart breaks that you flinch too. #here's the thing: i don't blame you. but we were both acting out of fear and pain. .... not out of healthy behavior. and ... change #was needed. i needed change too. rage was useful for a while. then it just left me isolated and bitter. i had to (with effort) #choose to let that rage go. and let people in . VERY SLOWLY THO LOL

[autistic-mike-wheeler]

‘fruity four’ this and ‘ronance/steddie solidarity’ that but WHERE is the recognition for these gay ass bitches

like you wanna look at this and tell me that’s NOT a bisexual and a pansexual respectively ?? they did not spend an entire season trapped in a van with byler as straight people that’s all i’m saying

#jonathan byers did not defend his bowie poster to his father in season one for you to call him straight #and argyle didn’t exist like that just for you to ignore him #jonathan byers #argyle stranger things #jargyle #but also in general #ronance #steddie #the fruity four #jancy #theyre bisexual solidarity ok you can’t change my mind

[buggachat]

honestly just in general it's very exhausting to try to analyze media that is literally meant to be analyzed, only for the replies to be filled with people arguing not against your analysis, but against the premise that the media can be analyzed at all.

i don't even know what to say about it without starting to really betray my frustration, so i'll just settle with— just don't engage with analysis posts? I'm serious. if you're typing a response to a media analysis post, reread what you've written and ask yourself "is this comment/response against the very concept of analyzing the media at all?" and if the answer is yes then delete it all and go sit in the shame corner. throw your curtains away if you want to so bad and stop telling me that I'm not allowed to hum and haw at the fact mine are blue

#ml fandom salt #I suppose #and no amount of adding ''stop telling me to not analyze the media'' on my analysis posts stops people from saying it anyway #and yes. the leaks count. stop telling me that the existence of outdated leaks invalidates all analyses of the completed material #and no. just like every other time i've said this. me saying that i don't care about the leaks is not an invitation for you to try to #convince me to care about the leaks #do i tag this spoilers? it feels weird to. i mean this to be a vague overarching thing about media in general #also of course any ''or maybe the writers are just bad'' arguments ALSO are included in this. YOU guys have been my bane since FOREVER #would you guys consider commenting on fanart with ''umm.... drawing seems pretty pointless lmao'' rude? #i know this is not the first time i've made a post like this and i'm sure it won't be the last

[newgroundstier]

peace and love on spaceship lost light :)

#nautica #ravage #transformers #maccadam #nautica my love u r so hard 2 draw </3 #ravage was also hard 2 draw but in his defence i did not look at any reference until like halfway thru drawing him #''yeah i know his general shape. alright maybe i dont'' asfjkdfsdk #n i didnt wanna redraw him so i just messed w/ what i done already teehee #also ravage just uses a regular metal bowl 4 drinkin in da comic but i figured glass ones would exist. ............. #idk how well it comes across but i liked the idea so !!!!!!!!!!! i did it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[cardentist]

I'm not blaming the op of the original post, or trying to imply anything about them as a person. and I don't want to single out this post in particular, because the issue is an broadly reaching trend rather than any one individual happening to write a post in five minutes one time.

but I really Really wish we'd stop and think if it's a good idea to say "girls turning into boys makes them inherently less interesting" on the transgender website

picking a privileged group to be the butt of a joke because it's lighthearted when nobody's actually getting hurt by doing so Only Works when everyone within that group is actually privileged. making jokes about how men are lesser than doesn't Actually affect the people who are actually within power, but Does chip away at the confidence and comfort of marginalized men who are In these communities to be exposed to it.

and the issue isn't about any one joke or poorly worded discussion in particular, but it's difficult to articulate why it can feel so alienating and unsafe to have things like this be so common within my communities without sounding ridiculous or risk being made fun of for not being able to take a joke. because the framing of implied privilege makes it easy to twist those feelings alienation into the entitlement that's assumed with men taking issue with being the butt Of a joke.

I simply think "this type of person is inherently lesser than" should be reexamined and thrown out as a talking point, even in a lighthearted context. because there will always be vulnerable people within those groups who already Hear that they are lesser than for existing

#discourse #transandrophobia #this is more of a vent post than anything but it's thought on my mind #I'm tagging this transandrophobia and called out the existence of trans men and mascs in particular #because I am those things and that's the tag that I use to talk about those issues that affect these things #but this is really about all marginalized men #all men who've been made to feel lesser than in general really

[ancientannoyance]

mercymorn at basically any point in harrow the ninth regardless of context

#harrow: -breathes- mercymorn: -takes it personally- #jod: -eats- mercymorn: -takes it personally- #augustine: -exists in her general vicinity- mercymorn: -takes it personally- #mercymorn the first #harrow the ninth #the locked tomb #tlt spoilers #htn spoilers #this has been in my files for like 5 months before i remembered i drew it lmao

[front-facing-pokemon]

#yyyYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH #WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I LOVE THIIIIIIIIIIS THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII #IIIIIIIIIIIIIIING #wooloo #MY FUNNY LITTLE FUCKIGN CCREATURE. jSJFLKHALFASJHFSALJ:DAb. #okay hi. this thing was my icon on tumblr for a while after it was revealed before gen 8 came out #pretty much every generation that comes out there's just that One pokémon that makes me go ouoouhruhhghuoHRUOgHOURGHO #and this was that one for swsh. for hisui it was growlithe. and for sv it was fidough #but this thing. oooooooohohohohohoho this thing #i liked this thing through some. strange identity parts of my life where i was still figuring out who i even Was #and it's gonna stick with me because of that #if only it was like. good. to use. in-game. and also. was in sv. i think it was only ever in swsh and never anything else #yeah it was only ever in swsh. which is sad! for me‚ specifically. and the other wooloo fans out there who may or may not exist #but it's fine if you don't because i have enough love for wooloo to go around for all of us

[folkbreeze]

#she's the reason BUwindenburg exists #as i always say if you want the template for whatever #just ask and i'll post it #i need to fix my tags btw #sim: lazza #ts4 #ts4 gameplay #ts4 legacy #the sims 4 #ts4 screenies #sims 4 #simblr #*ending breeze #*fin generations

[bleuarte]

Lord Esen in she who became the sun

And General Ouyang in he who drowned the world

#finished the radiant emperor duology in December #AND I’M OBSESSED #And I can’t suffer alone #the way Esen no longer existed in the world anymore but haunts and echoes the narrative is so… #:( #and the bracelet thing ): #ah #she who became the sun #he who drowned the world #the radiant emperor #esen temur #general ouyang #ouyang #my art

[shopcat]

i think in the hamster wheel of my mind a big part of where people go wrong with eddie and his shitty garage band as an extension is that they for some bizarre reason think he's gene simmons metal when he's jack black metal. heavy metal. he's tenacious d metal. he's school of rock. he's stoner lord of the rings metal he nearly wore blue jeans and plaid. jack black literally in real life once said eddie was the best character bc he's heavy metal like him. LOOK AT THIS

#🍦 #answer it's bc people think he's some mishmash of all alternative scenes without any actual knowledge of where the mashing occurs 😭 #eddie is . a heavy metal guy. A cool one. a nice one even. he likes rock and roll #it's so funny when ppl try and describe it and they've never heard the stuff he actually listens to in their lives for some reason #literally so much of the appeal of eddie's character within his subculture is that its theatrical and dramatic but its still grounded #he's very alternative and Out There but he's still just some guy. he's not wearing spiked leather jackets #in fact he's not wearing any of the other kinds of leather jackets i've seen people say he would ... TO ME #sts #if u haven't seen the clip he then proceeds to air guitar the MoP melody then shouts heavy metal is everywhere #i don't even know how to explain this bc it's like ... okay #the general .. VIBE? aestheticsm? is kind of similar to what people sometimes portray but they're missing thst it's tongue in cheek #like it's like that buff poster of him being this anachronistic homage to heavy metal album covers #fire and satanic imagery and skulls and lightning and big drama and ROCK AND ROLL #it's rock and ROLL man... #and people r making him this weird sanitised dork LOL 😭 when he's a dork in a different more fun way.. imo #and it's not that those types of people don't exist and that they're not cool in their own way cuz they are sure but that's not THIS GUY #he is an 80S METALHEAD... and yeah i try and ground him in thinfs and poke and prod at it until it fits my own understanding of alternative #scenes better but that's bc i've had a hand in the punk scene for years and years #i dunno sometimes i feel like ppl r just not doing the full potential and then going way too hard in this super specific direction #and he ends up first of all usually just a massive douchebag not sure what that's about. But a guy who he would in canon HATE 😭 #YOU ARE MAKING HIM A POSER. is what i'm saying #he is alwyas some guy before he's anything else and before he's that he's a 20 year old loser #you need to reflect this... You need to bottle it. ugh. ugh #so much of this reminds me of the time someone was like he would never wear PLAID #like are you kidding me. are you actually kidding me rn #ppl have this weird arstheticised mostly modern and mostly literallt just eboy Idea of what he'd wear it's crazy to me sorry #also it's ugly #i also think. this is so long lol . anyway . i also think going too ''authentic'' in the 80s metalhead direction also lands u w different #problems. my advice to people trying to write or draw alternative characters is they are People. before they are anything else #🍏

[uncanny-tranny]

Trans dude whose favourite NFL team are the Packers

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #trans meme #do NOT talk NFL with me though because i don't care for american football #i know how the game generally goes but i was a band kid #my friend was an angel for reminding me about this #im now a Packers fan just because of how meta this is holy shit #ngl though wisconsin does not feel like a real state and i always forget it exists #actually anything too north or deep in the midwest just doesn't seem real to me #actually this is goving me an existential crisis because what do you MEAN these states are actually real #(yes i know these states are real and i have always known they exist. i just never hear shit from them so i always forgor they exist) #i wonder if people do that with my state (insert [REDACTED] state)

[fadedstarpng]

autistic people when there's collectable things with tv shows with multiple generations of them:

#my litte pony friendship is magic #mlp #teenage mutant ninja turtles #littlest pet shop #lps #collectibles #toys #mainly talking about those things but if anyone wants to add other things please do!! #autism #self diagnosis #pls dont take this as generalizing I just really love collecting stuff based on my personal special interests but people who dont #are still autistic regardless also splatoon fixation has returned because of side order but still haven't played it bc I need to finish #the main story mode also got a tiny metal locker bc of splatoon from kmart for 9 dollars and its pink and cute also said kmart bc it still #exists in australia lmao idk about other countries but maybe also nz but not sure!! #edit: i have played some of side order!! its so funnnn

[tomatette]

Lucy has the prettiest Kylux art <3 And she's so kind to allow me to post yet another animated version of one of her pieces. Find the original here and shower it with love.

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#kylux #armitage hux #kylo ren #allthestuffimade #domhnall gleeson #adam driver #huxlo #general hux #ben solo #benarmie #hux #star wars fanart #star wars art #sw art #star wars sequel trilogy #star wars sequels #animated art #this is by no means perfect (the animation - no the art) #it's the first time i actually tried something like this #it's still a little rough and jerky (and the bendy ring finger will forever be the bane of my existence haha) #but i think for a first try it's not terrible #:) #thank you lucy!

[beloved-blaiddyd]

#thankfully a hsr text generator site exists online cuz i don't have time to open my drawing app lmao #the true shtpost of april 2024 #gallagher x reader #yandere gallagher x reader #hsr x reader #yandere hsr x reader #yandere honkai star rail #yandere hsr #honkai star rail #yandere imagines

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

The “I’ve watched/listened to/read this thing so you don’t have to, here are my comments/analysis” thing is for movies etc, it is not for political pieces. I cannot stress how important it is to consume those things for yourself and make up your own mind. Do not let other people think for you

#all these ‘jkr podcast breakdown’ ‘jkr essay analysis’ oh my god just let people read and watch it themselves #i mean analysises existing in general is fine the issue is when people consume them and only them and get their opinions solely from them #instead of reading the #the original material themselves and forming their opinion on that #radfem safe #gender critical

[ticklepinions]

This isn't a shot at anyone and although this is in response to a comment, this post is more for awareness.

Please, do not romantic my platonic. As an aroace person the way I perceive and experience love is very different from heteronormativity. I just find it so disheartening to like read that oh this friend you talked about definitely has a crush on you because of how touchy they are. Like my years of friendship with this person is just boiled down to romantic interest and to me that's real sad. I get that here in the West we are less touchy with our friends but why should I have to conform to that? Why should you conform to that?

Hug the homies, kiss them goodnight do whatever feels right between the two of you. Relationships do not have to be labeled all the time. It's annoying and frustrating to have people assume that one friend is falling for the other simply because they're comfortable holding hands platonically. "Oh but friends don't do that-" shut the fuck up. You don't get to define what's deemed platonic/romantic in a relationship you're not even involved in. I feel sorry for everyone that feels like they can't do things that are normally seen as romantic with your friends. Like seriously you're all missing out on the depths platonic love has. And idk why the world wants to make it my problem for its own ignorance.

Can't people just be? Without any hidden intentions or ulterior motives?

#aroace #important #asexual #aromantic #i'm annoyed and I know there was no mal intent but damn i've just been dealing with the heteronormativity narrative for far too long #and having my sexuality basically ignored or like have people overcompensate because they think i'll be uncomfortable hearing #anything remotely seggsual is just infuriating #like chill. I appreciate the caution but being aroace isn't my personality trait you can treat me normally cause I am normal #genuinely hate people sometimes dawg y'all make it terrible to exist freely and without shame #< referring to the general population and not a specific person just to clarify