#and now i'm getting ready to post it

[inkskinned]

there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)

i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.

i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.

and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.

HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.

now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.

my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.

i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.

by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!

keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"

similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."

the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"

if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.

the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.

godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.

the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.

#this is objectively bad advice #don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this #but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries #.... it IS fun #i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him. #bc i used to get SO fucking upset #i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it #and now i just LITERALLY do not engage #instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation #i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection #they like the rush they get from arguing #but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me #so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru #NORMAL CONVERSATION #he doesn't get it yet #i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?'' #'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''

[mrkgrl]

Can I still tag it with TW movie--- or uh... TW movie The Aftermath, maybe. I have so many more of these doodles/comics.

#teen wolf #sterek #eternalsterek #stiles stilinski #derek hale #konpyuutart #teen wolf movie #??? srsly I can't keep using this tag #I will tag it with uh... #can I just call it teen wolf movie - the aftermath as mentioned above orz #but if I keep tagging it with the movie then strangers will check the tags and be like #oh so the movie was about a love triangle including Sterek+Jeep #and I kinda want that #I need to format them differently from now on because of image limit #oh yeah I have the Jeep Bundle pretty much ready but if you haven't noticef I'm suffering from such bad anxiety #it makes posting (art) almost impossible #that's why I barely post art even though I have so much to post hahs #Idk if it will ever get better again I'm losing hope

[sobaology]

you know where to find me,

and i know where to look.

been thinking a lot about knight, the song of roland, and roland's companion olivier lately. so i decided to make something extremely self indulgent. textless versions under the cut!

does this even count as r1999 fanart anymore??? who knows!!! i for one am having fun with it. i apologize for the historically innacurate armor (since the song of roland is set in the frankish empire), i was following the reference i already had and favored experimenting with visuals over accuracy ^^; i had a lot of fun experimenting with silhouettes and negative shapes. these two make me very very normal (especially knight)

#reverse 1999 #reverse 1999 a knight #a knight #artists on tumblr #my art #fanart #i'm so desperately starved for knight fan content that ISNT raunchy omg #idk if anyone else will get this but...i had fun doing this and i want to put this here for the fandom and thats all that matters to me #im actually writing up this post for the 7th time now because tumblr kept getting errors whenever i tried posting this #the world isn't ready for rolavier i fear

[bronzebluemind]

It’s been 0 weeks since the World Cup finale, 17 weeks to go until sgp and 34 weeks to go until next season.

#and we are back 🫠👍 #first countdown post is always the worst one #but it will get better just not now or the next weeks #trying to uphold some sense of community with these countdowns #i am not ready for the tag to die #and to not have any comps in the foreseeable future and with that no sj content #I'm fine this is fine #😭😭😭 #oh I forgot this is also the first post that gets the offseason tag this is bad #someone sedate me until next winter #yeah I am feeling totally normal about this sure that's a completely healthy reaction #the range of emotions I went through preparing this post #and in case you're wondering I always plan to prepare these posts for a few weeks or the whole offseason in advance and never do it #so of course I frantically open tumblr at 11:59 am on sundays accompanied by muttering shit shit shit and type the post and tags #plans made but chaos reigns #there are no fixed calendars out yet they are usually discussed and approved in the spring meeting in april #but I based this on the last years so it should be more or less accurate :) #ski jumping #offseason2024 #sgp countdown 24 #actually it's 25 because it counts as part of the new season but that seem awfully confusing so it stays 24 here #sj countdown 24 #same with this one technically it's 24/25 but yeaaahhh the season starts in 24 so it's fine

[lynzishell]

Prev // Next

Transcript and Bonus below the cut:

Phoenix: It’s been ten years, almost to the day, since I lost my mom. I’ve been thinking about her a lot since we had Aspen. Something about knowing that she’ll never get to know her granddaughter. That Aspen will never get to know her. It’s a different kind of grief that I wasn’t prepared for.

Phoenix: [wipes a stray tear from his eye] After I moved in with Julian, I would come out here sometimes. I’d sit on this bench and look out at the water, and I’d talk to her. I’d tell her about my life, that I loved her and missed her, that I was sorry for being such a pain in the ass. I even told her about Malcolm. I don’t know why this spot. Maybe just because it’s pretty here, and away from everything and quiet, but I could almost convince myself that she could hear me.

Phoenix: I guess I hoped that by bringing you both here… well, it’s the closest I could get to introducing you.   Dawn: If your mom was here right now, would she prefer it if I called her Leanne? Or Miss Realta? Phoenix: [breathes a laugh through his nose] Definitely Leanne. She’d give me hell if I let you call her Miss Realta. Dawn: Okay. Well, Leanne, my name is Dawn, and I am madly in love with your son. We’re getting married in a couple of months, and I’m so excited. You’re invited, of course, if you can make it to Brindleton Bay.

Dawn: Most importantly, though, this is Aspen. She’s your granddaughter. Her middle name is Leanne, after you, of course. And, um, you should know that Phoenix is an incredible father. I wish I could’ve gotten to know you. And I wish you were here to give me some parenting advice because you clearly did something right, and I feel so lost all of the time. But I promise we’ll come back to visit, at least every Winterfest, so you can see Aspen as she gets older.

Phoenix: Thank you. Dawn: Thank you for sharing this place with us. I can see why you were drawn to it. It does kinda feel like she’s here, like she’s listening. Phoenix: [nods but doesn’t speak for fear that his voice will betray him] Aspen: [coos] Phoenix: [clears his throat] Did I ever tell you that she wanted to write children’s books? Dawn: I remember you saying she used to make up stories a lot when you were little.

Phoenix: Yeah [smiles at the memory] She was never able to pursue writing seriously because she was always working two or three jobs to take care of us, to take care of me. I always hoped she’d be able to one day, and that she’d publish her own books. I can probably tell Aspen a few of them from memory, but how cool would it have been to be able to give her an actual book?

Dawn: That would’ve been amazing. Out of all the stories she told you, did you have a favorite?

Phoenix: Oh, god, um… if I had to pick, it would probably be this one about a polar bear name JuJu that dreamed of going to Jupiter. [laughs] I remember, we were learning about the solar system in school, and we all had to do a report on a planet. I chose Jupiter. But I had a really hard time writing the report, I’d never done one before. So, she made up this story about my favorite animal, a polar bear, going to Jupiter. It was really funny and full of facts about the planet. Not only did I get an A on my report, but I made her retell the story about a hundred times.

Dawn: Aw, that’s so cute. I wanna hear it. Will you tell us the story? Phoenix: Right now? Dawn: Yeah. Phoenix: Okay, sure…

✨Bonus✨

And, of course, Aspen got to meet her Great Uncle Julian while they were in Copperdale. She was a little unsure at first, but she warmed up to him pretty quick. 🥰

#ok really pausing until May now #except I might have another single scene to post next month #this one gave me an idea #and I might make little posts as they get ready for their wedding #maybe wips of the venue #or a poll to help decide on her dress #idk little stuff like that might be fun #can't bring myself to disappear completely lol #I love it here too much #I'm just not able to be consistent right now #ts4 #ts4 simblr #ts4 story #sims 4 #sims 4 storytellling #sims 4 challenge #starsignchallenge #starsignlegacychallenge #gen1 aries #aries pt3 #phoenix realta #dawn stephens #aspen realta

[ludaroace]

ok hi i KNOW we don't know much about madagio - so i'm totally grasping at straws here but nothing they have done has been really that bad, it's just the way they are going about it is not the best (pretty sure fit would love to know the truth buddy he doesn't need to be kidnapped for it) .

they just seem to be very anti-federation for an unknown reason having to do with their island (implied something really bad) and they want/need fit's help and don't actually want anything bad to happen to him and that when fit knows, he'd agree ? maybe madagio isn't exactly a good guy, but he doesn't CURRENTLY seem to be some mega massive villain using fit for evil .

into mega theory mode - madagio is from an "inactive" island, and using everything we know it is very much implied that the 2024 reset was not the first time an island was reset and that the islanders are a sort of experiment . i'm thinking possibly on madagio's island, the fed was running a similar thing but the islanders advanced too far/too fast for what the federation wanted and it was wiped, potentially leaving madagio as the only survivor and now they're pissed ? this also ties into the attachments thing - madagio knows what can go wrong and if fit gets attached and loses someone due to the fed, then their only source of information is compromised . it's also why they're pretty confident that once fit knows what happened to their island, he will stick on board with helping because oopsy ! he's got a boyfriend and kids and friends now cannot be letting them get deleted <3

still have no idea why they want player data or what it's going to be used for and it's kind of a weird want ngl but i'm assuming we will learn more soon

#qsmp #q!fitmc #qsmp madagio #totally ready to get proven wrong btw this is just what i'm currently thinking #i added in the point about advancement cuz someone brought up that that island/madagio seems more advanced then even the fed #and it makes entire sense that they'd see that and go well fuck we need them gone now #i actually think a lot more but that is running so far out of reasonable speculation and more into fic territory lol #so seperate post <3

[lover-of-mine]

I know it isn't fair...

#911 #buddie #911edit #buddieedit #911 on fox #911 fox #911 abc #evan buckley #eddie diaz #my edit #otp: you don't need to pretend with me #usercam #flashing tw #sometimes i have an idea #but since im making the gifs one by one i don't get the full effect of what I'm doing until I'm here #and they are in order and ready to post #and im like damn #anyway #i made this as photo edits #but ive been playing with animating the text too #and i thought this idea would be perfect for me to try it out #i will be hearing from my own lawyer because i wanna sue myself lol #what the fuck is going on my brain lol #but you get it right? its a promise they couldn't keep #and the scenes mirror each other #yeah im gonna go now this gonna go nowhere anyway so who cares #911verse

[not-the-blue]

world's greatest archer

#my art #clint barton #hawkeye #marvel #i missed drawing him!! he's my little guy #uh so i wanted to make a whole post about this but i guess i'll just ramble in the tags #my new year's resolution in 2022 was to draw every day #i think all in all i missed about a week's worth of days #which i knew was gonna happen and was ready to forgive myself for #when i met david aja at thought bubble i told him he's the reason i'm studying art now but that's only partly true #if there wasn't a whole fan community around his work i don't think i would've been this motivated to be better #i've said it before and i'll say it again. each and every one of you is an inspiration #idk what i want to say here #god i miss being a part of an honest to god fan community. like talking to people on tumblr and shit #could that be another 2023 resolution? talk to people on tumblr? be cringe? #anyway. i'm still planning on getting better at art so watch out for that #in the meantime here's a clint

[priceofreedom]

genuinely worried about the fandom's increasing toxicity after Rebirth comes out... like you should see how ppl are acting after seeing just a few leaks 💀

#this is concerning af but then again this fandom has always been crazy toxic #still. i'm not ready #some characters that usually don't get hate are getting MASSIVE hate now. it took me by surprise #anyways i wish people would just wait till they play the game before jumping to conclusions #like most of the leaks are taken out of context RELAX #when the game comes out you can complain all you want if there's something you disliked but doing it now just seems petty #my post

[alien-girl-21]

I hate what you're doing, I hate that it feels so right

Their bodies still twisted awkwardly and the cup holder jammed into his abdomen, but Jan still felt safe, not being seen by strangers, nor family members, nor bandmates, just the two of them locked in a safe that only he knew the combination of.

Jan kisses boys in cars, not because he likes to, but because he has to.

A little fic where Jan finds things out about himself :)

#i was unable to write anything else until i finishes this so have it #anyways i posted this instead of getting ready for uni and now i'm running late LMAO #let's hope my prof arrives late bc i have to act 🥰 #joker out #jance #alien writes

[tarmac-rat]

What does it mean that I want to be her? I used to write without a reason Is it for truth? Is it for ego? Is it for fame? Is it for freedom? (Whatever it is, I know that I need it)

@togepies, whose VP work and OCs I've admired from afar for a long time, very kindly offered to take some photos of Riley and I can't get over how stunning she looks on PC ;_: .

[[Set 1/4]]

Hair, eye, and accessory mods all linked here

#Cyberpunk 2077 #CP2077 #V #My V #Riley Aldana #Togepies I will thank you for your wonderful work until you get sick of me lmao (jk) (kinda) (ily) (thank you again!) #Go check out her other VP work and her OCs who I love and cherish and adore and go feral over!!!!!!!!! #I'm gonna be gaga over this set for about uhhhhhhh a year now so I hope everyone's ready for me to lose my goddamn mind posting these photo #Aldi speaks

[theloveinc]

plagued by thoughts of bakugo losing his mind if pregnancy makes you food averse for w/e reason

#i think if bakugo ever sees you wrinkle your nose at something food wise he's getting concerned #and like not like. oh are u okay. concerned but like ... full on . hold the phone. what did you just say??? #he suggests your favorite for dinner and you're like ... ehhh idk sounds kinda bad for some reason and he's almost calling 911 #maybe this is how u find out ur pregnant in the first place lol #he's so like. mad-worried about you not eating. nearly gets a hernia and is so ready for the fcking baby to arrive so you'll eat again #he has phamtom preeclampsia with you LOOOOOOL #honeslt y i was thinking abt this bc i was like. we all know bakugo likes to. cook but when does he have time to get better at it??? #when you start refusing to eat normal *ss things and he needs to make you something strange for every meal just so he can see you put #something in your stomach #but now that i'm thinking abt it can u imagine bakugo cooking in the dorms #.......my landlady just gave me a bunch of green oranges and i was like. ok guess i have to make marmalade i guess LOOOOOOL #and that's how i imagine bakugo #deku is like what are u cooking and bakugo is like. your rotten vegetables #anyway bakugo sympathy pains ON MY MIND #shii posts #gen #pregnancy tw

[letmetellyouaboutmyfeels]

Hiiii.

So, not one but two jobs just fell through. I'm currently visiting friends (because of course I get this news while on vacation) but as soon as I get back home I'll start applying places, but let's be honest, even if I succeed in getting a second job (yes, I already have a job, no it doesn't pay all my bills, welcome to hell) I don't know if that'll be enough to cover everything. I was really depending on these jobs, I was promised them for months. Ask any of my close friends, they've been hearing me chant "I just have to make it until July" since January.

And yet, here we are. So.

A couple months ago I decided to take the plunge and start up a Patreon to share my original work and help support my writing career as I begin the journey of self publishing my novels. But I know that some people only want to read my fanfic (and that's okay!) so I made a special $3-a-month-tier just for you guys.

(I do also have a ko-fi, but honestly, a steady income on Patreon would benefit me a lot more.)

If ten percent of the average reader count on my fics were to sign up for the $3, I could pay half my bills every month and I wouldn't have to find a second job. Obviously I don't expect that many people to sign up, but I hope that expresses just how much every little bit helps me.

If you sign up for $3 you get no notifications, no emails, nothing, you do not get bothered by me. You would, however, probably get those fanfics you've all been waiting on because I would actually have time to write them (I'm seriously worried I won't get even my Halloween fics done in time because I've had no time or energy to write them, and I started working on these fics in January). You can sign up for a higher tier if you want of course, but if you're not interested in my original work or pictures of my cats you probably want to stick to $3.

(For free updates on my novels and such you can follow me @lincolnchristie - my A Masque of Shadows Ao3 updates will be posted there, for example).

I've had to ask for help from the tumblr community before, and I hated it, and I hate it now, but this time I do feel a little better about it because I'm not asking while giving nothing back. I truly do hate self-promotion but every little bit helps. The appreciation and enthusiasm I've gotten from people on tumblr and on Ao3 in response to my writing the last few years has been truly amazing, and so I hope that I've created stories you love enough that, if you have the spare change, you'll consider helping to support me as I embark on my professional writing career and try to keep the lights on.

It's been a tough year and a tough few months for me and I'm sure it has for everyone reading this, too. Please stay safe and take care of yourself, and thank you for taking the time to read this. Even if you can't sign on, reblogging also really helps. Thank you.

#about mads #mads writes stuff #literally getting this news when I won't even be home for a week is just #I learned about the one job last week and just got the email on this one #so it's been fun #but yes I am working on the fanfics I just haven't had time while trying to pay my bills #and also revise my novels #so if people have the spare money and like my fanfic and want more of it #and/or would like to help me have the time to get my novels publish-ready #it would mean the world to me #I'm going to go disappear now so I can full-body cringe over this post in peace

[rotisseries]

chapters 51 and 58 of bloodmarked are absolutely CARRYING bree/nick/selwyn polyamory truthers

#selwyn is kind of a stupid name I realized as I was typing this. like I've gotten used to it over 2 books but it's so silly. selwyn #anyway. me disappearing for days and only showing up for like 30 minutes to reblog 3 things #and make a nigh incomprehensible post letting you guys know what book I'm reading now (read. I finished it yesterday actually. #now I'm rereading legendborn bc I'm apparently not ready to move on to a new book and also I forgot most of the shit from that book) #anyway I've been on the polyamory train for these 3 since I read legendborn in 2020 but I swear it's only gotten stronger #like what do you MEAN selwyn (magically oathed to protect nick) FEELS SAFER with nick around #THE SAME WAY BREE DOES. AND BOTH SELWYN AND NICK LIKE. AGREE ON HOW MUCH THEY LOVE BREE. AND THERE'S NO WEIRD JEALOUSY ABOUT IT #AND SELWYN CANONICALLY WAS AT ONE POINT IN LOVE WITH NICK???? #AND NICK LITERALLY SAYS TO SEL “I CAN'T LOSE YOU AND I WON'T LOSE HER”???? #LIKE????? #THERE IS NO WAY THIS IS YOUR STANDARD ASS LOVE TRIANGLE IT'S GOTTA BE AT LEAST A LITTLE POLYAMORUS #IF NOT A FULL TRIANGLE BREE SHOULD AT *LEAST* GET 2 BOYFRIENDS. SHE DESERVES IT #even if it does end up a standard love triangle though this is honestly a genuinely good one #like I genuinely like both love interests neither of them are weird or annoying or creepy about her #anyway. need book 3 out as soon as possible I swear to god I almost can't see how this ends in monogamy #I'm talking about the legendborn series by tracy deonn btw everyone #another arthurian inspired book series which if you saw my other post the other day I swear this isn't intentional #legendborn #bloodmarked #the legendborn cycle #tracy deonn #bree matthews #nick davis #selwyn kane

[atasteofholmes]

The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes: s2e2 ~ The Greek Interpreter

Tagging: @7-percent

#making 2 gifsets in one day #i'm unstoppable #granada holmes #jeremy brett #david burke #sherlock holmes #he's so handsome #and also ready to commit his own murder with all this red tape #his expression in the last gif just kills me #I love what Brett does with him #let me know if you want to be tagged in future posts! #granada sherlock #my gifs #holmesposting #I have to go get ready for work now T^T #but there are more gifs to come just from this episode #🐝

[stardestroyer81]

Happy 2024, everybody! To ring in the new year, I'd like to share my final art piece of 2023 with you, drawn just yesterday in about four and a half hours... the long-awaited first look at Star Tower, an arcade-focused AU of Pizza Tower first mentioned in the post I'd made showcasing The Fruitins!

I've made a lot of sprite art for Star Tower, so expect to see it roll out at a gradual pace going into 2024! ⭐👾✨

#⭐ Star's Art ⭐ #Star Tower #Pizza Tower #Pizza Tower AU #Arcade Games #Goro Mappy #Meowkies Mappy #Mr. Jack #Charley Chuck #Crazy Star #Sinistar #The Librarian Star Tower #The Fruitins #Sprite Art #Coolness #Y'all don't even KNOW how proud I am of this piece. I just had to get it posted as soon as I had the chance to!!! #Star Tower as an AU has existed since about March of last year and I'm only now properly showcasing art for it #Trust me when I say I have SO much art for it drawn. Like I pretty much have the entire cast decided upon #All I have to do is make a sprite for every key member of the cast and I'll post them either individually or altogether! #You all are absolutely NOT ready for Crazy Star. Once I post its sprite art I will NOT stop talking about it #Massive shoutout to my dear friend Kintsu for inspiring me to draw this piece #If not for them I DEFINITELY wouldn't have as much for Star Tower as I do now! 💙✨