#and obviously I dont speak for all queer Mexicans and maybe it's different in other regions since most of the ppl I talk to are from-

[diazpoems]

NO CAUSE I LOVE THAT VICTOR POINTED OUT THAT HE GREW UP IN A MUCH DIFFERENT ENVIRONMENT THAN BENJI. While white families can absolutely be homophobic (that's definitely not something I have any doubt about) the environment surrounding queerness can vary by culture and family, and Victor is so right about how much Benji's outlook on coming out and homophobia differs from his because of that. Admittedly I was able to see some of the points Benji's made, because while my dad did grow up in an insular Latino immigrant family and community eventually he was able to meet new people and travel and expand his worldview, so when I came out, he was able to take it better than most. But the rest of his (my) family would not take it nearly as well, and I was talking with a new friend visiting from TJ recently, and the way she talked about attitudes surrounding homosexuality and any kind of queerness in Mexico and the communities her family is apart of... was crappy, to be honest. And again, you can find plenty of that in the South or the Midwest (or, from personal experience, overzealous rural Northwesterners--Looking at you WA/OR), but it's just... different. I can't put it into words right now cause I literally just woke up an hour or two ago but yeah. Benji may not realize it but him growing up in a liberal white environment has given him a perspective on coming out and the gay experience that Victor's life contradicts and they just can't seem to connect with each other on that and communicate... yet.

#bear talks #love victor #victor salazar #benji campbell #venji #look at me writing whole ass essays with my brain all scrambled #and obviously I dont speak for all queer Mexicans and maybe it's different in other regions since most of the ppl I talk to are from- #-northern areas and from certain backgrounds #but yea #specifically about the queer phobia that she talks about seeing in her everyday life its shitty but normalized #and I also dont know what the environment surrounding queerness is like in PR or anything I was just going off Latine sources closer in- #-proximity to me but I can definitely ask friends about it #but my guess is that it def has it's similarities