#and obviously popular media and the way society labels/categorizes/codes things is supremely unhelpful

[yupuffin]

thinking today about my confusion on how to accurately describe my feelings for shigure and dimitri like wait... i’ve seen this before...

oh yeah!!

#'friends? uhh... or maybe you'd call it... family?' #listen there's a reason my tagline contains 'everything i do is ultimately rooted in wild adapter' #i realized it makes sense because this and no. 6 were my first major exposures to lgbtq+ relationships growing up #and the featured relationships in both emphasize emotional connection/intimacy WAY more than physical contact #add that to my mix of childhood trauma connected to physical touch #and BOOM suddenly i understand why my my major hangups with anything labeled 'romantic' is with physical contact #and obviously popular media and the way society labels/categorizes/codes things is supremely unhelpful #and how it's like THIS is what a romantic relationship is SUPPOSED to look like! #to the point that when you start having all of these caveats or conditions you wonder if it should still 'count' #rereading the way this is resolved in wa actually made me feel a bit better too #because society DOES have all of these labels and categories but #they're more or less arbitrary ways to fit things into boxes #and even without all of those labels and categories #the relationship or other thing in question still exists on its own unchanged in spite of everything #so yeah having labels is NICE but if it's just gonna stress you out finding the right one #then you don't NEED to use any of the ones society tries to give you #honestly i just appreciate wild adapter more and more as i get older for things like this