#and the history of wedding celebrations across different cultures is super interesting

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

the fact that society trains women from a young age to be excited about spending thousands of dollars on a dress they will wear in public once...feels a lot like cultural brainwashing 

#it's the capitalism stupid #american wedding culture is absolutely toxic actually #i don't know how bad it is everywhere else but here it's. hm. soul sucking #not a shitpost #rent a dress or buy it used or resell it later but please do not our toxic culture convince you this should be a normal and healthy practice #i've always thought instead of normalizing huge expensive fucking weddngs #(with all the financial and emotional pressure that puts on young couples) #it should be more normal to have intimate weddings with close family and friends #and then after maybe 10 or 20 years or whatever. when the couple has a longstanding stable relationship and hopeful financial stability. #THEN maybe do a larger celebration if they want to. #plus by then they will have accumulated close friends as a couple (friendship changes A LOT after your twenties) #they can invite the friends and found family they've chosen over the course of their life together #instead of like. your mom's cousin you met once 5 years ago or whatever #i think large celebrations definitely have their place especially in tightknit communities #and the history of wedding celebrations across different cultures is super interesting #but the Standard American Wedding is. hm. bad