#and third and lastly why not put that shit in the bisexual or pansexual subreddits where lesbians don’t have to see it

[thisismisogynoir]

Saw a Reddit thread on AskWomen about women who thought they were lesbians until they ended up with guys and if that’s not the most invalidating and paranoia-inducing shit I’ve ever seen—

#like #i’m sure that is the experience for some #but as a lesbian it is super duper invalidating to see other women talk like that #because it’s like #you may THINK you’re a lesbian now but eventually you’ll get with a guy as you’re naturally and inevitably supposed to #is what they’re saying for me #not playing the blame game—okay maybe i am a little bit #but that’s just how it felt for me #gave me a miniature panic attack like what if i’m not a REAL lesbian even though I am #and then they talked about how sexuality is fluid and can shift over time #if that’s the case then why don’t i see anybody saying they thought they were gay until they fell in love with a woman like? #it just felt offensive like all women are expected to like men #and if they had just said they realized they were bi or pan then that would be fine #but instead no they had to go shit on all lesbians’ very sexuality and identity with the language they used #basically the way they said well i thought i was a lesbian BUT I’M NOT ANYMORE I REALIZED THAT I LIKED GUYS AFTER ALL #just irritated me severely #idk if i’m making sense here #i’m tired of lesbianism being treated as an experimental phase in a way that other sexualities aren’t #like just let us be lesbians and be fine that way goddamnit #and third and lastly why not put that shit in the bisexual or pansexual subreddits where lesbians don’t have to see it #the fucking audacity i swear #and maybe also while editing the language so that it doesn’t invalidate bi and pan women as well as lesbians in the process #just geez luisa people #okay rant over #for now at least lol #lesbian #lesbophobia #lesbian erasure #homophobia #comphet