#and this is an unrealistic expectation

[iwasbored777]

Whenever Branch invites Poppy to sing and dance with Brozone he doesn't grab her hand just like that, he asks for permission first. He knows how much she wants it but he asks for consent. It's always "will you join me" not "you will join me". He really treats her like the queen she is 😭

#fictional men giving me unrealistic expectations #i just want what they have but it's impossible to have a relationship so perfect #i want ten more of these movies #trolls band together #Broppy #branch #poppy #trolls poppy #trolls branch #trolls 3

[handsomegentlebutch]

This isn't aimed at anyone but it's such a bummer that butches/studs/mascs are expected to bc aggressive and tops. What if I'm soft and subby? Then what? What if I just want to worship my femme at the altar and defy God to please her? What if I want to be used by her? Live to please her? Cook her favorite meals and hold her close to show her she's loved? What if I'm tender and look the most handsome on my knees? If I just want to follow my femmes commands? What if i want us to find home in each other? What if I want to be her stay at home husbutch always ready to please? What if i want to look up at her and see all the love ive always wanted and never thought i was worthy of? What then?

#butch speaks #i am drunk. angsty. and lonely. #ok to rb #i wanna know if other ppl like me relate #or if this is something thats unrealistic to want #lesbian #butch lesbian #butch4femme #tenderness tag #i am absolutely getting carried away here lmao #but. im starting to feel like i may have to behave like aomeone im not to find love #bc of Expectations(tm)

[gurggggleburgle]

on the one hand Moshang is considered a incredibly romantic and wholesome love story by demon standards is funny and I love it I also do think the idea that for an ice demon specifically Mobei-jun is a cringe sap and overly expressive and romantic to the point of being a freak to other demons is just much chucklery. I mean, this man out here looking like an emotionally constipated rock is actually on so many laxatives he's been shitting a stream of emotional pebbles for the past decade is just so silly. In general, I just think Mobei-jun is funniest when he is in fact just weird by virtually all metrics but nobody can or will say anything.

#svsss #svsss shitpost #scumbag system #scum villain self saving system #scum villain #moshang #mobei jun #shang qinghua #The idea that he's like a bleeding heart desperate romantic eager for love and devotion to a point that demonkind agrees the only one #weirder is their emperor but like that guy is half human on his mother's side and all that so what's his excuse. #idk #i just think it be funny #he's the perfect man for bs logic #give this man unrealistic expectations about getting beat up back by his husband

[opbackgrounds]

To be honest, the mere act of being kicked 100 feet in the air by a giant zombie would be enough to kill most people

#opbackgrounds #one piece #ch470 #it's not the fall that kills you but the force that launched you into space in the first place #I don't believe that man's been to medical school #Roronoa Zoro: Unrealistic medical expectations since way before Little Garden #hey it's been awhile since I got to use that tag #spoiler alert he'll earn it again at the end of the arc

[literalite]

shes glowing a bit but not in an offputting way right?

#as expected pale sims are not vibing with iris cas edition but thats a sacrifice im willing to make #main difference between iris and the last two presets ive but out is this one is way more saturated but i dont think in an unrealistic way? #also i might be looking for testers again. aha #ts4 #umi heiya #seph.txt

[soniclion92]

Shadybug and Claw Noir ❤💚

#all the fanart has made my expectations for the special unrealistically high im afraid #miraculous ladybug #miraculous #marinette dupain cheng #adrien agreste #shadybug #claw noir #ladynoir #shadyclaw #art

[shorlinesorrows]

Rereading aftg and being reminded that Neil and Andrew’s relationship has such QPR vibes to me for some reason

it’s something about building from the ground up with no set assumptions or expectations. choosing to exist together romantically and sexually but also as a Something Else that is just as important to them

something about the way that their relationship doesn’t fit into “conventional” boxes and never will, and how unapologetic they are about it

how they’ve probably spent hours sitting together in silence. Not touching or talking, just breathing and existing next to each other

how they express their care for each other through actions, rather than words

how they don’t say “I love you” to each other, because love has always been turned against them as a weapon and this is safe, their relationship is not something that chains them to places where they’re hurt. How they care about each other so fiercely and choose to stand together even though they’re capable of standing alone.

Idk their relationship is very special to me and I know it’s romantic but it has Very QPR vibes to Me Specifically and that is v special for my little aroace spec heart okay

#sleep deprived thoughts from whatever my name is #Listen #listen #it’s about the Intricacies #aftg #andreil #andrew minyard #neil josten #Y’know maybe this is just my brains reaction to seeing a realistic relationship (within reason) in media #After being shoved full with unrealistic untroubled relationships and romantic expectations for my whole life #But my point still stands

[sisterdanielstits]

i'm starting to wonder how i survived the hiatus. two weeks without phil uploading and 3 days since dnpgames uploaded and i'm here impatiently waiting for more

it's like i'm expecting them to make up lost time or something

#i think coming back right before gamingmas really put out some unrealistic expectations #dan and phil #dnp #daniel howell #phil lester #amazingphil #dan howell #dnpg #dan and phil games #phan #< for the phandometrics

[lovepollution]

Luke Kirby on Midge and Lenny [x]

#luke kirby #midgelenny #midge x lenny #lenny x midge #the marvelous mrs. maisel #luke please stop saying things like this and being so perfect and giving me unrealistic expectations for men 😭 #mine #tmmm gifsets

[itsbansheebitch]

How to Word THIS

I tried rewriting this post so many times. I'm going to try bullet points instead.

I think all of these are good/true:

From my experience as an afab person raised similarly to a boy due to my father wanting a boy, I can confidently say that the emotional suppression that men and boys experience on a daily basis is frankly, inhumane.

Parents shouldn't speculate their kid(s) gender/sexuality/etc just because their kid is showing certain behaviors/having certain interests that aren't stereotypical for their assigned gender.

Parents should allow kids space to explore gender/sexuality, but make sure not to push them into anything.

Parents should allow their kids space to explore gender/sexuality, but make sure that their kid is first and foremost SAFE and HAPPY.

Emotional suppression is expected of men/boys, but science agrees that emotional suppression is in short, BAD FOR YOU.

"Be a man" is often used as a slap in the face to keep men/boys in line. You can imagine this isn't ideal if a boy is reporting bullying in school or a man is trying to bring up unsafe working conditions.

A lot of women have trauma about men (including myself), but this doesn't mean that a whole marginalized group should be excluded from sports (We're not going to re-segregate sports just because some people have trauma related to black people, are we?)

Men & boys' emotions should not only be accepted but ENCOURAGED!

Black men's emotions have been demonized for CENTURIES. Make sure to raise an eyebrow when you hear a black man experiencing anger described as "animalistic" or described with any other dehumanizing language.

Stop expecting men to do things you don't expect women to do! If you don't expect women to chase CEO positions, don't ask why a man isn't a CEO yet! Just like how you shouldn't expect a woman to be a wife and mother by 25 if that's not what you're expecting of men. And if you are having those kinds of standards then maybe lower them because both sides and both genders are extremely unrealistic!

Men aren't given the tools to describe their emotions! If you are wondering what a man thinks about a topic, a decision, etc, give them time to respond and let them know they have time to think! Give them time to think about their answer. If they want (ASK) you can offer an Emotion Wheel or a few (metaphorical) Mad Libs for them to start their answer with.

Alexithymia (also known as emotional colorblindness) is a phenomenon when someone has trouble describing their emotions. They feel all their emotions normally, but they struggle describing them or giving them detail.

Normative Male Alexithymia is a type of Alexithymia. It is called "Normative Male..." because in a lot of cultures (specifically western cultures) it is normal for men to suppress their emotions to the point of having trouble recalling names of emotions or describing them in detail when asked.

Alexithymia/Normative Male Alexithymia is a BIG reason why a lot of men struggle in therapy. It is also the reason why I, myself struggled (to communicate my thoughts) in therapy. Because I was raised to suppress my emotions and not communicate my thoughts.

I truly believe that if my upbringing was even a HINT a SLICE a BREATH a WHISPER a TINY BIT of what the average boy's upbringing is like, then our collective, societal treatment of men and boys is inhumane and inexcusable.

I know any boy or man that makes a post even hinting something like this would be attacked. This isn't me being a pick-me, this is me telling you that my dad was prepared to raise boys, he got girls, and I got a VERY different perspective because of it. I'm telling you right now that if how I was treated was even a hint of what the average boy gets growing up, then we owe men an apology. I'm not joking. This is not satire.

People talk about intersectionality, but rarely actually NAME boys and men as being a part of the discussion (unless they're the "villain"). I think we should do so more often. They are ALSO getting the short end of the stick. (Expecting to be part of an "Atom Family" and work ALL DAY??? NO THANKS)

#lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #queer #trans rights #nonbinary #intersex #intersectionality #genderqueer #gender #politics #us politics #world politics #feminism #mental health #alexithymia #normative male alexithymia #unrealistic expectations #suppressing emotions

[theriu]

People who draw superheroes in super skintight outfits that show off every contour of their muscles and butts suggest that they (the artists) do not understand how fabric works or how uncomfortable it would be to have a permanent pants wedgie.

#Seriously #have you people NEVER had to pick at the seat of your pants because they got into an Uncomfortable Spot? #And you expect superheroes to work in those conditions CONSTANTLY? #unrealistic #also fabric does not meld to skin to the degree you are describing unless it is vacuum sealed or severely restricts movement #my general beef with superhero drawing conventions continues #stop drawing naked people and then painting them colors to call it a uniform #make fabric MAKE SENSE PLEASE #river rants #river babbles #Also Im not shaming most vintage comic artists who were just working within the limitations they had #But come on guys we dont have those limitations anymore #Let your superheroes breathe

[uncanny-tranny]

It's not uncommon at all to miss your abuse, to miss disordered behaviours, or miss when you were at your worst.

It's understandable why you might feel like you have no clue what to do - recovery is an uncertainty. It is unfamiliar, it is scary. It's okay to long for the stability of those dark parts of your story. You aren't a bad person, you aren't ungrateful, nor are those feelings proof that you cannot recover.

You still deserve to recover, however that looks for you. You don't need to run from yourself, you are not a net negative.

#recovery #mental health #mental health advocacy #abuse tw #abuse mention tw #having nostalgia for abuse/poor mental health is something people don't mention a lot #people expect you to run away from those feelings and embrace the holy light of recovery and joy #but that's unrealistic #i have so many nostalgic feelings for those points in my abuse and that's *common* #i remember watching somebody on youtube talk about them missing the 'bad old days' of their disordered eating #and it's like... that is how it feels. the bad old days are sometimes so overwhelmingly tempting #and we cannot shut that part away and pretend it doesn't (or rather can't) exist

[aethersea]

devastating to go into the tag for an obscure vampire movie I've been quietly obsessed with for years to find mostly gifsets of minor characters (played by big-name actors) and review blogs saying they didn't like it :(

@ everyone who made a post saying "I liked it :)" I am blowing you a kiss. everyone who made a lovely gifset or photoset of the cinematography I am tipping my hat. that one poster that said "bro did y'all just miss the Entire Message about class and race or???" I am shaking your hand with enthusiasm there was SUCH a message about class and race

anyway everybody should watch Night Teeth and revel in glitzy flashy modern vampires in LA with me

#finx rambles #night teeth #vampires #apparently the marketing heavily overemphasized megan fox (she has a bit role. she's in like one scene) #so that one's not on the fans #but I am sad about all those people fuming bc it didn't have a poly ending #girl this is hollywood? what did you expect? #invent it yourself? that is what fandom is for?? queer reads have always been about discarding endings and living in the liminal?? #(side note I love queer readings of fairy tales. fairy tales class was so fun. god I need sleep or something my brain is on SUCH tangents.) #frustrated by that one post saying 'the vampire-slaying gang leader spends the day after a catastrophe befalls #trying to get his shift covered at work? unrealistic' #bro he's working class. he's poor. he's gotta put food on the table. do you think your job cares about your personal tragedy #this is in fact part of the Themes At Play wrt class. believe it or not. #sad also about those reviews that are like 'eh it was mid' but I've never needed critics to agree with me and I'm not about to start now #I did think the gifmakers would be on my side though #the lighting in this movie??? #that whole opening sequence in the credits with the storytelling done through reflections in cars at night? #the color choices??? the lighting??!?!?!?!

[smiletohru]

#yet more unrealistic expectations for teenage girls smh #akatsuki no yona #manga #anime screenshots #precious onigiri

[hel7l7]

Sorry but why is dating literally the worst

#i mean he’s nice #but #he’s nice #and i can’t take it #and idk if i like him #and idk if i want a sevond date #but i do feel like i have to give him a chance #but i donT FEEL IT yknkw #but on the other hand #i’m used to such toxic man #that maybe expecting myself to feel smt #is very very #unrealistic #at this point #but i do think that i’d be able to sense some healthy chemistry if it were there #and i don #‘t think #i feel that either #what do i do

[firesnap]

The reactions to q!Wilbur have honestly been wild. I think he's the least offensive character Wilbur has ever created and yet there are people out there making it their jobs to call him a shitty person. What's going on here.

#like i think he's spoiled and a bit sheltered but that doesn't make him a bad person at all #it makes the situation he's in more interesting because he seems like a nice guy overall #just also existing with completely unrealistic expectations for how the world around him works