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uncanny-tranny · 7 months

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You know, I feel like other trans people might get this, but it's honestly kind of refreshing when a cis person has, like, undeniable tboy/tgirl/whatever swag. It's like when you come across somebody who speaks the same language as you and you only find out when they start speaking it, too.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #all this to say that we are existing on a rock hurling through space #and this universe is going to collide into another and does it all truly matter in the end?#a lot of this is based on ideas we have about what constitutes certain people and i think it can be a fun observation #so long as you do not inherently ascribe certain traits as being indicative of who somebody Is #it can be amusing when you're SO confident that somebody is a certain way until you realize how Wrong you were #the amusement for me only comes because it's like... 'you tried your best to box somebody and you FAILED lmao'#and in a weird way it's kind of comforting because it reminds me that we all come into this world with bias that Will be challenged...#...so the best thing you can do is recognize those biases and then try to overcome them through great effort...#...so yes maybe i did think that cis dude had tboy swag but. that's not inherently his problem you know?#it probably just means he's confident in his manhood in a way that reminds me of the trans men* i know and love #i noticed that in him and it reminded me of my friends who are trans so i think 'oh! maybe that's why he's giving off those vibes!'#so while i won't treat him any differently before or after finding out i was wrong i'm still going to appreciate the fact that...#...he and i are literally just Vibing on the same planet and we both don't have time for petty arguing about manhood #i'll acknowledge what inspired those thoughts in me but that is Not his problem and that's good and beautiful actually #i don't always mind the tboy/tgirl swag meme just so long as you don't treat it like an Inherent Trans Experience Only Trans People Have #just recognize where those ideas are inspired from and it's fine <3 #sometimes you will be Wrong and that's actually fucking neutral <<3 #anyway rant over i just think this is /generally/ harmless and fun #like astrology. sometimes you just look up your star sign without ascribing your Entire Life to it <3 #i think what i lot of people mean by saying a cis person has tboy/tgirl swag is just that...#...that cis person has an understanding of themself that comes from deep introspection that isn't necessarily expected of cis folk...#...but it is often something trans people do as part of our exploration of gender...#how is this the FIRST POST to reach tag limit... ask me for more thoughts if you want lol!

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astaroth1357 · 1 year

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Spoilers for the unlockable call "Let's Take Everyone" in the "Hidden Feelings" card of NB

Satan: Attempts to maim his eldest brother on the regular. Throws temper tantrums that destroy the House and leaves holes in the walls. Casually reads books about torture, murder, and mutilation. Probably one of the scariest demons in the House to talk to...

Also Satan:

-buys three tickets to a theme park having an event for a show he knows nothing about just because the brother who's afraid of him most invited him before to have a little fun.

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squishosaur · 8 months

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hey man. i'm just saying. why would we put inexperienced teenagers with over-inflated egos and obvious emotional issues into combat classes and make them claw their way to the top of their dorms and expect things to just run smoothly. who actually thought this

#the reason rsa doesn't have overblots is because they understand the joy and whimsy of life and friendship btw #LIKE. why is there no school counselor?? do you know how much time & resources & effort & TRAUMA we could have saved the students &#school from if ANYONE had reached out to riddle and was like 'hey are you alright i heard xyz and i wanted to let you know...' ESPECIALLY #since TREY LITERALLY TELLS US 'oh well here's the lowdown on her trauma this is Probably what is causing this'#or if someone sat down to tell leona 'hey! i'm rooting for you in ur magift(?) game! you're my fav player!!' AND LET HIM FEEL NOTICED #or if someone approached azul as an Equal to try to stop his plans. as a friend even. BEYOND A BUSINESS TRANSACTION #or if ANYBODY BUT ESPECIALLY KALIM was like 'jamil i think you should follow your passions and do something you enjoy today!!' or AT LEAST #let him know he was appreciated as a person NOT JUST FOR HIS WORK #'i know you're doing a lot today but i just wanted to thank you for how much Effort you put into this and..' etc etc etc #ERM.. IF ANYONE TREATED VIL LIKE A HUMAN BEING AND NOT A CELEBRITY??? or even 'hey i loved you in this film i was wondering if we could #do a play together or something..!!' AND LET HER TRY A TYPE OF CHARACTER SHE NEVER GOT THE OPPORTUNITY TO BE. and sing her praises.#if anyone reached out to idia beyond a 'hey the teacher said to come to class'/'get out of your bed and come to our housewarden meeting'#or even. IF ORTHO HIMSELF was like. 'you know it's not your fault... you didn't cause all of this. not really' OR SOMETHING #or if malleus ever got to experience a small firsthand loss AND WAS COMFORTED THROUGH IT. not just quick fix via magic. not replacing. just #GRIEVING SOMETHING??????? and wasn't feared by literally everyone #um. maybe the real twisted part is that all of this tragedy was easily preventable if we had a support system in place.#but idk. twst is a highschool. there's no support in real high school either. i'd probably overblot too if i could ajdjrjfinfdndjd #twst #chatter #LONG RAMBLE SORRY #yes overblots are essential to the plot. but also. do you know how frustrating it is watching the blot build up and sitting in silence.#I'M SORRY IK IF SOMETHING LIKE THIS WAS HAPPENING TO A GUY I JUST MET I WOULD PROBABLY NOT NOTICE.. but of it was my Friend or Housewarden..#I'D ASK BRO.... I'D ASK ... UGHHHHHUUUHHHH #not that anyone would notice if *I* was about to lose it tbh #speaks volumes about our society o think #OKAY NOW I'M DONE FOR REAL

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marypsue · 3 months

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Relevant to that last post: when you think about how, historically, textiles have been so profoundly difficult and time-consuming to make, the concept of things like shrouds and winding-sheets and satin coffin linings become almost unbearably touching.

#we made this for you #you'll never know or appreciate it #but we loved you so much we put all this time and effort into something that you'll just decay into #just to make sure you are covered. to show that you are cared for and respected and you are loved.#(and is that not the way of all things in the end? everything you love. everything you work for. will one day return to dust.)#(and that's not a good reason not to love or try anyway.)#anyway I heard the Band Perry's 'If I Die Young' on the radio the other night for the first time in like a decade #and the line about 'bury me in satin' got me emotional

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huiyi07 · 1 month

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Did anyone else like solangelo more when it was just Rick writing them or

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thasorns · 1 year

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But from what I’ve seen, he already tries and works so hard. - Cause he has you who always spoils him, that’s why he’s like this. — Parents about Waan

Working is not fun. If you have the chance to live your life, then do it. Work is not going anywhere. You should let it go sometimes. — Waan to Win

I’m not gonna stop you, if you wanna help. But I just don’t want you to give up on your dreams. Don’t want anybody to force you to do this and that. — Win to Wiew

Dad! In case you didn’t know, Waan was gone all night because he was dealing with the issues at the resort. I promised Hia Win that when I grew up, we’ll help each other to run the resort. But now, I wish it could go bankrupt. I’m also curious, if you don’t have that stupid hotel would you gonna be the old dad we used to have? — Wiew to his father

#between us #between us the series #oreo puwanai #zeystuff #gif: bu #listen so many texts and no one likes to read that much I get it... also this one will get probably what one like or so #but I feel for him soo much... he probably didn't want to study business in the first place he only did it to make his dad proud #yet no matter what he tries all the efforts he put into it to make his dad a tiniest bit happy doesn't work... it goes all in vain #being the first born already puts him under so much pressure and he probably never got to live as a child #(I didn't read the novel but being the first born also normally requires to be a parent to your siblings kinda)#his only escape from this hell where he can be at ease is to play. is the gaming world and even that he can't really enjoy bc of his dad #'childish'... like pls he tries so hard to make his father accept him no matter what. he works his ass off and that's not enough #we know he doesn't wanna work in this industry as he said to Win (quote in the caption 'work is not fun') yet to please his parents he do it #'since you were born...' - feeling quesadilla but the 'que' and 'illa' are silent #I'd appreciate if the caption stays on bc it's important (at least for me) for this set

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niishi · 7 days

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when it comes to mental illness, you can never please anyone. you're either mentally ill and do your best to not be a victim and to cope and grow, and then ppl act like you're not mentally ill and dismiss your genuine issues, or you make a big deal of it and harm ppl and yourself with it and then you're too much to handle. like what's gonna make ppl happy? what will make them validate your position in life? literally nothing.

#ive been medicated since i was 14 #and have heen suicidal since i was 14 #i put in so much effort to combat my mental illness so i can just live a happy life #where i dont want to die 24/7 #and where i can relax and appreciate my life etc #and bc i put so much effort in to coping and healing and growing #ppl just dismiss that im genuinely mentally ill #what do u want from me?#do u want me to have breakdowns and abuse people?#do you want me to make life hard for others and myself?#when will i ever get recognized for fighting so fucking hard for myself?#ppl only care when youre negatively effecting them and then #they use it as an excuse to dismiss your reality and hard work #idk man #im not saying i have mental illness and disability to be cute and quirky #im saying that bc ive been in and out of the doctors since i was 14 and have been diagnosed by #several different doctors all with the same diagnosis'#i have incurable mental disorders from taking medication that #kept me from killing myself but gave me massive dissociation #its not a joke and its not for attention #i don't even rlly talk about it unless i have to remind ppl that im not normal like they are #and stop writing off ppl who are good representations of strength and growth within their mental illnesses #we exist and we should be given more recognition so other ppl in our situations can see an example of someone #coexisting with their issues in a more healthy manner

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thegayneurodivergentagenda · 9 months

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hi hello pran autism anon here again!! i just watched ep 4 again and i noticed at the scene when pat comes to give pran his earphones, and lets himself in, pran repeatedly expresses his distaste at the fact for two reasons. yes, he doesn’t want pat infringing on his privacy or messing up his meticulously arranged living space. but it's the other reason that intrigues me when looking at pran through an autistic lens. he repeats that pat entered without being let in. he's very bothered not only by pat's actions, but also the fact that pat is breaking a social norm. as an autistic person, i find that i tend to feel uncomfortable when i see other people not follow social norms, which i feel is because i've had to consciously learn these and remind myself to follow them for years. i feel like pran is having a similar internal experience here, where he's seeing pat do something that isn't considered 'socially acceptable', which bothers him because he has a script in his head that he's built up over the years, and this doesn't follow the script that he uses to dictate what is and isn't okay to do, what does and doesn't get him acceptance from his peers etc. he then comments that pat 'has no manners'. i think this is a pretty common thing that many autistic people have experienced, being told we have no manners because we unconsciously broke an unwritten social rule we never learnt about. pran, in my opinion, can't help but project the rules he's learnt to help himself fit in and mask onto other people. it might be a very small detail to focus on, but it's something that really got me thinking.

thank you for reading my rant about literally three lines of dialogue!! hope you have a great day!!!

I love you anon.

I know you didn't technically ASK me to rant about Pran's relationship w his room but I have too much to say and I hope you're okay w that.

So

Pran and his room: from the lens of autism

1. As someone with autism, social rules and norms that we agree with are set in stone. So your analysis about Pat breaking a social rule makes a lot of sense. Especially when you see the other interactions at the food stall and music shop (you're not supposed to sniff people????????????)

2. It's also likely that he's very transparently present in his room. For people with autism, our rooms are our safe spaces and worst nightmares because they reflect so much of who we are. If they are messy, It's our mess. If it's organized, It's customised to our space. Rooms, dorms and other living spaces are basically a self portrait.

Which is why when Pat dares enter and sneak a peak at his barest self, lit with fairy lights and faces telling him how to smile, rituals along every curve and table, he feels scared. What if Pat notices his smilies and thinks he's still a child (he should have overcome the hyperfixation by now? Will Pat understand?) What if Pat notices his coffee stained couch and calls Pran on being an imposter who only pretends to get angry at messy stains. There's so many ways Pat could see behind his carefully constructed masks.

His apprehension from pat entering could be from not letting Pat see him.

And that's also why he holds the social norm of asking before entering so close to his daily functioning; revels in the safety of enforcing this rule rigidly.

[I sometimes liken this to the idea of a nest in the omegaverse where it's extremely personal and reflective of the person making it. I also love the omega verse so much because it takes a lot of neurodivergent traits and makes them seem normal and that's just another post altogether]

3. When Pat and Pran finally get their shit together Pran let's Pat change his room and make the space theirs. It's the biggest declaration of love if I've ever seen one. He let's Pat put up photos and shares his bed and doubles the Pillows and makes space for Nong Nao. All because he's ready to allow Pat in his space. Across the rituals. Inside his safety.

4. The fact that the most crucial of the moments (The Kiss, The Bet, The Ming) happen away from the safety of his room goes along with this and his canon OCD.

If you're living with OCD, safe spaces can turn into compulsions at the sight of threat. And the fact that he was so adamant on keeping the relationship behind closed doors felt a lot like stemming not just from his anxiety about his parents but also his imposter syndrome: It's a glitch in the matrix that Pat likes me back and we should not test the matrix lest it remind Pat I'm an annoyance that he rather not deal with.

If you have autism, the safety of your room provides familiar and clear cues that could be helpful if an emergency is to arrive (I could just start talking about the rotting food if conversations get tougher// I could go to my own washroom and pretend to take my time if I feel overwhelmed). These safety nets are not present Outside.

And it is through his autism that Pran shows his love to Pat.

He let's Pat break his rules constantly. Not because they don't cause him discomfort. They still do. But his love for Pat is just greater than that.

He will let Pat drag him outside. Let Pat post photos of him. Let Pat make a mess on his kitchen table. Go with Pat to an unknown room.

As Anon said, these rules and norms and safe spaces are all in place because of being reprimanded for being neurodivergent by the neurotypical system builders. They are precautions to avoid being hurt or being called out on the fact that they don't belong.

But Pran doesn't feel hurt in Pat's presence. Because regardless of if they are friends or enemies, they've always belonged together.

#hi anon i love you #and i hope you know your efforts are appreciated sm in this home #i cant help but feel like youre apprehensive about the accuracy of your analysis #but i hope you know that youre so insightful and fun?#all autism is different in its nuances and i love you for putting in so much efforts for our dear old pran #bad buddy #patpran #bad buddy brain rot #bad buddy text posts #autism #neurodivergent #ill wait for anon to become non anon but take your time bb #we have hugs for you!!!

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hiddenbysuccubi · 5 months

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"Why's it necessary to have transphobes calling X character their deadname-" To show exactly what we face. That it is ugly and unnecessary. To parallel their grandmum fumbling but doing their best. To show how I still have to hear my birth name in legal settings. To show that my mom isn't really an ally but is trying for my sake. to show humanity and that it isn't just easy A B C the character is This without even Trying. To connect with a varied audience. Why the entirety of fuck do you want it sugar coated and dumbed down for you? In a perfect world yes it DOESN'T MATTER. But for how often it does matter - IT MATTERS. It matters that I get to see this character facing the harship I have faced AND SHRUGGING IT OFF. It does MATTER that their family accepts them even if they struggle with correcting the pronoun they use. The Star Beast handled this correctly and I'm glad our LGBT rep producer handled this the way he did. I'm sorry that the younger generations don't appreciate this the way I do.

#Doctor Who #Sorry not sorry #The Star Beast #You have to appreciate subtext to appreciate when they break through subtext to just make it text #some of the posts I've read recently want to jump through a dozen hoops without effort or appreciating the mainstream backlash it takes #AT ALL #We won today #it's wonderful #Now stop discounting everyone who came before you to enjoy it #We WILL get to effortless text someday #Now stop belittling those of us who didn't get this when we were your age and discouraging those who can give us this now #Do we deserve better yes #But this is something huge for BBC and a newly backed Disney narrative #And remember not to be prejudiced and phobic to those who experience queer different than you or face being no better than the haters

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uncanny-tranny · 8 months

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Hi, I have a question I hope it's okay to ask here. I'm a ciswoman dating a transgender man. I know that there are a few things that he finds still difficult about being trans (but I don't know everything yet as we've only been dating for a few months). Lately I've noticed him saying some things that make me wonder whether maybe he wants some confirmation that I really see him as a man. Of course I want to do this for him, but I'm not entirely sure how. Do you have any tips?

I think so much of it boils down to being compassionate and direct. There's so much pressure on people in relationships to just "know" through divine interpretation of how to best love their partner, and there is almost no thought given about the idea of offering love being a continuous conversation.

I'm not sure what will "work" best for your partner to show that you see him and not a warped perception, so I really think asking questions about where he is at might be more beneficial, since you'll be hearing direct feedback. I know it can be hard to navigate through something you're unfamiliar with right now, so that makes it even more important that you navigate through it with the person in question.

Trans manhood looks different for... literally all of us, which is why I don't have a direct answer for how you can help your partner feel loved and seen as a man. Since it looks different for each of us, the things that affirm us and help us will all look different, as well as the things that make us feel less understood and hurt.

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #a relationship is basically a continuous conversation starting with 'how can i best love you?'#once you start lessening the pressure of Being A Perfect Partner All The Time you might notice that these conversations become easier #because you won't feel like you've failed at understanding or loving your partner. you will start realizing that both of you are people #and that people are complex and nuanced and our needs and desires fluctuate #it can be hard at times to navigate through relationships where two people have different experiences (trans vs. cis for instance)#but those different experiences can easily shape your understanding because you have to consider more viewpoints #i definitely appreciate seeing people coming to trans people to ask questions like these...#...but we are ALL different. if you met one trans person you have only met one of us...#...and your partner *might* be OVER THE MOON if you show that you are willing to make an effort and take notice of these things...#...because many of us have had bad experiences before and it can make you feel like what you are and how you feel just Doesn't matter...#...while i won't speak for him (your partner) i will say that he deserves to also know where you are and how both of you are doing...#...because you BOTH are in the relationship and both deserve to be with *each other* and learn *from each other*#i think that's what so many human relationships come down to (romance or no)#THAT is what makes a relationship beautiful... not this idealized 'ooh i can divine from the stars how they feel'#or like the idea of just 'knowing' how to love somebody and fulfill them. that is only a fantasy we tell ourselves...

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completeoveranalysis · 1 year

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Ooh! I wasn’t expecting this!

I suspected that Kohane would wish for her mother’s happiness, whatever that might mean, but she’s already far wiser than that. Instead she already knows how to unpack what her true wish is and find the steps towards making that happen first. So, instead of wishing for her mother’s happiness, she’s going to become happy HERSELF and use THAT to convince her mother, over time, that they can be happy without all the traps she’s fallen into over the years.

From that mindset I assume she’s going to wish away her abilities so that she can finally be happy? Though I wonder if Yuuko will help guide her wish around that, and try to help her USE her psychic abilities as payment to wish for a separate third thing - which will technically have the same result BUT ALSO something extra?

Only the best deals for Kohane-chan!

AWW!

Yuuko ;_;

#AHHH RIGHT TO THE HEART #Kohane thinks she failed her mother #And Yuuko immediately says that no #Actually you did everything you possibly could have done #And that mattered and still matters #And Kohane immediately tears up #AND SO DO I #xxxholic #xxxholic 81 #Not liveblogging the reservoir chronicle #Kohane #Yuuko Ichihara #Honestly just AHHH #THIS is all she ever really needed for years of her life #For someone to see and appreciate her efforts #To know how much she loves her mother and how much she was trying #To reach out and say Yes this is enough #This is more than you ever should have needed to do #WE DON’T DESERVE YUUKO OK

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fearotica · 1 year

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There is a birthday boy among us.

Hint: @carnivorekitty

#Happy birthday to one of my favorite content creators ever #Thank you SO MUCH for all of the work you put into making us happy #Thanks for answering our asks #even the weird ones #and for all the amazing art #Your efforts have been noticed and appreciated #thanks for doing a fantastic job #we hope to have many more years left with you

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fyodorloveclub · 1 year

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i dont think people realize how much work it takes to actually run/maintain a blog completely outside of any writing jgfdjggj pls be nice to ur fav tumblr fic authors

#like between creating/constantly updating masterlists + creating blog themes (both mobile and desktop) + purely just formatting/designing #fic posts + keeping up with asks + so much more #+ maintaining tagging systems #it’s genuine work that takes a good amount of time and effort #and obvi we wouldn’t do it if we didn’t like it/want to do it but still #pls be nice and patient with us jgjgkhjf #ok rant over goodnight my loves i appreciate you all

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melon-cream-enmu · 7 months

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I'm very glad to see notes on certain posts once in a while. It's...very reassuring to someone with like...catholic guilt beaten into them to see people agreeing that the things you make, create, fantasize, and enjoy do not make you a bad or good person. That they aren't what makes you a person worthy of respect and love and care.