#and when you live with someone esp in a partnership you end up picking up a lot of speech patterns from each other!

[theunembarrassedalto]

is this the year I finally, despite my lifelong resistance, get into pop music? stay tuned

#it's not that i don't think pop music can be good! or at least not anymore #alex aged ... oh probably 12-19 or so was definitely a little bit of a snob about it #but previously i have often been ... bored by pop? #but i'm kind of digging some of the stuff happening now! #obviously there's montero which fucking slaps #spotify just gave me kiss me more which is doja cat and sza (because i really like sza) #which is also really good to my pleasant surprise! #(also i'm not gonna delete all my tags to change this but. is the use of 'slaps' to say something is good AAVE?) #(I try very hard not to use AAVE on the Internet because i AM white and I know it's often appropriated) #(but it's genuinely extremely difficult because. i live with a Black person. i am married to a Black person who uses AAVE all the time #and when you live with someone esp in a partnership you end up picking up a lot of speech patterns from each other! #and so I think I've like. accidentally gotten a lot of AAVE that way and I. genuinely do not know what it is half the time #because it's just like oh yeah this is a phrase N uses that has worked its way into my regular vocab #and i don't want to appropriate it #i want to be respectful!) #(then i get to wondering about like. what is appropriation vs appreciation. #like. can i use AAVE if i understand and credit it as not my creation? like i do get that it's actually a whole language and not just #'internet slang' or whatever! #but i absolutely do not want to use it if it's disrespectful or appropriative to do so by nature!) #okay this was a wild tag rant my APOLOGIES but i wrote it all and it is genuinely something i think about #so i'm not gonna delete it lol. enjoy. all y'all following my blog must have a fun time #anyway uh. categorization tags incoming #personal