i just watched the beckham and gary cooking video and that shit was actually the gayest thing i’ve ever watched… 😭😭
I think about it literally every day of my life it is, as the kids might say, my roman empire
parts that make me feel Especially insane:
calling becks 'daba'
the interviewer asking 'do you think it's effeminate that he's cooking for you', gary, clearly worried now that people think it's effeminate: 'idk do YOU' and the interviewer going 'no.... I think it's... friendly...'
gary saying 'it's fine for him to cook for me just not on camera'
the interviewer trying to make the situation seem less gay by going 'do u often let your teammates stay with you' and gary INSTANTLY being like 'no. no. no. only becks. only becks.'
In case anyone somehow hasn't seen it:
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Lines from falsettos that fuck me up every time
Think of me around, sleeping soundly in our bed
I was sure growing up I would live the life my mother assumed I’d live: very Jewish, very middle class, and very straight
We can’t be sure when he’ll get better. When or if he’ll ever get better
“I’ll let you win Whizzer” “Don’t let me win” “….I’ll let you win!”
Do I love him? No
I love my dad. I love the things I never had
I’m staying here in this spot, whether you want me to or not, I’m staying
Once I was told that all men get what they deserve. Who the hell then threw this curve?
Do you know all I want is you? Anything you do is alright, yes it’s alright
We had fights and games. Marvin called us funny names
Don’t know why, but he looks like Marvin
You’ll be, kid, a man, kid. If nothing goes wrong
“Love is pretty often debris when you find what you find, then never, never, never, never, never do it over again” “I’d do it again. I’d like to believe I’d do it again and again and again”
You’re the only one. One, out of a thousand others. The only one my child would allow
All your life you wanted men, and when you got it up to have them, who knew it would end your life?
Homosexuals, women with children, short insomniacs, we’re a teeny tiny band
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There is something that feels inexplicably... straight... in a way that’s uncomfortable, stiff and also just unenjoyable for me, personally, about the narrative of “bravery and inspiration” when it comes to coming outs.
We all - who we have been there and come out - do know that there is an angle of feeling inspired. Sure. Of course. Knowing there’s others like us out there gives us strength. That can come from a place of fiction, when you see yourself represented in media for the very first time. That can come from a place of connection, when you get to interact with another queer person for the first time.
The arc of having The Gay One Of The Main Characters have their coming out and then, down the road, have other, minor characters come out too, and have them express that they felt inspired by the bravery of the Gay Main. I hate that. I hate that so much. Urgh, that just tastes icky to me.
It tastes straight to me. Because straight people love to imagine us as brave, because they often struggle to imagine us as just existing. Our existence must be brave. Our existence must be hardships. And they are, obviously do we face those things. But this framework feels so reductive.
It reduces the coming out to bravery, when a coming out story can be about so much more. Should be about so much more. We deserve to have stories told about so much more than just our hardships and struggles, we deserve to be more than just brave.
Why do the minor queer characters need to be inspired to come out? Why do they need to be so desperately closeted, so incredibly afraid to be themselves that it takes this act of bravery? Why did the author feel the need to create a fictional world that is so oppressive, so harmful and constrictive? That’s a deliberate choice that’s being made.
And sometimes, it’s a choice that makes me feel tired, to be honest. I mean, we can accept werewolves and witches being real and all of that, and bend reality, but let’s not get too unreal, we should definitely keep the homophobia.
Even in a world where we do keep the homophobia, the act of bravery of one singular queer character... ain’t gonna actually change that. Honestly, your choice here is worse than if you just... decided to write about a world where there isn’t any homophobia?
Genuinely. I’d much rather read about a world where we say acceptance is the norm from the get-go, rather than “and all the queers lived in fear, until The Chosen Queer One finally found the bravery to come out of the closet, and every other queer character followed them out of the closet, inspired by their bravery, and... everything was just dandy, actually”.
Because - because - there isn’t any homophobia here, in the end. Everything was just fine, in the end. Nobody faced any homophobia. You just needed the queers to be afraid until the Queer Main was “brave”, so they could all come out and realize that all the straights are actually really nice.
And that’s what makes it taste real straight.
Because the straights aren’t a threat. The straights are actually real nice! There is nothing bad happening here. The queers are being oh-so brave, but they have nothing to fear from us, we’re the good straights. We wouldn’t want to write about uncomfy things like actually bad straight people and actual homophobia. No, that’s going too far, we wouldn’t want to do that.
And I’m just kind of... tired, that just existing is enough to be seen as brave, and that the straight authors still need to feel comfy enough in their little worlds to not go too far, and that we do ridiculous shit like pretending nobody was ever out before the Queer Main. I’m just tired.
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