#any boosts and shares are deeply appreciated!

[mybelovedwoo]

choi san as boyfriend, please 🥺🙏🏻

choi san as boyfriend - headcanon

headcanon, romance, fluff, smut

gn!reader x bf!atz

wc. ~0.9k

an: this one was so much fun to write, thank u some much for requesting it. you can request headcanons if you want to!! if you want to be tagged in any of my fics you can apply here <3

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-he is the definition of "the perfect boyfriend" and I'm not even overexaggerating

-this boy is so sweet with you, he acts as if you are made out of glass, he's so gentle and caring

-the biggest cuddle bug, is attached to you in some form in every given opportunity

-he likes to pick you up when you hug, and you wrap your legs around him, and after that, you can't go anywhere, he carries you around

-he is the type of boyfriend who hugs you from behind while you pay at the cashier, or when you do something in the kitchen

-he loves to hold your hands, he just thinks it's so cute, he even pecks it every here and there

-he also loves kissing you, and he's an excellent kisser, definitely knows what he's doing, he's giving you butterflies all the time

-he loves when you hold him in your arms, he feels the safest there

-he prefers to be the little spoon, but ever since he got this big it's just impossible for you to hold him in your arms as you used to

-he's a bit sad about it, but doesn't mind it that much as long as he can hold you instead, he is just not able to sleep without hugging you

-he rather stays home with you, where there's just the two of you, sharing intimate moments, he's a homeboy

-gives you all his attention, you never catch him being on his phone when you're there, he thinks every moment with you is precious, and he appreciates all of it

-he expects the same from you, gets all whiny and pouty when you aren't paying attention to him

-loves watching movies with you, cause when he goes abroad he watches them again and he thinks of you all the time, it comforts him

-loves it when you sit on his lap when he plays video games, he always strokes your back with one of his hands, and you always fall asleep hugging him tightly so you don't fall off (although he would never let that happen)

-his texting you all day long, even when he's at work, he always finds 5 minutes so he can check on you, and can send cute little texts

-at the end of the day, if you can't meet up, he's calling you, because he can't live a day without hearing your voice, you most definitely fall asleep still being on the call

-he is just so soft, nurturing, loving and he cares deeply for you, he makes sure you get all the love you deserve

-he is very supportive, he open-mindedly listens to your views and problems, he wants you to know that you can always rely on him

-he motivates and boosts your confidence, there's not a single day he doesn't tell you how beautiful you are inside and out

-he remembers every special occasion, date, and fact about you, your family, and even your friends

-he can be quite moody though, every activity depends on his mood, one moment he only wants to stay home with you, and the next he takes you on the craziest date ever, like going on a rollercoaster in an amusement park or bungee jumping 

- he doesn't show his soft spot to anyone, he prefers to cry and get emotional only with you

-he feels that you are the one in the first month of your relationship, he is very family-oriented, so he's been thinking about having a family with you early on in your relationship

-he's really romantic, sometimes he just lights candles and makes a warm bath for you with roses and champagne, because he thinks you deserve it

- he calls you really cute names like, sunshine, bunny, or gorgeous, although, in front of his family and friends, he likes to call you his wife, even when you aren't married yet

nsfw +18!!!

-i think he's a soft dom, I don't care what anyone says

-he loves to control you, but would never do something you don't like, and he could never hurt you, his heart could not bare it

-his sex drive is crazy, you have sex almost every time you meet, and can go multiple rounds, he has a lot of stamina

-he's worshipping your body every minute of it, he says things like "god, you're perfect" and "I want to kiss every part of you"

- and there's definitely not a single part on your body he hasn't kissed yet

-respect and trust are very important for him in the bedroom too, he would never say something to you he wouldn't say out of it, and he makes sure you feel safe and respected

-he loves to make you feel good more than himself, sometimes it's enough for him if he gives you head, and he doesn't want anything in return

-something that is a huge turn-off for him is when he's seeing you being hurt, either physically or verbally, so that's a no-no

-he asks you every here and there if you are enjoying yourself or you're feeling good, likes to know what you are thinking

- he always starts off slow and affectionate, but after some time he loses it and gets more and more faster and a little rougher (as I said he has a lot of stamina and needs to let it out somewhere)

-he's not too loud, he just groans and moans a lot into your ears

-he loves it when you sit on his lap and ride him though, he always holds your hand and tells you that you're doing good

-he's so soft and sweet after, aftercare is really important for him, first, he likes to cuddle, and after he likes to clean up with you, maybe taking a shower with you while you cuddle and wash off each other

#ateez #ateez reactions #boyfriend ateez #ateez scenarios #ateez x reader #ateez smut #choi san #choi san x reader #san #san x reader #san reactions #san headcanons #choi san smut #choi san imagines #choi san reactions #choi san scenarios #ateez imagine #ateez fluff #ateez fanfic #san fluff #choi san fluff #san boyfriend

[hellowblush]

📅 jul 3 pick a picture [click keep reading for more] ⓒ hellowblush

"Take action. That is what I want my July to be filled with. Taking more actions. Another way of boosting our confidence is taking more action and constantly doing it. Today, we are going to ask the universe for suggestions on what activities we could do to boost up our confidence!"

🌷: (me notes: this is only for fun (duh) take my messages as light as a feather. if you think they’re do not make sense, forget about it and move on. another reminder, please excuse if i would commit any grammatical errors. peace out.) 🌷: Let us get started! Before picking a picture, I recommend you to take three deep breaths. First, you have to gently breathe in and then slowly breathe out. Do this for three times. Close your eyes for a few seconds then open them. Now you are ready. Pick now.

🌷: EYE (pile one) 🌷: Greetings my pile one! I am sensing that the universe is suggesting for you are simple activities like self-care routines. This may boost up your confidence. The universe wants you to focus more on your daily routines like brushing your teeth and eating at the right time. Are you currently in a slump or experiencing low energy? I feel like most of this group are recently feeling like they do not want to move or do anything. I just discovered the term “girlrotting” on tiktok and it is described as a moment where you are laying on your bed for a long time. I think some of you are going through this phase and I am gonna tell you this, that is fine. BUT I want to be honest with you pile one, this time you have to get up and get back on track.

I feel that if you keep track of your daily routines, that may bring your energy back and may motivate you to do more activities. If you start to do these small practices, you'd be surprised how it could contribute to your confidence. I hope that makes sense. You can get out of this slump.

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Please note that if you are struggling with your mental health, i think it’s time for you to to seek for professional help or do activities that could help you deal with it in a healthy way. I am also getting a message that music can guide you when you are feeling confused or directionless in life. Hmm, I suggest you to do music-related activities. I will emphasize this one because I deeply feel that music is a vital tool for your confidence. Universe suggests you to not simply listen to music but to MAKE ACTIONS using music. MUSIC AS A TOOL. For example, activities like dancing, singing karaokes with friends, vocal workout in the morning, playing an instrument etc.

-end of reading-

🌷: I am grateful that you read my content, my pile one ♡ Remember to believe in yourself that you could get out of this slump! I got a little extra gift for you, I channeled a song just for your pile. It is Me and The Rhythm by Selena Gomez and the part "If you feel you are the spark then come out of the dark" may kind of ignite your energy in a way idk. If you resonate with my words and my reading, please do like and share my content! If not, maybe my reading isn’t for you (sad but at the same time thumbs up because maybe it’s not really for you and you have used your own discernment own intuition. that is good!) If ever you feel called to tip, my paypal is: @doswonder . You can also say hi to me on my inbox! As a reader, I love it when people show appreciation for my efforts through sending me messages! Doing a general reading isn’t easy and it is a long process of trial and error. Writing + editing + channeling energies. Gosh, it’s a struggle but it is very healing and rewarding.

𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒, 𝓅𝑒𝓉𝓇𝒶

🌷: CAT (pile two) Hello Pile two. How are you doing? I think you already know what to do to level up your confidence eh. Let me guess? It involves taking actions that are in accordance with your purpose, correct? For majority of this pile, you people may be the ones with specified life goals and damn I know how much you want to achieve those goals. Pack your bags and follow your purpose. When you do things that align with your desired purpose, you bring out your confidence. You feel the most confident when you move forward for yourself. This is a very short reading because you people already know what I am talking about. *wink* Break a leg! -end of reading-

🌷: I am grateful that you read my content, my pile two ♡ This pile has a vibe of people that know how to manage and handle their own selves. Interesting reading, pile two! If you resonate with my words and my reading, please do like and share my content! If not, maybe my reading isn’t for you (sad but at the same time thumbs up because maybe it’s not really for you and you have used your own discernment own intuition. that is good!) If ever you feel called to tip, my paypal is: @doswonder . You can also say hi to me on my inbox! As a reader, I love it when people show appreciation for my efforts through sending me messages! Doing a general reading isn’t easy and it is a long process of trial and error. Writing + editing + channeling energies. Gosh, it’s a struggle but it is very healing and rewarding.

𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒, 𝓅𝑒𝓉𝓇𝒶

🌷: WOMAN (pile three)

Pile three, welcome to your general reading. Bold for me to say this in a general reading but all of you may have a strong connection with animals and nature. It is very apparent in the imagery shown on my cards. You may want to decorate your personal space with greenery. It may make you more confident and calmer, that is what I am sensing. You got a consecutive card in my reading which is awesome and fascinating. I am seeing that you are actually in a good position in life at the moment but here is the deal, there is chaos inside you. (If you do not resonate with this, forget about this or skip) You know sometimes we get this uncomfortable feeling after we achieved a goal. You may ask yourself things like "That is it?" "What's next?" The level of our dopamine may suddenly drop and we may be confused what to do next. This may be shaking your confidence about yourself. The universe is gently telling you that you do not have to overanalyze what to do next. There are no specific activities the cards suggest but they want you to trust yourself this time, you have endured and worked hard for your achievements. Remind yourself to go with the flow of your life right now. I actually didn't receive a clear response from the universe about what would best boost you up right now. Maybe the answers we are seeking will come to you at a right moment. Although our reading lacks exactness, I think you should give decorating your own space a try. A personal advice from me is that maybe you could say affirmations such as "I trust myself" and "I am confident and today I am going to trust myself" That is a wrap, pile three! -end of reading-

🌷: I am grateful that you read my content, my pile three ♡ You are going to be alright, pile three. No explanations needed, you will be fine! If you resonate with my words and my reading, please do like and share my content! If not, maybe my reading isn’t for you (sad but at the same time thumbs up because maybe it’s not really for you and you have used your own discernment own intuition. that is good!) If ever you feel called to tip, my paypal is: @doswonder . You can also say hi to me on my inbox! As a reader, I love it when people show appreciation for my efforts through sending me messages! Doing a general reading isn’t easy and it is a long process of trial and error. Writing + editing + channeling energies. Gosh, it’s a struggle but it is very healing and rewarding.

𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒, 𝓅𝑒𝓉𝓇𝒶

#pick a card #tarot cards #oracle cards #free oracle reading #spirituality #tarot reading #oracle #higher self #oracle card #tarot card reading

[doll-elvis]

did you like linda thompson for elvis? any insight to their relationship?

I recently got two asks about Linda so I thought I would just combine them here: warning this is long because as always I have too much to say 🤭

and thank you so much guys for the asks <3!! I really appreciate the opportunity to delve into these topics and have an open discussion, please share any thoughts or opinions y’all have, I would truly love to hear from you guys too

as for the first ask: this will probably be controversial but honestly I have mixed feelings about Linda Thompson, and it’s not so much over her relationship with Elvis that I feel conflicted about, it’s just some of the comments/posts she has made that have rubbed me the wrong way a little bit🤧

To start though I want to say I by no means hate Linda, Elvis loved her and there’s no questions I have for why he did- I think she is a really caring and nurturing person at heart. So if Elvis loved her, then I wish the best for her, and I try to live by this philosophy for everyone he loved… even if they do things I don’t like or don’t agree with

Also her book is one of my favorites out of all the girlfriends and it is genuinely beautiful (although I do wish the whole book was just about Elvis because I could not care less about Caitlyn Jenner lmaoo). You can feel the love and respect she has for him, and I will always admire how candidly she talks about Elvis whilst also being understanding of him and his complexities. Obviously Elvis was not a perfect human, but Linda writes in a way that really conveys her compassion/love towards of him even during the times when he was being quite frankly, an asshole 💀

I truly respect her for taking care of him the best she could, and still defending him to this day. I was honestly always relieved whenever the camera was on her in that Amazon prime documentary “Elvis’ Women” because she often set the record straight and didn’t allow for any sensationalized stories to be told about him

And one of my absolute favorite quotes about Elvis comes from her book and it’s when she said, “There is black and there is white, and then there is Elvis Presley”

As for some of the comments she has made (mainly on her Instagram), I cannot help but get the vibe that she is a touch narcissistic or as some of the Memphis mafia have said, “has a beauty queen personality”😖

Obviously I’m no psychologist but if y’all follow her on Instagram you might know what I mean. A couple months ago she shared a Instagram story that had a quote from David Stanley saying something along the lines of “Linda was the most beautiful girl Elvis was with and the best for him”

Now there’s absolutely nothing wrong with holding that opinion, she is incredibly beautiful and she cared deeply for Elvis, but I feel like sharing that quote had no purpose but to boost her ego. And David Stanley can choke for all I care, especially because some of the headlines he has been making lately

Linda also has a tendency to diminish the relationships Elvis had with other women, particularly with Sheila Ryan and Ann Pennington

(quote from Shirley Dieu about Linda finding out about Sheila Ryan ⬆️)

Linda was very young and in love at the time and rightfully angry about being cheated on. But at the same time I don’t think that justifies calling another woman a hooker, and that definitely doesn’t make it okay to tell everybody in the group that she was getting paid to be with Elvis, especially when it’s known that Sheila was the one girlfriend who demanded nothing out of him ⬇️ (y’all know I love Sheila I’m serious about defending her lmaoo)

She also recently made a post on Instagram where she shared some photos of her and Elvis and said this in the caption ⬇️

Am I too sensitive or does this rub y’all the wrong way too?? I wouldn’t call Sheila Ryan or Ann Pennington just “friends”. This may have not been Linda’s intentions but I find it disrespectful to reduce their relationship with Elvis to that, especially when Elvis cared so much about them

Even in the Amazon prime documentary “Elvis’ Women” she referred to Sheila and Ann as “dalliances” and also said the only women with any “holding power” in Elvis’ life was herself, Anita and Priscilla. But to name a few, Elvis almost married Dixie Locke before he got famous, he bought Graceland and intended to live there with June Juanico, he seriously considered marrying Ann Margret, he wanted Joyce Bova to live at Graceland (same with Sheila Ryan) and he literally proposed to Ginger Alden

Again, I might just be sensitive but that “holding power” comment totally rubbed me the wrong way. I have the feeling this is how she fuels her self-importance … by minimizing Elvis’ relationships with other women 🤧

as for the second ask: I think what caused the decline of her relationship with Elvis was that as she matured and grew up within the 4 1/2 years they dated, her priorities changed, and they no longer fitted to what Elvis wanted

Linda was pushing for marriage and by doing so Elvis was feeling pressured, and just from what I have read about him, that man didn’t want to be pressured by anybody

I honestly don’t believe Elvis ever intended to get married after his divorce with Priscilla, and despite proposing to Ginger, like many others, I don’t believe he would have taken the step to the actual altar. So by being very open about his affairs and wanting to be photographed with Diana Goodman and introducing women like Sheila Ryan at concerts as his girlfriend, perhaps that was his way of letting Linda know he didn’t “belong” to her and wasn’t planning on getting married🤧

(excerpt from “Elvis: What happened?” ⬇️)

This excerpt is from Albert Goldman’s “Elvis” so definitely take it with a grain of salt but I think it’s very interesting as it describes the course of his relationship with Linda ⬇️

In Linda Thompson’s book “A Little Thing called Life” she talks very openly about how their relationship essentially became “sexless”, and how she graduated to the role of caretaker as opposed to romantic partner. And according to Diana Goodman, Linda even acted as a third wheel when Elvis went on dates with Diana, and so I think by that point in the relationship Linda didn’t feel as threatened by other women because she knew her role in Elvis’ life: caretaker

This is just my opinion but I think Elvis stayed with Linda Thompson so long purely out of convenience. She was a woman who knew what he liked (movies, food, music etc. etc), she knew how to take care of him, and she had integrated herself into the group very successfully and got along with the people in his life, especially Lisa Marie. I have seen Elvis being quoted saying “I don’t want to teach another one” a few times, meaning he didn’t want to have to teach another woman how he lived, and how he liked things, he was simply comfortable with Linda because she knew him

But I think Elvis likely felt a little suffocated by her constant presence, which seemed to be the case with most women who he was with for long periods of time, and I believe that’s when he began pursuing women like Sheila Ryan, Ann Pennington and Diana Goodman. I also believe this is why he bought Linda an apartment out in California and a house in Memphis despite her living at Graceland: he was slowly trying to inch her out of the picture so he could do whatever he wanted with whatever woman he wanted. I forget what Memphis Mafia member said it but I remember a quote that said something like While Linda was out shopping in California, Elvis got with other women, that’s why he encouraged her spending

(excerpt from Linda’s book where she confronted Elvis after he began having affairs after the first year they were together ⬇️)

“once in a while I just need a little different stimulation, different company”

As for Elvis saying he could never picture himself marrying Linda, Ginger Alden’s book gives great insight ⬇️

Elvis could be very old fashioned about things so this definitely seems like a plausible explanation as to why he could never picture himself marrying Linda, she was likely too headstrong about it and it turned him off from the idea. As for flirting with the idea about having children with Linda, Elvis was very “obsessed” with the idea of having a son, and when he began dating Ginger Alden he also told her about him wanting her to have his son, and name him John Baron. So I don’t think his ideas of having more children was because of Linda or Ginger specifically, I believe he just wanted a son, and would likely tell whatever woman that he was intending to be with for a long time, his idea

if y’all have made it this far, thank you for reading <3!! I’m always open to discussion and just remember most of this is just my personal opinions so don’t take anything as the cold truth until you have done research and decided for yourself. I’m curious to read what y’all think about everything 👀

#thank you for the asks!! #this one is a doozy #linda Thompson #elvis presley #elvisaaronpresley #elvis #elvis history #elvis photos #elvis fans #elvis book excerpts #elvis asks

[s0ulryo]

ryo ryoo! congrats on 100 omg i hope u r having a wonderful day so far <33 ur event sounds interesting ngl👀

may i pls have a love potion with aged vinegar and perhaps a sprinkle of cinnamon feathers + prompt #15 with dottore (genshin)?

♡˚✎ˊˎ- Pining Disasters with Il Dottore

[Dottore x Reader] Potion Type: A Love Potion (romance) with Aged Vinegar (pining/flirtation) and Cinnamon Feathers (attraction/protection) [Fairy Wings are also included (headcanons – default format for the event)]! Prompt – #15 - “Why are you doing this for me?” “You know why.” ‘Yeah, but I’d like to hear you say it”

Synopsis: Mutual pining with Il Dottore. Tags: Fluff, slightly domestic, possibly ooc, soft headcanons Notes: us 🤝loving dottore. not proofread. writing this i got an ad from redecor (?) saying "oh no can you do better" :SOBBING:,,, SORRY, THIS IS KINDA SHORT #WRITERS BLOCK. THANK YOU FOR BEING A REQUESTER IN THE EVENT &lt;33.

Thanks for participating in the event!

(Reader is always gn unless specified otherwise.)

What a lovely combination of two frustrating things; pining and Dottore. 

Flirting with Dottore is such a massive headache. He either doesn’t understand the comment you made (primarily due to the severe social rejection he has faced from most people) or he will analyze it too deeply. 

“The Cicin Mage back there called you a snack — but if anything you’re a full course meal haha.”

“[Name] are you a cannibal?”

He’d understand your attempts to ‘woo’ him, and he’ll be super smug about it. It gives him such a massive ego boost to the point you can see him radiating with confidence. 

He believes that there's an odd charm to you. After all, to attract attention from someone like him you have to have something special about you. 

He’s needy — whiny too. He isn’t afraid to voice his opinions if he’s aware of the feelings you both share mutually. 

He gets jealous quite easily. You are the only person who hasn’t treated him like a complete asshole so he’s a bit possessive and protective over you. 

He isn’t the aggressive possessive type though, he's the sad overthinking type. Unless his jealousy sparks from someone he doesn’t like, then he becomes the whiny, clingy, and evasive type. All he really wants to do is be around you and protect you even if you can protect yourself. 

He likes it when you sit in his lab and help him with his experiments, but if you choose not to help him with his experiments he can settle for you just being around him. 

He’s a bit dense when it comes to you flirting with him, but he is absolute shit at flirting. He’d either forget what he was going to say, say it wrong, or end up directing an insult at you. 

“Ah [Name], I like your shirt — it almost fits you.”

“Dottore what the fuck is that supposed to mean?”

He’d be so confused after that. He might even suck up his pride and ask Pantalone what he did wrong. 

Dottore also thinks he’s super slick about his feelings for you. He thinks he’s subtle when he dotes on you, giving you almost anything you want or need. He also stares at you a lot when you aren’t facing him; he genuinely thinks you don’t notice when he is staring at you. 

Any observer would question your safety though. They would be extremely confused by his change in demeanor but mortified by the way his eyes follow your figure. They would probably say a prayer for your safety and avoid you at all costs. 

He’d pick up more domestic roles for you. Shopping, cooking, basic date night stuff — if you really want it, he’ll do it…That doesn’t mean he’s good at it though. He’s a sweetheart with psychopathic tendencies and an inability to cook anything that needs to be heated.

“Dottore please stop cooking for me, I appreciate the effort but I don’t like coming to your house to help put out a fire — Why are you doing this for me anyways?”

“You know why [Name].”

“Yeah, but I’d like to hear you say it”

He kicked you out of his home after that; but don’t worry, he decided that he will just goes to yours instead. 

#s0ulryo #s0ulryo writes #s0ulryo.100 #s0ulryo’s soul philter event #writing event #genshin impact x reader #genshin x reader #geshin impact #genshin impact headcanons #genshin headcanons #il dottore x reader #dottore x reader #il dottore #il dottore genshin #il dottore headcanons #dottore headcanons #dottore #dottore genshin #dottore fluff #s0ulryo asks

[tavyliasin]

The Highs and Lows of Fandom Creation

Hello darlings~ It has been a little while and this one has been on my list to get to for a while, and with the Baldur's Date Valentine's Fanworks event soon to draw to a close it seems appropriate to start preparing ourselves for the cycle of what happens when we release our works into the wild. So without further ado, our latest essay~

The RollerCoaster of Emotion That Comes With Being A Creative In Fan Spaces (FanArt, FanFiction, Cosplay, Photography, Music, and So Much More) ((Another CallOut Essay Prepare To Be SEEN)) (((Also I Have Some Coping Techniques Here Too!)))

As usual with my essay pieces I will be making plenty of use of the headers to divide topics, and I fully welcome any thoughts and feelings in the comments. Whilst I am really only in the FanFic side, and a focus on Baldur's Gate 3, I do intend to make this essay inclusive of the trials and tribulations that we all tend to face in making and sharing fanworks of all kinds and through all fandoms. The more people I speak to, the more it seems to be a universal experience, so hold on to your hats it's a bumpy ride! The first part will talk about the Rollercoaster itself, the how and why behind it all, and the second will be around how to cope with it. For readers and appreciators of fan content, I urge you to have a little look too, and at the end I will add in some ways you can help support your favourites too~

Creatives Are Emotional Beings

Starting off with the obvious callout - most of us are. We feel things deeply, and that emotion can often be an incredible driving force behind our works. Whether we're creating around things we've experience, being inspired and influenced by our current emotions, or drawing on our well of imagination to work out what characters might feel (and often more importantly how/why they feel that way), emotion is a strong part of the process.

This can be an incredible strength! Tapping in to the deeper parts of ourselves, our experiences, and the emotions at our cores, can bring out the very best in our works across all creative formats. It also tends to help our audiences engage too, as they recognise their own emotions mirrored in the works.

The Downside to Strong Emotion - The Rollercoaster Effect

This chart was initially drawn up based on writing, but truly after speaking with a few beloved Discord friends it was quick to see that this easily applies to art as well, so I'm going to go over this slightly differently to the initial plan.

The Start Of Every Ride

We begin usually around a neutral baseline, or maybe a little below if we haven't created in a while, perhaps we might start higher than baseline with the rush of an exciting new idea. Either way, the first part of the project tends to go up in mood very quickly when we share those early unfinished parts.

For writers this might be a beta reader or sharing a sample of the work as they're still writing as a teaser, artists might see this as their initial sketch or linework stage if they're sharing progress and teasers too. Cosplayers could be the first part of a build, musicians sharing a few bars of the melody - whatever it is, that first little positive boost that says Keep Going is a powerful one.

But what happens next? Well, you still have more work to do! That initial boost and confidence can drop down to a slump, especially if it's taking longer to complete than you thought it would, and double that if something goes wrong that needs to be changed or fixed.

You may, hopefully, find it begins to rise as things start to come together again and that finish line in sight, but then...

I Finished Making The Thing, Now What?

Well, first you're going to feel that massive surge of satisfaction from completing the thing. Sometimes a dopamine rush in the brain, and all that excitement of "Finally I get to share the thing I worked so hard on! It's done!" So, off you go, you post it. You share the links, maybe drop them in some Discord servers, other social media...and then, often very quickly, it hits you.

Post Publishing Drop

Those of you in the convention and event scene might also know this feeling as "Con Drop", which can take a little longer to manifest. Post Publishing Drop hits quite quickly. Sometimes it might take a few hours, but other times it starts almost within minutes of posting as all that rush of energy finishing and publishing is just...gone.

If you're lucky, you might get some quick and early feedback, especially if you're a well known or popular creator, but I imagine even those of you who tend to get very high engagement can feel a lot of this too so I don't mean to exclude any of you in any way at all~ So what is it? What's happening? WHY?!

Well darlings all that adrenaline is wearing off and realistically you're not likely to get that creative feedback and validation instantly. So that wonderfully powerful emotional heart of yours is going to crack a little. It won't last, it won't stay this low, but good gods that lack of engagement and positive reinforcement can be devastating.

The first engagements you get - kudos, likes, reaction emotes on a Discord post - they may be enough to boost you right back up to your baseline or even a little above, until the worry creeps back in again. And I know that it does, clawing and slithering in the back of your beautifully creative mind whispering those horrible lies:

Why isn't this getting the reaction I hoped for yet? Is this work not as good as before? Have people stopped liking me? Is the website/platform hiding my work? Have I upset people somehow in ways I can't even see?

Then Back Up We Go, And What Goes Up...

Hopefully those voices don't get a chance to be too loud for too long before you see more of that engagement. Maybe it's a heartfelt comment from someone, or a share from someone you respect, or just a little surge of interaction in general. You're back on top, darling, your creative heart is soaring, finally your work is being seen in a way that reminds you why you put in all that time in the first place!

And each time, the high wears off again, with a drop, though the extremities of each is likely less and less as time goes on. Unless, of course, we make one little mistake and the gradual confidence build comes crashing back down...

The Perils Of Comparing

Sometimes this might be looking at someone else's work, seeing a similar style or similar topic get far more engagement than your own. It can be really hard not to feel discouraged by this, and falling into that trap of questioning where you're "going wrong" can lead to absolute agony - I urge you to do your best to move away from this as soon as you notice the feeling. I'll cover some proper techniques later though, I promise!

The other trap with comparison can be looking at your own past works, and over-analysing why some pieces never got the same love and appreciation as others. Picking it apart to find what you can do better is not as wise a plan as it seems for one simple reason:

Over half of this is down to pure chance!

It might be the time of day it was posted, or just one or two people seeing it and deciding to share it on that gives a work a massive boost to interaction and engagement. Maybe a work was lucky enough to get shared in a prominent community by one of the members, or even had someone with a huge following give it a boost.

At the end of the day, there seem to be very few ways to predict this. Of course there are some characters, topics, art styles, writing tropes, etc that will have a tendency to get more love from their respective fanbases - that's how popularity works - but there is no guarantee that, for example, two portraits of the same character in similar styles by different artists will have the same levels of engagement and "success". The main person you should be aiming to please with your own work is yourself~ After all, when working on it you will be the one going over it again and again, knowing every detail in and out, if you don't love the subject of those details your less likely to even reach that finish line~

And It All Begins Again

At the end of the cycle there's often one last spike up. Maybe it's a comment or interaction from someone who truly felt the depth of meaning in your work as you hoped it would, or you realise that it has done better overall in the numbers, or most often you get that creative surge of a shiny new idea that calls to you with that familiar siren song, promising the high of satisfaction and sweeping the memory of that Post Publishing Drop under the rug all over again so you won't see it coming when you trip on it.

How Do We Get Off This Ride? Where's The Safety Bar?

Darlings, be honest, you didn't want to stop. You still don't. That's why you're still right here, reading this with me. Your cycle might take a day, a week, a month, or you may go through the whole thing in a matter of hours.

Riding The Waves

The first way to begin coping is to prepare. Know yourself and how you're likely to feel, and plan ahead for it. If you know the drop is coming, you can try to avoid it, or deploy distress tolerance when it feels too much.

On a very simple level, this can be reminding yourself that the lows do not last, and those highs will still be there. You might even be tempted to try to regulate the highs as much as the lows, to bring everything a little closer in to the baseline throughout the cycle.

Distress Tolerance techniques can be important to practice when you're feeling close to your baseline and calm so that they're easier to turn to when you're feeling that low hit. There are lots of things that work for different people, so it might be trial and error - largely you're looking at relaxation techniques, distraction from the source of the distress, and/or community support.

You Can Rely On The Community!

It is ok to ask for help! You can ask people for reassurance, directly ask for feedback, or even just talk over how you feel with other creators and find out how they're handling things. Sometimes just knowing you're not alone and that your feelings are real, valid, and matter can be a real boon - that's why I'm here, spending a couple of hours putting all of this into words as best as I can for you all. I've felt this cycle too many times, but the more I talk about it with other fic writers the more I feel we are connected and that I'm not just losing my marbles over nothing~

We are human, we have emotions - strong ones, remember? - and there's nothing wrong with that at all!

There is nothing wrong with having emotions and experiencing them!

Knowing When To Step Away

If you know you're more likely to have a swift drop from lack of quick feedback, it's a great idea to plan to step away from socials as soon as you're done. Have an activity planned, or do it all write before bed so you can switch off and go to sleep. Turn off those notifications so you aren't fussing over each one of them as they come in and don't go back for a while.

Allow a realistic amount of time to pass for people to see and engage with your work before you worry it is invisible!

The Next Shiny Idea

Conversely, if you're feeling too much of a creative itch, then as soon as you're done sharing move right on to starting the next project. Let the initial surge of energy from completing and sharing something be the driving force to kickstart the next great adventure! That way you're thinking more about the new work, the sparkling allure of a fresh idea, rather than fixating on the success of the last.

Cashing in on that adrenaline rush to make a good head-start can boost you right to that early feedback stage too, then if you're really lucky when you hit the first drop-off you'll have the positive engagement from the last work to boost you back up, so in some ways you're overlaying your graphs to balance them out with each other.

Naturally this only works if you have the time and energy to do so. It's also important to know when to take breaks to avoid burning out.

General Mood Boosting Ideas

These might not work for everyone, but here are some things to try when you're in one of those lows. A lot of this may be trial and error and knowing yourself best, so treat this as a few things that may or may not be effective rather than Lia's Super Snake Oil Cure For Everything (you have to buy that from me separately, it's super expensive but it is delightfully cherry and cinnamon flavoured~)

Check in on your basic needs. Drink, food, meds (if applicable), sleep/nap, caffeine (if you usually have it), shower/bath/hygiene needs (even if just a quick freshen up it's better than nothing), fresh air/outside time (if possible), exercise/physical movement (if you're able to), social needs (can be in person or online, any social interaction/support)

Music can be a powerful mood tool. Sometimes it's cathartic to listen to music that matches your current mood, but other times it is better to listen to music with the mood you want to feel.

Media from the fandom, like the book/film/game/etc that you're making fanworks for - return to the thing that inspired you to create and remember all the things that you loved about it in the first place.

Look at other fanworks but be very cautious! Do this for inspiration, to look at things you do and don't like in other pieces, but do not do this if it will be likely to cause a mood drop for you.

Do something different and change up your routine. Something entirely new or something you haven't done for a while.

Try something small, not connected to a large piece. A few sketches, doodles, make a meme, write a few short lines of dialogue or a brief scene. Share something with far lower stakes for a little boost.

Talk to others in the creative community and have a bit of fun, maybe try some games together, whatever you like!

I'm Not A Creative, How Can I Help?

This also counts for creatives who want to support each other, too! Of course I will put the caveat that I do understand that not everyone is comfortable visibly interacting with spice and that's fine~

Drop a like or kudos if you enjoyed the piece, it takes a second and means the world~

Leaving a comment, even a couple of silly words of "I loved it" is great!

Leaving a longer comment, picking out your favourite parts? That is the kind of boost that lasts weeks darlings it really does.

Sharing the work is also a big boost, whether publicly or privately to friend/fan groups, but especially when sharing art/images please share the link with it not just the image or a screenshot~ let people find and appreciate the artist.

Follow or Subscribe or Turn on notifications if you really want to see more of their work, then you can interact sooner and give that much needed boost~

Try to be patient, especially with longer or higher effort works. Expressing excitement is a boost, but just be careful you're not putting too much pressure on the creator. We do have things going on behind the screen that can delay our plans at times.

Consider dropping an interaction on something else, or check in on how they're doing in general - a little kindness outside of just the works being produced can be a boost too!

The Grand Finale of the Rollercoaster

Thank you for staying with me to the end darlings, I know this was likely a bit of an emotional ride, but please do drop in some comments or reblogs with the other things you experience and how you handle the emotional whirlwind of being a fan creator. Always remember, you are valued for more than just what you can produce, your works are adored but the person behind them is worth so much more and always will be. Look after yourselves, I love you dearly~

#fanfic #fanart #fan creations #support for creatives #fanfic writing #ao3 writer

[twinkle-with-stars]

Hiii!! I hope you’re doing well. May I know your thoughts on these synastry placements (it’s for me and my bf btw)

- sun conjunct moon (I’m the sun)

- sun conjunct venus (I’m the sun)

- venus sextile moon (I’m the moon)

- Mars sextile moon (double whammy)

- sun square venus (I’m the sun)

You don’t have to answer it all cause it’s quite a few 😅 Thank you in advance ~~ 💓

Heyy💜

Okay soo I'm a bit confused here you listed two aspects namely "sun conj.venus" and "sun square venus" where you say you're the sun person in both the cases that's not actually possible but I think you made a mistake while sending this ask so I'll write for both the aspects.

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Synastry aspects 💕

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SUN CONJUNCT MOON - this is a beautiful aspect pretty strong and effective the moon person feels noticed by the sun person generating a feeling of validation which results in boosted confidence of the moon person and personality development effected by and in presence of the sun person, the sun person feels heard here like their rawest emotions are understood and appreciated this also brings a feeling of being cared for and nurtured by the moon person involving some sort of emotional healing.

SUN CONJUNCT VENUS - sun person's basic personality and mannerisms fit the ideal type of the venus just right but the sun also needs to be gentle with the venus person if sun person exhibits any sort of aggression towards the venus person it will push the venus person away, the entry of sun person in the venus person's life will also help in improvement of venus person's fashion sense and self value, these two could make good money together. The sun person enjoys the gentle, love, care and affection given by the venus person while the venus person enjoys the great attention showered by the sun person.

VENUS SEXTILE MOON - it's an eazy breezy beautiful aspect to have in synastry both people enjoy each other's company showing affection and sharing emotions comes easy here, they may even playfully flirt with each other, their emotions and thoughts about eachother are usually harmonious and friendly, venus pours lot's of love, affection and gifts on moon person while the moon takes care, nurtures and understands the venus person really deeply bringing a feeling of comfort to them.

MARS SEXTILE MOON - the moon person is the big calming energy and target to the burning Passion of the mars person, the mars typically takes the role of the natural protector of the moon person wanting moon's gentle and sensitive self not to be hurt by anyone which, wishing to be the moon's secret keeper which can look like jealousy, possesiveness and assertion, things are harmonious and sexy here the moon person enjoys all the attention and care recieved by the mars person, the mars person here might playfully make sexual jokes( only when moon is comfortable) which in the turn make moon blush and happy.

Note: since this is a relationship I wrote the meaning in respect of that, it doesn't have to be sexual in other charts where the relationship is platonic.

SUN SQUARE VENUS - venus loves sun, so does sun but at times in order to impress venus sun likely tries to show off their assertive and more combative side which can be seen as ego, arrogance, rudeness and cockiness by the venus person, at times venus might feel threatened by the sun which pushes venus away a lil and in order to get closer sun shows off even more to attract venus but that in return truns off venus even more venus struggles to understand sun's need of attention and love which in turn makes sun a bit frustrated resulting in arguments, this clearly shows the lack of co-ordination and the gap in delivery of emotions the passiveness of this aspect makes it hard for the two to communicate, the two should be open and honest here to avoid such misunderstandings in the relationship.

Hope you like it💫

#my asks #my asks-t #twinkle with stras #moon venus synastry #synastry aspects #synastry #venus sextile moon #sun conjunct moon #sun square venus #mars sextile moon #astrology tumblr #astrology #astro notes #astro observations #astrology notes #astrology observations #aesthetic #zodiac #kpop #fotd

[synthetic-blanket-hairs]

Please signal boost!!

I am writing a book with a historic setting similar to the USAmerican west during the railroad expansion era. I would like to put significant focus on Chinese-American and Irish-American migrant workers, as well as various regional Native American cultures in this book. Although this book is a work of fiction, the country and setting is very much intended to be an analog for the real history of America. I want to shed more light on the stories of people who are largely forgotten in the modern accepted narrative of the time.

I’m doing a lot of research in order to represent these cultures as accurately and respectfully as possible. But I would really appreciate some help! I want to hear from people who have roots in the real story of the American west.

If you have Chinese lineage, Irish lineage, or Native American lineage (especially Monache, Paiute, Shoshone, Umpqua, Klamath, Piegan, Kainai, or Siksika) and would like to share your thoughts, input, stories (especially any family history!!) or just offer peer-review on relevant excerpts from the novel, I would be deeply thankful.

If this post doesn’t apply to you, please consider reblogging so it gets more traction and reach. Get in touch with me at [email protected] if you feel compelled! Thank you so much for reading. 💙☀️

#Josie hollers #please reblog #research #Solus

[yoonia]

https://www.tumblr.com/darkwitchgardener/746072202665967616/why-are-some-tumblr-writers-so-fucking-entitled

as a writer do you have an opinion on that? personally i think it’s rude but most people under that post seem to agree but i bet they never post anything

Okay, let's talk about this. I personally do think that this post is not only a weird take, but also rude and disrespectful. let me dissect every part of their nonsense and share my thoughts in this

why are some tumblr writers becoming so fucking entitled?💀 like why are basically forcing people to reblog your work?

Let's look at these tumblr writers, shall we?

Most of us here have real life outside of this site and outside of fanfics. Some of us are struggling to finish school, college, some are even on their way to achieve their PhD titles and yet they still spare their precious time to sit down and write fanfics for free between writing down their thesis and studying for exams. Some others have 9 to 5 jobs, or maybe freelance jobs that don't have a steady working hours (meaning they could have been working 36 hours nonstop without sleep, aka just like me), while also dealing with a spouse or children to take care of in between jobs and they are still writing fanfics for YOU to read for free (ps. when I say YOU here doesn't mean I'm talking to you, sweet anon. I'm directing this to the OG poster and whoever is agreeing with their take)

I feel like looking at this alone, if a writer wants to be entitled to have their work promoted through reblogs, to be circulated around by their readers, and to have any kind of feedback, then they are allowed to. After all that hard work put on a free content, the many hours we spent and the lack of sleep we all get to finish a fic, whether it's 100 words or 100k words, the least a reader could do is show a bit of support or any form of appreciation

(I'm not saying that readers should treat us writers like Gods and celebs either, or for us to be placed on top of a pedestal, by the way. This is an entirely different kind of writers entitlement that I'd love to talk about in a different post, but this isn't the kind of 'entitlement' that's being talked about here, so...)

Why do writers ASK readers to reblog our fics?

Because tumblr's reblog system is the main reason why we chose to post our fics on Tumblr in the first place. Reblogging helps our post to be circulated around, while keeping our copyright safe/still belong to us instead of being reposted by others, and each time anyone finds our fic in their dash, these new people will be directed back to us without any reblogger/reader having to get into any amount of trouble of having to link you back to us or credit us (like reposters on wattpad barely do)

Likes and kudos may help boost our fics if it had been in any other platforms, but the same can't apply here on Tumblr. Because liking a post only helps YOU, a reader, to keep the post that you like to be 'bookmarked' on your 'liked' list. Not anyone will be able to see those liked posts unless you make them public or if these other people would spend more time perusing your blog

I personally don't mind if readers can only leave a like, even if I can't tell if it means you're actually loving the story or you're only bookmarking it to read later. At least, a like on my circulating fic indicates that you've seen my work and that's already enough for me. And I can also tell you that I, as many other writers, will always appreciate deeply those who take their time to at least leave a comment whether it's on reply or an ask if they can't help reblog the fic. Which means, if you can't reblog it, we can't really force you to do it, but we WILL love it if anyone do it

Talking about "Only likes will be blocked"

I have never once seen any of my writer friends saying this on their posts. Do I agree with this? No, not really. But I also don't agree when the OG poster said something about a writer adding this on their disclaimer because the writer thinks they have 'a power over other people's blog'. Like...this is another weird take.

Because for me, the only power that this disclaimer gives a writer is the power to curate their own blog and their audience.

I may not agree with a writer putting said disclaimer (especially when it leads to people clumping them with a bunch of us who don't think this is necessary to do) but I can't fault them by adding this disclaimer on their blog. Maybe this writer has a problem with silent readers or is fed up with the imbalance between likes and reblogs that don't do much in helping boost their fics?

We'll never know what's the reason behind this disclaimer but, I'm going to turn this one back around to the OG poster and their supporters and say, who are YOU to think you have the power to decide how a writer should be running their blog?

I've seen other writers doing things that I don't agree with, but it's their business and it's not my problem how they're handling their blog and their audience. If you can't agree with one writer's way in how they are running their blog, then perhaps you can turn away and support other writers instead? some of us don't bite and aren't rude to others. some don't even care what you do, as long as you're not stealing their work. some others don't have enough energy to do either one of the above and are only here to post fics and have fun (like me lol)

just don't post your shit at this point lmaooo 😭😭

This one is the part that makes me smh the most. Let me ask you this, which one would hurt a fandom community more: when writers or content creators suddenly feel like they have enough of entitled readers and choose to stop posting, delete everything, leaving nothing behind for other people in the fandom community to enjoy, or a loss of followers?

Content enjoyers and readers come and go, we all know this, we've all experienced this, but not everyone is willing to spare their time to write or create content for other people to enjoy. Fandom community will keep growing. New audience will keep on coming. But if nobody is creating anything, what happens to the community? What is there to enjoy?

I agree with you, anon. I don't think this person knows anything about what kind of hard work goes behind a fic or a content. Because if they'd known even just a sliver of what goes behind the scene and how these contents they are enjoying here in this site came to be, they would have never said any crap on what a creator does in order to feel appreciated and supported by their audience

#💌 for dia #Anonymous

[billsfangearring]

Honestly we (@billsfangearring @mblematic and @tahtahfornow) don't even know where to begin introducing @broomsticks right now. Jackie, you are the most AMAZING gift to this whole freaking fandom, like <3<3<3

First of all, you are a super talented writer with SUCH a gift for setting moods and choosing the PERFECT words and publishing so many beautiful, deeply compelling femslash and rarepair and dark fics! There wouldn’t even BE certain tags (Petunia/Angelina??) without you and your gorgeous vivid imagination. You are out here doing the lord’s work and nourishing some seriously underfed circles of hp fandom <3 and all we can say is THANK YOU, thank you, thaaaank you!!!!

Also you put out some amazing content for the tamer/more basic fans among us lol... your wolfstar?? your remadora?? absolute perfection with a side of magical trademark Jackie uniqueness... e.g. wolfstar from Peter’s pov, e.g. “awoo without plot,” e.g. Luna/Ginny in the garden... etc. etc. we could go on for hours. 

And not ONLY are you an amazing fic writer (!!), but you are, we think, THE kindest, most encouraging, most empathetic, most welcoming and genuinely inclusive/inclusivity-committed person we have had the fortune of encountering in this fandom! Ever! And maybe outside of the fandom too lolol.

You put so much effort and so many spoons (YOUR SILVERWARE DRAWER MUST BE SO FULL) into crafting beautiful, meaningful comments on fics that make all the work of writing SO WORTH IT for your lucky recipients, and also into reccing and boosting your fellow fic writers’ work and making us all feel so seen & appreciated & loved. (Umm Mutuals March?? You have been so kind, so generous with your time and energy, really, ohmygosh)! On top of that, you're a brilliant beta and cheerleader during the writing and editing process! You have so much insight and kindness, which combine into something extraordinary. You make us better people just by being your lovely self and sharing that with us – you truly are a rare and beautiful spirit who lights up this entire corner of the internet like a shining sun. 

And. AND. Your love for fandom itself is an inspiration. On top of all of the above, you’ve dedicated so much time since joining us jaded veterans to understanding the fandom community and its history and envisioning how to improve its culture that we all forget you haven’t been here for years! Your passion and curiosity are unmatched, and it's such a privilege to learn from you in Discord discussions, your tumblr posts, and your excellently curated and tagged reblogs on this hellsite. Thank you for your service ;)

[personally i wouldn’t even be here now if not for you so you have my eternal thanks for dragging me into the hellsite <3<3 and also for being your wonderful, wonderful self. – June]  

[I would probably be here but I’d definitely be sadder!! My eternal thanks for making both tumblr & discord a happier zone that I will never ever ever ever be able to leave. I will continue to come to you for advice p much for the rest of my life probs?? Hope you’re ready for THAT moohaha – Molly]

[I would probably still be here too but wouldn’t have written any of my own fics or nerded out quite so hard on all things fandom, so thank you for saving me from that comparatively lame existence. <3 How is it that you’re younger than me but also who I want to be when I grow up? (Don’t answer that.) – Billie]

Thank you for everything you write and everything you do, we love you so much!!!! <3

Fic recs and more below the cut!

FICS

Please check the tags for any content warnings for these fics! Take care of yourselves!

but tonight your hand is steady (James/Lily, T, 2k) – a genius character study of my (Billie's) girl Lily that showcases Jackie’s incredible economy of language without sacrificing its beauty.

the grace unasked for (Remus/Tonks, T, 17.5k) – the oh-so-lovely remadora chaptered fic! Exquisite!

how i met your mother (Fleur/Gilderoy, E, 300) – this is the Lockhart fic we all needed. Why is this canon now? Somebody get JKR on the phone (jk keep JKR away from the good stuff) 

More Than This (Remus/Sirius, T, 3k) – my (June's) fave peter POV wolfstar! Such a well done ace Peter and the clever outsider pov wolfstar makes me insane!

pleasing her (Cho/Parvati, T, 200) – DARK!FIC CHO/PAVARTI incredible. DARK. I sincerely yelled at my computer about this one, it’s incredibly effective. 

Poster of a Girl (Sirius/Bellatrix, M, 2k) – weirdly lovely mind-bendy (for me, Molly) fic with Blackcest (Sirius/Bellatrix) and Sirius experiencing gender dysphoria. 

sooner or later (it's over) (Peter/Regulus, T, 1k) – a reverse-chronological Peter character study with some brutal turns of phrase and an utterly underappreciated ship!

sssister (Astoria/Daphne, M, 300) – “Molly don’t rec snake sex fic AGAIN” I DO WHAT I WANT

incandescence (i see me in you) (Daemon Targaryen/Rhaenyra Targaryen, E, 2.5k) – non-HP but hottttttt HOTD fic!!!

REC LISTS

Please check the tags of the recced fics for content warnings too!

leftsidedown's Collections – we would like to point you to the collections Jackie has been very quietly maintaining on AO3 with themed fic recs on top of all the rec lists she posts on tumblr! 

we love butch lesbians in this house – speaking of tumblr rec lists, Jackie always has the most interesting themes, such as multifandom butch rep…

femslash fic recs: ginny + infidelity – …this incredibly specific topic with multiple fics per pairing…

15 het Remus rare ships – …and further showing off her multishipper chops with these het (gasp!) Remus rare pairs.

halloween-themed wolfstar rec bingo – Jackie also does really fun themed bingo card rec lists, like this Halloween Wolfstar one…

dark fiction halloween rec bingo – …these darker and creepier spooky season recs…

wolfstar autumn rec bingo – …and these recs containing all the fall vibes you could ever wish for!

FANDOM ANALYSIS

What was the HP fandom on AO3 writing in 2022?

more miscellaneous stats for HP fics updated in 2022

wolfstar fandom survey results

atyd fic popularity stats

no. of kudos and age of fic: some very confused stats? – more “popularity” over time stats for fics featuring the biggest hp ships

The Fanfic Maverick: Fanfiction History with Talkin' Fanfic PART TWO – liveblogging a fandom history podcast episode with added links!

Fansplaining: Fan Labor, Fan Consumption – liveblogging a fandom meta podcast episode on fan labor!

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Whew! We could go on but this post is already very long (thank you for appreciating broomsticks enough to read to the end!) so we'll leave things here. We adore you, Jackie!

Love,

Billie, June, and Molly <3

#mutuals march #leftsidedown #bfe fic recs #leftsidedown fic recs #hp fic recs #hp femslash #hp rare pairs #fic recs #<3

[lovebeatriceplz]

The main four and their love languages ★

love languages : words of affirmation, acts of service, gift giving, quality time, physical touch. ( Killua and Gon are written in a platonic sense).

Gon Freeces ✯ -

→ words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time

✷ He is soo precious. He always finds a way to make you feel good about yourself, and goes on long self - esteem boosts without even knowing. He isn't good with words but he is good with them somehow?🕴️.

✷ He is pretty reckless with his life and just overall but never puts you in direct danger ( atleast not on purpose). Best believe that he will sacrifice himself for you without question.

✷ He's not the best teacher unless it's something that he's good at. Like fishing, or anything to do with nature, animals etc.

✷ He talks to you about anything and everything. Like just casually drops his family lore and then talks about what he ate yesterday ( but it's him showing his love cs it means he trusts you <3).

Killua Zoldyck ✯ -

→ All of the above

✷ Physical touch is a bit iffy. I don't think it's something he would do but you would instead. But he isn't used to physical affection (or js affection period💀) so he might actually tear up a bit the first time you give him a hug.

✷ He is very bad with words. So he'll leave it to you to express your love through words. It makes him feel safe. Even a simple "your a good person" and your his favorite person.

✷ Growing up as an assasin acts of service would probably be the only love language that he's somewhat familiar with. He would kill for you...any of his friends actually.

✷ He gives you gifts all the time but not for the reason you think. He would hurt your feelings...alll the time ok💀. But he doesn't mean it, his social skills are non-existent lacking so he might say something that cut a little too deep-

So he would give you gifts to make up for that, share his food maybe? Ask you to check out a new candy store? Or tap into the Zoldyck account and get you whatever it is you want.

( i js realized I didn't write quality time but um...)

Leorio Pardanight ✯ ( is that how you spell it?) -

→ PHYSICAL TOUCH

✷ The tiddies man

✷ This is pretty explainable, he's high-key a pervert and sleeps naked.

✷ He's definitely all over you ( if it's consentual) and anywhere too💀

✷ Smacks your butt when you walk past. Big on pda and doesn't care who's watching. I think his kisses would just be a big mess. Sloppy and fast😟.

✷ He might have a little gift giving in him too idk. Spoils you sick. Especially after his doctor career kicks off.

Kurapika Kurta ✯ -

→ Acts of service, quality time, physical touch

✷my babyyy UGHHHHHAHH😭

✷ THIS IS A KURAPIKA APPRECIATION ACCOUNT. I'M ACTUALLY TRULY, DEEPLY, MADLY INLOVE WITH HIM STAWP.

✷ Acts of service, he's husband material. Would actually do anything for you. From cooking for you to disposing of the body. Please take care of him too, because sometimes he forgets to take care of himself.

✷ Unfortunately, because of his goals and pursuit of the troupe he doesn't get to spend as much time with you as he would want to. So the time that he gets to he treasures it dearly.

✷ He also loves your touch. Your his safe space, his haven, his oasis. He needs you ok? Sometimes your the only one keeping him together.

✷ He likes to kiss you on your hands/knuckles, he thinks there pretty ( he thinks your pretty). Neck kisses and back kisses <3

✷ Loves when you play with his hair, like he starts to knock out almost instantly, and it eases his mind as well, helps him think.

✷ Omg i love him😭

#hxh #hunter x hunter #hcs #kurapika kurta #gon freecss #leorio #killua zoldyck #main four #anime #writing

[k-s-morgan]

So I have been a quiet admirer of your work for the past few years, but after catching up with TGSTLTH I had to finally say that I think you write some of the best stuff I’ve ever read. Period.

The way you depict the interplay between characters, the fixation that constantly threatens to consume them, is addicting. It reminds me of one of my favorite Victorian authors, Henry James, though certainly not as wordy. You have an ability to leave me feeling disquieted in a poignant and brain rotting way.

Thank you so much for writing, especially now. I wish I could pay you more on Patreon.

Thank you so very much for your amazing words! I loved them the first time, and now, after another massive bombing, after the drones flew by my house several times, I loved them even more. Feedback like this warms me a lot. I'm happy that you enjoyed my writing: the relationship between the characters has always been my post favorite point of focus, and I'm glad that other people share my preferences and find my stories engaging.

I'm not familiar with Henry James - I'll check him out!

And no worries, I deeply appreciate any kind of support, whatever it is! Every dollar on Patreon counts because my financial situation has been taking a hit lately for health reasons; every lovely comment or ask boosts my optimism and comforts me. So again, thank you!

#my fics #personal #black butler #kuroshitsuji #sebaciel

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

By: John Burn-Murdoch

Published: Mar 11, 2024

NEW 🧵:

American politics is in the midst of a racial realignment.

I think this is simultaneously one of the most important social trends in the US today, and one of the most poorly understood.

Last week, an NYT poll showed Biden leading Trump by less than 10 points among non-white Americans, a group he won by almost 50 points in 2020.

Averaging all recent polls (thnx @admcrlsn), the Democrats are losing more ground with non-white voters than any other demographic.

People often respond to these figures with accusations of polling error, but this isn’t just one rogue result.

High quality, long-running surveys like this from Gallup have been showing a steepening decline in Black and Latino voters identifying as Democrats for several years.

And America’s gold-standard national election surveys show a similarly sharp decline, with non-white proximity to Democrats now at its lowest since the 1960s, before the civil rights movement and the 1964 election which aligned Black voters with the Dems and against the GOP

So the non-white shift away from Dems seems very real. But what’s driving it?

One factor is fading memories. The civil rights movement and 1964 realignment formed very strong political bonds for the people who lived through it, but this is less true for more recent generations. 

The bond between young Black Americans and Democrats is far weaker than among older cohorts.

I don’t think everyone appreciates that the familiar "young favour Dems, old favour Republicans" gradient we see in the US population overall is *inverted* among the Black population.

The oldest Black Americans, whose political allegiances were formed in the 1960s and ’70s, identify as Dems over Reps by a margin of 82%.

Among the youngest Black voters, who have grown up in a very different socio-political environment, the Democrat advantage is just 33%

The changing image of the parties regarding class and income is also a factor.

In 2020 the richest third of voters favoured the Dems for the first time, and the Republicans improved with the poorest. The GOP now appeals to working- and middle-class voters of all ethnicities

But fading memories and increased competition for working class votes are fixable problems.

As long as these voters’ values remain fundamentally aligned with those of the Democratic party, the right person, policy, or rhetoric can win them back.

However… 

Much more ominous for the Democrats is a less widely understood dynamic:

Large numbers of non-white Americans have long held much more conservative views than their voting patterns would suggest.

Their values are very much *not* aligned with the party. 

To show you what I mean by that, I will refer to the brilliant work of @IsmailWhitePhD and @ChrylLaird, whose 2020 book Steadfast Democrats explores why Black Americans historically voted Democrat in such large numbers *despite* often holding very conservative views.

Take deeply conservative positions like support for gun rights, opposition to abortion or the belief that government should stay out of people’s lives.

Very few white voters with these views identify as Dems, but much larger shares of Black, Latino and Asian conservatives do.

This anomaly has historically given Dems a huge boost, but it has begun to unwind.

In 2012, the vast majority of Black conservatives still identified as Democrats, but that has since fallen to less than half. Latino and Asian conservatives show similar but less sudden trends

Once you realise this, the Dem -> Rep migration among non-white voters that we’ve seen in recent years becomes not so much a case of natural Democrats drifting away because they’ve become disillusioned, but natural Republicans realising they’ve been voting for the wrong party. 

We can also use this chart, which I adapted from White & Laird and @PatrickRuffini’s excellent book Party of the People.

It shows people’s self-reported political views from left to right, and their Rep-Dem margin top to bottom

Liberals vote Dem, conservatives vote Rep. Simple.

Except here’s how it actually looked in 2012: white voters were very well sorted, matching ideology to voting patterns

But Asian, Latino and especially Black voters were misaligned, with large numbers of non-white ideological conservatives voting Democrat in that year’s election

But just look at the realignment since then:

Latino conservatives are now a very solidly Republican group, and Black conservatives favoured Republicans over Democrats for the first time in 2022.

All groups are increasingly matching vote choice to ideology.

So you can see the problem for the Dems.

The non-white voters they’re losing are conservatives.

They won’t be won back by a bold green policy or defunding the police. Their historical support for Democrats was an anomaly and a further rightward shift is as likely as a reversal. 

So this explains the big shifts we’re seeing, but why is the racial realignment happening *now*?

@IsmailWhitePhD & @ChrylLaird find that social pressure is key.

When everyone around you votes a certain way, you feel pressure to do the same. Political norms are hard to overcome 

In a brilliant piece of research they found that when Black voters with very conservative views have almost exclusively Black social groups, they still vote Dem.

But if they have a more mixed social group, the weaker norm for voting Dem lets them vote in line with their beliefs.

I’ve extended their analysis and I find the same thing, with a similar effect among Latinos.

When people have more diverse social groups, there’s less social pressure to vote for the dominant party in the community, so non-white conservatives feel they can vote Republican.

There are echoes of Britain’s Red Wall — the English communities identified by @JamesKanag which had conservative demographics and attitudes but had stopped short of voting Tory due to a long-held sense that the party was not for them. In 2019 that changed

Non-white Americans are in a similar position.

Strong community norms have kept them in the blue column for decades, but those forces are weakening.

The surprise is not so much that these voters are shifting their support to align with their beliefs, but that it took so long. 

So you have: • Decline of church attendance (key source of political norm policing) • The US becoming more racially mixed, less segregated, fewer people with no friends/family of other races

The friction preventing non-white conservatives from voting Republican is diminishing. 

And crucially, that weakening of political norms doesn’t only come from people of other races.

As the number of Black Republicans has risen from ~5% to 15% (the figure among young Black adults today), the Democrat-voting norm is eroded and the stigma of voting Republican reduced 

This can happen very quickly in a “preference cascade”, where people who previously masked their true feelings to fit in, start discovering that other people actually share their beliefs, so suddenly lots of people shift their behaviour at once (screenshot from @PatrickRuffini)

And ‘a rapid shift in [voting] behaviour as people who were previously masking their [political] beliefs discover that others hold the same views as they do’ fits well with these charts.

Viewed in this light, the size of the shifts in current polling is entirely plausible.

To be clear, nothing in politics is guaranteed to last.

Some shifts are temporary, and many of those deserting the Democrats will become swing voters rather than solid Republicans.

These people can be won back and should absolutely not be written off. 

But if you take one thing away from this thread:

The left’s challenge with non-white voters is much deeper than it first appears.

A less racially divided America is an America where people vote more based on their beliefs than their identity. This is a big challenge for Dems. 

And here’s my column in full:

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Prediction: Trump is elected, and the media blame white Americans, rather than the Dems or the arrogant assumption that non-white people would always vote for them.

#party politics #Democratic Party #Republican party #US elections #black voters #hispanic voters #asian voters #racial realignment #US politics #religion is a mental illness

[elmarcyarka]

Weekly Original Nen Ability inspired by Songs!

Welcome back to my weekly blog where I share original Nen abilities inspired by popular songs! 

 But before we get into the new ability, I want to take a moment to apologize for the lack of updates over the past few months. Unfortunately, the other abilities that I had queued up were accidentally deleted, and the tab I used to write them on was also broken. I apologize for any disappointment or inconvenience this may have caused, and I appreciate your patience and understanding. 

With that said, let's get straight to the new ability! 

This week's ability is called "Dark Age Prophecy" and it was inspired by the song "Little Dark Age" by MGMT. The song's lyrics describe a person grappling with their inner turmoil and the dark forces that lurk around them, even as they try to maintain a sense of normalcy. The song's themes of darkness, inner conflict, and the struggle to maintain a facade of stability inspired me to create an ability that reflects those ideas. 

Name: Dark Age Prophecy 

Type: Conjuration-Specialization 

Description: The user of this ability conjures a deck of tarot cards and imbues them with Nen. The deck contains 22 major arcana cards and 56 minor arcana cards. The user then emits a Nen thread to a target to establish a connection with them. 

The ability works in three stages: 

Stage 1 - Reading: The user shuffles the deck and draws three cards, representing the past, present, and future. The user then interprets the meaning of the cards and uses manipulation to convey the message to the target. The accuracy of the reading depends on the user's proficiency in tarot reading, Nen proficiency, and the clarity of the target's aura. The user cannot manipulate the target's actions directly, but they can use suggestion to influence their decisions. 

Stage 2 - Manifestation: After the reading, the user can choose to manifest one of the three cards drawn from the deck. When the card is manifested, it will trigger an effect that corresponds to the card's meaning. For example, if the user manifests the "Death" card, it may cause the target to feel a sense of impending doom and be more vulnerable to attacks, while the "Sun" card may boost the target's energy and confidence. The effects are temporary and wear off after a certain amount of time.  

Stage 3 - Prophecy: Once the first two stages are complete, the user can use manipulation to implant a suggestion into the target's subconscious. The suggestion will influence the target's future actions based on the reading and the effect of the manifested card. The target will feel a strong urge to follow the suggestion, but they still have the ability to resist it if their willpower is strong enough. The accuracy of the suggestion depends on the user's proficiency in manipulation and the target's susceptibility to suggestion. 

 Limitations: 

The user must deeply understand tarot reading and Nen to use this ability effectively. 

The user can only perform a reading on one target at a time and must establish a connection with them using Nen. 

The user cannot force the target to take specific actions, but can only influence their decisions through suggestion. 

The manifestation of a card can only be used once per reading, and the effects wear off after a certain amount of time. 

The suggestion implantation is not foolproof and can be resisted by a strong-willed target. 

The user cannot use the ability if the deck of cards is damaged or destroyed. 

This ability allows the user to use the symbolism of the tarot cards to make accurate readings of a target's past, present, and future, and use manipulation to influence their actions. The ability is limited by the user's knowledge and proficiency, as well as the target's susceptibility to suggestion. The ability's name, "Dark Age Prophecy," reflects the ominous and uncertain themes of the song that inspired it, as well as the idea of using the tarot to predict and influence the future. 

 I hope you enjoyed reading about this original Nen ability, and I hope it has inspired you to explore your own creativity when it comes to Nen abilities. Remember that the possibilities are endless, and the only limit is your imagination.

Thank you for taking the time to read about "Dark Age Prophecy." I apologize again for the delay in updates and the loss of the other abilities, but I hope to make it up to you with future posts. Please feel free to leave a comment and let me know what you think of this ability and if you have any suggestions for future songs to inspire abilities.

Until next time, Hunters!

#hxh #Hunter X Hunter #hunter x hunter nen #HunterXHunter #hxh nen ability #original nen ability #nen #original content #little dark age #little dark age mgmt #mgmt music

[kaamastr]

Masturbation is part of Love

Masturbation, despite being considered taboo, is a normal and healthy aspect of human sexuality. It can be just as intimate and significant as any other sexual encounter, and some even view it as a form of art.

Masturbation is a useful way to boost our self-awareness and acceptance. It enables us to examine our bodies, uncover our needs and preferences, and develop a deeply personal and intimate connection with ourselves. It helps us to give an insight picture of happiness and what makes us happy, which may improve our sexual interactions with others.

Let's see how Masturbation impacts our overall life.

1. Masturbation and relationships-Masturbation is a self-discovery tool that can help you understand what feels good to you and what you want in a relationship. It also helps you communicate your desires, preferences, and limits more effectively with your partner.

Masturbation is actually beneficial for married couples. They can gain knowledge of what they appreciate and understand more about their own bodies, which they can subsequently share with their partner. Better communication and closeness in the relationship may result from this. The two may take care of their individual sexual needs without placing any pressure on one another, which can also be a terrific method to release stress and anxiety. 

You can include new things like sex toys like a couple masturbator  and sexy boxer or roleplay for couples to spice up romance and intimacy when performing masturbation.

It's a pleasant method for couples to get to know one another's wants and liven up your sex life overall, which is a win-win situation.

2. Masturbation and Pleasure -Masturbation can help individuals understand their bodies and what pleases them, leading to increased satisfaction during sexual encounters with a partner.

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3. Masturbation and sexual health-The benefits of Masturbation for sexual wellness are numerous. It may improve your sleep, lower stress and anxiety, and even aid with sexual issues like early ejaculation or trouble achieving orgasm. It can also teach you more about your body and what feels good. Additionally, it's a secure approach to satisfy your sexual urges without the necessity for a companion. Don't be afraid to indulge yourself; it's quite acceptable and good to do so.

Masturbation has several sexual healing properties. Frequent Masturbation can help to keep the prostate gland healthy and prevent sexual problems. It may also lower the risk of some cancers in men, such as prostate cancer.

4. Masturbation and mind-Masturbation is a powerful way to de-stress and release pent-up tension, it also helps in connecting to one's body, which can improve self-esteem and overall emotional well-being.

Additionally beneficial to your mental wellness is Masturbation! It may relieve tension and stress, improve your disposition and sense of self, and even aid with anxiety and despair. It's a means for you to take care of yourself and your needs, which is crucial for your mental health. Additionally, it's a natural way to produce endorphins, which are hormones that improve mood. Additionally, it's a fantastic approach to discover your own needs and wants. So don't be bashful, indulge yourself, and look after your mental health as well!

Masturbation is a natural and healthy part of every individual's sexual life, offering them the chance to explore and discover their own needs and desires in a deeply intimate way. Instead of feeling ashamed or uncomfortable, it should be celebrated as an art of self-love and acceptance. yes, indeed it's an art if you go deeper

#couple masturbator #kaamastra

[sitp-recs]

Side love note…

While I’m still making my way through all the fabulous gifts I got this week, I felt the need to give a special shout-out to my dear friends @tackytigerfic, @onbeinganangel, @the-starryknight, @pineau-noir and @romaine2424. Some of you either told me or prefaced your posts by saying “I couldn’t write you anything but…” but nothing! If you guys only knew how deeply your words and friendship have touched me. I got extremely emotional reading Leah’s and Rom’s love letters which encompass so much of what I hoped to achieve with this blog, and so much of what I believe fandom life should be about. Seeing two people I admire so much connecting my name to those ideals legit brought me to tears. I was also really moved by Starry’s gorgeous reblog of my masterlist, their generous words of appreciation proving why Starry is the president backbone of this special community, always so supportive and uplifting and finding time to boost everyone. Mari’s multiple reblogs of my recs during Liv Day (😭😭😭) was one of the biggest highlights of my week, I caught myself rereading her tags over and over blown away by the fact that not only she took the time to analyze and share her thoughts on my recs, they made me feel very much seen and appreciated (love the high of realizing “she gets it!!! She gets me!!”) in fact those reblogs made me fall back in love with my own work, how incredible is that?

Finally, a major THANK YOU to my bestest pal @tackytigerfic the sneaky 🐍 who has been with me through it all, sharing their joy and excitement for Liv Day, apparently giving folks tips about my kinks likes (gosh, am I feeling perceived by this age gap fest 🙈) but also betaing stuff, reblogging my posts with lovely tags, and screaming in my DMs about how excited everyone was about this initiative, and how much joy I bring to the fandom 🥺🥺🥺 my experience definitely wouldn’t have been the same without you guys, I have no words to express how thankful and appreciative I am that you took some time to shower me with love. Please know that this amount of care and generosity is just as precious and meaningful as any fic or art gift. I love you guys!!

#Liv day #love letter

[odd-kid-42]

Hi! I’m very sorry to bother you but I’m hoping if you’d be so kind to check the pinned post on my blog and maybe give it a little help by boosting/sharing it? I’m so sorry it’s for my cat who struggles to eat because of some rash near his mouth :((( thank you if you do and I understand if you don’t want to, I appreciate it in and I hope that your day gets better! Please send me a msg to reply or maybe answer the ask privately if ever, I hope you’d consider! 😭🫶🏽🙏

Just because I deeply hate scammers for the damage they do to mutual aid trust, I'm going to point and call you a dumbass for the bad scam:

1. Private message when we have never spoken

1b. That you want answered privately to prevent alerting others of your engagement with people

1c. About an animal with little mention on your personal blog of said animal or any sort of timeline at quick glance of trying to get money for

1d. No diversity in personal blog of other interests but just a string of reblogs on one topic from the day

2. Searching username yields a blog recording scams with username listed

3. No one in the reblogs of your donation post vouching for you or your need

So no, your cat does not have a rash and you can stop preying on people's impulse to help on a one-to-one basis

#keepingthelightsoff #scam #animal donation scam