#anyone can weigh in

[itsexclusive]

@savvygooner @nicksand @lchupanibre @deadthehype thoughts? 🤔

#anyone can weigh in

[beemovieerotica]

Same anon again

I didn't know about the history of the word fetish, and that is very interesting to me. I do think it highlights though that what we don't call kink is what is socially considered normal. I think there is value in recognizing the things that we socially think of as normal are not innate, and maybe they are just 1000s of years old, dudes in power, normalizing their kink.

But, again, I don't think most conservatives who say that sex should only be for procreation are inherently kinky. That's a judgement they are making about society. Probably a lot of them do also think the idea of impregnation is hot. But I think that can be separate from their beliefs about family, etc.

How would you define kink?

y'all are making me think so much about this hmmm i'm going to let someone else answer

#ask #i appreciate the asks but i need to let this all ruminate in my head for a bit so #anyone can weigh in

[p-artsypants]

Something just ridiculously insane happened and I need to vent or I’m going to explode.

In college, My husband and I interned with a husband and wife pair of artists that were professors and comic artists. I learned a lot from them and don’t regret the time we worked together.

However, they announced that they are now in a polycule with another intern. This person was female when I knew them, but has transitioned to male (I guess? They look the same, and wear dresses and make up, but just go by male pronouns. Not non-binary, just male??)

As a Christian, I have my own reservations with polyamory, and I won’t get into it on this site. I probably have followers that disagree with me on it. That’s not the issue that bugs me.

What bugs me is that this was a husband and wife, married for 20 years monogamously, and they are now in a relationship with this person who is my age, 20 years younger. They were a student and intern. There was a power dynamic of student and teacher for most of their time knowing each other.

This feels very weird and sinister.

They made a Facebook post and contacted everyone they knew to “comment and respond to their FAQ”. They are going VERY public with this. In the post, the husband states he wrote a 20 page thesis paper on why his wife should allow them to be poly and she become bisexual.

What do you say to that? Yes to save the marriage?? They are an artist team that write and draw comics together. If their relationship fails, their business fails.

I can’t help but think this is going to be a catastrophe.

Any followers with a different perspective are welcome to respond, but please don’t reblog. I’m not getting involved in this, but I needed to vent somewhere and this is…mostly private.

#anyone can weigh in #but please don’t reblog

[cynical-cy]

hey so i have literally less than 10 bucks in the bank rn so id super appreciate it if anyone could either contact me abt a commission, or donate to my ko-fi so i don't accidentally dip in the red .o.

#cyspeaks #im already really grateful to anyone who has donated #but i definitely need the money rn >.>;; #genuinely please get a comm if you can bc that weighs a lot better on my conscience. if u cant afford it that's also ok

[transgender-chiroptera]

Serotine bat (?) via

#might also be a pipi of some kind. I'm not sure #if anyone can weigh in it would be much appreciated #serotine bat #microbat #bat

[shima-draws]

What the FUCK Furina’s backstory is so fucking sad??? The absolute TORTURE she’s been through. Shit dude,

#Shima speaks #I’M SO UPSET. #THIS IS JUST RUKKHADEVATA ALL OVER AGAIN. GENSHIN STOMPING ON MY FEELINGS AND MAKING ARCHONS CRY #Why is it always the women. Stop doing this to our women. #Genshin Impact #Imagine putting on an act nonstop continuously for hundreds of years and not being able to tell anyone the truth #And dealing with the anxiety of your whole country dying out and it weighs on your shoulders and makes you so stressed #And you cry yourself to sleep every night bc you’re so tired you’re SO tired and it’s been centuries but you have to keep going. #You have to keep up the act you have to keep faking it you have to keep lying #You have to pretend everything is fine when it’s NOT and you don’t know what to do and you still can’t tell a single fucking SOUL #AGHHHH FURINA. MY SWEET GIRL. YOU DIDN’T DESERVE THIS #Genshin Impact spoilers #Furina #Focalors #I just wanna scoop her up into a big hug and tell her it’s okay 😭 Girl you don’t gotta act anymore you can finally FINALLY rest

[fisheito]

moms at the sports game.....

#olivine has one of those giant totes that carries EVERYTHING u could ever need and even stuff you'll probably never need #juice and water for the entire team. 6 first aid kids. an entire pharmacy. cute lil bandages with the animal mascots on em #falsified passports of another country (for the whole family). because you never know. #the bag is cavernous and weighs as much as a bus #olivine carries it around like it's nothing #kuya has this tiny purse . idk. the strap is made up entirely of those metal chain link puzzles that he likes as intimacy gifts #fidget toy purse for kuya when he's bored (frequently) :) #the only thing in his purse is matches. #absoLUTELy kuya is stomping around in high heels and his fuzzy little boots at sunrise #whoever put those puffballs on kuya's sash in his SR design is seriously Biggest Brain #because that means i can now put kuya in all sorts of obnoxious clothing with puffballs #those glittery santa boots with puffballs all over em? kuya. #faux fur poofy coats that would make anyone else look like a moldy marshmallow? kuya. #olivine is actually sensible (not a peacock) and wears some nice comfy warm clothing. very soft. very inviting #will he expose his gem for slutty purposes #despite the brisk weather and dropping temperatures? #always. #a toasty warm olimom with a supportive smile and a bag of snacks. #i want olivine to give me a juice box 🥺 #kuya #olivine

[tabooiart]

dont worry guys i am literally ALWAYS thinking about these two

#my art #fanart #starlight express #stex #wrench the repair truck #dinah the dining car #dinahwrench #wrenchdinah #kitchen repair #been TOO long since ive drawn them #'do i even weigh anything to you?' 'no its like holding a couple of grapes' #wrenchs love language is carrying dinah. luckily dinahs type is anyone who can carry her

[butchviking]

#just a passing whim probably tbh and i probably wont do it but idk. weighing it up. #i wouldnt delete this one id leave it as an archive i love having my entire life documented to look back on #and id prob take my url with me.. idk how to be anyone else but hal butchviking #just starting 2 think there is too much archive here. #its weird that u can search my blog n stuff from 5 years ago comes up #its weird that there are posts that go around with comments i made forever ago that still link back to me

[horce-divorce]

"Trans men don't need an intersectional word that goes beyond "transphobia" because being a man is not an oppressed identity, it's easier for them to get resources, and they're not affected by transmisogyny"

Words spoken by people who have never met another GNC person offline (or another trans person who wasn't white) even once tbqfh. And yeah access to those spaces is difficult and often gatekept to shit so I don't think that's anyone's fault, esp not transfems. Your brutal exclusion is never your fault. Still, I think it is possible to have these CRUCIAL conversations about transmisogyny and how transfems are affected... without making sweeping statements about what other trans people do or do not experience. It might be easier for people to check their transmisogyny if they could understand how it does in fact affect them sometimes, their behavior, language, and the spaces they frequent, in addition to how it perpetuates this awful exclusion. Being hypervisible and yet constantly excluded IS something that transfems should have a word for. That IS something I do not understand the pain of as a transmasc. It must make them feel utterly insane. By all means, coin more words! It enriches these conversations when we can relate to each other more and we have more language for the discussions we're having. We want to tear down the walls keeping us apart, not build more.

to be clear, I don't think tma/tme are "unnecessary." Transmisogyny is real and transfems do really experience uniquely awful shit, especially from within the community. But that in an of itself is not a unique experience. Being excluded from "women and nonbinary only spaces" is actually not a uniquely transfem experience. So many transmascs do NOT benefit from patriarchy and I am tired of this claim coming from non-transmascs.

HOW we all get policed by our in-groups presents differently, but policing each others experiences is not something that bridges understanding. And I'm sorry but in 3 years of this convo I've not once seen someone bring up tma/tme to discuss transfems without entirely dismissing swaths of other queer people in the process. Maybe im not seeing the good faith takes, idk.

A lot of other bad-faith misinformation is STILL getting passed around about the coiner of the term "transandrophobia" and what it supposedly means, and how the term itself is transmisogynistic. None of that ever matches up with what I actually see in transandrophobia discussions. I see a lot of diverse people discussing and relating to transandrophobia, specifically a lot of tpoc and intersex people, even a lot of transfems. The people who talk ABOUT 'transandropobia truthers' present a much different idea of the discourse we're having than what i actually see. That inconsistency is a red flag for me.

Tldr i think the concept of tma/tme is fine actually, but I disagree with the usage of the term tme specifically. Terms describing what tma/tme are getting at AND transandrophobia can and should coexist. These are not mutually exclusive ideas actually. apparenrly i cant bring up one without addressing the other bc nobody has good faith conversations anymore.

Basically just. Please don't tell me what I have or haven't experienced, and I won't claim to know your pain intimately, either. we can still relate to each other over the ways we've been let down. I feel like that should be the goal, not determining who does or does not deserve to use certain words.

Also as an asexual, the whole "transandrophobia truther" dismissal feels eerily similar to the rampant ages-old acephobia from tumblr we know and love. You guys love mocking "novel" (to you) discourse and then 5+ years down the line acting like you weren't telling us to commit sepukku for suggesting that ace people can be oppressed for our orientation because we "don't even experience sexual attraction and you cant be oppressed for something you dont experience."

self determination is important for all of us for many reasons. I won't tell anyone else what words to use for themselves. If you're TMA youre TMA, end of story. But dont tell me by definition that makes me TME or that I have to use terms I feel are incomplete or inadequately describe my own experience. I'm not asking anyone else to do that.

Anyway.

#me #like. whether or not i am tme is not something anyone can decide for me #any more than they can decide if im queer or transsexual or nonbinary or demisexual or anything es #else* #likewise if transandrophobia is real in my experience. you dont really get to tell me its not! #i know who i am and what ive been thru and what i relate to better than anyone else does. thanks. #i didnt actually want to weigh in on tme/tma cause it feels like not my business for the most part #but people KEEP insisting that i am TME and must use the word whether i like it or not #sorry but thats not very queer of you

[plumberrypudding]

when are we going to start talking about how weird and objectifying it is to say “a they/them”.

like seriously, i see this all the time. “my roommate is a they/them” is literally word for word something i heard in an instagram video just yesterday. in captions of posts and in tweets and all that shit people say “this is for the girls, gays, and theys.” i see people describing characters this way all the time too.

and i just. do you people not see how uncomfortable that is? to reduce a whole group of people to their pronouns?? not to mention how “people who use they/them” does not equal “nonbinary people” bc not all nonbinary people use they/them and not everyone who uses they/them is nonbinary.

idk it just really feels like another one of those pseudo-progressive Quirky Gen Z Internet Things that’s actually just not really progressive at all. it seems to be very heavily tied into how even though we’ve made good progress in deconstructing the gender binary, we’ve just created a new gender trinary where your options are girl/boy/they.

like. you guys can see how this isn’t actually helping very much, right?

#if someone else has noticed this or has similar concerns #i would love to hear the thoughts of anyone who wants to weigh in #queer #nonbinary #they/them #lgbt #idk how to tag this #gender queer #genderqueer #can anybody hear me #non binary

[thedeafprophet]

A Crown Of Thorns is the last on my list of considering playing. On one hand it's My Area (royal family red honey nonsense) but on the other hand I couldn't give less of a shit about Hell and the description implies its related to that so

It's a Mary Gooden one and her writing is usually...consistent? I'd say. I find she tends to lean a bit less fun and more dark sometimes, if that makes sense.

#prophet's fl nonsense #can anyone weigh in on if its actually significantly hell related #cuz i Do Not Care About it lmao

[softquietsteadylove]

Proposal AU

Thena takes care of a very exhausted Gil!

Something sweet and soft 🤭

Gil groaned, trying to turn his face away from the light.

"It's almost over."

He blinked, finding his nose buried in a head of blonde brighter than sunshine. He could have just nestled in further, which was damn tempting of course. But he groaned, adjusting in the...hammock?

"You know, you're actually quite lucky," Thena continued in a whisper. Her fingers ran through his hair. "Had I not joined you here, I'm sure your mother or sisters would have no trouble awakening you for what is actually our own party. But with me in here as well, everyone thinks we're too wrapped up in pre-marital snuggling to bother you."

"You're doing an awful lot of talking for someone determined to let me sleep."

She gave his cheek a poke. "I know very well you're awake. You stopped snoring."

"I do not snore," he grumbled, moving his head so she could pull away and look at him. He pouted.

"You snore a little," she broke it to him gently at least, poking his lip back into place. "But I'll forgive you because you're so exhausted."

He yawned completely reflexively, but he at least pressed it into the shoulder of her cardigan. "How long?"

"A couple of hours."

That scared him. He jolted, not that it did much in their hanging basket arrangement. "No."

Thena nodded, though, confirming the statement that had sent fear shooting through him. "Just over two hours, assuming I found you relatively close to when you fell asleep."

"Thena, no," he groaned again, attempting to drown himself in the fabric suspending them off the ground. "No, no, no--my mom worked her ass off for this party, I can't have been asleep for that long."

"Sh," Thena hushed him from those soft lips again. She was being awfully tender with him. "I told her that I was the one who lulled you into sleep. If anyone is to blame, it's me."

He whimpered, though. "I'm a bad son."

"On the contrary," she had the nerve to laugh at him when he was upset. "You are the son who cooked every morsel of food at this party. If you happened to spend most of it in a hammock with your own fiance, I can't imagine she would have anything to say about it."

Well, she had a point. He did cook all of the food. And Ajak was always telling him to try and relax - with Thena - more. He sighed again, unfolding his arms from around himself and resting one over the curve of Thena's waist. "Guess I can't argue with that."

"You haven't missed much," she informed him. "Ajak announced how pleased she was for us."

Gil snorted, pulling Thena closer to him as a breeze rocked the hammock faintly. "That wasn't what she said when I first told her. Nearly took my ear off demanding to know why I hadn't said anything until now."

"You have a lovely family, Gil."

He opened his eyes again to look at the woman in the hammock with him. Some of their relatives had arrived early for this party. They were distant, some more family friends than anything. But it was certainly an escalation to their little lie. They were having to do couple-y things more often. A 'love you' here, a 'missed you' there. A brush of his hand over her shoulder--that kind of thing. He smiled, "are you actually in here avoiding them?"

Thena didn't deny it, which was basically a confirmation. She slid her hands up his chest and nestled her head closer again, approaching a position to tuck it under his chin. "Your mother knows a staggering number of people."

Gil chuckled, tucking her against him so she wouldn't have to close the gap herself. She happily accepted his invitation, practically settling into him like a cat in a sunbeam. "Sorry I left you to handle them all yourself."

"I gave up rather quickly," she lamented. "Said I had to find you to ask you something for the wedding. It worked to help me avoid anyone for nigh on half an hour."

"We're both bad hosts."

"Indeed," Thena agreed, not seeming all that upset about it. She sighed, her hot breath hitting his throat. "I'll apologise to your mother later."

"I'm pretty sure you can do no wrong in her eyes," he assured her. He had just had a pretty solid nap, but it was way too comfortable to continue lying there with Thena to even think about trying to roll out of the swaying hammock. "You'll be her first daughter-in-law. To her only son, no less. An eldest son I'm pretty sure she was getting worried wouldn't be settling down at all."

"Hm."

"Hey," he called to her before she could slide down that slippery slope of regret. He rubbed small circles in her back, "don't worry about it."

She didn't say anything else, but one of her hands slipped around his side and to his back, clutching a fistful of his shirt. She pressed her face into his shoulder.

He sighed, ready to settle into sleep again, feeling the familiar position of Thena cuddled up to him. He was nearly there when he heard a grating voice getting closer and closer.

"Yoohoo!--lovebirds?"

Gil kept his eyes closed, not in the mood for his showboat cousin who probably wanted to make some dramatic speech about them or drag him up in front of everyone.

"Gil, mom's lookin' for you!"

Thena stirred but he cradled the back of her head with his hand and held the small of her back. "It's a trap."

She puffed out some air at his joke before whispering, "diabolical."

"Very," he whispered back, eyes still closed.

"Here they-oh!"

Gil resisted the urge to tell his brother - in every way that mattered - to fuck off and not wake his fiance. He held Thena firmly, determined to appear asleep.

"It's so sweet!"

"Let them rest, you two--Makkari, put the stick down!"

His youngest sister was no doubt about to poke him in the face with it. His sweet and elegant mother had raised a bunch of animals.

He only cracked his eyes open when he heard them padding away, complaining why he got to skip out on the party duties, like entertaining guests and cleaning up as things started coming to a close.

"We can't sleep in here all night, you know."

"Why not?" he grinned, immediately pulled back into the little world that was the high sides of the hammock bending around his weight. "It's comfy."

"I would hardly call this lumbar support," she argued, although he was pretty sure she wasn't that far from dozing off herself. "And what if it rains?"

"We're in the trees, it's fine," he laughed. They weren't exactly in the depths of the wooded area surrounding the house, but they were away from everything else enough that they weren't the easiest to find in here.

"Gil," she scolded, but made no attempt to get up, or even separate herself from him.

"Mom wouldn't let that happen," he reassured, although it made her go quiet again. "Fine, just a few more minutes."

"Five, not a second more."

"Deal," he smiled. She sounded like she did when they were at work. It felt so far away, they'd been here so long. Not that they didn't deserve the break. And Thena had even more paid time off than he did. He was pretty sure she never took a day off.

Unless she was sick. In which case he would rush home from work and cook up his most healing chicken soup and noodles for her.

Thena didn't stir as he pressed a kiss to her cheek. If anything, she nestled closer to him, "five minutes."

"Five minutes," he repeated, moving his lips down her cheek, closer to her lips. He didn't close the distance quite yet, but Thena didn't pull herself away either. And he didn't need the next five minutes to make his decision.

It was chaste, just the barest brushing of lips against lips. It was like a peck. Thena didn't make any sudden moves or any sounds at all. Only she could lie perfectly still and straight postured in a hammock. "Was that your attempt at bartering?"

He grinned, their heads still too close to really see each other, breath mixing and lips twitching to meet again. "Depends if it worked."

"No."

"Fine," he conceded, moving his hands to her cheeks. He gave her another little peck before she tucked herself into the crook of his neck again. This was just another couple-y thing to add to the list, apparently. Not that he minded.

#Thenamesh Proposal AU #always love coming back to this one #poor Gil #he's a hard working boi #he cooks and prepares all the food #he sets out appetizers and mini sandwiches and desserts and fancy cut fruit #then he makes it maybe ten minutes into people arriving #he says hi to everyone thanks them for coming #accepts their well wishes about his wedding to his beautiful fiance #which he agrees with #then he slithers off and falls into the hammock #a few minutes he thinks to himself #and he's out like a light #Thena notices right away that he's gone #she asks everyone who comes up to her if they've seen Gil #great excuse not to have to talk to anyone about anything #then she sees the hammock in the treeline #weighed down with a considerable body of mass in it #she knows it right away #she goes over and he looks so cute and restful that she doesn't want to wake him #she doesn't tell him that at first she's too shy to just jump in #she's worried about landing weird #but eventually she moves to the other side and lets herself fall in #like when scuba divers fall off the edge of a boat backwards #and Gil instantly rolls over to face her #as well as he can in a hammock #Thena is like Gil we have to go to bed and also I am going to tell your mother the truth #hes' like okay honey let's--WHAT?!!

[il-predestinato]

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#i'm gonna close my inbox if people keep leaving terrible takes in them 😤 #the messages i've been receiving... #tell me you haven't been following charles' karting career without telling me you haven't been following charles' karting career #holy crap #like y'all realize he had about 100 less international race starts when he was up against max right?! #that's what happens when charles' resources age for age was significantly less - it meant he raced A LOT less #and at age 10-16 experience weighs A FUCKTON #literally a karting scout rated him higher than max just because he was so impressive despite a massive deficit in experience #that isn't taking anything away from max who literally is a karting legend based on the records he still holds #but claiming they were at the same stage of their career year for year is ridiculous #charles is probably just now or in 2022 starting to catch up to max in terms of career stage #and then someone else saying he would only be a second driver at rb #LMAO #sorry but charles leclerc will never be a second driver ANYWHERE #if there's only one thing he and max can agree on it's this: charles leclerc has never been and will never be a second driver to anyone #elle.txt

[maeamian]

Switched my voter registration to vote in the Republican primary instead of the Democratic one considering there's at least a chance that'll be competitive by the time it gets here and all the non-presidential offices have top-two primaries rather than party based ones.

#Don't get me wrong extremely slim chance this matters #Just slightly less slim than if I were voting or not voting for Joey B in the Dem primaries #Gonna go for whichever non-Trump candidate still has juice at that point if any #ATM looks likely to be Haley if anyone #If you're in California you may wanna consider this #But also it probably won't matter and does take like five minutes to do #So you can weigh those tradeoffs for yourself and see if it seems worth the effort #Mostly want to make his path harder if possible which is unlikely to be possible #A longer and more contested primary will put him in worse shape for the general #and while the current guy is pretty dogshit on several extremely important to me issues I'd still prefer Trump lose #tbf the current guy is also at least halfway decent on some other important to me issues it's just hard to find that compelling

[valiantarcher]

My apologies for the delay in this, @stealingmyplaceinthesun, but here's the info on the The Shadow of the Bear audio drama:

If I remember correctly, it was produced in the early 2000s by Chesterton Productions (a project by Regina Doman and her husband, I think) and runs between 3.5 and 4 hours over 4 episodes. It was available in CD and MP3 download, and I'm afraid that's about the extent of my knowledge of those details.

Radio Drama Revival included the first two episodes on their program back in 2008 and, thankfully, those shows still are currently online. Episode 1 is available here and Episode 2 here.

Unfortunately, Regina Doman closed down her independent publishing house in 2020 and, while her books are available elsewhere, it looks like that may've been the only source to buy new or digital copies of the audio drama. I am trying to reach out to her to ask if there is still a way to buy copies, but no success yet.

That said, for what it's worth, I did find someone on ebay selling copies for a reasonable price; I know nothing about them, though, so please do all necessary research first if you decide to go that direction.

I hope you enjoy the first couple of episodes and are able to find and enjoy the rest if you so desire! :)

#The Shadow of the Bear #The Shadow of the Bear audio drama #Regina Doman #Fairy Tale Novels #Making this a separate post so that hopefully anyone else who has info can see and weigh in