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soracities · 8 months

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Ur so eloquent and i love ur posts about the societal pressures associated w makeup!!!! 💗💗💗 u put everything I feel & think about into coherent words and I so appreciate that! Also I would like to hear ur thoughts on plastic surgery bcuz I am also annoyed. If I see that smug smiley little dickhead plastic surgeon tiktoker on my FYP one more time saying “ohhh my patients r beautiful. Anyway here are all the procedures I’m gonna do to alter their ethnic nor unique features and make them look totally different” I’m gonna scream. The patronising pseudo-kindness is almost worse than when he goes completely mask-off about exploiting insecurity - like the vid he made laughing w the caption “when a 20yr old says she’s doesn’t need Botox bcuz she’s gonna age gracefully.” I’ve spent a lot of time cultivating a healthy self-esteem & generally not defining myself by my appearance - yet even I felt a flicker of my old insecurity seeing that post. I block every post referencing plastic surgery and I STILL get them. It’s incessant & so insidious - esp for poc. My 13yr old cousin (who watches lots of tiktok) told me she’s saving up for a nose job and a BBL when she turns 18 and my heart fkn broke. No 13yr old shld even KNOW the term BBL.

I feel so much for your younger sister, anon, because whatever else I may have gone through with my own insecurities at 13 (and they were profound and absolutely did a number on me), I genuinely cannot begin to imagine what it's like to cope with all of that in the age of TikTok and IG and the added pressure of beauty influencers magnifying everything.

Honestly, my thoughts on cosmetic surgery are very complicated--I don't think it's something that's ever going to go away, and to be honest I'm not even sure if it's about that. I know people who've had cosmetic procedures done and I know it was something deeply important for them and I know how much happier and at ease they felt afterwards--I'm not going to judge or begrudge anyone that happiness because the reality is, as much as it would be amazing if we all loved and celebrated ourselves and each other, everyone's individual constellation of insecurities and worries is completely different and not everyone will be able to address them in the same way.

To live in a world where we are not defined and punished for our physical differences would be an incredible thing, but we don't live in that kind of world--and so learning to be at peace with yourself in the midst of the world we do have, learning to accept your body or any individual aspects of your appearance is incredibly difficult--and these difficulties are influenced even more by gender, or race, or the culture in which you live etc., or even just the people around you. Do I wish my friends could see what I see? Of course. But I also don't know what they see, or how deeply that runs, or the impact that has on them. Because I also know that, when it comes to myself, I don't see what they see, either. I've said before that I find prominent noses absolutely beautiful--but I know that I cannot impose this on someone who has had to live their life under constant comments about their nose (or any other feature), to the point where they feel that is all they are to people. I don't condemn people for the choices they make in this, but I do condemn the structures and societal expectations that force some people into certain choices in the first place by normalising this idea that there is a "correct" way to look (and I'm not immune to it either--I have a lot of profound insecurities that are incredibly difficult to get past).

It's very similar to how I view makeup in some respects because whatever choices people make when it comes to cosmetic procedures should feel like choices to them. But not all cosmetic procedures are made equally and my real issue with cosmetic surgery (and in my mind I distinguish it from plastic surgery because they are not the same to me), more than anything else, is when it becomes a tool for upholding and celebrating particular beauty standards that are deeply gendered, politicized and racialised while claiming it is "just" a matter of aesthetics, which is deeply, deeply insidious to me. "Aesthetics" have never been neutral. Even the language we use in talking about it isn't neautral: "fix", "adjust", "improve" etc. Improve according to whom? Why do they decide this? At the end of the day, no matter what you say about the golden ratio there is nothing wholly objective about beauty because human beings are not static Ideals; you cannot distill beauty into a mathematic formula like a conch shell because beauty is not something separate from the thing it occupies. These ideals work for Plato, but we are living, breathing, moving, exsiting in the here and now. A static image of a beautiful woman in a Vogue covershoot is just that: an image. And all the rules that govern that image fall apart the moment the model moves again, the moment she becomes a person again.

And besides, nothing can be "just" aesthetics in a world with the warped beauty standards that we have. There's nothing neutral about nose jobs in a society marred with as much anti-black racism and antisemitism as ours. There's nothing neutral about BBLs in a society that fetishizes black women's (and other woc) bodies as ours. There's nothing neutral about buccal fat removal in a society so plagued by thinness as not just a physical but also a moral ideal. I read a horrifying article on GQ a few months back about men undergoing cosmetic surgery to widen their jawlines so they appear more "manly"--and a surgeon in the article casually said one of these patients also "needed a rhinoplasty" which made me see red: nobody needs their face smashed open for the sake of an arbitrary standard whose very purpose (Beauty) requires the existence, and therefore manipulation and condemnation, of its opposite in order to appear valid. These beauty standards only have value so long as their opposites have no value--but these "opposites" are not disembodied traits: they are real human features that belong to real breathing human beings who have to live surrounded with this rhetoric for their entire lives. There's nothing neutral to me about looking at a human face and dissecting all of its features, ascribing values to some, and disparaging others, as though they exist as separate building blocks you can rearrange at will. In some instances, it skirts too close phrenology for me, and I'm not saying that lightly.

These are some of my thoughts but as I said, my views on this are very complicated and I have to be careful how I talk about some of it because there are some things that genuinely make me deeply angry. Again, I don't believe the solution is to get rid of cosmetic surgery, because I don't think that will ever really work and I think it misses the point--most people will always have something about themselves they'll want to change or just wish was different and for some people more than others they will want to make that change: and I would much rather people have access to legal, qualified, accountable medical professionals when they do. But in cases like your sister, in cases like that GQ article, in cases like that TikTok surgeon (I have no words, anon, truly...), or really just TikTok in general, in cases like ethnic rhinoplasty and eyelid surgery, the fact that the number of people getting Botox has grown since the increase in video calls and Zoom meetings....in all honesty at this point I am just tired and infuriated by our refusal to have an actual conversation about the society these procedures exist in and are normalised within and I'm especially tired when influencers and celebrities make a point of not being upfront about their own procedures. I don't care what people get done or why (as long as its a freely made choice for no one else's sake but yours), but I do care when we make it as acessible as these procedures are now, when they are tacitly (and in some cases outright) encouraged, and yet talking about them or admitting to having had that work done is somehow gauche and I am incredibly tired of it!

#it would break my heart too to hear my sisters talk like that anon truly....all the work you've done building your self-esteem verbalise it!#praise yourself and celebrate yourself as often as you can around your sister and maybe hopefully she can begin to see herself in your word #too. im not saying it will get rid of tiktok but maybe it will provide an important counterweight. and if you can maybe try talking to her #also about the nature of things online vs irl....i dont know but i deeply feel for you both and i hope some day your sister is able to see #herself beyond the reach of these things <3 #ask #anonymous

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woobly · 2 years

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How do you do the text gradient on your posts😯 i’ve always tried, but i can’t for some reason place it in a whole fic post like you do….pls teach me

hi omg i never thought i'd be getting an ask like this, but sure i'd be happy to help ! btw i do this on pc coz idk how to do it on ios/android </3

firstly, i think i shld say that i suggest this be the Last thing you do for your fic. tumblr editors are kinda weird sometimes so just to be safe, make sure you've already edited and finalized everything about your fic or else you may or may not lose the coding for the gradient </3

anyways so u open tumblr on pc and this coding website on another tab. i suggest you paste your fic first into a post before doing all the codes so that you can just copy paste the codes later.

in the post editor, go to the old one / non beta editor > settings icon > text editor then click on the dropdown button and change to HTML.

from here, you can copy the text that you want to have a gradient (the ones in black color or click preview to find the text easier) then move to the coding website. in the big white box at the bottom right, there are 2 smaller white boxes where you can type. paste the text in the upper box (or you can just type it there if it's not too long).

ok then you need to choose 2 colors for the gradient. click the red box then the up-down button (idk what that's rlly called) twice until 'hex' appears. type the hex code manually or copy paste if that works for you (it doesn't for me idk why). then just do the same with the green box using the second color you want. once you've inputted the colors, just click run and it should look smth like this (below).

then you just select the entire code in the lower box and copy. go back to the tumblr editor and look for the original text in the HTML. select that, making sure you're only highlighting the ones in black then paste the code there.

do the same for the other text you want to have gradient then save draft or post or wtvr you want. make sure Not to go back to the new editor before saving! idk if tumblr still does this, but doing that won't save the codes you just added 💔

altho i said earlier this shld prolly be the last thing you do for your posts, if there rlly is still smth you wanna edit later, you can do one of two things: (1) if it still allows you to change back to the new editor (which recently doesn't happen for me), i usually open a different draft that doesn't have additional codes and change editors there; if it doesn't give you the beta button on the top right, just close (not save draft) then my best suggestion is to (2) edit on mobile </3 the second is the safer choice so i personally do that !

hope this helped! i'm not rlly the best at explaining things in an easier way, so if you have questions, just ask (or dm if you're more comfy w that!) :] but also i'm sure there are numerous tutorials out there 😓

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astrxealis · 1 year

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APOLLO!!! OMG HI HAVEN'T TALKED TO U FOR LIKE A HOT MIN 🙁!!! and omg how r u?? how's life lately<33?? also saw ur recent post abt music and stuff!!! as someone who also tried to learn playing the guitar i only know like 3 chords and that's it HELP i basically gave up because it got to the point my hand would hurt after practice 😭

i have to say tho being scared of like starting an instrument because its intimidating is normal!! when i started learning the violin i was definitely scared bcs most of the people i wld be with for class was like playing for almost 9 years 😭??? and i was afraid i wldnt be able to catch up, even my mom expressed her concerns abt it 🥹 but looking at where i started and where i am now!! im proud to say my improvement is there even though its not as big or impressive but its noticeable!!!

i hope ur fears wont stop u from learning, i'd say that learning music is amazing and a precious time and if u or lune need any help im here :)!!!

TAKE CARE AND GOODLUCK ON UR JOURNEY!!!

AN HI LOVEY !!! it really has been a while AAA I NEVER REPLIED TO MY LAST ASK TO YOU BUT i will rn rq as well uhm.

i totally get taking a break i kinda did that as well, and yes that's absolutely amazing, rlly shld put yourself first with those kinda stuff <3 hehe + I HOPE YOU'VE BEEN ENJOYING FR ... balancing everything is difficult fr but you got this (so do i hehe we got this fr) ^__^ AND TY BUBS AND @noxtivagus SAYS TY AS WELL I'M SURE <33 i have not seen the show yet ngl SOBS i never played the og myself but only watched my dad play ... hashtag Coward but shh T__T tbf we don't have a means to play it anymore bcs our ps3 broke and we only had a ps3 copy eee and likely won't get for 4/5 anytime soon ... but i think we cld watch the show sometime soon anyway so. WILL SEE. it seems so good so far tho from what i've seen and REAL the actors are >>>

anyway sorry this is so long i still tend to ramble... </3 but i am WELL <3 just. busy and stressed lots ngl :") and okay i took a while to reply to this but i kept telling lune abt this teehee AAA TYSM FR ... yeah, i'll keep that all in mind thank you lots T__T i'm rlly gna try to set aside time to learn/relearn instruments? and then uh. w consistency. yeah! improvement (however small) !! <3 hehe also proud of u btw AND ONCE AGAIN thank you mwa still amazing lil sibling fr even if we don't talk as much anymore HAVE A GOOD WEEK ALRIGHT !!!

#also yeah fr guitar is really straining on the hands WHABJFH BUT THE VIOLIN I'VE HEARD IS DIFFICULT YEA? GJ FR #i lov music so much so. yeah. dw i'll def keep trying and carrying on despite my worries and whatnot <33 #hope you are doing well btw :<#⋯ ꒰ა my galaxy ໒꒱ *·˚#⋯ ꒰ა letters of stardust ໒꒱ *·˚#— an! ♡

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astrxealis · 2 years

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HELO APOLLO havent been in here for a while yet </3 but as others have said and stated!!!! ur nor chained to the fandom so dont feel like u have to be in the fandom so ur mutuals wont leave u!!! ik what u feel when ur writing for a fandom and suddenly that spark of interest for it suddenly just dims completely and you're left wondering what to do jwjsksj TT

i always remember feeling lost everytime i lose interest in something but always remember that your mutuals are something u won't lose just because of that!! im not sure if i read the post correctly and its 3am meaning i shld be sleeping but instesd im hanging out in my drafts collecting dust BUT I HOPE U KNOW UR DIFFERENCE IN INTERESTS SHLDNT BE WHAT MAKES U STOP BEING FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE

anyway HUGS FOR U AND SLEEO SOON BECAISE OMG ITS SO LATE I'll hsad to bed now too because ngl im feeling v dizzy BUT I STILL WANTED TO SEND U TJIS NOW AND NOT TOMORROW WHEN I WAKe UP SO HUGSSS OF COMFORT ARE BEING SENT UR WAY GOODNIGHT ILYYY MWA MWA /P

AINNN HELLO!! honestly it doesn't rlly seem like it dw WHEEZE i haven't been too active on tumblr again yes ?? >_< ^^ aaa thank you so much :(( yeah!! sometimes that Spark just kinda. yeah. TwT & w who i am like as a person it's rlly <//3 w that

DWDW you did read the post correctly!! and YES by the time i'm answering this almost an hour after i hope you are well rested in bed >:( but :O yeah fr ,, i'll try to rmbr that! T___T

TY FOR HUGS... returning them Very Much bcs srs i'm really thankful :( HVE A GOOD REST!! and i hope you feel better in the morning yes HGBSJG AND PLS IT'S NP BUT i'm rlly grateful to u (all) aaaaa mwah ilyt T^T <33

#⋯ ꒰ა my galaxy ໒꒱ *·˚#⋯ ꒰ა letters of stardust ໒꒱ *·˚#— ainya! ♡#tbh . I DON'T WANT TO. be too personal as in like yeah yeah but i often lose friends and not even for a real reason ;;#i blame my school partly for that and i have hyperfixations and all so. T___T and my main best friends r literally from like. grade school #and we're not too similar in interests that much anymore tho iAAAAA IDK WHERE I'M GOING W THIS BUT YEAH. ik tht wtvr Tht is well <//3 #if it makes sense i try to absorb information and wtvr but it's kinda hard to let it rlly get in there T______T SO YEAH. i hope tht changes #i think i'm talking a lot bcs it's rlly early in the morning. blinks. i hope it's not Too much tho if that makes sense HGBSDJH ??

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