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December 25th-December 31st, 2019 Reader Favorites Archive

The archive for the Reader Favorites chat that occurred from December 25th, 2019 to December 31st, 2019. The chat focused on the following question:

While being respectful, what’s a comic you think is objectively great but is just not to your subjective tastes?

carcarchu

the first one that comes to mind is purple hyacinth https://www.webtoons.com/en/drama/purple-hyacinth/list?title_no=1621&page=1 by all means i should love this series. i think the art and premise are great but for some intangible reason it just doesn't jive with me for some reason. i still recommend it to others and it's not like i don't read it but personally it just didn't make it feel anything

snuffysam

Honestly? Most of the comics I've read as part of #week_long_bookclub and #comment_storm fall under that umbrella. The vast majority of comics I've been introduced to through the CTP activities are really quite good (there's been exactly one in the book club that I couldn't stomach, and it was because of content/writing i personally found overly edgy & distasteful) - but for one reason or another, they're just not the type of comic I want to keep up with regularly. Too slice-of-life-y, too sad, i couldn't visually distinguish the characters that well, a super-sporadic update schedule/is on hiatus/is getting rebooted, the parts of the story I liked are clearly not things the author wants to focus on moving forward, a non-functional/poorly organized website, etc. All very good in their own right, but for one reason or another is not something I'd want to read one page at a time.

Eightfish

@snuffysam I feel similarly that most of the comics in the book club are not my cup of tea (haha). I wonder if it would be different if some of the comics there were reader suggested instead of author suggested?

keii4ii

I think CTP should remain author-submitted. Readers could suggest to the authors to submit their comic, though.

the majority of comics I encounter everywhere aren't my bag of tea, TBH. And that's probably a big part of the reason why I'm making my own. Gotta feed my inner reader's needs, one way or another

A lot of Western-written comedy, specifically, are lost on me for cultural reasons. Often they seem to be referencing something that I'm not aware of. Or they have to be read in a specific tone that's lost on me, and probably would make a bit more sense to me if voice-acted. Things like that.

Cronaj

For me it's usually art style. I'm pretty picky about art style, and I know for a fact that I'm missing out on a lot of good comics simply because the art styles are not to my tastes. Any style that's too cutesy, simplistic, or "generic" anime just doesn't call to me. There have been outliers that have managed to draw me in anyway, despite the art style, but not a lot. I also just tend to not like gag-a-day comics or slice-of-life. If there isn't a larger story, I get kind of bored. That being said, I also don't tend to enjoy most superhero/ strictly action comics, simply because I can recognize the tropes from a mile away. Not that they're bad, just... outdated? In fact, I LOVE superhero movies, but most superhero movies have adapted the tropes into a new form for the big screen. Here's an example of a comic that I've seen around, laughed at a few of the jokes, and then never felt the desire to consistently read it, just because it's not my style. Brutally Honest: (https://tapas.io/series/Brutally-Honest)

LadyLazuli (Phantomarine)

I find myself having the same problem with webcomics that I do with other media - I like to feel like I’m escaping reality. Stories set in our world are hard for me to sit through comfortably. That automatically makes general slice-of-life and romance stories hard for me to get into, unless there’s a strong fantasy/supernatural/sci-fi element to them. That already puts a lot of webcomics out of my range. Because there are SO MANY high school slice of life romance drama webcomics out there. Some of which I know are very highly rated and probably great. They’re just not what my brain craves

Tuyetnhi

strangely enough anything with western high fantasy elements I usually don't read as much compared to romance or slice of life comics lmao

kinda in the same spot to what keii said: a lot of western themes get lost for me and I feel like I need to put my own spin on things if that make sense

Nutty (Court of Roses)

To be fair and honest... I don't really have comics I don't enjoy, or I guess fall too far outside my tastes? Out of the ones I've read, anyways! My reasoning is that I just don't have TIME to read too many comics out there, so when I decide for myself that yes, I'm going to sit down and commit myself to this comic, I look for and find things to enjoy about it, even if it's not normally my cup of tea. The story, the art, the style, the jokes... I try to keep an open mind and enjoy whatever I have the chance to get into, because as an artist I think about the person behind the comic and what kind of story they're trying to tell. I just... really like comics ahahah I wish I had more time to read more!!!!(edited)

FeatherNotes

I agree with @LadyLazuli (Phantomarine) on the 'set in our world ' bit! I find it difficult as well to immerse myself im stories that are in our world with exceptions of an alternate reality or large enough twist that would really differ from what the setting is. Slice of life doesn't really appeal to me, mainly because many comics don't have very stand out designs/personalities for characters that i would gravitate to. To be more specific to the question however, there are certainly quite a few amazing looking comics that don't really float my boat simply bc of style or execution of story or whatnot! Ive been reading one recently that hasn't really stuck to me or left any impact character/story wise, but.....im still reading it! so there def must be something!

Octoflamingo

There are a lot of comics I like but I find myself not reading them after I get to where they last update. I just rarely check in afterwards and usually by the time I do I’ve forgot the plot. I feel that every time I go back to a comic I have to read it all over again to get back to where I was. That can be really time consuming the longer the series is. I also try not to pick up long story oriented series if they aren’t finished because I know I’ll never get to the end of them.

Bear

I say this as a person in the LGBT+ community: I’ve become very tired of comics that centre around a person coming out. Which sucks because they’re super important! But I’ve lived the struggle, everyone close to me has lived the struggle. It’s tiring. What I want is genre stories where the characters are LGBT+, but that’s not necessarily the focus. Luckily in webcomics that’s easier to find. I still have to dig through coming out stories to find them though.

Deo101

Gotta say, super agree with that one Bear.

Eightfish

Same. I like stories where characters are just casually LGBT. Even to the point where they won't even mention that they're gay or lesbian and instead just show up in a gay relationship or naturally bring up their attraction to the same sex. Steven Universe does this really well, I think.

Oh and speaking of suggesting authors to sign up their comics, I think I could have a lot to say about @LadyLazuli (Phantomarine) 's Phantomarine (: Maybe in a few months when the comic gets a little more ahead in the plot?

LadyLazuli (Phantomarine)

@Eightfish I may submit it after this chapter is done around the beginning of February! I do wish I were further ahead, but there will still be plenty to say after this one wraps up. Thank you for the encouragement!

RebelVampire

If I'm just speaking in general, usually comedy and slice-of-life comics will fall into this category for me even if they're fantastic. I am very, very particular about comedy and slice-of-life. Especially comedy, as I'm usually very specific about the sort of stuff that actually makes me laugh and entertains me. So honestly, a lot of comedy in comics is just not my jam. In a more specific comic sense, Kamikaze to name just one of many: https://kamikazeanimated.com/comic/ The art in the comic is fantastic, the characters really fleshed out and interesting, and even some of the comedy I like. Objectively, I think this is a fantastic comic with a ton of effort put behind it and one everyone should give a chance. That being said, for me personally, I just can't get into the pacing. It's a bit too slow for me even if I think objectively it works fine. So while it's a comic I might enjoy in bulk reads, as a page-by-page thing I just can't do it.

Cap’n Lee (Flowerlark Studios)

To be honest, I can’t really name any comics? I tend to like just about any comic that’s really well done. Obviously I have my preferred genres, but I simply don’t seek out comics that aren’t my thing. If I do read past the first few pages of an objectively well-made comic, chances are I’m going to stick around snd keep reading.

Eightfish

Maybe my own comic? Not that I think it's objectively great, but it is of course more completely to my own taste than any other comic out there. Yet if I try to read my own comic I can't glean any enjoyment out of it over the overwhelming feeling of hearing my own recorded voice played back to me. Anyone else?

keii4ii

That's an interesting answer! I can't say I feel 100% the same, but I can relate to perhaps a facet or two of it.

I don't really read my comic either, after all, even though it's an honest reflection of what I want to read.

Eightfish

Thing is I have another short comic from about 6 years ago that I am now far removed from enough to read objectively. And I notice things I think are well done that I didn't notice before and big flaws that I haven't considered 6 years ago. So I'm worried since I can't read my current comic objectively I don't know what I need to improve on

keii4ii

That's definitely a struggle for me as well. It's what constructive critiques are for, BUT it's not easy finding someone willing, able and well suited to critique your work.

I used to actively solicit concrit on my comic. While I appreciate that every critic spent their time and effort genuinely trying to be helpful, the actual critiques weren't always helpful. You have to be a good critic (it takes skills), and you have to be the right critic for that specific story.

🌈ERROR404 🌈

I totally agree on that keii, a lot of people see concrit as the solution for every issue, but that's just bound for trouble. There are a lot more bad and mediocre critiques than well stated and usable ones

keii4ii

Yeah. There's a reason why the services of a good editor are so highly valued!

Cronaj

I think the problem is that most people who offer critiques are trying to shape the story in a way that they themselves would enjoy more, and not necessarily an objective improvement to the existing story. Offering a critique that also preserves the essence and heart of a story is extremely difficult.(edited)

Eightfish

Also when critique is contradictory- " I love how your comic gets right into the interesting part" vs. " I was really confused by the intro " But I don't know what side I would be on if I was a reader because as the author I would never be confused by my own story.(edited)

keii4ii

Yeah, and even when you get two crits on the same "side" it's possible that it's just skewed data due to small sample size. Like, maybe both of the critics are simply not your target audience. I've found that it helps a LOT if you ask specific questions, instead of just asking for a concrit. Coming up with good questions can be very difficult, though! One I've asked in the past is "did you lose interest while reading the comic? If so, at what point(s)?" and I got helpful answers from that, even from people who weren't the target audience.

Kelsey (Kurio)

I admit, I’m not the best at critiquing, like trying to bring to mind things other than “art looks nice” or “I like that joke” or whatnot

Though I guess it gets easier the more I read and mull over something

🌈ERROR404 🌈

it's sometimes hard to find something good and worthwhile to critique LOL

Kelsey (Kurio)

And of course, how does one define “objective improvement” with works of art/media? Outside of things like improving grammar, but what about in cases where it’s like that on purpose? It’s real hard to be totally objective with criticism when you think about it, even when you try to be objective

keii4ii

This might be getting off topic for the channel, but I think it's better to think of it as "effective for the goals of this work" rather than "objective." If you do X in your work on purpose, but X is not appealing to your target demographic, that's not effective. You need to either not do X, or re-define your target demographic. (Not necessarily the only options in that situation, but you get the point.)

Cronaj

I definitely think that "effective" is a better word for what I meant. It's all about intent. For example, most people generally agree that art style should be consistent in a comic, BUT in some cases (especially in comedy) switching up the art style for a scene or a panel to emphasize a point or subvert expectations (thus making the scene potentially funnier) is a very "effective" inconsistency. Basically, if something is effective for telling the story or instilling a mood, the objective view basically becomes null.

DanitheCarutor

I can get into almost anything, there are very few stories I have trouble with, even if it's a genre I wouldn't normally like. Although there are a couple that I'm really picky with, and that's gag-a-day comics or general comedy. The only ones I can think I've actively read off the top of my head are Oglaf, Perry Bible Fellowship and more recently, Woman World. Other than those few the genres never catch my interest, I'm more for story/character driven comics, with plot and stuff like that. Sometimes a comic doesn't click regardless of genre, for example: Homestuck I tried sooo hard to read this one to see what the hype was about, but the farthest I've ever gotten was maybe 50 pages after several attempts, and that's not because it's bad! The comic just didn't click, and regardless of my taste I probably would recommend it to someone who likes those types of comics.

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christinamirabilis · 7 years

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Question thingy for the lolz cos I’m procrastinating study.

Are you good at apologizing? Yeah, probably too good. But yeah tbh I’m good at owning my shit.

Do you prefer your looks or personality? That’s a hard one cos I have a face like a dropped pie but I am also an objectively terrible person, so, like, what a choice! Haha. No but I don’t think I’m good looking, so… personality I guess? Or my boobs.

Are you confident? Depends on the situation.

What are you most confident about yourself? I have the best tits in the Southern Hemisphere.

Name a song that reminds you of someone, and who it reminds you of: Goodnight Moon by Go Radio, always reminds me of Sophie because it’s one of her favourite songs. And it gets stuck in my head every time I see a copy of that book at work.

What is your favourite colour combination? Idk man.

Define your “aesthetic”: I really don’t know like I don’t have the money or the figure to pull off the kind of aesthetic I’d like. Plus I don’t know because there are so many things, idk, probably a combination of soft goth and hippie with a strong femme lesbian undertone.

What is sex to you? Making each other cum.

Do you have any kinks? What are they? Yes.

What are some of your biggest pet peeves? People with bad manners, particularly customers. And slow drivers.

What’s something that automatically turns you off of other people? I can’t think of a blanket thing in general but like on Tinder, people who have their profiles written in atrocious 2000s-era text speak are an automatic swipe left. Because with autocorrect these days, you have to be doing that very deliberately.

What song always makes you sad/emotional? Hope There’s Someone by Anohni, Goodbye by Apparat/Soap & Skin, Wake by The Antlers, Sister by City And Colour, Vale Decem (lmao), Sparklehorse’s cover of Wish You Were Here, Heart Of Gold by Neil Young… there’s probably more but I can’t think of them right now. Some of them because sad songs, some of them because associations, you know?

How many people have you dated? How many of them do you still have feelings for? I guess like the only people I would count as having properly dated, four? I still have feelings for one of them.

How are you with moving on? Hahahahahahahahaha.

What’s a philosophy you agree with, but fail to live by? Tbh I can’t think of any right now but I’m sure there are lots because I am objectively the worst. Probably something about thinking good thoughts about other people and not being judgmental or something lmao.

What’s something you don’t like about yourself? That I have zero self control when it comes to making myself do things I don’t want to do but which I know will be good for me.

What’s something positive happening in your life right now? I feel like I am on the edge of something, and it could be really good, and I just have to push myself forward, you know? But I have to be less reliant on other people if I’m going to succeed. I don’t know, that’s vague. I feel like I am on the precipice of change, positive change, becoming the person that I want to be and that I have ached to be for my whole life. But it’s scary and hard and I just have to face that fear and feel it and do it anyway.

Are you truly able to admit your faults in relationships to yourself? Yeah, I’m pretty self-aware I think. At least, I like to think I am.

Is it important to you to be a good person? Yeah I try to be.

Are you a good person? I don’t know, I always have good intentions but I don’t know how well I pull it off.

How could you become a better person? Being a better friend. Being kinder, to myself and to others. Being more positive and less sarcastic. Actually fucking getting shit done. I don’t know.

Would/have you ever pierced your genitalia? No, and no.

Have you ever been in love? If so, with how many people? Yes. I would say technically with two people, but the first one doesn’t feel real compared to the second one, I can barely remember how that felt, because everything else is background noise, you know?

Do you believe in love at first sight? I don’t think so, maybe it’s possible but honestly I don’t know how you can fall in love with someone you don’t know.

Which social science interests you more; psychology (how the mind effects a person), sociology (how society affects a people) or anthropology (learning about culture)? Why? Psychology, obviously, because it’s what I study and what I want to do for a living.

Have you ever orgasmed? Lmao I had like eight orgasms last night alone, and that was the fourth time I’d had sex in 24 hours hahahahahahha.

Have you ever made someone else orgasm? See above.

During sexual interaction, what is the most important thing to you? That the other person is enjoying themselves, I love to please.

Are you comfortable being sexual with lots of people? That’s a vague question. Do I have a problem with people who have had lots of sexual partners? Not in the slightest. Would I be comfortable ever having a high number of historical sexual partners? I don’t see why I would. Am I comfortable having several sexual partners at the same time? Not really. I’m really quite conservative and traditional when it comes to relationships, like I am really a one-person girl, and I want love and commitment and companionship and all of the stuff that comes with a monogamous relationship. I just happen to want to do that stuff with women hahaha.

How do you usually get people to be interested in terms of romantic relationships? And sexual relationships? And platonic relationships? I don’t know like honestly it just happens? If you click with someone, you click with them. If you don’t, then there’s no point trying to force it! Romantic relationships, idk, I’m terrible at meeting people IRL, nearly everyone I have ever dated or slept with or anything, I met on Tinder or OkCupid. As a queer girl, it’s a lot easier than trying to figure out if another girl is attracted to girls, even - sadly - in one of the two gay bars in Wellington, and I’m shy, so it’s easier to talk to someone that way first. And I just choose to be who I am. Same with platonic relationships, it just happens, you know?

What’s your favourite song to sing along to? I don’t know, I have so many! Usually something that has nice melodies that I can easily harmonise with, because harmonising is one of my favourite things to do. I do go through stages of listening to one song a lot while I’m getting ready in the mornings, and it’s usually something I can sing along to. But honestly I’ll sing to anything. I have been known to sing along to instrumental music lmao.

What’s some “embarrassing” music you listen to? Music that is undeniably country, in spite of my continued insistence that I hate country music, it has really just kind of devolved from listening to indie folk with a very slight country flavour, to musicians that self-identify as country artists hahahaha. But to be fair, it’s not “hard” country, like it is really still more indie folk than country. But maybe I’m trying to justify it. Also Sophie’s terrible taste in mid-2000s emo music has definitely rubbed off on me hahahahaha.

What are you most snobby/pretentious about? Oooh I don’t know, actually probably music to be honest. I’m a lot more relaxed than I used to be about it, but there is some music that I just think is terrible. But the difference is that I respect others’ right to listen to the music that they like, and accept that it isn’t a reflection of their intelligence or whatever, unlike when I was younger and more of an asshole lmao.

How do you express sad emotions? And happy emotions? I don’t know man, like, I am a talker. I gotta talk about that shit with someone. I guess because I never used to, always used to hold it in, now I just like telling people shit if I’m comfortable with them? It has got me in trouble before though when I’ve shared something with people, not realising that the other person to whom the information pertains is not necessarily as comfortable sharing stuff as I am. So I have had to learn to be careful with that. But yeah, talking about it is the main thing!

Do you use Skype? Facetime? I use Skype for therapy sometimes, if I’m working during the times that my therapist is in the city. Facetime, not really.

How do you feel about phone calls? They’re fine.

How do you feel about texting? It’s fine but I prefer to use Facebook Messenger, it’s my favourite way of communicating.

What are your thoughts on LDRs? I think they would be really hard and I applaud anyone who is able to make it work. I haven’t been in that situation so I don’t know how I would do with it, but for the right person I would make it work. I would have no problem not cheating on the person, but goddamn I don’t know how I would cope with missing them so much, especially since I am a student so it’s really hard for me to afford to go and visit the person, and especially if they’re really far away, or it will be long-distance for an indefinite amount of time. Idk, this is something I have thought about quite a bit, since it was a very real possibility with Sophie. I could do it, but I’d definitely prefer not to have to be long-distance!

Have you ever cried over a piece of visual art? What was it of? Why do you think it made you cry? I don’t think so? I have cried over a lot of movies.

When and why was the last time you cried? Last Thursday, during therapy.

What’s something you love that you never do anymore? Why don’t you do it? Singing in choir! God I miss it. But I’m too old for the youth choir this year, and I was too scared to audition for the yo pro choir since I didn’t get in last year. I mean, I had a much better chance of getting in this year. But also I didn’t audition because I know I won’t have time to do choir this year. Or orchestra either, so I’m going to really miss doing musical stuff, but I really really need to concentrate on my studies.

Are you afraid to die? Yes. Ironically, given how many times I’ve tried to kill myself hahahaha. But yes, I am afraid of dying - being in pain, being alone, being scared, and the nothingness that will most likely follow. I can’t imagine nothing, and that scares me. But I’m much more scared of my loved ones dying than I am of dying myself. Ideally we’d all get taken out by a massive meteor impact or nuclear bomb or something, so we all die together and it kind of just happens hahahaha.

If there were no limits; who and what would you be? God, I don’t know. Maybe my original plan of being a film composer, win a bunch of Oscars, become a household name more recognisable than John Williams or Hans Zimmer. Or maybe being a good enough musician that I could make a living off it - I have always wanted to be in a band, either an indie folk band where I can play violin and sing backing harmonies, or another kind of band where I can play piano/keyboards and vox. Or I would succeed on the track I am on now, succeed in becoming a child and youth clinical psychologist - maybe take it further, do some cutting-edge research that is game-changing, revolutionises the treatment of mental illness, maybe a Nobel prize or something hahaha. But I don’t know, if I could choose anything, I don’t honestly know what I would choose. In any case, I would be much more disciplined. I’d be happier, healthier, kinder, better… I don’t know.

Are you more likely to be sub or dom during sex? I’m really very versatile and enjoy both roles. I always thought I was much more submissive, but I have come to learn that I love being dominant too, so I really don’t mind if the person I am having sex with has a strong preference for one role over the other. But my ideal sex is when both of us take both roles, switching I guess? Is that what it’s called? I’m not really up with the terminology. Anyway, that.

Describe your fashion sense. “Does this actually fit me? Does it accentuate how fat I am or does it disguise it a bit? Does it make my boobs look good? Can I afford it?”

Do you have stage fright? Not as bad as I used to, but then again, I don’t do things that make me the same level of uncomfortable as I had to when I was, like, in school or whatever haha. When I’m performing music, it’s always in a group setting, which is how I’ve always preferred to make music - I have always hated performing solo, even for exams, so yeah. I want to perform at the next poetry slam, and that scares the shit out of me, and I don’t know how I’m going to cope with it. But I want to, so I’m going to do my best.

Did/do you ever put your hand up in class? Yeah, if I’m sure I know the answer and I’m not going to embarrass myself lmao. I occasionally ask questions too, idk.

Are you more of an open or closed person? I used to be a very very closed person. Now I think I’m probably more open than closed.

What’s the worst thing that ever happened to you? And the best? I want to say that the worst thing that ever happened to me was either being sectioned to the psych ward, or nearly dying - but both of those events, as well as all the other awful things that have ever happened to me, were the culmination of instances of abuse that happened to me as a child, so I guess that was the worst thing that ever happened to me. The best thing that ever happened to me is hard to say. I think maybe finally coming to terms with and being open about my sexuality has been very liberating for me? I don’t know.

Are you a theist (Not necessarily in the way of “guy in the sky”, maybe just believing in any higher power)? No. I used to be in my early teens, but not anymore. I mean, the scientist in me doesn’t want to rule out the possibility of a higher power, because there is no definitive proof that such a thing doesn’t exist, but I think that it is very very unlikely. Plus I don’t really want to subscribe to any kind of organised religion, since it has been used to hurt me and people like me in the past - at the level of both at a minority group that I am a part of, and of being targeted personally. So, yeah. Not inclined towards theism for that reason alone.

What are your top three places you’d like to travel and why? Ohhhh man please don’t ask me to narrow it down!!! I want to go literally everywhere. But three places that come to mind are: Iceland, because it’s beautiful and lots of my favourite musicians are from there and I want to see the northern lights and visit the hot springs; Thailand/Vietnam/South-east Asia in general, because everyone tells me how amazing and beautiful and cheap it is to visit hahaha; somewhere with amazing beaches like probably somewhere tropical where I can go scuba diving and sunbathe on the beach and drink cocktails and shit idk like Mauritius or somewhere else tropical, or maybe Rio during Carnaval, somewhere where there’s lots of gays, or Mediterranean Europe idk anyway I want to go to all the places.

What’s something you thought would be really scary/bad, but was actually fine when it happened/you did it? Oh gosh, I don’t know! Probably learning to drive my scooter, which is why I should really learn to drive a goddamn car because it will be fine and I don’t know why I’m so terrified.

When you sleep at friends’ houses, how often do you sleep in their bed? Pretty much always? I mean, I don’t often stay over with people who I’m not, like, dating or whatever, but like when I go to visit friends in other cities, I normally share a bed with them, because why not?

Can you sleep facing someone? Yeah but like I tend to turn over a bit in my sleep (I sleep on my side) so sometimes I’ll face them and sometimes I won’t. I’m not really able to sleep while cuddling someone though like I absolutely love sleeping in the same bed as my significant other, but I can’t really sleep entangled with them, if that makes sense? I’ve dated people who used to get really offended when I had to eventually extricate myself from them lmao. Dating someone who is the same as me is always perfect because neither of us gets offended when the other needs to pull away to go to sleep.

Do you ever get in slumps? If so; how often, and how long do they usually last for? Yeah, and it varies.

Do you like being alone? I enjoy spending time in my own company, but I don’t like to be alone for long periods of time, and I don’t like to be lonely at all.

Are you social? Same as above, I enjoy my own company, but I love spending time with people as well. I’m introverted in that I need a certain amount of alone time in order to stay sane, that is probably a bit higher than the average person, but I also need a certain amount of time with other people otherwise I get sad and lonely. It just needs to be with certain people who I care about and feel comfortable with, or it just makes me feel worse.

How do you feel about parties? I like parties, when I feel comfortable there, I have to be with one or more people that I like and trust though.

Have you ever hosted a party? How did it go? Kind of, I hosted a couple with Sophie at her house, they went great! Oh and we had one in our flat when I lived with Sami and Olivia, it went okay I think?

What question(s) do you love to ask people? I don’t really know! Anything, I love hearing details about people. I like asking personal questions but I also don’t like to overstep boundaries and make people uncomfortable, so I have to be sure that they’re okay with those questions. But yeah, I like knowing personal shit about people, it makes me feel closer to them obviously. And I like hearing about the kind of music and film and tv that people enjoy, I don’t know.

What question(s) do you love being asked? The same, I feel like sharing any details about yourself with someone brings you closer together. I’m pretty open about the fact that I live with mental illness, since it has really shaped the person I have become and the priorities I have, and I don’t think it’s shameful, but I tend to share anything but general details only with people I am comfortable with. Unless it’s to ~1000 strangers on Tumblr hahahaha.

Are you confrontational? Does it make you uncomfortable when others are? Not in the sense that I like to get all up in someone’s grill or whatever, but I also very much do not like to avoid confrontation if it needs to happen? Like, if we need to have an argument, because there are some bad feelings between us, that’s so much more preferable to just letting that shit stew and becoming more and more resentful??? It’s not healthy. It’s much better to just get it all out there, talk about it and own your shit and validate each other’s feelings and then move past it. I’m not a grudge-holder, once I’ve said my piece and the other person knows how I feel, I’m fine. But communication is so very important for a healthy relationship of any kind, not just romantic relationships, so in that sense, I definitely prefer confrontation.

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