#apparently your alliegence as a friend isn’t just kinda shitty it’s also cheap

[ziracona]

It’s so upsetting when someone you like is friends with someone who not like, you just don’t like—who really cares abt that; at most it’s annoying—but like, someone who fucked up your life, stalked or harassed or really hurt you—that kinda thing. Bc you are very valid for being upset about that; it makes sense. I’d be upset too. But also you can’t control who other people hang out with and it’s creepy to try; the best you can do is be like “This makes me really uncomfortable and here’s why” in a super fucking awkward way while trying to express you’re not trying to like, give them an ultimatum or something, but like even that is only when you’re really close. If you’re not then you just what? Nothing? Drift away intentionally? What’s the solution; never make new friends in the first place???? That’s not good either!! And yet

#it’s not like this happens a lot but it’s weird I’d have three nickles #and it’s annoying because it’s so not personal to person B and to perosn A they don’t even have the fuckin know but to perosn C it’s like. #‘Damn ok. all I have is the knowledge either you have no idea how much they hurt me or you don’t care and all the responsibility for how to #deal with that situation.’ but there’s a 50-50 at least it’s option B at the best of times so does it even matter? #anyway #shoutout to all my friends who were also besties with people who just marginally annoyed me #instead of like the kid who got me harassed for a week over nothing right after I found out I was losing a family member to cancer or the #guy who harassed me for six months when I wouldn’t date him. #personal #it can get so weird too. once it was my best friend and I was like ‘Why do you hang out w X when they’re mean to you too & you know how much #they messed up my life?’ and they went ‘well I don’t like them but I need their password to watch RWBY’ damn ok #apparently your alliegence as a friend isn’t just kinda shitty it’s also cheap #rip to you but if he’d done it to you instead of me I’d have never talked to him again bc I care how my friends are treated