#are about Family Friendship & community

[yronig]

Tokyo MER: Mobile Emergency Room The Movie

#team in danger #friendship #smoke #labored breathing #almost passed out #asian whump #whump community #worried friends #whump #worry #japanese drama #jdrama #tokyo mer #team like family #worry team #reckless #rescued by a friend #worried about family #fire #trapped family #suffocate #bromance

[citrine-elephant]

stressed the fuck out nonverbal dilf leon: what is your opinion?

#thinking about claire and leon friendship #where she recognizes he's in a Mood TM and overwhelmingly doesn't want to talk #so she sorta becomes his voice for a little bit until the mood passes #leon already has communication difficulties lol why wouldn't the trauma worsen that #you know when you *can* talk but it's such a mentally draining task that you gotta find other ways? #working in a loud place when in that mood :(( #if line of sight was clear i just gave thumbs up or head nods lol #ugh... no promises but i have the urge to write or sketch a little claire and leon thing where she's the protective big sis instead #instead of leon being protective big bro #uhhh chreon but claire is just sister-in-law so it works #idk i know they had a bit of chemistry in re2r but i feel them more as besties/found family #see: infinite darkness where leon does the thing to keep claire safe and she asks why he treats her like a kid :( #to keep a tag rant short: had to read someone explaining that part cuz it felt very weird for leon to not give her that thing

[altschmerzes]

gently requesting the aro community to remember as they go to defend loveless aros and nonpartnering aros and whatever else that society Does Not in fact support aromantic love and relationships, platonic or otherwise, friendships or otherwise, and acting as if they do hurts other aros who are not in fact any more supported or encouraged.

#gav gab #aro blogging #no it's not in fact encouraged to love your friends the way a lot of aros do #in fact people get very weird and arophobic about it #aros who love are not in fact better off or privileged somehow and pretending like they are helps no one and causes harm #when did people start believing that things like prioritizing your friendships or family members over romantic relationships #or being in qprs or other committed platonic relationships or whatever #was something that was like. endorsed. supported. encouraged. #it is extremely fucking not lmao and if it IS tell me where so i can go and live there instead #because HERE it fucking sucks for me and it double sucks to see my own community essentially go 'whatever shut up you're fine' #'this is not about you' #it manifestly is about me actually. it's about all of us. #people being different than you or defending their right to exist in their relationships and love the way they love #is not in fact an attack on you!

[coolfoxykitkat]

Not me casually sending my mom articles on QPRs to prime her for explaining the I am in fact marrying my best friend platonically and no it has not been a joke

#personal rambles #cassette tape #qprs #I actually found a pretty good one in men’s health magazine of all places #and then used that as a casually transition #like ‘hey look at this good article I found in such a weird place!’ #she communicates through articles sometimes? and it’s how she learns stuff best I think #and she also sends ME articles about queer stuff so it’s not totally out of left field? #I’ll have to be careful how I send the second one tho or it might tip her off before I’m ready #I’m waiting until after the proposal for the uncomfy convos with literally everyone in our family #I’m just priming mom with the articles so she’ll have a basis of understanding of what a qpr is #and that no we haven’t been lying about our relationship this whole time #and yes we’re best friends #but also we’re getting married and it’s different from traditional friendship #yes we’re in love but also not like that but also also not like that either but no but yes and kind of and it’s complicated #but I’m sure this short one page article will explain everything forever

[transjemder]

bif and carrietta being cold together season

#some ocs that live in my head :) #bif #carrietta #sockey salmon #saiga antelope #furry #furry art #jem art #bif is a boxer and works at a gas station #carrietta wants very badly to be sommelier and is slowly working her way up the ranks but mostly lives off allowance from her family #they are family friends / cousins and they are roomates #both were the weird kids in their respective families and gravitated together for that reason #a memory that sticks in my head is carrietta getting very overwhelmed at family functions and bif being the one who always sits next to her #being very figety and somewhat annoying but also standing up for her needs to the rest of the family #and bif always getting in trouble cos of getting into fights at school and carrietta always being there to actually listen to him about #what happened when everyone else has stopped listening to him at this point #like those are k-12 memories but i think it really informs their relationship and friendship and familial ties! #i like them :) #they are arouuund the same age as rainer and they all went to the same community college like a decade ago! #carrietta majored in mathmatics and Bif majored in communications

[siena-sevenwits]

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#I made up my mind about three years ago that I was going to stop being insecure about my friendships and give people the gift of not #worrying about any of it. And this decision has really helped. But sometimes - like today - the temptation to overanalyze - to focus #on the minutiae - to ask people anxious questions - is quite strong. So this is me telling tumblr I am not going to let it win. #I'm just going to trust my friends and family that if anything needs addressing in the way we communicate #I will trust them to bring it up #and as for me I am just going to do the best I can to be respectful and kind #and make changes when I see the opportunity #and not get knotted up about it. (I sound so determined when I write it out and feel like a hypocrite - but a little hypocrisy is sometimes #needed at the beginning of a resolution. Even a resolution being renewed for the thousandth time.)

[ark1os]

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I didnt know the tags woulr be so much i shouldve just wrote a long vent 😭😭😭 rip

#lol. there are still times where my brain goes omg what if you’re really a narc #and then i go out of my way to make sure my friends are as comfortable as possible and thati meet all their needs and i apologize every few #minutes for something silly or for maybe hurting them unintentionally and then i remember of #every fallout w people in my life where i was always taking responsibility for my actions n for my role to what led to the fallouts no #matter how toxic the person was and i remember all the times i geniunely apologized to my siblings for my mistakes (without them pointing #out i did smth wrong) and i remember all the tomes someone told me i hurt them and i owned up to it and apologized and then i go #oh ywa. maybe not ? #bonus: all the times i helped someone out in secret to bring some ease in their life without ever telling them or bragging eith it or #using it against them or reminding them that i did x y z for them #and then all the times where my guilt ate me up at nights and i cried and the times where i brought out the best of people because my love #is Nuturing. yea #AND I GUESS THE FACT THAT MY EX BEST FRIEND TOLD ME IM A NARC AND I STRAIGHT UP WENT OMG YEA! PROBABLY! BECAUSE I WOULDVE BELIEVED HER #ANYTHING 😭😭😭😭 BECAUSE INWAS SO SURE SHE KNEW ME BETTER THAN I KNEW MYSELF! 😭😭😭 #BECAUSE I HAD LOST MYSELF COMPLETELY IN THE FRIENDSHIP 😭😭😭😭 NOT VERY NARC OF ME 😭😭😭😭😭😭 #but yea. i guess abandonment issues apathy and lack of communication skills (which leads to passive aggressivness) will make you look like a #narc i get where she came from! but still. if i ever see someone diagnose other people i will simply tell them to shut up #especially based on sentences taken out of context. not very sexy #and also very stupid. #rationally seen i shouldve kicked out the thought that im probably not one when my therapist told me theres no chance i am but. when you get #treated like a freaking mondter from the people you’ve trusted deeply. it does something to you >.> #also when my therapist said that she has No rights to make Any diagnosis or statements about other people because whatever i tell her its #going to tell her more about me than them. i shouldve just dtopped believing it honestly. like freaking sideeye to those therapists thst #told my ex friends im a narc. and a big fat kiss to my therapist for being such a beautiful empathstic underztanding patient beautiful and #kind person #alhamdulillah ^-^ #kicked out the thought thst i am one * #and also a big fat sorry for being hsving no empathy. my communication skills are getting brtter and im working on my abandonment issues #(sfter being abandoned by my closest friends and family hello this is so sexy of me) and im soooo much more st peace w myself n i like and #care aboyt myself ^-^ even just writing a list of positive things ahout me is smth i wouldve never done two years ago #(also my family took me back alhamdulillah eheh)

[cidnangarlond]

forcing myself to be good at communication was always a struggle since I'm a child of parents who would tell each other fuck all about their problems but make me deeply afraid of retribution for certain actions, which could be literally anything I did and not know Why it was wrong because They Don't Communicate, so I had to play fast and loose learning the proper ways to get on with people and all this to say, always fun being a child and having to play mediator between your PARENTS

#amazing no teacher ever looked at me someone I'd say fairly traumatized and not realize that like #my advanced communication tactics were not born of a healthy family LOL #''youre such a little diplomat!'' thank you my parents don't know how to talk to each other LMAO #but boy could they argue. they can't talk about their feelings but they Can yell at each other #so you see why I'm like I Have to be good at communicating. I have to get a good grade in talking and friendship #getting yelled at will make me cry but also make me so angry so I can't exactly have a good talk when I'm like that #but things persist etc etc

[wherevenusholdssomeofficespace]

I think the Dwampyverse on some level is kind of a family affair. It's so cute how much the creators families grew into it.

Like on a purely in universe standpoint we have all the characters who are named for IRL family members of Dan and Swampy. Isabella is named for Dan's older daughter, Lil' Sparks Melissa, Melissa Chase (and probably Tia Meli) are named for his younger daughter Melissa. Django and Jenny Brown are named for Swampy's kids (their last name Brown could have come from Swampy's grandfather). Linda and Tiana are named after Dan's sisters. Ferb is named after a friend of Dan and Swampy's and based off of Swampy's uncle. Adyson Sweetwater is based on Swampy's granddaughter. Ferb and Lawrence being British comes from the time Swampy spent in England. The fact Phineas and Ferb are step siblings also comes from Swampy's own childhood. The Grant-Gomez family is inspired by Dan and his wife and being a half-Venezuelan family. The large age gap in the Grant Gomez family (and likely between Jeremy and Suzy) is due to Dan's own large age gap with his sister. The premise of enjoying summer vacation came from his mom. Perry's double life is inspired by a cat Dan had.

But then out of universe, their IRL family is involved too. Django has voiced Balthazar Horowitz, some of Ferb's cousins, and Chad Van Coff among other minor characters. Meli voices Gretel of course, and Alex/Isa Povenmire sings "I'm the Bomb" along with doing temp voices. Not to mention Olivia Olson, daughter of Phineas and Ferb writer and Songwriter Martin Olson voiced Vanessa, sang a lot of other songs for the show, and Olivia is now writing for the Phineas and Ferb revival, so that's basically come full circle.

This was sort of inspired by Gretel, voiced by Meli Povenmire, quoting a memed Doofensmirtz line, who is voiced by her father Dan Povenmire. I don't think she was even born when Phineas and Ferb first came out. And now she and her sister are now teenagers, which Olivia was when she first got involved on Phineas and Ferb. And now Olivia's writing. That's kind of crazy.

#Also worth noting #Vincent Martella voicing Bradley and Phineas #Alyson Stoner for voicing Isabella Jenny Lydia and Lauren #Maulik Pancholy for voicing Baljeet and Neal #I just love it when Phineas and Ferb voice actors voice other Dwampyverse characters #Obviously they aren't the only ones #But I'm cutting it off here #bc we'd be here all day #it's just the themes of family #obvs idk what goes on behind the scenes but still #lifelong friendship and community aren't just surface level but seem to be embedded in the production itself #The themes of which I do promise to talk about #Eventually #I have it probably mostly written I just need to find it #I have so many drafts you don't even know #I just scrap most of them bc I repeat myself a lot #I've been busy #and too emotionally invested in a tumblr poll #pnf #phineas and ferb #mml #milo murphy's law #hamster and gretel #h&g #dwampyverse

[mielgf]

wishing you all comfort, love, and contentment in 2023, whatever that may look like for you ✨❤️ happy new year!!

#talk time #just gonna take these tags to reflect on my 2022 if you’re proud of something from your year PLEASE let me know #this year i completely stepped out of my comfort zone and moved to a new city (a BIG city) #i grew mentally and emotionally so much during the first half of the year working and the final quarter back at school in a new place #i have become so much more confident and content with the person i am i have opened myself up more to others #my friendships grew stronger as i became a better communicator and less guarded with my affection #i made two new amazing friends (my roommates) and am so excited to see where those friendships go in the coming years #even in the lowest of times i coped and handled it so much more healthily than i ever have and that was how i knew i’m really getting better #i am so passionate about what i study and about my hobbies and interests #i worked hard on setting boundaries better and while there is def room for improvement i’m celebrating the victory nevertheless #i am the healthiest i have ever been both mentally and physically bc i truly prioritised my own well being this year #i have become much more gentle with myself #and while there are obviously fallbacks and bad points: i am so so proud of the progress i made in 2022 #i love my family i love my friends and i love myself #i did my absolute best this year in every domain and for that i am grateful to myself #this is the first new year in a while that i have been coming in so unbelievably hopeful #and dare i say even happy… damn

[yronig]

Tokyo MER: Mobile Emergency Room The Movie

#team in danger #friendship #smoke #labored breathing #almost passed out #asian whump #whump community #worried friends #whump #worry #japanese drama #jdrama #tokyo mer #team like family #worry team #reckless #rescued by a friend #worried about family #fire #trapped family #suffocate #bromance

[shirkers2018dirsanditan]

it’s parents’ job to be critical of everything you do but i don’t need that. especially when it’s low hanging fruit. AND when its ALL they do. hello!

#and especially when it’s some shit that quite literally torments me every single waking moment of my life #‘you need to improve your social life you need some more friends’ oh my God really? i had no idea! i just love being catastrophically lonely #that’s why i’m miserable and deeply unhappy #i just didn’t know about friendship! #my parents are like hmmmm cool grad school thing. but did you stop being a loser? oh you’re reaching people with you community org? #thats cute. you’re still by yourself though #then are like well why don’t you want to talk? why are you closing me off? like take a guess bestie #its so hard to be the token loser in a family of charismatic charmers i deserve a medal

[chickenisamazing]

Why did I start crying in broad daylight when my friend was telling me about a story she heard on NPR about how two best friends who moved away from each other found each other again as adults and rekindled their friendship

#T #I was outside. In public. #I wasn't bawling but I teared up n had to wipe my eyes n she held my hand alfjskdjsjd #god I'm such a baby #I love love so much #I also teared up in the car when she texted me that she was bringing something for me n my family #I don't usually cry when ppl give me things alfjskdk idk why I've been so emotional about love n friendship n community today #I'm a loser for crying but I'm a loser with friends :)

[echoing-oursong]

The fact that Robin and Steve’s friendship is the best part of the show and everyone agrees with that. But somehow fandom turns them into just mini cheerleaders for the ships of ronance and steddie is personally my villian origin story.

#like babes it’s so obvious that you think romance is more important than platonic love/friendships #stranger things #steve harrington #robin buckley #it’s just gah! #once saw a story where Robin got involved in season 2 where she was the one to take Nancy home from the party #and I have never wanted to cry more!!! #y’all just completely somehow forgot that Steve and Robin is the best friendship ever #the fact that everyone wants to make shit romantic no matter how is really annoying to me #and then y’all just forget about the friendships in this show EVEN THO IT IS ABOUT THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY #it’s a show that is mainly about friendship and y’all just as that and threw it away like nothing! #it’s the way that anything is written for this ships just either completely forgets that Steve and Robin are friends or they make them into #these stupid cheerleaders and the only reason they communicate/talk is because they’re talking about their romantic partner

[perenlop]

also for screenwriting im basically like adapting and heavily rewriting natch and wisp’s story for like a 50 minute screenplay (partly having trouble bc i didnt care for natch’s original story and theyre now humans in an emotion driven magic realism setting about bigotry instead of the convoluted fantasy story they were in my head) and like everyones asking abt the characters and where i got the idea and i dont have the heart to say that they’re former kirby ocs that have been retooled to be their own thing twice now

#i mean i dont have to say that at all actually but its like wild to me... theyre furry ocs #ppl seem to really like them and are interested and giving genuine constructive criticism tho so i do feel ok abt the story #just abt the pacing and ending is where im like. augh #fun fact i did have them as humans the first time i retooled them just really fantasy setting #the main plot is taken from like a personal part of their arcs that appeared in their original story and are basically front and center #im sad ill have to cut most of my ghost lore for time as well as the thing that made them most fun to write for the sake of the ending #but whatever #general theme is like. trying to live in a world that oppresses you and you cant escape the oppression bc its ingrained in society #but still trying to find ways to cope and thrive rather than just shut yourself off from human connection entirely #and themes of like. toxic friendships and learning to let people go and move on from your pain #their original story talked more abt abuse and moving on from toxic family to live yourown life and theres still that here #but more of an emphasis on the fear of living as a marginalized person in a conservative community #bc like. idk. i kinda wanted to write that bc ough. hm. yeah #also natch wont be redesigned as a human like official this is just like emery screenwriting class au #shes still a little kitty cat #echoed voice #and she'll probably stay in a fantasy setting about ghosts and souls and magic

[dark-magical-ships]

I am very rarely without words. Most often I have SO FUCKING MANY words… and absolutely no coherency pfffffffft

#this is because I know I’ve been ranting about Seto for like and hour #and know very well that there are typos (despite my best efforts) and stuff #but I don’t care because this is my blog and it’s where I come to scream about him for hours on end if I want #🐉💙 cocoashipping 💙🐉 #in my personal universe he is the center of everything. i love a lot of people but he is the one who taught me what that even means #I didn’t learn to understand what love was from family or friendships or media. #I learned by falling in love with Seto and figuring out what that means one agonizingly slow step at a time #a decade is a really long time to be dating. but it was a long time that we needed #neither of us was ready for this before. if I’d found the community a few years ago #I’d probably have been talking about how we would never get married and didn’t need to. all that mattered was that we love each other #we still don’t really need to tbh. this is more a matter of us deciding what we want our future to look like #we will always be together. forever. the future for either of us is the future for both of us no matter what it involves. #and as for who we belong to? I’m his. he’s mine. that’s what it means. #these are the reasons we decided to get married even though we spent a decade thinking it just wasn’t for us. #1) we want it to be clear to all who know us that we are a package deal. 2) we belong to each other and always will #his heart is the crown jewel of my dragon hoard. the prize of my collection. the most precious thing I have ever been responsible for #my heart is his in turn. #we belong together. to each other. forever. #we want the world to know. and to understand. if only they did.