#are mutuals just people who follow each other

[readychilledwine]

Rhys w a small reader with a big mouth?

Little Girl, Big Mouth

Rhys with a mouthy reader headcanons

Warnings - implied smut, reader could be seen as trashy but Rhys loves it

A/n - This anon actually came from an IRL friend. She texted me about it, and I had her clarify if she meant a gossip or big mouth as in a girl who is prone to talking shit and fighting. It was talking shit and fighting, so thanks, Sammie 💕💕

Ps- I will figure out what your username is 👀 but you're very sweet for doing this the way the rest of my followers do instead of just texting me first😭

You aren't a doormat. He refuses to let you be seen as one. Even if that means you get into a verbal argument here and there.

Those verbal arguments have gotten physical.

My baby daddy always tells me not to write a check he can't cash (if you don't know what that means, it means don't start a fight that he can't finsh.) You don't have that problem with Rhysand.

If you stand, mouth firing off insults as someone else is, he will stand too. Ride or die, he won't let you fight without him.

And that is if the man isn’t already behind you, warning the male standing over you without even having to speak that if he lays a hand on you or speaks out of line, he will be finding out why Rhysand is proud to be half illyrian.

You do know time and place, but if someone insults your male, your family, or your court first, all bets are off.

Your mouth is equal opportunity. High fae, lower, male, female, high lord? You don't care. All bets are off the table with you. No one is safe.

Beron? Constantly roasting him. Asking him if beating his wife helps him feel like a real male. Keir? Verbally torn apart. How pathetic he must be to think he has some pull when he lost out on being high lord.

Hell, illyrian males aren't even safe from you. Not when three immediately are behind you the second they feel your mood change.

And it isn't that you can't fight. You are well trained and can more than hold your own. He just prefers you let him.

He's only held you back once. It was from Amren, and he hardly caught you in time before you jumped on her.

Cassian was disappointed. He wanted to watch two tiny females wrestle it out. He said it would be better if pretty lacy outfits were involved, but he was ready to settle for you in your dress and Amren in her two piece outfit.

Rhys did not stop you, nor Amren, from tackling Cassian for that comment.

He will throw you over his shoulder, ignoring you as you scream for him to put you down while still running your mouth as you're carried out of the room. But only if family is involved.

Mother knows they are no exception. You all get on each other's nerves from time to time. Besides Azriel. You could never fight Azriel.

Rhys loves it. He loves how spicy you are. He loves how much fight and sass you have. He loves how it's always to people who are mean.

He does love fighting for you as well. Sometimes, he asks you to pick fights when it's someone he has been itching to get his hands on.

He rewards you throughly when you oblige him.

"Where's that big mouth now, darling?" While your back is arched off the bed, and your mind is just a haze. "Thought you had so much to say earlier."

He loves making his girl with so much to say and so many opinions go dumb for him.

He loves it when all you can think to say is his name and barely thrown together words.

He loves putting your mouth to other uses if you start in on him, too.

He'd keep you tucked under his desk for hours, putting your mouth towards something actually useful if you two fight.

And that's rare. Your opinions are normally shared and mutual. It's why you two work. Otherwise, you would be constantly at each other's throats with how vocally dominant you both like to be.

Overall, he'd change nothing about how sassy you can be. He loves you as is. Even if it means you bandaging his hands after a trip to Illyria.

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[wrotten]

i just unfollowed sooo many blogs most of which were inactive and now i only follow 55 people lol

#unfollowed a lot of long time mutuals that haven't been on for many years :'( #some of them i follow elsewhere though so we're not completely disconnected #i used to have a little circle of mutuals who were all mutuals with each other and i knew everyone #but i feel like i don't know anyone on here anymore #just the few people that i knew from back then that are still around #i don't come on here very consistently anymore and i don't necessarily feel the need to know people anymore #just reminiscing

[lastoneout]

tbh with tumblr rolling out the new notification system that explicitly tells you if you're mutuals with someone or not I think we should take this time to stop making such a big deal out of "being mutuals" in the first place and reintroduce terms like "friend" and "acquaintance" into our vocabularies

#like idk I literally don't care if I'm mutuals with someone?? #how we interact establishes our relationship #following each other is just like an extra thing that is nice but doesn't mean we can't interact and be friends still #there are people on here I consider my friend who I do not follow it's not that deep #I have irl friends who don't follow me just bcs they don't vibe with the way I post #ever since the twitter peeps came back people have been using “mutual” a LOT and it's always kinda rubbed me weird #like all those posts like “me and the mutuals” like just say your friends you and your friends #that's what you mean #I just don't think we should put so much emphasis on being mutuals with someone it's like #can we all just be online friends again #I usually just say “my internet friends” #me not following someone does not mean I don't think of them as a friend or value their presence #and I don't expect everyone who likes me to follow me following is not a given #anyway this has been your “I'm getting old aren't I?” rant for the day

[camptw1nk]

i miss. the vibes of the rpc a few years back

#things just felt more. community based #people interacted more w each other on the dash and it felt like people were really there to interact and not just for a follower count #its probably rose colored glasses in a lot of ways bc thats when i was most active so thats when it was most enjoyable but #idk there was just something ab the days where u could have 50 followers and always be interacting w most of them #these days ill get 200 followers and the same 5 mutuals interacting all the time #and like. huge shoutout to them they know who they are but those people make this site worth being on #its just. idk its tiring when a lot of time is spent yelling into the void that is the dash and getting nothing back #and to some extent timezones r to blame and also my lack of writing but its. its not just a lately thing #its been getting worse for years and i think this is really the first time ive ever been like. not active on tumblr? #like im here but a couple of years ago the idea of me having a main blog and barely ever logging in or writing was absurd #i would be online and writing 24/7 if not here then on discord and wire #bc people were always around to interact with and now its just like. oh weve all grown up and become adults and no one has time #for each other anymore and its very. thats life thats how it is but it sucks idk #maybe this is 2 some extent projection also bc thats how things r irl rn but thats just. tahts not important

[yutaleks]

Hi aleks, sometimes I feel like, no one wants to connect on this social media site? Idk. The like to rb ratio is depressing. I mean, I’m grateful that people are liking my posts. But like. I wanna hear what they think too, ya know?

not sure if you are a writer im guessing from the wording of this ask that you are. but I think it's a bit hard these days to get the level of interaction that you may be asking for

depending on what fandom youre in or what character youre posting about or what trope youre writing etc etc the size of the audience will change. like I already know in my mind if im writing something that is more geared towards stereotypical heteronormative relationships that will get much more interaction than something that is subversive. or if im writing a fic for a popular character that will get much more interactions than a not so popular one.

But at the same time, coming from someone who used to write for a very popular character, I have to say that the grass is not always greener? As in, I think there is a difference between quantity and quality of interactions. If im writing something that I know a core base of people who follow me will like, I know I will most likely get at least some sort of interaction from people who typically enjoy that content. I find that interaction to be more meaningful, especially if it's something I enjoy talking about. vs, if I write something with a bigger 'audience', perhaps there will be more reblogs but the back and forth interaction does not happen. that person will read the fic, reblog or leave a comment, and then be on their way. It does not create this relationship where you end up having a back and forth conversation or becoming mutuals or anything like that (at least, in my experience).

Like if I post a fic that EYE enjoy, and I get ten comments from lovely people, that means more to me than a hundred interactions on a fic I didn't put my whole dick into. ya know?

idk where im going with this. I guess I wanna say if you are passionate about something, and you receive even a few bits of feedback, that will feel so much more rewarding than trying to 'chase' the feedback by writing things you think others will enjoy. and I think too that people will be able to tell when you are writing something that you feel passionate about.

im of the opinion that you can't force people to reblog and interact with your work. ive seen every excuse under the sun for why people wont reblog. but I think if someone feels as passionate about something as you do, they will overcome whatever shyness they feel to come tell you that they appreciate what you are doing

#idk if what I said makes any sense but #I think coming into Tumblr as a writer its okay to want a better rb to like ratio but don't feel discouraged #there is a lot stacked against you right now #no one that I know uses the tags anymore cause they are full of spam #so sometimes the fics that appear on the dashboard are just mutuals reblogging each other. and as a newbie those circles are hard to get in #so someone with no writer mutuals and no following... their posts wont be seen by anyone with significant pull/reach #I would say that I think 'bigger' writers on here should at least try every once and a while to peek into the tags and boost writers #that are new / starting out and making genuine efforts to write #I wont explain but I think when you've been on here long enough you can tell who is posting in the tags for 'Tumblr clout' and who I postin #fic bc they genuinely are passionate about it #but I know most writers on here only read whatever they see on their dash #if people actually stopped spamming the tags with nonsense and the tags were more useable I think we would all use them more... ironic #anyway. I personally always try to reblog fics with comments and check the tags every once and a while for fics to read #I think that is best practice for writers but I know not everyone does that... #in the same vein #i think if you put effort into being a good reader consistently. writers with larger followings will notice / want to be mutuals and help #boost your writing to the dashboard #writing fic is a community that takes genuine effort to grow #TLDR: be a good reader and reblog fics and interact with writers. write things that come from your heart. interactions will follow with tim #*time #long post #ϟ asking aleksandria

[andromedasummer]

you know what i would love to be an option in bg3? making your own party member. like Icewind Dale style. choose their class, voice, appearance and travel with them. obvs i understand why they didnt, but it wouldve been so fun to have the option to make your own member, esp if they could be incorporated into your backstory. a sibling, parent, spouse, adventuring buddy, best friend.

#this being spurred on by my want of my pc sabine being joined by my drow pc schezelle #have been working on them more (made sabine a lathander paladin as that made more sense and schezelle a seluné worshipping sorcerer) #they both knew each other through mutual friends becore being kidnapped in baldurs gate. while sabine was an experienced adventurer #schezelle only recently escaped the underdark after betraying her family after being rescued by members of sabines adventuring party #so all this kind of danger is very new and scary for her. i have her at about 70 #(young adult in elf years) and sabine a half elf at 45. #whereas sabine follows the canonical romance line with shadowheart #schezelle falls for astarion and supports him unequivocally but gets trapped into a relationship with him when she helps him ascend and #his alignment/the relationship as a whole changes. after the tadpole is removed the rest of the party help her get away from him and #in the meantime she looks for a way to use either true restoration/resurrection/some other cure for his vampirism #because she realizes she made a HUGE mistake just going along with everything he wanted to do #and only went along with it because 1. her own alignment is still slowly becoming unfucked cos. female drow raised in the underdark #2. shes just used to doing what people who like her say because its easier that way and doesnt make conflict #i dont think she gets back together with astarion after she finds a cure for him but they stay close. she returns to waterdeep with sabine #and shadowheart to live in the formers tavern with her adventuring party #maybe falls in love with gale while researching cures for astarion #idk yet still thinking things through and going through the game #anyway yeah. wish i couldve made a friend for sabine. think she gets lonely and misses home a lot during the adventure.

[ultimateinferno]

I wish we have Boop leaderboards. Not even site wide. I want to see who out of my mutuals* booped me the most or who I booped the most. Or a ranking to see how much I booped someone exactly.

#boop #boop war #april fools #*a lot of people on here who I know well but aren't technically mutuals because I like to keep my dash tidy #a lot of you follow each other so I'm sidestepping seeing the same post 4 different times for days on end #can you follow someone and then turn off their posts cause having the mutual tag would be cool #i think i just recreated the concept of ''friending''

[wibble-wobbegong]

yes im besties with my mutuals no ive never had an actual conversation with anybody on this app

#there are way too many people following a guy who sits around and talks to himself with the occasional addition of others #of the 4 or 5 people I’ve dmed we have not exchanged more than like. 10 messages total #i live in a bubble and watch the mutual circles move around me #ive toed onto the side lines of a few mutual circles and kinda just. Watch #occasional participation #i don’t know how to make friends so i’ve become a people watcher on tumblr too #none of this is a pity thing it’s just me talking to myself #Literally #im just living and you guys are watching #we are watching each other #im in the glass tank swimming around bumping into walls and people who interact with my posts are like the zoo keepers who drop food in #how does it feel to have that power #1 reblog feeds me in my little glass tank

[pfudorqueen]

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#i'm really hurt rn by my bestfriend's attitude #and i can't rant on twitter because we're following each other on twitter #but i need to get this off my chest or else he'll take the brunt of it #and he doesn't deserve to deal with my mood #but i'm super hurt rn #because last year i asked him what he was doing for pride #hoping we'd go together #and he told me he was just going with his boyfriends #so i didn't go #and then i found out he also went with one of his bf's sister #and ended up meeting up with a friend of ours there #and obviously i saw it all on instagram while i was sitting alone at home #and then this year i asked what he was doing for pride #and he told me he was going with his brother (who came out to him a couple of months ago) #so again i didn't push and told him to have a great time #and then two days ago i saw that he wen't with his bf's sister #and today i saw that he also went with our mutual friend and at least one of his bf #so you know a bunch of people who are also supposed to be my friends #and i'm so deeply hurt that it happened AGAIN especially after I told him that i was super hurt the first time and he apologized and stuff #also it was super difficult to admit it to him because i didn't want to sound petty and jealous #but my therapist told me it was healthy to talk about it instead of just keeping everything inseide #and i don't want to tell him because it's my shit to deal with and just because i'm fucking insecure doesn't mean he has to like #accomodate me or anything #but fuck it makes me so fucking sad #and it's really hard rn to not just see it as another example of “i don't matter to people” and “i'm not worthy of their time” #so yeah #it sucks rn #so i guess tumblr's gonna be my rant space for all things W

[levil0vesyou]

Having a post get popular enough to be independently reblogged by someone you follow but aren't mutuals with is. Wild

#yes it was the sex poll obvs #given the person is a minor i'm very glad they picked answer one lmao #like i do think minors in general are allowed to want and even have sex (with each other obvs) but when it's a minor i personally follow it #would just make me feel pretty weird lmao. like on a personal level ya feel? i mean when u reach an even closer level it becomes not weird #again like my dear friend ness (17yo) who afaik doesn't actually HAVE any sex but occasionally wants to and i support her hot girl summer. #but as stated this person barely knows i exist i just follow his blog (i used they earlier but this was incorrect but tumblr won't let me e #edit the tag 😔) and he's 16yo so seeing him talk about wanting and/or having sex would have been. uncomfortable. like obvs he'd be allowed #to because my personal discomfort is no indication of morality but you get it. like if my big little cousin (she's 15 now by god the years #don't stop coming) were to talk about sex and stuff to me or within earshot i would ummm. throw myself out the window? but like i'd still t #try to be supportive and if push comes to shove then yes i would give her condoms 😔 cuz like if a minor wants sex i will not be able to sto #stop them lmao but i can at least try and make it somewhat safe y'know #actually i remembered i have literally given a 15yo a condom before lmao she's prolly over 20 now but like as the adult dormmate it was alm #almost like a responsibility y'know like what do you want me to DO?? let her get pregnant?? anyway enough tangent lmao #btw all this is also why in the poll i included 'too young' but didn't specify an age cuz that's individual y'know. some people are p late #bloomers (i was one) while others choose to have consensual sex by 14 y'know. not something i like to think about but that doesn't mean it #won't happen ya feel. i mean what am i the american education system? lmao. so some ppl have interpreted being 17 as too young but there's #also folks like this who clearly consider 16 old enough and that's defo ppl's good right. and again i usually don't mind just the fact that #he in particular is someone i already knew made it uncomfy. but anyway yea back on topic it's very interesting in general when your post #gets big enough to independently make it to ur dash thru a non mutual lmao. love the hellsite honestly where else amirite #personal #mine #ok to rb ig #like the actual body of the post anyway. i'd be pretty uncomfy if said person saw my tags on this cuz y'know it's kind vagueing even if it' #not negative but anyway. anyway #*kinda

[meirimerens]

one acct for 7 years ??? how many blogs do you follow omg

you're going to laugh. 323.

#i don't like when there are too many blogs on my screen. #i know people who follow over 1k people in 1 year on a platform and i'm like. none of that. #i follow a lot of like. artistic blogs that do post the same thing over and over but like. i like it :) i like seeing it. #in the same vein i've watched youtube for over 10 years and i still follow less than 200 people. #i also follow people i've stuck through for years... who i've been mutuals since my early MGS days and even tho we've moved onto other thin #we still follow each other. you know. #ring ring (answers) #sillyinc #i just don't like it when there's too much

[snixx]

they don't know about my dark past (i was close mutuals with the most passionate finchel and mileven shipper on the goddamn planet for almost as long as i've been on tumblr and longer than i've had this account)

#if it weren't for her id still believe finchel shippers and milevens were a lie like no one can be PASSIONATE about THEM right #okay but honestly i dont give a shit. im from the glee fandom everyone there is besties with people who hate your otps and blorbos #and drag each others ships all the time and ship like kurtbastian or smth #and tag properly (mostly) #i guess that was my tolerance era. id never follow a finchel now #15 year old me: we can have none of the same opinions on fandoms and still be friends! hashtag maturity #me now: yeah but honestly im just here to vibe if 90% of what you post annoys me im not gonna follow you or seek out a friendship lol #(old mutuals im here to stay though however much you spam my dash with things idgaf about) #(i still loved her but we blocked each other 2 months ago because she turned out to be a hardcore zionist she can go to hell if i care now) #anti finchel #anti mileven #anti milkvan #but damn the way she was probably the longest moot id had at that point

[venterry]

honestly might just lock replies & direct messages to mutuals only at this point but i probably wont do it because theres plenty people i interact with on here whose blogs im not following

#honestly would prefer if this site had some distinction between following each other and a friend system #bc i dont want to lock friends out from contacting me on here by setting things to mutuals only #without having to follow each others blogs because we come here for different reasons #im just kinda getting sick of random people who follow me thinking a post directed at either no one or a few specific people #is somehow an invitation for their opinion when they clearly dont know me #venspeaks

[tracfone]

anyways chelldos fucks and uh. so i guess this dynamic is not great in any real world sense as it can only work with the canon if the both of them for the most part just stay underground together forever alone isolated from the world but also i really do not care. also i think along the way they do (canonically) and will (fanonically in my brain, in my head, lmao) develop a lot of trust in each other and mutual understanding and interdependence that puts them on equal footing with one another rather than like, glados being this big towering force you cannot overpower

#i dont know sorry im special interesting so hard #like i said in the tags of that reblog i'm still finishing off portal 1 but it's really gripping honestly #also i love glados A Lot lmfao #you give me a really mean character and that's one thing. but you slowly humanize them and i'm so gone #my ships follow a pattern of like. 'this character is quite literally the entire fucking world to the other and vice versa' #that's a pretty common thing to say. in fanfic and in real life though sometimes a flag in real life #**a red flag i mean #with fradrian the overarching codependency is solved (in my head) by gentle mutual encouragements to go to therapy #and a large support network around them they slowly acclimate and warm up to #because they are initially so so so unhealthy. just as individual people #but i think they can learn a lot from each other. they are both sick but they have traits that the other does not posess #with chelldos and the prospect of being hundreds of feet underground completely separated from the outside world #and let's be honest. could they acclimate to the outside world? #there's not really much of a chance there #but i don't think the codependency has to be 'solved'. i don't know. hit me with a car or whatever but i want to enjoy that for what it is? #just a hugeass robot and her engineer caretaker who she's kind of completely at the mercy of now but who treats her repairs as #a labor of love quite literally #oops that's part of my au i daydreamt up #mild portal spoilers i guess it's very lightly implied but /i've/ seen the spoilers )))): #anyways fuck that stupid theory. i really refuse they'd go out of their way to write them like that and redact it with a mother-daughter #relationship that would be incredibly fucked

[wanhedas-dagger]

People be reading the fic and missing the whole entire hecking point and not knowing how to read between the lines to come to sensible conclusions. And then they will comment and make me read their truly awful and incorrect takes about matters that were very clearly explained in earlier chapters!!!

#ok not to sound ungrateful #but like #r u reading the same story #so many people miss the point #and so many people just don’t get the complexity of Lexa’s situation #and they all just over simplify it #and it’s like!!!! #please use some critical thinking skills #and if you’re not happy with how it’s being handled #don’t read it!!!! #again not to sound ungrateful but like #I’ve stopped caring about comments on this fic #(I still like seeing the number go up) #but there’s like 4 people who’s comments I eagerly wait for every time I post a chapter #coz they Get It #and I love how they talk about the story #and the things they liked #it’s incredible #those people are also mutuals on here #so if we follow each other #and you read tarnished #and you leave comments on most chapters #this about you #i love you #f tarnished but so grand #writing #fic writer problems #personal

[420crematorium]

void

#!!!!! its so cool knowing people who do drag hehe n getting to chat w them at their shows ! #went to a show tn and watching these people my age be silly and fun on stage for their art is so nice to watch haha #also its nice seeing people in these scenes recognize me from us going to similar shows and following each other #that they like to come say hi hehe 👉🏻👈🏻 if i wasnt socially awkward as hell i would try to make closer friends w them than just ig mutuals #maybe one day i’ll get over it 😅 #peach helped sm bc we would just go to shows together and he talked for both of us LOL while i chimed in occasionally #one day corey !! u can do it lolol #void