#are you that obsessed with acting like a victim

[furiousgoldfish]

There was a time, when as a young adult, I'd be reading self-help books, in order to see if I can do something to make my life livable. Sometimes, these books would go very deep into victim blaming, and making a person believe that they can just 'manifest anything', or 'make things happen', and later I trashed all of that nonsense, but as an inexperienced person, I was all up for magical thinking, and taking advice from people who enjoyed making everything a vague concept that one can control with their mind.

Some of these books indeed, touched on parenting, and their philosophy was that parents who are bad, are simply bad because their parents were bad, which is something they love to use as their favourite excuse (i had it worse). But as a young person, how was I to know this was stupid, I believed this. The book went on to encourage the child, to try and be the parent's replacement parent, and to offer them caretaking and parenting they never had in their youth. Now, if you know how child abuse works, you'd recognize this immediately as the encouragement of parentification, making the child responsible for the parent's well being, being the caretaker instead of being taken care of, taking responsibility for the parent's actions and behaviours when the child has absolutely no control or power over it - basically bad. But, how was I to know, right. So I decided to try and take this advice, and try to see; what are my parents lacking, in the form of having their own parents?

This is where things got funny; I analyzed my parents behaviour, and realized very quickly, that what they lack is moral compass, correction of intensely selfish, irresponsible, ignorant and shallow behaviour, and if these were my children I would simply not tolerate that level of malice. My parents weren't lacking in care, they were lacking in discipline. So at that point, I, who had no income, shelter, social power, access to resources, finances, or anything else, thought I was responsible for disciplining my parents and teaching them how to 'not be evil', if I wanted to change them in normal and good people. (Completely normal and possible thing to do.)

And it's not like I had any guidance in how to offer proper 'discipline', all I knew was violence, which I couldn't do for obvious reasons, and the next thing would be scolding, yelling, guilt-tripping, criticism, making them 'feel bad' for 'doing bad things'. And that's exactly what I had decided to do. Next time my father was acting selfish, malicious, shallow and self-obsessed, I dropped him a 'This is why you don't have any friends.' line.

Now I have no idea why, but this actually got to him. He was shocked for a moment, and then started acting defensive. 'I have friends!' he insisted, and then he started listing all of the coworkers he used for his gain in the last week. 'Those are not real friends.' I decided. That had actually gotten him upset. He started listing all the things he did with those people, which were just random work transactions, and it didn't convince me at all.

Looking back, it's funny because I was so low on his hierarchy of people whose opinion mattered, he tried to kill me multiple times, he screamed inhumane slurs and insults at me constantly, he considered me less than a person, less than a thing even, but he was still so offended that anyone in the world could think he had no friends. What I had done is made him worried that his facade and public image of being well-connected and liked wasn't strong enough, and convincing me that he was all those things, was how he thought he'd fix it. He didn't even think for a second that maybe he should fix his malicious and exploitative behaviour, it was all about maintaining an image of being something else.

Obviously he didn't have any friends, because he's a narcissist, and narcissists don't make friends, they keep prisoners. I was a constant thorn in his eye because I could see trough his delusions and would regularly call him out on that, which of course then brought on violence to make me terrified of contradicting him. Because that's how they think reality is generated, if they say something is true, and nobody contradicts them, then that must be the new reality.

Anyway, I didn't try to argue with him on friends again, because it got boring and did nothing to fix his inhumane behaviour, and I didn't like interacting with him anyway. But I still find it very funny that a book that was trying to push abused children into caretaking for their parents, pushed me into trying to punish them for abuse, it was almost Matilda-like in fashion. If I had magic powers I would have changed these people (into people too scared to be evil in front of me).

#story #abusive parents #bad self help books #mention of attempted murder #child abuse #magical thinking #parentification #abusive father #trying to discipline parents #only to find out you have zero power over them #and it doesn't work anyway

[frodo-of-the-nine-fingers]

the question of whether or not Jin Guangyao killed Qin Su or Jin Rusong is so deeply unimportant to me and also misunderstands, i think, the framing of these murders in the text. in the end, it doesn't actually matter if he killed them or not, it doesn't even matter if he feels like he did or feels ultimately responsible for their deaths (both of which are not necessarily the same thing as having capital M murdered them). what's important is that people think he did. what's important is that all it takes to destroy a man & make him the next surrogate victim is a few well placed rumors, whether or not they're true. it happened to Wei Wuxian and then it happens to Jin Guangyao. it doesn't matter, ultimately, if he killed Qin Su or Jin Rusong, the only thing that matters is that people think he did and that they were so easily and vindictively swayed is one of the themes of the story. Jin Guangyao uses this against Wei Wuxian and then Nie Huaisang uses rumors and gossip against him because the only murder that actually matters in the story is the one that starts the story, the one we know Jin Guangyao did for certain, the founding murder if you will.

#tldr who cares if he killed the baby/j #i do think we need to stop obsessing over it tho l #it's ambiguous! let it be ambiguous! #you can't ever prove that he did you cant ever prove that he didn't let it goooooo #tldr go read violence & the sacred #sry if this is rambly & contradictory & doesn't make sense i am who i am there’s no fixing it now #im not saying that their deaths are less important than nmj (except like narratively speaking they are so) but i am saying that #if you're so hyperfocussed on whether or not these 'acts' prove jgy is 'good' or 'evil' you are missing the point #mimetic doubles be doubling mimetic crisises be needed surrogate victims the grass is green the sky is blue what else is new

[corvidcall]

sometimes you see a bad tweet and it makes you upset all day but you cant interact with it in any way because then twitter will just be encouraged to show you more bad tweets. but it did ruin my whole fucking day

#anime life #the tweet was something like #'MAYBE when trans women talk about how bad testosterone is its because of their own trauma #and its not about trans men because literally nobody was talking about you guys oh my god' #like... ok...? #but trans men can still HEAR you tho.... #i don't think its fair to act like trans men are self obsessed professional victims or whatever just because you said something shitty #like yes it's from your trauma and not about trans men but. yknow. #if i post about how ugly my fat body is #just because its coming from a place of trauma and societal abuse doesnt mean my comments don't hurt the other fat people who hear it #anyway i think part of why it's stuck with me all day is because it made me feel so sad #sometimes it feels like no one cares about me but me yknow? #like no one cares about trans mascs but other trans mascs #and no one cares about fat people but other fat people #and no one cares about disabled people but other disabled people #i KNOW that isn't true!!! #factually that is false #but sometimes it really feels like people only care about me in as much as they care about telling me i better not start thinking i matter #as much as they do (people whose lives and problems and societal marginalizations ACTUALLY matter) #and then if you try to talk about your problems to explain how theyre real you just get made fun of #oh well. time to get under my weighted blanket and get real small #and try not to get entirely black pilled by the world lol

[always-a-joyful-note]

How do I explain this? (Spoilers for Enstars Sanctuary story)

Sanctuary is the story of a guy who woke up in a strange world with weird looking monsters and empty streets with a guy who was his former theatre club president. Except the theatre club president (implied to be a bit of a cryptid except this world definitely has no magic) had somehow mentally regressed back to his five-year-old self, which is fine because he's a genius, and now the guy and his former club president have to deal with this strange place together. But the side story is that two of his friends are being shown around what is basically a cult disguised as an amusement park to indoctrinate people into believing they can become idols and apply to work in that industry. And there's also another side story in which the guy's other friend is being harassed by a middle aged man who's kidnapped their goddess, basically, and is also the mastermind behind the overarching plot in the villainous sense. Also, the former theatre club president's new team, specifically that team's leader, is perpetuating the idol cult because he's got a twisted obsession with idols and believes that to farm them is the only way they won't be discouraged by those with exceptional talent and skill.

But in reality, this is just the story of a lonely teenager who could only find a little bit of freedom to express his abandoned child self in a messed up system that another teenager (who is very smart but just doesn't understand human relationships) created because he cares about nothing but in reality cares about everything and perpetuates a cycle of constant destruction to keep his one obsession alive.

But even further than that, Sanctuary and the whole SS ARC is just a story of a bunch of high schoolers/recent high school graduates who want to sing getting tangled up in a very dangerous mafia-esque world and sometimes realizing that they should call the police or some law reinforcement but forgetting to do so every. single. time.

#note stop getting into media that offers such compelling philosophies that you blatantly disagree with challenge i guess? #i could go on a spiel about how eichi saying 'i need to continue this path of destruction for those victims i destroyed in the past'... #...is kind of self-perpetuating that cycle of destruction and teetering on using victim blaming #sort of like that one story i reblogged a while ago about the villain who counted every person they killed... #...and were brutally rebuffed by the hero #but that isnt to say i hate eichi...honestly i cant help but just feel sorry for him #because he obviously isnt as detached and or as smart as he tries to be #but he also is definitely not as in love with idols as he thinks he is rather than hes kind of obsessed with them which causes....problems #same with wataru (and whats with that mysterious old couple that im 90% sure are his foster parents?) #like i know theyre very complex and annoying and mysterious to the other characters #and they are insane. that i will not deny. if they were real id probably not be able to keep up #but as a reader theyre just lonely and definitely acting way cooler than they actually are (same with ibara sorry guys) #enstars #ensemble stars #fandom spamdom #stuff i say #enstars sanctuary spoilers #also i will say this....wataru and eichi deserve each other but also i want to pry them apart because they are NOT HELPING THE OTHER #by the way i say all of this from a point of deep amusement because this is very fun #dont take me too seriously cause im probably wrong or misinterpreting #need my disclaimer tag again but its not showing up so disclaimer these are all just my personal opinions #anyway i stand by my last post in saying the ra*bits members need a break #AND I DEFINITELY STAND BY MY DECLARATION THAT SOME SORT OF LAW REINFORCEMENT SHOULD BE CALLED #like i know that police arent great but there are CRIMES HAPPENING COME ON???? #like take everything ive said on this blog as a complete joke except for that....the amount of times these teenagers have been... #...threatened with death/bodily harm/destruction of their beloved ones is kinda funny when they do it to each other #and kinda concerning when a shady middle aged man im pretty sure isnt going to be *that* bad in the end but fails in talk does it #i have rambled pardon me

[sapphicdessi]

lol so many bi radfems argue like reactionary manipulative queerio tras and liberals when they're called out for homophobia or told of their privilege ://

#the bihet victim complex #lmao saying someone is calling bisexuals evil for calling out your denial and downplaying of your privilege/homophobia come on #bi women are obsessed with saying liking men is oppression #treating it like it's homosexuality itself #and that gays are oppressing them for it #tra mental gymnastics in all bi communities aside from febfems which many also dislike #it's amazing the community obsessed with converting gay people or showing/telling men lesbians aren't real and can be fixed #has such a victim complex #such narcissism #bisexuals force gay people to always centre and talk about their osa and treat it like oppression #they act like it's an EXTRA struggle over gay people #what other community gets away w this shit #osa don't see lesbian as people #bi women are especially horrible to lesbians despite being ssa so like stop acting like we need to bond w homophobes #“lesbians are oppressing me by assuming I won't be serious about women” #it's a pattern and not our fault your community sucks. that you're so male centric male obsessed homophobic/misogynist and prefer privilege #you admit most bi women prefer men and rarely prefer women #and no “settling” for women bc men are shit and annoy you isn't preferring women #it's exhausting hearing the most homophobic women complain about homophobia like LOOK IN THE MIRROR you hate homosexuals yourself

[hypervoxel]

I said "Alastor is actually a terrible person (affectionate)" but what I meant was "I think we should go back to addressing Alastor as someone who wants to see the people around him suffer for his own entertainment."

#i am increasingly put off by one-sided attraction takes actually #but like. i love the idea of Alastor looking at Vox's obsession with him and thinking it's funny #and usually 'stringing someone along' is victim blaming bullshit. but I am enamored with the concept of Alastor purposefully doing that #to the point where Vox asks him to join the Vees and Alastor laughs in his face because oh my‚ you really think I like you? You? Ha! #Vox is so entertaining when he's flustered and glitchy and he's even funnier when he's pissed. Alastor doesn't even need to fight him - #Vox's own emotional overloaded and subsequent meltdown means he takes himself out #of course I do also think Alastor is disgusted by the kind of person Vox has become‚ and who Vox associates with #and Vox acts very differently depending on who he is trying to appeal to. #when he's with Valentino he is so different than when he's with Alastor #and when he hangs out with them both at once it is such a jarring experience for Alastor #who realizes that Vox is so fake. he'll act any way for attention. he throws any morals aside for the smallest reward. #i have many many thoughts about all of them

[legal-poppy]

the fact that so many people (including those involved in the show itself) are ignoring the wishes of the victims' families to NOT have the worst parts of their lives dramatized just so millenial/gen z women can obsess over a hot guy playing a serial killer is a little disturbing

#its what sells #just like the bundy show with zac efron. #its downright disturbing that people are trying to say 'i know the victims families dont want this show to exist but evan peters is so hot' #that doesnt make it better. public obsession and romanticization of serial killers is what got us here. you are actively becoming the #problem by engaging with shows like this #and this is NOT to say that we should not write books movies tv shows or analyze serialists or their crimes. because that needs to be done #but the way shows like this are sensationalizing sexualizing and dramatizing such horrific acts because is FUCKING DISTURB #DISTURBING #you know you fucked up when you care more about money and fame than about privacy and accountability #evan peters #dahmer #jeffrey dahmer #dahmer netflix #monster the jeffrey dahmer story

[timeisacephalopod]

In relation the that true crime post I made yesterday, does anyone know good true crime YouTubers who aren't fucking weirdos about crimes, criminals, and constantly advocating for higher prison sentences acting like Americans??

If you say Princess Weeks I already follow her and if you don't it's not all true crime that just comes up go watch her shit she's very informative and let me to the In The Dark podcast, which is also very good

#winters ramblings #in americans defense obviously other countries ALSO have a USian obsession with inflicting cruelty on 'criminals' #like making them suffer A Whole Lot will result in lower recidivism rates but the US's recidivism rate is MEGA high #like i think the over all numer is some 70%?? why advocate for a system that VERY VISIBLY DOESNT WORK #especially when your ass is telling me true crime tales like i want to know how serial killing went down #not how much you bought into christian ideas of crime and punishment while acting like the state should inflict your bizarre #revenge fantasies on criminals that you have nothing to do with and if you claim thats to help victims #that doesnt help victims. you know what would?? access to mental health care and group therapy with other victims #do we do that for victims of violent crime? not that i fucking know of. seems way more helpful than throwing someone in jail for 800 years #because thats somehow supposed to solve the problem of crime and make the victim whole again #seriously id love to dig into true crime content but finding someone who isnt a fuckass is next to impossible

[llycaons]

claudia’s actress was fucking excellent. emmy

#will probably be thinking about that fireside scene for the rest of my life #this episode was...wow. WOW #everything that happened to her #and then returning #standing up to lestat #louis being dead to his family #the break that definitely would have happened years ago if they were human #breakup* #my GOD I knew lestat has issues but this was horrifying #though I don't think a breakup could have happened under any less violent circumstances since lestat is so...obsessed? terrified of being #left? possessive? something #he just wants to love consumingly that it causes him to act in incredibly destructive and horrifying ways #he WANTS love* #interesting that louis doesn't consider himself a victim but might that just be because he doesn't want to be seen as one who was victimized #because it definitely looks like claudia came back to encourage her father to leave lestat and when louis agreed lestat became physically #abusive #like saying 'I held my temper and went against my nature and never harmed you' and then trying to kill him like fuck FUCK that's terrifying #and she pointed out his verbally abusive and controlling behavior long before this. she saw it #iwtv lb

[vaporsnake]

*logs into tumblr to my unresponsive audience of people who followed me for the jesus post and raiden cake* what's you guys' favorite anime of all time

#i think for me flcl #speaks to me as a grooming victim #a lot of people criticize it for not being overt enough in criticizing the grooming behaviors but i think thats a strength #that you need to kind of. realize how much it sucks that those two girls are acting this way towards naota and no one cares. #thats what it feels like looking at my own story with predatory teens/adults in retrospective thats why it speaks to me so much #and even though mamimi reminds me of my abusers i also relate to her because of her ostracization and obsession with the divine #so i just generally like to revisit flcl a lot and admire how it handles its messages #cuz for example i feel evangelion (which had a lot of the same people working on it) couldn't do the same in trusting it's audience to be- #mature enough to figure out the messages. a lot of evangelion felt 'told not shown' to me and it was kind of a weird watching experience #like the show thought i wasnt smart enough to watch it? i still like evangelion though obviously #but yeah i just like that flcl trusts its audience to know that grooming is bad. #and i relate to it a lot. #i kind of just used this q to ramble about flcl but i still wanna hear what ur favorite anime is

[felixfathom]

i may be doing better now. if i don't see anyone talk about felix fathom

#having a fictional character as fp can make you want to kill yourself so bad and ppl act like you're being an obsessive bitch for funsies #actually fucking insane ... some of you should die. i am the primary victim of my bullshit

[prettyboyscollection]

gender critical people, especially women, will spend all their time tearing down the appearances of trans people, especially trans women, and then when trans people dare to retaliate and make a joke about their appearances, they act like they’ve just been shot

#classic case of not being able to take what you dish out to others #‘you don’t look like a real woman!!! you have disgusting man hands and bad skin and ugly hair and and and’ #‘trans people are way more attractive than transphobes’ #‘omg how could you be so misogynistic and cruel this is just proof that women are the most oppressed ever’ #if you spend all your time insulting peoples appearances and rights to exist and use public spaces and live openly as themselves #you can’t act like a victim when you get some of that hatred thrown back at you #play stupid games win stupid prizes #also related to this is how they always seek out the most ‘obvious’ looking trans women #ones that have stubble or no breasts or are wearing obvious wigs etc #and i think that it’s because they wouldn’t be able to recognize a trans woman who doesn’t have stereotypical masculine features showing #they say they can always tell but they probably cross paths with trans people all day #which explains why they’re so paranoid and obsessive over being able to clock people #to the point of swearing that cis women are trans because of some ‘masculine’ feature that yknow. also can develop on women #and just being straight up wrong about what features people can have #like they jabber a lot about looking for an adams apple and like. cis women can develop those too you know that right #it happens because of testosterone affecting your larynx #and it doesn’t have to be a lot either #like it literally just happens because of hormones. it’s a secondary sex characteristic just like body hair getting thicker/darker #during puberty #and there are tons of features like that #cis women can be just as broad shouldered as a man and they can be flat chested and have strong jaws and thick dark eyebrows #and an adams apple and big hands and big feet and deep voices and can be tall #all the things that they claim means someone is secretly a trans woman #and this gets people harassed #ive heard plenty of stories about cis butch women being told to leave womens bathrooms or even attacked for it #because instead of pulling their heads out of their ass and using their brain terfs would rather make things worse for other women #by narrowly defining what a woman can look like #they bounce around on what makes someone a woman but a lot of the time it lands on having a vagina and ovaries and a uterus etc #which is uhhhhh. what’s the word here. incredibly misogynistic #defining women by their ability to have babies but in a feminist girlboss way this time

[heritageposts]

The Grayzone has obtained slides from a confidential Israel lobby presentation based on data from Republican pollster Frank Luntz. They contain talking points for politicians and public figures seeking to justify Israel’s assault on the Gaza Strip. Two prominent pro-Israel lobby groups are holding private briefings in New York City to coach elected officials and well-known figures on how to influence public opinion in favor of the Israeli military’s rampage in Gaza, The Grayzone can reveal. These PR sessions, convened by the UJA-Federation and Jewish Community Relations Council, rely on data collected by Frank Luntz, a veteran Republican pollster and pundit. [...] The Luntz-tested presentations on the war in Gaza urge politicians to avoid trumpeting America’s supposedly shared democratic values with Israel, and focus instead on deploying “The Language of War with Hamas.” According to this framing, they must deploy incendiary language painting Hamas as a “brutal and savage…organization of hate” which has “raped women,” while insisting Israel is engaged in “a war for humanity.” [...] Luntz’s Gaza war presentation puts his poll-tested tactics back in the Israel lobby’s hands, urging pro-Israel public figures to stay on the attack with incendiary language and shocking allegations against their enemies. In one focus group, Luntz asked participants to state which alleged act by Hamas on October 7 “bothers you more.” After being presented with a laundry list of alleged atrocities, a majority declared that they were most upset by the claim that Hamas “raped civilians” – 19 percent more than those who expressed outrage that Hamas supposedly “exterminated civilians.” Data like this apparently influenced the Israeli government to launch an obsessive but still unsuccessful campaign to prove that Hamas carried out sexual assault on a systematic basis on October 7. Initiated at Israel’s United Nations mission in December 2023 with speeches by neoliberal tech oligarch Sheryl Sandberg and former US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, a recipient of hundreds of thousands of dollars in donations and speaking fees from Israel lobby organizations, Tel Aviv’s propaganda blitz has yet to produce a single self-identified victim of sexual assault by Hamas. A March 5 report by UN Special Representative on Sexual Violence Pramila Patten did not contain one direct testimony of sexual assault on October 7. What’s more, Patten’s team said they found “no digital evidence specifically depicting acts of sexual violence.”

They also advice to use different language for Democrat and Republican voters, which inadvertently provides one of the most succinct explanation of the difference between the two genocidal parties that I've ever come across:

To make their arguments stick, Luntz recommends pro-Israel forces avoid the exterminationist language favored by Israeli officials who have called, for example, to “erase” the population of Gaza, and to instead advocate for “an efficient, effective approach” to eliminating Hamas. At the same time, veteran pollster acknowledges that Republican voters prefer phrases which imply maximalist violence, like “eradicate” and “obliterate,” while sanitized terms like “neutralize” appeal more to Democrats. Republican presidential candidates Nikki Haley and Donald Trump have showcased similar focus-grouped rhetoric with their calls to “finish them” and “finish the problem” in Gaza.

One of the slides, illustrating what language to use:

There are several more slides in the article. I recommend reading the whole thing, start to finish. One more thing I'd like to highlight though:

Luntz acknowledges Israel’s mounting PR problems in a slide identifying the most powerful tactics employed by Palestine solidarity activists. “Israelis attacking Israel is the second most potent weapon against Israel,” the visual display reads beside a photo of a protest by Jewish Voices for Peace, a US-based Jewish organization dedicated to ending Israel’s occupation of Palestine. “The most potent” tactic in mobilizing opposition to Israel’s assault on Gaza, according to Luntz, “is the visual destruction of Gaza and the human toll.” The slide inadvertently acknowledges the cruelty of Israel’s bombardment of Gaza, displaying a bombed out apartment building with clearly anguished women and children fleeing in the foreground. But Luntz assures his audience, “It ‘looks like a genocide’ even though the damage has nothing to do with the definition.” According to this logic, the American public can become more tolerant of copiously documented crimes against humanity if they are simply told not to believe their lying eyes.

. . . full article on GZ (6 Mar 2024)

#free palestine #palestine #israel #gaza #hasbara

[inkskinned]

they want to talk about mental illness and acceptance and how everyone is a little ocd it's cute and quirky and their "intrusive thoughts" are about cutting their hair off and you say yours are about taking a razorblade to your eye and they say ew can you not and everyone is a little adhd sometimes! except if you're late it's a personality flaw and it's because you are careless and cruel (and someone else with adhd mentions they can be on time, so why can't you?) and it's not an eating disorder if it's girl dinner! it's not mania if it's girl math! what do you mean you blew all of your savings on nonrefundable plane tickets for a plane you didn't even end up taking. what do you mean that you are afraid of eating. get over it. they roll their little lips up into a sneer. can you not, like, trauma dump?

they love it on them they like to wear pieces of your suffering like jewels so that it hangs off their tongue in rapiers. they are allowed to arm-chair diagnose and cherrypick their poisons but you can't ever miss too many showers because that's, like, "fuckken gross?" so anyone mean is a narcissist. so anyone with visual tics is clearly faking it and is so cringe. but they get to scream and hit customer service employees because well, i got overwhelmed.

you keep seeing these posts about how people pleasers are "inherently manipulative" and how it's totally unfair behavior. but you are a people pleaser, you have an ingrained fawn response. in the comments, you have typed and deleted the words just because it is technically true does not make it an empathetic or kind reading of the reaction about one million times. it is technically accurate, after all. you think of catholic guilt, how sometimes you feel bad when doing a good deed because the sense of pride you get from acting kind - that pride is a sin. the word "manipulation" is not without bias or stigma attached to it. many people with the fawn response are direct victims of someone who was malignantly manipulative. calling the victims manipulative too is an unfair and unkind reading of the situation. it would be better and more empathetic to say it is safety-seeking or connection-seeking behavior. yes, it can be toxic. no, in general it is not intended to be toxic. there is no reason to make mentally ill people feel worse for what we undergo.

you type why is everyone so quick to turn on someone showing clear signs of trauma but you already know the fucking answer, so what's the point of bothering. you kind of hate those this is what anxiety looks like! infographics because at this point you're so good at white-knuckling through a severe panic attack that people just think you're stoic. even people who know the situation sometimes comment you just don't seem depressed. and you're not a 9 year old white kid so there's no way you're on the spectrum, you're not obsessed with trains and you were never a good mathematician. okay then.

mental illness is trending. in 2012 tumblr said don't romanticize our symptoms but to be fair tiktok didn't exist yet. there's these series of videos where someone pretends to be "the most boring person on earth" and is just being a normal fucking person, which makes your skin crawl, because that probably means you are boring. your friend reads aloud a profile from tinder - no depressed bitches i fucking hate that mental illness crap. your father says that medication never actually works.

you still haven't told your grandmother that you're in therapy. despite everything (and the fact it's helping): you just don't want her to see you differently.

#writeblr #warm up #to be clear let me state again: i think you should id however you fucking want if it helps you seek peace #but there is a HUGE difference between being like '.... im undiagnosed but i think i might be X' #and a person who is like ''omg my intrusive thoughts made me buy a birkin!!!'' #babe mine made me throw up bc they disgusted me so much <3 #mine made me hurt myself evenly. even when i wanted to stop. i have had to put my hand on the stove MULTIPLE TIMES #and again i'd rather have 10000 people get help for something they don't need help for #than have 1 kid NOT get help #but there has GOTTTTT to be a middle ground here #bc at this point it isn't ''raising awareness'' #it's . fucking misinformation. and ''what this picture says about you!!!!!'' #& yes! im mostly talkin about ppl who are actually disgusted and offended by signs of mental illness #but use it to defend THEIR actions #like babe you hate when kids start yelling in the walmart? but you YOuRSELF can yell? #you are depressed so it's fine you were cruel to your spouse? #but if your spouse spends too much time in bed she's a lazy fuck? #your partner needs to do everything for you bc of your history in trauma? but when SHE has needs she's being clingy and gross? #HUGE difference here between whom i think most of my followers are btw. like #all it takes is fucking anyyyy empathy or kindness . like. #anyway it's hard to explain im hoping we all know the person im talking about lol

[hypervoxel]

Okay some people talk about asexuality in a way that makes me really wonder about their views on allosexual people too. Like. Some of the things people are saying or writing are so weird. This is too vague, oh well. It's the framing of one-sided unwanted attraction or unwanted romantic/sexual actions like they're worse, so much worse because Alastor is ace. Like, you know harassment is still bad even if the victim could be attracted to the perpetrator, right? Even if they are attracted to the person harassing them, it's still horrifying.

#yikes™ #vent #okay so. i read darkfic‚ that's on me. i have seen multiple - and noped right the fuck out each time - that implied #it even Blatantly Said - that Alastor being sexually assaulted was worse bc he's asexual and would never want that at all #like if you're trying to rant about the idea that having sex will 'fix' an ace person‚ that is still sooo poorly phrased #why should other characters feel that suddenly the act of rape is worse because the victim was sex repulsed and got no enjoyment from it?? #what do you think they feel about allosexual rape victims and survivors??? #are they dismissive of anyone who was raped by their partner while they were in a relationship? #I am still so heated over this #and some things people say like Alastor being so uncomfortable with Vox's obsessive crush on him *because* he's ace #like anyone else has never had to deal with someone else having unreturned feelings for them #I'm not phrasing everything beautifully in my vent post either but ugh #personal

[unboundprompts]

Could you maybe write some prompts for portraying an unreliable narrator?

How to Write an Unreliable Narrator

-> 8 Tips to Writing Unreliable Narrators - Writer's Digest

make them a liar. Have them commit their faults outright, contradict themselves in the narrative, prove them to be a liar by their actions, have them hint that they know more than they're telling, reveal the truth a little later than they should, or have gaps in their memory.

shift their motives. Give your character conflicting desires and changing drives. Keep your reader guessing about their true mindset. (Are they in love with Character B? Or are they obsessed with Character B? Do they want to help B, or do they want to harm B?)

make them more clever than they appear. Have your reader believe your character is innocent and incapable of cunning and calculating schemes. Maybe they appear innocent and naive to the reader, and only later it is revealed that their childish actions have purpose.

use your secondary characters. Have them catch your narrator in lie, reveal that they are a victim of your narrator's lie, reveal a truth that the narrator has yet to share with the reader. How they treat the narrator can also show their unreliability. Sharing personal histories with the narrator may expose a side to the narrator that the reader hasn't seen.

add an unpredictable act. When a calm, thoughtful, innocent character suddenly does something out of character and a little unhinged, they become unreliable. (ex: a grieving woman suddenly throws all of her husband's belongings in the lake.)

4 Types of Unreliable Narrators:

-> What Is an Unreliable Narrator? - MasterClass

Picaro. The picaro is a character who has a knack for exaggerating.

Madman. The madman is unreliable because they are mentally detached from reality.

Naif. The naif’s narrative abilities are impacted by inexperience or age.

Liar. The liar is the most deliberate of all the unreliable narrators. The character fabricates stories, often to paint a better picture of themselves or achieve a desired outcome.

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