#aro struggles

[cherrytea556]

Heteronormativity and Amatonormativity go hand in hand. You give the opposite sex one compliment then somehow people think you have a crush on them. Talk about complimentless ig.

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #aromantic asexual #aro struggles #ace struggles #aroace stuggles #I called one guy pretty and people assumed i had a crush on him #complimented him on his haircut today iswtg if this repeats again #amatonormativity #heteronormativity

[ratnix]

The aro struggle of engaging with a fandom or reading a synopsis of an interesting book, movie, graphic novel and realizing how focused on the romance everything is when you're just here for the plot and the characters and the chaos

#aro #aromantic #aromanticism #aroace #aro struggles #lgbtqia #this is about nevermore i thought it was going to be vibes and chaos i'm only staying for every other character except annabel and lenore

[thefrogginbullfish]

#aro #aromantic #aro memes #aromantic memes #aromantic spectrum #aspec #aro spec #aroace #aroace memes #cupioromantic #lgbt #queer #lgbtqia #lgbt memes #lgbt meme #lgbt community #aro stuff #aro struggles

[theaceofarrows]

Me: [just trying to get my regular year round groceries]

Marketing teams across the US:

#Valentines day 2024 #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro struggles #ace struggles #aroace struggles #srsly this stuff was out in late december #aro memes #ace memes

[acexualien]

#aro struggles #aromantic struggles #ace struggles #asexual struggles #aspec #aroace #aromantic #asexual #asexuality #ace #demiromantic #greyromantic #acespec #aromanticism #asexual positivity #aromantic positivity #asaw2024 #aroweek #aro week #aromantic pride #aromantic awareness #aromantic spectrum awareness week 2024 #aromantic spectrum awareness week #aro #aro ace #queer #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqia #queer pride #info post

[butthatsjustmyfilthyopinion]

One time I was with a friend and a mutual acquaintance of ours started talking about how they figured out they were aromatic but it was in the format of those “you know your aroace when” and it just keeps getting increasingly specific and targeted. I knew well and good I was acespec at the time and my friend was the out aromantic acespec, and he had more regular contact so naturally I assumed that they were talking more to him than me which is chill they were an acquaintance, idgaf. So I’m sitting there laughing along because of course I’m relating to aspects of this I’m asexual, and then it starts getting into the aromatic section and I’m like “oh no. oh no” Something about it just triggered my flight instincts, like cat jumping and climbing over furniture and hissing kind of flight. I was nervously laughing like “ha ha I feel targeted stop. stop. STOP I FEEL TARGETED HeLP” and had to actually stop myself from crawling away over the seats (we were in an auditorium at the time). anyway, that’s how I started to figure out I was arospec finally, but moral of the story it’s okay knee jerk reaction is retreat. That doesn’t always mean you’re scared. it can just mean you’re not expecting something and want to approach it on your own terms. to often I think bodily reactions are read into for emotional ones that aren’t necessarily there. My body is constantly “over preforming” what I’m feeling. My tone especially. Just yesterday I was talking with the cashier after a late shift and while I felt fine my tone was coming out so much more tired and gloomy. I asked him “how are you so cheerful on such a late night” and it came out accusatory. I wanted to apologize but it wasn’t worth it anymore. The same thing happens when I talk about something vaguely undesirable, and the opposite happens when something good happens. My body may want to sob when nothings happening, it may have pent up energy that I have no motivation to do anything with. It’s okay if your body doesn’t always match. idk where I’m going with this, but I guess if this is something you experience there’s someone around who’s living comfortably with it. Its never been a source of pain for me and I hope that it hasn’t been for you, but it can be strange to not really have the vocabulary for something and therefore not know if it’s normal or not. Which kind of circles back as to why we have labels in the first place, so we’re able to talk about these things. So yeah.

#aromantic #asexual #acespec #aroacespec #arospec #aro struggles #struggles in general #lgbtq #aroace #aromantism #aro pride

[siriusly-remu]

so weird to me how you can just hate someone that you dated after breaking up with them. like what??? weren't you in love??? WAIT DO PEOPLE LOVE THEM AND HATE THEM AT THE SAME TIME???

#i really don't understand romance #😭😭😭 #aro #aromantic #aro culture is #aspec #arospec #acespec #aroace #queer #pride #lgbtq #aro stuff #aro struggles #aro problems #aromantic stuff #dating #breaking up #aromantic problems #aroace culture

[lostparadise-mp3]

i honestly feel like my ~ whatever that is going on in my brain ~ (anxiety? adhd? autism? all? who knows!) blends so much with my aroaceness that i can't separate one from another. i don't understand love at first sight the way people do— that “i knew it was you from the first moment i saw you”, i don't understand one night stands because wdym you can trust your body to someone you just met after a couple of drinks? i don't understand why love fades the same way it appeared, out of nowhere. i don't understand how you can actually feel horny or heavily attracted to someone you saw on the streets, like wdym you saw a cute girl and got a boner? how does that work? (i am aware i am exaggerating with this one lol) (at least i hope so) i don't understand how you can simply Not Care about your lover's feelings and cheat on them, why don't you tell them “nah i am not interested anymore”? why is it okay to lie for a long time to avoid hurting them (and ending up causing more pain) instead of inflicting less pain sooner?

i don't understand the way most people “love”, the way they handle “romantic” relationships, i don't get the difference between marriage and dating, i don't understand a handful of things and i don't know if it's because my brain tends to think way too literally when it needs the heart or it's because love doesn't blind me and make me do dumb things.

being aroace is kinda a headache sometimes, i guess.

#aroace #ace struggles #aro struggles #aromantic #asexual #ace stuff #aro stuff #is it okay to put adhd on the tags #neurodiverse stuff #question mark

[shiutsu]

Its like every other post.

Its annoying.

#aromantic spectrum #aromantic community #aromaticism #aromantic #loveless aro #aplatonic #aplatonic aroace #aplaroace #aplspec #apothiplatonic #aspec community #aspec stuff #loveless aplatonic #aromantic representation #actually aromantic #aro stuff #aro struggles #arospec #aro memes #aro moment #aro post #aro problems #platonic repulsed #aspec memes #romance repulsed

[cherrytea556]

Being an aromantic writer is frustrating because you want to show aromantic people but you know damn well people would misinterpret their relationships as romantic and ship them, ignoring the orientation of them for aromantics like you to finally get more recognised within in or out of the community. It really says something that I know I have to be explicitly clear that these characters are aromantic and I don't want them shipped for people to even slightly get the message across.

#aro #aromantic #writer #writer struggles #aromantic struggles #aro struggles #the aro writer struggle is real

[soulless-bex]

being aroace/aspec is watching a show and absolutely loving the dynamic of that of duo (generally a girl-boy duo) but knowing that they’re most likely going to end up in a romantic relationship than to remain friends

that’s one way to ruin my fun like any other i guess

#i’m currently watching the national treasure series #and i absolutely love how oren and tash interact #they have such a chaotic friendship i love it #but the chances that they stay FRIENDS are basically nonexistent #gotta love amonormativity #aroace #aro #ace #aromantism #asexuality #aromantic #asexual #aroace struggles #aro struggles #ace struggles #national treasure series #aspec #aspec community

[thefrogginbullfish]

#aro #aromantic #aromantic pride #aro pride #aro memes #aro spec #aromantic spectrum #demiromantic #grayromantic #lgbt #queer #lgbtqia #lgbt meme #lgbt memes #lgbt community #aro struggles #aro stuff #aroace #aro community #amatonormativity #aromance #aspec #aspec stuff

[acelor-acetaylorswift]

Fifteen is one of the most aro-ace songs in the canon, to me at least. I've been sleeping on it.

There's just a distance between herself and Abigail's experience or being in love. She feels like an onlooker who relates to some things, but also is an alien to the life the others are leaving.

The idea "when someone tells you they love you, you're gonna believe them" is so relatable as an aromantic. Love, at 15, is assumed to be real but this indicates that the person believes but doesn't feel (but perhaps wants to because they're "supposed to".) There's just a distance between the narrator and the experience of romance that I can't quite express.

"in your life, you'll do things greater than dating the boy on the football team" is to me one of her most poignant lines, and it spoke volumes to me when I was a 15 year-old listening to this track in the back of my mom's van and crying. It's applicable to anyone, but when viewed through an aroace lens, it takes on new meaning: you don't have to be trapped in high school romantic politics forever and finding romantic love is not the foremost thing in life.

Unfortunately, sometimes we can't escape it however. And no matter what we accomplish in, say, the year 2023, the world still makes dating the manchild on the football team the greatest thing a woman can do with her life.

Overall, this feels like I am watching other people experience love and sex but not able to feel it myself.

Maybe she knew it all at 15.

#aro ace #aromantic #aro struggles #aro spec #aroace #aro #arospec #taylor swift #free taylor #the eras tour #fearless taylor’s version #fearless taylor swift #acelor

[softfuzzysock]

Sometimes I forget that I'd be absolutely freaked out if anything that I read about happened to me in real life.

#aromantic #aro struggles

[fallenrain40]

GAHH I HATE WHEN A FANDOM TALKS ABOUT NOTHING BUT SHIPS LIKE I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THE VERY INTERESTING STUFF THAT HAPPENED BUT I JUST GET FLOODED WITH SHIP AFTER SHIP

#-holds the lion guard fandom in my hand; preparing to squish it- #WHY ARE THERE SO MANY KION SHIPS IM GOING TO DIE /jk #aro #aroace #arospec #aro things #aro struggles #vent

[ainegueneres]

Imagine being an aromantic and genuinely falling in love with fictional characters cause they aren't real and you can freely imagine yourself being in a relationship with them but now whenever you see them getting shipped with canon characters you get jealous.

Like, hey! that's my soulmate right there and we are already married in my head!!

Bonus if you don't even imagine a romantic relationship with them, it's just a slow burn sexual tension scenario with no reaching of commitment in relationship.

#asexual #aromantic #lithoromantic #cupioromantic #asexuality #aromantism #fictional crushes #fictional characters #aroace #arospec #aro stuff #aro struggles