#aro talks

[canonically47]

“there is no straight explanation for this” neither is there a gay one. there is however an aromantic one

#fandom stuff #fandom talk #fandom takes #aro #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aspec #actually aro #actually aromantic #aro pride

[knifearo]

here's the thing. "ace people can still have sex" and "aro people can still be in relationships" are objectively true statements. this is because people can do whatever the fuck they want forever regardless of their label/orientation. however some of you have GOT to get your shit together and stop using those statements to undermine larger conversations about aspec identity. following up "ace people don't owe you sex in a relationship" with "ace people can still have sex in a relationship though!" is not fucking helpful! yes it's true. yes it's a reality for many people. however if we used our fucking brains for a second and thought about how following up "people don't have to conform to societal expectation" with "but people can still conform!! don't worry they can still conform!!!!" is counterproductive and very frustrating for a lot of people then we could get back to the actual point which is not "aspec people can still have sex/be in relationships" but "aspec people can do whatever they want with their relationships and their bodies". which they can, by the way. they can do whatever they want forever. and you should give them 200 dollars every time you see them for dealing with this shit

#talking #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aroace #aspec #acespec #aro

[notbrucewayne48]

"aphobia doesn't exist"

bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it

#i did some research about it and found out that the problem was principally that she had previous experience in the romantic area #so people just didn't take her seriously and said she was lying #even though she stated multiple times that she wasn't comfortable in those situations #now things are more calmed but damn #mind your own bussiness #i believe she knows more about herself than you #sorry if i offended you with this comment but i hate how aro/ace/aroace people are always left behind #insulted and rejected because they “dont know what they are talking about” #or because they “just have to wait for the right person” #or because they are “psychopaths and they are missing something” #i love that animator and she helped me realise a lot about myself #and now that i know the context i think i will start making a list and killing aphobes one by one #aromantic #arospec #asexual #aroace #acespec

[silliest-basilisk]

since valentines day is tomorrow (or already here for some people), i just wanted to give a shoutout to my fellow loveless aros. shoutout to those who are still alienated when people do that whole "valentines day is for all kinds of love you can still celebrate it yippee!!!" thing. i'm holding all your hands (edit: and if you're touch repulsed, i'm simply nodding at you in understanding and psychically beaming good vibes towards you)

#basil talks #aromantic #loveless aro

[demi-romantics]

Feel free to add your favorite race below if I did not have space to add it! Ooo and if you have a favorite homebrew race you can add that too!

#asexual #aromantic #demiromantic #grayromantic #demisexual #graysexual #lithromantic #lithsexual #cupioromantic #apothiromantic #apothisexual #ace #aro #aspec #demiromantic talking

[huginsmemory]

What can I say really

#aroace #arospec #aromantic #asexuality #asexual #aroace memes #aro memes #ace memes #like sometimes allos also get it #but most of the time they dont and it just sounds like gibberish #literally the trans meme but aroace version i was like WAIT this is EXACTLY what it feels like to talk about attraction and relationships

[fellas-is-it]

got tired of all depressing and hating yourself for being aro vibes on legit any other platform besides tumblr (looking at you tictac app) so wanted to listen to positive aromantic playlists and legit could NOT FIND ANY??????

And the ones that were vaguely positive were made for aroace ppl. Which is great! But im not ace!!! So WHERE'S MY POSITIVE AROALLO REP?!?!?!

Anyways i solved this hyperspecific problem myself and made a POSITIVE AROALLO playlist:

Larger image of the playlist cover i made

#plz i am starved #if anyone has a positive aro playlist SHARE WITH THE CLASS #no hate towards us bonding over our share anger/grief at the world its important and we SHOULD talk about it #but not ALL THE TIME???? #it SHOULDNT be THIS HARD to find good vibe songs for us #ive BEEN thru the hating being aromatic stage I GET IT #but jesus christ we can LIGHTEN UP A LITTLE?? #aro #aromantic #aro problems #aro culture is #aroallo #aromantism #aromatic positivity #aro pride #aro posting #aroallo pride #lgbtq #arospec #aspec #aro discourse #pride #alloaro

[jay-aro]

the bond between an aroace person and the fictional character(s) they find hot is a sacred thing

#jay talks #(i originally wrote this in the tags of a reblog but tbh i was meaning to make it its own post) #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aromantic asexual #aro #ace #also obligatory we are not a monolith and not every aroace will relate to this post 👍 this is just for the people who Do

[altschmerzes]

gen fic appreciation post. i love you gen fic. i love you serious, plot-heavy gen fic. i love you funny, lighthearted gen fic. i love you angsty whump and h/c gen fic. i love you emotionally complex and intimate gen fic. i love you super long chaptered gen fic. i love you oneshot gen fic. i love you strictly canon adherent gen fic. i love you alternate universe gen fic. i love you crossover gen fic. i love you gen fic about queer identity and relationships. i love you found family gen fic. i love you gen fic.

(edited to add: by ‘gen fic’ this post is NOT referring to rating. it is referring to fic that is not about and does not prominently feature romance, regardless of rating.)

#gav gab #thinking abt the way people talk about gen fic today #and it's often so....... reductive even when they're trying to be complimentary #'gen fic often has so much more PLOT and REAL CONCRETE EVENTS' like sure i guess sometimes #but heavily emotional character relationship based gen fic also exists and deserves attention #it just feels like a reflection of the way people talk about aro people having 'so much more time to get things done' without romance yknow #anyways. gen fic is so many things and i love it.

[canonically47]

“can you people just let friends be friends!!” i shout into the mic. the crowd boos and throws tomatoes at me. “why, are you homophobic?” they accuse. i shoot everyone dead with my aromantic beam.

#fandom stuff #fandom talk #fandom things #fandom takes #aro #arospec #aspec #aromantic #aromanticism #aro pride #actually aro #actually aromantic

[knifearo]

“there are always more fish in the sea!” babe no offense but i just really sincerely do not want to go fishing

#this is about aromanticism. but as always posts about aromanticism are usually applicable to anti-amatonormativity sentiments in general #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aroace #aro positivity #aspec #talking

[eloisephillip]

happy pride month to asexuals and aromantics and everything in between. i want each and everyone of you to know that you are loved and cherished by the community even though there are some who try to diminish us. you are a valued, important, and valid part of the lgbtqia+ community. thank you for simply existing this pride 🏳️‍🌈🖤🤍💜🖤🤍💚

#pride month #asexuality #aromantic #asexual #aro #aroace #aspec #arospec #ace #cloud talks #txt #asexual positivity #aromantic positivity

[cepheusgalaxy]

Wish more people understood the difference between "shipping this aro character because i want to explore their aromanticism and where they stand in the spectrum" and "shipping this aro character because i don't care about their orientation".

#this doesn't go just for alastor #im talking general #rambles #aro #aromantic #aspec #rep #erasure #representation #fandom #aroace #aroallo

[gdsplicer]

I'm seeing a influx of people using the wording "aroace spectrum" as opposed to aspec, or using aroace as if it covers all aros and aces, like...

Do I really have to explain why that's not as inclusive a move as you'd think it is?

If someone addressed me, a aro, as "under the aroace spectrum", I would be questioning their allyship even if they themselves are aspec because no where in that's sentence did I say I'm also ace.

Using that wording instead of aspec is as much dismissive and hurtful to non-ace aros as it does when people shove our aromanticism under asexuality without thinking on why it's not helpful or disrespectful.

I feel so strongly on demanding that aroness and aceness is seen as separate, on demanding proper recognition and respect for aroallos and non-SAM aros, on demanding that my aroness is seen as enough on its own because calling me ace or aroace is erasure on my identity; It pushes the wrong narrative and box onto my experiences. It promotes misunderstandings on not just aromanticism but also asexuality. It treats my label something not worthy of taking up space in the aro community, in the aspec community, in the queer community.

Stop using 'aroace' or as the umbrella word to cover the aspec community.

#aromantic #queer #this is the one time I encourage #asexual #aroace #aspec #folks to talk about this or tag as ace cos this is a aspec community problem and we all could address how using aroace like this is not hel #maybe I'm being a lil nitpicky on this but I can't be the only one annoyed when this happens #also since we're trending rn why not get a important message out to those still not getting it when we say “aro ≠ ace”

[dazzlerazz]

"How aromantic are you?" That's none of your business

"How asexual are you?" That's none of your business

"Does your partner know?" That's none of your business

"Does your family know?" That's none of your business

"Do you still have sex?" That's none of your business

"So if you don't like anybody, are you straight or gay?" That's none of your business

"Do you still watch porn?" That's none of your business

"If you're aromantic why are you dating someone?" That's none of your business

"Does your partner ask you for sex?" That's none of your business

It is literally none of your business

#razz talks #queer #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace

[arcanewebs]

amazing episode EASILY one of my most favorite battle episodes of all time. How Ever is it insane of me to wish it went Just a little bit worse than it did. for the plot

#needed more riz torment LOWKEY. IM JUST SAYING. PUTS HANDS UP #HE DIDNT HAVE TO SEE FIRSTHAND THE POSESSIONS? DIDNT GET ATTACKED BY BARON PERSONALLY? #i mean i love the way kristen and adaine had those clutch loves that saved riz while he was in jawbones room but STILL #and im also glad baron didnt die. HOWEVER #IDK. HELP. #i really hope its talked about more in the ap or next episode or something #can we hear the word aromantic said out loud PLS! PLS? #aro community is Unsure how to feel? #ann bangers #dimension 20 #fantasy high #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #MOVES***** MOVES. MOVES. MOVES. I DONT HAVE AUTOCORRECT ON. FUCK I DIDNT CATCH IT EARLIER #yeah loves why not they all love each other it works i guess what tha hell