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#aromantic problems
archivomeow · 2 days
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i’m aromantic, of course i’ve been told i will date eventually, even when i said i don’t want to.
(saw someone do a chainpost like this with the asexual label, so please please please let’s do the same)
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bloggingboutburgers · 8 months
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Every damn time
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acklesangel97 · 2 years
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THIS!!!
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userwaddles · 8 months
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I really need someone to sleep with. Like literally hold and sleep and wake up next to. I don't want to date you or anything. Just be a friend, be a roomie.
Let me listen to your voice, let me count your heartbeat and let us drift off oversharing.
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feelingthedisaster · 1 month
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where are all my people (closeted aroace girls whose parents think they are a lesbian bc they lack interest in men)?
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thearoacemoon · 7 months
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The aro urge of…
Wanting more books, movies, TV shows about friendship between adults that don't turn into romance at any point of the plot.
Because society and media thinks only kids want friendship in fiction.
And sometimes even "kid's fiction" has romance. I never understood why they do it!
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aroace-cat-lady · 2 years
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Sometimes you find a book that is just perfect the first 60% and then amatonormativity shows up like an unrequired bitch.
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space-raccoon1 · 1 month
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Being a closeted Aroace is so difficult sometimes because my friends will go into full detail about how badly they wanna fuck some guy and I’ll just be sitting there like
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emily-wesley3 · 1 year
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Aspec Bingo Card by @aroandaces
https://instagram.com/aroandaces?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
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retropineapple · 4 months
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Me when someone only mentions the asexual part of an AroAce character's identity:
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tbposting · 1 year
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aromantic-nerd · 2 years
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I’m gonna make something REAL CLEAR.
As an aro, I often preach that we need to be working together, (as the aspec community and as a society in general,) to dismantle the norms that say every person wants/needs a partner, that everyone needs to get married, and that those things are requirements for happiness. I don’t think that’s too much to ask, especially because these norms harm many different groups of people, not only aspecs.
What I’m really tired of, is allos automatically assuming that because I preach these things, that I hate marriage, romance and love, that I have a vendetta towards people who engage in those things, and that I want to make alloromantic people feel guilty for being alloromantic.
It’s another classic case of “it’s not about you, it’s about the systemic norms we all live with and experience in day-to-day life.”
I hold no hate or dislike towards anyone who is in a romantic relationship, married, or engaging in other romantic activities with a partner or partners. Really. I have two parents and many family members and friends that are happily married and in love.
That being said, I don’t want to engage in romance and I am not alloromantic, so these norms impact me in a profound way that’s sometimes hard to describe. I want to dismantle the norms because it will make my life and many other’s lives a lot easier. This does not mean, however, that I support the absolute collapse of the components of these norms.
If some people’s thoughts didn’t always jump straight to “this person’s views and opinions are attacking me and my lifestyle,” when engaging in conversations about amatonormativity and the norms that come with it, then they would recognize that most aromantic people actually support romance-favourability.
Know the difference between dismantling the systemic romantic norms and abolishing the entire system of romantic components and ideas which encompass said norms.
The former is an effective way to make many groups of people feel more comfortable and less alienated, and the latter is just as ineffective and discriminatory as pushing for romantic norms to be continued they are now. As aros, most of us just want to feel like we belong in a society that constantly reminds us that we don’t. It is not our goal to make allos feel guilty, or to radically change society’s ideals to fit an inherently romance-negative narrative.
We just want to dismantle amatonormativity in society, by changing the mindset and narrative to a way of thinking that does not discriminate between alloromantic and aromantic people. That’s all.
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bloggingboutburgers · 7 months
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And then you get into a queerplatonic relationship with a person who's same-assigned-gender-at-birth as you and some peeps respond with homophobia because winning is overrated... But at least it's a response ig
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siriusly-remu · 6 months
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so weird to me how you can just hate someone that you dated after breaking up with them. like what??? weren't you in love??? WAIT DO PEOPLE LOVE THEM AND HATE THEM AT THE SAME TIME???
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userwaddles · 8 months
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As an aroace person with a lot of sensual and aesthetic attraction, I not only confuse people, I confuse myself.
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lemonistic37 · 2 years
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aroace culture is seeing someone who's just a little too pretty/handsome and questioning your entire sexuality
then remembering why you're aroace
then repeating the cycle at least every other day
although i know im definitely not allosexual that shit scares me
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