#aromantics are valid

[daydreamerwonderkid]

I didn't survive through the bullshit aphobia discourse of 2016 and 2018 for y'all to try and pull this shit literally 3 days before 2024.

Clown fucking behavior.

#dreamer talks #asexual #aromantic #aspec #arospec #aromantics are valid #get your clown shit out of here #i'm so fucking tired

[frogsare-friends]

can we talk about how aroallo cishet men are being excluded from queer spaces? can we also talk about how aroallo cishet women are being excluded from queer spaces but not being talked about? can we talk about how my identity as a queer person is everything else that makes me queer before it's about me being aromantic, and yet that's the only specific label i actively use? can we talk about how women and fem aligned aroallos are treated inside the community but also outside of it especially? can we talk about how all of my aro posts are tagged with ace and aroace? can we talk about how all of the ace specific posts i see are tagged as aromantic and aroace? can we talk about how arophobia is always talked about from an aroace or even alloace perspective?

#aroallo #alloaro #aromantic allosexual #arophobia #aromanticism #aromantics are valid #aromantic #aro #arospec #do not tag this as ace or aroace!! #this is specifically about aroallos!! #i will smite you!!

[thatineffablewitch]

Reminder that I need to hear so hopefully other aros benefit too:

You can be aro and still enjoy consuming romantic content. You can be aromantic and still get immense joy from shipping characters. You can be aromatic and maybe want a relationship with romantic elements one day, or unsure exactly what you want, with no deep desire to date and figure it out immediately. It is a spectrum of little to no romantic attraction, and we are valid regardless of where we fall on that spectrum. You are not fake or a poser, you are just a human being using language to better understand and describe your experience. If aromantic is a term that resonates for you, that’s enough. You are valid.

#Read Ace Dad Advice’s new book I Am Ace today #Particularly the chapter on micro aggressions and dating while asexual #Even though it’s a book on asexuality #I realized a lot of the micro aggressions are the same #And they’re words I’ve been telling myself about being aro #“It’s just a phase” #“You’ll meet the right person” #“Maybe it’s just trauma” #Maybe I’ve been valid all along and every doubt I’ve repeatedly told myself is just my own internalized arophobia making me feel like shit #No more #fuck that #i am valid #aromantics are valid #I love being aromantic #And I love myself #Suck on that arophobia #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aro #aroace #aroace community #aromantic positivity #aromantic pride #aromantic spectrum #aromantic asexual #aspec #arophobia #Arophobia can piss right off #my post

[i-have-the-best-url]

Decided to make this poll

Aphobes and arophobes fuck off this isn’t for you

#asexual #aromantic #aroace stuff #asexuals are valid #aromantics are valid #aroaces are valid #aphobes fuck off #arophobes fuck off

[crayonssz]

the aros are popping off rn and i am here for it

#aromantic #aro #aromantics are valid #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #lgbtq

[imacowboy3]

Aces and Aros of tumblr (and anyone else who would like to help) I require assistance.

In my university we have a study group dedicated to human sexuality, now, I'm not a part of it but a friend of mine who's aroace went to their welcoming presentation some days ago and what she told me is very worrisome.

Apparently this STUDY GROUP dedicated to HUMAN SEXUALITY is spreading misinformations about Asexuality and aren't even acknowledging Aromanticism, they're giving the wrong definition of Asexuality, saying that is when people have little to no interest in sex (this same misinformation is in one of their banners and the friend I mentioned earlier send then an email trying to correct it and was ignored), when my friend saw this happen she got very bothered but didn't feel safe to correct them personally (and isn't that something in a group that supposedly accepts everyone) so she left and didn't go on the second day, she told me a friend of her went to a class about human sexuality (we're psychology students, this class is in our curriculum but none of us has had it yet cause I'm on my third year and she's on her second) and the teacher, who's the same teacher coordinating the study group was spreading the misinformation again during class, the friend who told her about it try to correct her and you know what this bitch said?

"Asexuality is still a controversy, many people disagree that it exists and we in this study group also think this" (in a mocking tone)

Asexuality stopped being considered a paraphilia in 2013, a psychology professor teaching a class about human sexuality should know that.

This is were I need help, I need you guys to please send me every document, research, biography, whatever it is that can help us prove that is a valid sexuality (also anything on Aromanticism cause they don't even mention it,they are still under the idea that romantic attraction and sexual attraction are the same thing), we will organize everything and send to then and if that doesn't work we will contact the rectory and the coordinator of the psychology course.

#asexual #aromantic #we fucking exist #were not controversial #asexuals are valid #aromantics are valid #please help us #lgbtq community #psychology #tw: mention of acephobia #tw: mention of arophobia #tw: mention of homophobia #tw: discrimination

[degengxrl]

die mad radfems

#asexuals are oppressed #aromantics are oppressed #trans ppl are oppressed #intersexism is real #asexuals are valid #aromantics are valid #estrogendyking

[latentquailtales]

For anyone who's not aware of what's happening

#not fnf #aromantic #aro #arospec #aro memes #they valid asf

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Saw a reddit post today about a girl who was upset that her childhood best friend replaced a photo of the two of them in his wallet with one of him and his girlfriend. And while yeah, she was being unreasonable with a lot of what she was saying, I totally understand the sadness of a friend "replacing" you with someone they have romantic feelings for. Makes it worse when the top comment is this

Every single comment on this post is about how family and romantic relationships always take precedence over friendships. I don't have anything more to say to this aside from the fact that... this is why it's hard for aroaces to imagine futures for themselves. Society drills it into your head that you're going to live in a world where you are no one's priority if you don't have romantic relationships and it fucking sucks

#you know what's validating though #Daniel Sloss's bit on his best girl friend... the STARK opposite of this #aro stuff #ace stuff #aroace tag #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro #ace #asexuality #aromanticism #i feel like I ought to add more and make this like a powerful essay #but it's too late rn i'm too tired

[redysetdare]

The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."

The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."

Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.

#text #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #acespec #arospec #ik i made a similar post to this recently but i feel this one better words what i wanted to say with that one #ill leave the other posted but heres a more worded version ig #basically stop theowing repulsed and non partnering ppl under the bus #dont only validate favorable and partnering experiences when fighting aphobia #we are here too

[thriftdyke]

it really does bother me how no one can seem to answer the question “what even is romantic attraction, really.” like some people are like “it’s who you wanna kiss and cuddle <3” and I’m like ok well kisses and cuddles can be either sexual or platonic depending on context. “It’s who you feel passion/desire/arousal for” well that just sounds like sexual attraction which you can have without even knowing somebody so I fail to see how that’s romantic. “It’s who you want to go on dates with” I go on dates with friends all the time plus “date” is a social construct anyway there’s really no innate difference between a date and hanging out. “it’s who you have deep feelings for” great news for you that can be literally any type of relationship. my friend told me she defined it as “who you wanna give roses to” and I’m like do u hear urself??? like the more I talk to people the more I’m convinced romance and romantic attraction is an elaborate socially fabricated illusion that has no real defining characteristics. and like there’s nothing Wrong with it being a constuct but why people are so attached to defending the supremacy of it is something I cannot for the life of me figure out

#like reading this u might be like ‘sounds like ur just aromantic sis’ but I’m like. listen. #ur missing my point. which is that I literally think romance Does Not Exist #at least not in this bioessentialist way people like to pretend it does #the desire for companionship and the desire for sex are biological drives. everything else is a social construct #which doesn’t mean its bad! or not valid! or anything like that! #but I’m just genuinely do not understand Why we are so bent on treating it like gospel

[nothing-an-iratze-cant-fix]

I’m curious - people always seem surprised that multiple siblings are queer, as if it’s amazing the gay lightning struck twice so close together.

But human variation is down to our genes and external factors. Siblings are logically more likely to both/all be queer than not.

So a wee poll if you don’t mind!

Anyone can take part, there should be an option for anyone but please let me know in notes if I missed anyone.

For reference: queer is anyone who wouldn’t describe themselves as heterosexual or cis-gendered or allo-sexual. Anyone we would include in the queer group. And if you’re not including people by their own identification, we can have words after…

Notes:

If you only have one sibling use the relevant all option.

If you have an issue with the word queer I truly don’t want to hear about it - that’s your choice, this is mine.

Reblog if you fancy! If you don’t then no worries, but if you can it would be nice to get a lot of replies!

And hey everyone, happy Pride!

#queer stuff #lgbtq+ #queer #polls #asexual #and #aromantic #people - I want to hear from you too! You are valid and queer if you id as queer #if you don’t know about your identity or you don’t know about your siblings identity - first off; sending you love. #second; if you want to take part just put what you think is most likely or your most comfortable putting #❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[yagikidd57]

#tw acephobia #tw aphobia #aroace #aromantic #aromanticism #asexuality #asexual #asexuality is valid #lgbtqia+ #ace community #ace space #lgbtqia community #queer #queer community #tiktok #ace spec #aspec #aroace people are queer #aspec people are queer

[the-agent-of-blight]

also, i really find it interesting how people can genuinely go about saying "Well this group isn't attacked for their identity so they can't be queer " while then turning around and. attacking said group. for their identity. and exemplifying classic __-phobic tropes. It's really dumb. You are being the thing that you claim does not exist

#this post is about the current aro discourse nonsense going about but is absolutely more generally applicable. #aromantic #aro #idk about anyone else but i always find the aphobia at least a little bit validating? in a weird way. because they're always saying #'you arent queer if you arent oppressed' or whatever bs. so whenever they turn around and. and attack us for being aro its like #they're showing me (and the rest of everyone) why i must be queer. by their own logic

[pikp0kcas3]

The Hazbin Hotel fandom’s issue with accepting aromanticism and asexuality

Now that it is officially Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, I want to talk about this!

I find that, as an aroace myself, I am constantly grasping at good representation and coming up empty— it usually ends up in one of two ways.

One: the character is portrayed as emotionless, cold, and robotic in nature. It’s the question aromantic and/or asexual people are often asked: “Are you heartless?” The answer is no, of course, but general media makes it out to be the opposite.

Or two: Their lack of attraction is seen as something to “fix” because they “haven’t found the right one yet”, and they end up with a partner as a “happy ending”.

It frustrates me greatly because of how little people actually see aromanticism or asexuality as a true part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

So when I watched Hazbin Hotel, and I found out about Alastor being aroace, I was over the moon. I was on cloud nine. I also saw how his voice actor has looked up the term as an attempt to learn about aroaces, which makes me OVERJOYED?? Amir is truly a blessing, and I love that he’s proud to embody a character that’s part of our community. It’s so beautiful to finally have a proper character, a fan favorite at that, who just so happens to be aroace— and that’s another thing I love about this.

It’s never explicitly stated in the show (though it is stated in interviews), but it’s rather clear when you’re watching, isn’t it? Alastor’s aversion to any sort of sexual advancement, coupled with Rosie’s blatant “I know you’re an ace in the hole” comment sort of spell out his asexuality pretty clearly, as well as what side of the spectrum he falls upon. In addition, his Valentine’s day card was strictly platonic, which caters to his aromantic side. It feels so validating to finally be represented, to finally have a character in media who shares the same lack of interest in romance and sex as I do.

When I entered the fandom to look for more content, I kind of expected to see the same respect for Alastor’s orientation there too. But that… wasn’t the case? I am fully aware that aromanticism and asexuality are both spectrums— of course, aromantic and/or asexual people can enter those kinds of relationships. I’m not denying that and they belong in the community as much as anyone else on the spectrum.

But, the more I see the same line again and again and again, the more it feels like an excuse to just ship what you want.

Usually I don’t mind shipping? I’m often a firm believer in people shipping what they like as long as it’s harmless and they don’t go crazy over it. I also know for a fact that Viv doesn’t have a problem with people shipping her characters. They are fictional, after all.

But in this case, people are ignoring the very thing that makes Alastor a part of the aroace community! People are ignoring his lack of romantic or sexual attraction!

Is this not the same as changing a gay character’s orientation to suit a straight ship? If not, how so? I’m told that we are a part of this community, so why aren’t we being treated like it? Why is it so hard to accept the people on the end of the spectrum who aren’t interested?

Something I’ve been noticing throughout my life is that society has not exactly progressed very much on the idea of accepting asexual or aromantic identities. Maybe we have, a little, since the old days— but hell, people in “the old days”, which in truth wasn’t very long ago, believed that asexuality was a medical condition to be “fixed” by taking the right medication or having sex. That’s a pretty low bar to clear. And on the romance side, you’re seen as a “late bloomer” or “boring” if you don’t express interest. These days, being friends with someone is treated like a gateway to them possibly becoming a lover. Not getting married, not going on dates, not wanting a partner— it’s all treated like a crime when it’s not.

Maybe I’m selfish, or sensitive, or I’m butthurt over nothing, or I’m making it all about me. Maybe I’m gatekeeping or whatever the term is. But please, please, please, I just want an aroace character like me who simply is not interested in sex or romance.

And I want fandom to respect that. I admire the creations that fans make— the art, the animatics, the writing and the character analysis. And I want people to keep creating because creation is indeed a beautiful thing.

But I really would like people to treat aroace identities like they’re important. Like it’s more than just a spectrum to get wiggle room to wrangle in another ship.

#aromantism #aromantic #aroace #asexual #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin alastor #lgbtqia #alastor aroace #PLEASE i just want people to LEAVE HIM ALONE #“but it’s a spectrum” STOP USING IT AS AN EXCUSE #RESPECT AROACE PEOPLE WITH ZERO INTEREST IN ROMACE AND SEX #let us have this #we barely get anything as it is #but just to clarify i don’t believe that most people are being intentionally rude about it #nor am i discouraging people from creating fan content because it is FAN CONTENT and you can express yourself #i just would like people to understand a little more that #yes it is a spectrum and it covers an extremely wide range of orientations #yes ANYONE who identities as someone on the spectrum is completely valid #if you wanna argue with that i am showing you the door and kicking your sorry aphobic ass out #my point is that the spectrum is not a loophole. it is not an excuse and it is NOT okay to just use it willy nilly for your convenience

[kazisonline]

As an aromantic nonbinary person who enjoys sex very much, if you say that when I want a platonic relationship with sex and no romance that's alright, then when a man does that it's alright too. That's equality, that's feminism, and that's common fucking sense

#aromantic #aro men are valid and welcome #be respectful #don't forget to love each other but like as community