#aromanticsm

[whotfishazel]

this what a relationship is?

#Relationships #aroace #aromantic #aromanticsm #aseuxal #asexuality #aroace pride #pride #lgbtq #lgbt #meme #funny #lol #lmao

[some-assholes-familiar]

Ahhh, Valentine’s Day is nearing, and I’m getting myself all good and ready for a long day of texting all of my friends ily messages, pretending to understand when ppl complain about not having a partner and subtly try to get them to understand that they have value as an individual regardless of if they’re in a romantic relationship or not, and laughing at all the allo ppl who won’t have any money by the end of the night

#aromantic #aromantics come get y’all juice #aro humor #lmao let’s be real #the only reason I’m even remembering Valentine’s Day is bc of the Circe saga coming out lol #valentines day #aromantic spectrum #aromanticsm #aromantics unite #relationship anarchy

[aroacecatto]

every once in a while i have a moment where i go maybe i have experienced romantic attraction, maybe im arospec and not aromantic, go look up online definitions on every romantic attraction crush passion stuff. conclude yeah ill stick with aromantic

#aromantic #aro #aromanticsm #it's so funny how everyone including allos are confused about romantic attraction and crushes and love in general

[niirnelena]

now reading the manga "Is love the answer ?" and I already relate so much

#asexuality #aroace #aromanticsm #aromantic #arospec #aro #book recommendations

[mimi123meg]

Being acearo is funny bc sometimes I'll be like hm maybe I'm making it up and I'm normal and everyone else is like this too but then I'll talk to an allo person and I'm like oh... nvm could not be me in a million years

#asexuality #aromanticsm #acearo #meg rambles

[flip-flopping-frede]

My attempt at Lithromantic Positivity

I want to preface this by saying I am ~in general~ not a fan of positivity. Trying to “force positivity” is quickly a slippery slope to toxic positivity and superficially. Nonetheless, I feel like I could have realized some lithromantic positivity, and thought it was necessary to share rather than keep it to myself.

It is ok that there’s nothing good about being lithro. It is ok if there are no benefits that we can exploit from ourselves and take advantage of ourselves (or our relationships) with. Lithromantics not necessarily having *any* positives to being lithro (besides our dope flag) means that those of us that have accepted ourselves, are some of the most compassionate, kind, strong, and resilient souls. The amount of self-compassion one has to develop before they can radically accept themselves as lithromantic, is so much higher than essentially any other queer identity.

In a world that has yet to be educated on aromanticsm, aromantics and cupioromantics are scared to date alloromantics, due to alloromantics behaving like it is a “dealbreaker” or “end of the world” if their [romantic] partner is not “in love” [essentially experiencing romo attrac] towards them. It’s valid for both aros and cupioros to be scared to date alloros because of this arophobic mindset they have, tho.

Anyways, a lithromantic might “seem” more appealing to an uneducated alloromantic, since we do experience the romo attrac, or what alloros mistake for “love”. At the same time, once an alloro experiences and returns that romo attrac towards the lithro, the lithro’s romo attrac fades. Not necessarily fades, but flees and turns into romance repulsion (for most lithros). Uneducated, insecure, and/or unaccepting alloros might feel very hurt for the lithros sudden change. Simultaneously, the lithro may also be hurting for not being able to “keep” or “hold on” to the romo attrac. It feels like, being lithro leaves everyone worse off (and is potentially traumatizing for the lithro). This is why lithros who have accepted themselves have learned how to be compassionate and kind to themselves to an extent that most other queer identities never have to go to before they can accept their queer identity, due to there being more external support, education, and acceptance for their queer identities (including for aros).

It is so easy for lithromantics, especially lithros that have chosen to remain closeted, to drown in a sea of their own self-hatred and shame of being an arospec identity that leaves the alloromantics that reciprocated the romo attrac angry and confused. In a world where alloromantics have all the privilege and amatonormativity is everywhere, lithros are so strong, brave, and resilient for existing as our lithromantic identity in a world that refuses to see us, acknowledge us, validate us, support us, accept us, or understand us.

This is where the lithromantic positivity comes in: lithromantics can relate to everyone. Lithromantics know what it feels like to experience romantic attraction; and we know what it feels like to have a romantic relationship look you dead in the face and not want it. We are also romance ambivalent! We understand what it means to have more than one attitude towards romance. We can understand both apothiros and cupioros. We can relate to another largely unknown arospec identity—frayromantism, since frayros also experience involuntary, primary romantic attraction, just like lithros do. We can even relate to alloros in terms of experiencing romantic attraction involuntarily and getting crushes. And finally, we can relate to aros with struggling to desire romantic relationships in the same way an alloromantic does.

There are so many other identities lithromantic is similar to, like aegoromantic, bellusromantic, and frayromantic. Lithros belong in arospec spaces, and lithros’ voices are so valuable to the arospec community. Lithros are essential in terms of helping to bridge the distance and alienation that is only growing between aromantics and alloromantics.

At the same time, lithros need support. Unfortunately, a lot of lithos hate their identity, and feel no pride for it. We don’t feel seen or validated, and a lot of us feel a lot of shame for being lithromantic. I personally didn’t really see any actual lithros celebrating their lithromanticsm during this year’s arospec awareness week, which is sad. We need the arospec community to affirm that are voices are valuable and that our experiences are valid, especially as we are struggling to accept ourselves.

#Lithromantic positivity #arospec #lithro positivity #lithromantic #lithro #the lithro flag is dope #lithromantic acceptance #lithro acceptance #lithro neutrality #lithromantic neutrality #aromanticsm #aromantic #cupioromantic #aro #cupioro #alloromantic #alloro #arophobic #uneducated alloromantic #uneducated alloro #romantic attraction #romo attrac #love #amatonormativity #romance repulsion #romo repulsion #internal support vs external support #because lithros don’t have external support #romance ambivalent #romo ambivalent

[amischievouscat]

Getting aro hate from anons in my inbox is the funniest shit ever. None of them have the balls to use their actual usernames.

Whatever. Deleted and I can block them anyway so. Go find somewhere else to cry about people being different from you.

#aromantic #aromanticsm #shitpost #this person said im not gay #when i am literally gay #like by definition #lmfao

[fashionstudio]

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#gilmacaibay #fashiondesigner #launch #fashionshow #jeyandteegrandlaunch #lifestyledistrict #glitteratimodels #glamrock #aromanticsm #rogerlactaojr #rogerlactaojrphotography #menswear #womenswear #style #fashion #sustainable #supportlocal #wearlocal #lovelocal

[cryptid-on-a-string]

FUCK I still can’t figure out if I have a crush or not

#There’s like one specific person I know who I keep seriously doubting my aromanticsm over #They are so fucking cool but they are so fucking out of my league too #but then again they are so fucking cool #Last time that I thought I had a crush on someone it turned out I just really liked being their friend and I liked them platonically #So at this point it could be ANYTHING !!! #Maybe I’m just extremely demiromantic ??????? Idk ??

[faithdeans]

i guess with ao3 down i could start writing part 3 of w.o.w

#but i dont wanna!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i hate writing dean pov AND it's soooooooooo hard to put aromanticsm into words... at least they way i #think dean feels about cas

[fagofgod]

its funny how i can be aware that just finding people hot isn't always necessarily a sign of romantic/sexual attraction and still think that i must be attracted to men. even though i would get viscerally uncomfortable and feel oppressed and stiffled just imagining myself in any type of real romantic or sexual relationship with any man. but i was convinced i was definitely still into men for real bc i can find a guy pretty

#i would mark the discomfort up to (just) aromanticsm but. well i did not think about how i *didnt* feel that way thinking of women lol! #still aro and romance averse. i think. whatever! not thinking abt this for five years stfu #ughhhh

[whotfishazel]

Not mine btw

#Aromantic #aromanticsm #aro #aromantic pride #lgbtq #aro pride #pride #lgbt #Lol #lmao #funny #meme #aro meme #wait one damn second…

[pansyfemme]

Time stands still

All I can feel is the time standing still

As you put down the keys

And say, "don't call me please"

While the radio plays

I think I need a new heart, oh oh

I think I need a new heart, oh oh

You've lied, too

But it's a sin that I

Can't tell the truth

'Cause it all comes out wrong

Unless I put it in a song

So the radio plays

I think I need a new heart

Just for you

I think I need a new heart

'Cause I always say, "I love you"

When I mean, "turn out the light"

And I say, "let's run away"

When I just mean, "stay the night"

But the words you want to hear

You will never hear from me

I'll never say "happy anniversary"

Never stay to say "happy anniversary"

So I think I need a new heart, oh oh

I think I need a new heart, oh oh

I think I need a new heart, oh oh

I think I need a new heart, oh oh

#idc if making songs that r clearly abt being a shitty partner abt aromanticsm in my head is ‘bad rep’ idc idc it is aro to me #somethin abt being incapable of love but really wanting to for the sake of another person really gets me #songposting #Spotify

[just-spacetrash]

💚

#blasting you all with my aromanticsm playlist can you tell #my post #all of them bangers btw as my followers ur legally required to listen to them all #'it was never meant to be we were always parallel' from asymptotic and 'it never worked out' from she works out too much make me INSANE #cause truly!!!!! it wasnt meant to be!!!!!!! and to end the song with that... mwah #i didnt even put its all futile its all pointless cos i reblogged another lovejoy song but let me tell you #aromantic as hell #if anyone wants detailed explanations of why each song is clearly aromantic just dm me<3 im the master i know these things to be factual

[niirnelena]

the freedom of realizing you’re asexual

today i’m thinking about the fact that i’ve realized i was asexual so quietly. really, it was the softest and most natural realization i’ve ever had. 

without talking about sexual desire or anything, i’ve always had trouble with physical touch. literally since i was a baby. my parents kepts telling me i didn’t want to hug them or anything but i would hug my toys. i’ve always been uncomfortable in school when we would study anatomy and fall onto THESE pages. i would cover it or close the book. my friends would laugh about it because they thought my reactions were funny. 

then i honestly don’t remember how, i stumbled upon the term asexual and i was instantly like : that’s me. and i remember feeling free. it was such a soft moment. 

and i just thought about all these details and signs i mentioned and i told myself, wow, asexuality really has been a part of me all along. it’s just, always been there. finding yourself can be so freeing. 

and i hope people who had a violent exeprience finding out about their asexuality or aromanticism found or will find peace. i think about you, you deserve everything. <3 

#asexuality #asexual #ace #ace spectrum #aroace #aromanticsm #i love you all #<3

[unhinged-izzy-hands-posting]

I think one reason I fixated on Izzy so hard may be that he hit me right in the Johnny d'Ville obsession

Absolute bastard First Mate who does NOT have rights (except for when he does)

#also I like to project my aromanticsm on both of them #if you're reading this go listen to the Mechanisms