#asexual alloromantic

[thereallyreallylatebird]

As an aroallo woman, I feel a sort of kinship with alloace men. We're both going against gender norms just by existing.

I'm breaking the expectation that women are more interested in romance than sex.

They're breaking the expectation that men are more interested in sex than romance.

They're experiences that are both opposite and parallel, that leave me with both a perfect understanding and no understanding at all of what the other is like. So, hats off to you, alloace men. As someone who is in many ways your opposite, I see you.

#also I want to acknowledge that there are aroallos who are still more interested in romance than sex #and alloaces that are more interested in sex than romance #but this is more about how our identities are perceived than anything #like honestly I'm kind of neutral about sex #but in telling someone I'm aroallo that's not what they'd assume 9/10 times #aroallo #aromantic allosexual #aromantic #asexual #asexual alloromantic #alloromantic asexual #allosexual aromantic #alloace #aceallo #alloaro #queer #gender norms #thereallyreallylatebird

[swiftieee-13]

You are valid.

To asexual alloromantic people, you are valid.

To aromantic allosexual people, you are valid.

Even if you're heterosexual or heteroromantic, you still are valid.

If your romantic and sexual identities don't align and you are allo, you are valid.

If you're trans, you are valid.

If you're non-binary, or any other gender that can't be described as man or woman, you are valid.

If you use neopronouns, you are valid.

Don't let anyone tell you you aren't. The LGBT community shouldn't exclude anyone that is queer.

I can't believe this isn't obvious to some people. I can't believe how many queer people are hateful to other queer people. Don't do that.

Just because you don't understand someone's identity, doesn't mean it isn't valid. You don't even have to understand it, just respect it.

It's literally so much easier to not hate on people.

#asexual #aromantic #lgbtq #lgbtqia #transgender #nonbinary #neopronouns #heteroromantic #aromantic allosexual #Asexual alloromantic #inclusivity #Lgbt #If tumblr reccomends me “lgb drop the t” ONE MORE TIME #Wtf is wrong with people #I saw a tiktok with a homoromantic bisexual guy explaining his identity and there was so much hate from queer people #Or a tiktok with a girl shaming bisexual heteroromantic women #Let's just not #stop hate

[theeviltriplet-fromao3]

Yk I kinda regret calling it Ace of Hearts. Not that I think it’s a bad name, just that there’s better.

Especially since “Ace of Hearts” is much more suited for alloace

#update ig #rottmnt #writing #ao3 #fan fic writing #ace of hearts #fan fiction #titles #names #puns #word play #symbolism #alloace #asexual romance #ace #asexual romantic #or is it #asexual alloromantic #thoughts #naming #Ace of Spades might’ve been better #or diamonds? #idk #the intention is still there #o had a reason that hasn’t stopped existing bc of these other ideas #besides #I’m too lazy/attached to change it now

[aroxbetchio]

story idea:

aroallo and alloace both have feelings for eachother, but only with the type of ‘feelings’ that they can possess. at the beginning of story, neither know each other’s aspec orientations- but it’s explained when alloace confesses to aroallo that they like them. at that moment, they decide it’s probably not gonna work.

a side character suggests: ‘hey, well if alloace isn’t sex repulsed and aroallo isn’t romance repulsed, maybe it would work?’

both of them are ambivalent on that spectrum. they try once, and neither of them like the idea of it at the end of the day. they decide to break up.

the side character, still pining for them, suggests: ‘yknow you two could have a QPR !!’

alloace brings it up to aroallo, and aroallo tells them that they’re analterous. alloace sets down with that thought, and accepts that thr two of them aren’t gonna work.

and while both of them still have non-platonic feelings for eachother, they remain friends, and their feelings for eachother inevitably fades. the end.

(seriously though it doesn’t need a partnership as an ending to be a happy ending.)

#aroallo #alloace #story ideas #qpr #lgbt #queer #asexual #aromantic #aromantic allosexual #asexual alloromantic #aroallo x alloace solidarity #elliot’s posts 🐍

[via-rant]

FUCK IT!!!

Shout out to all my Aromantic Boys and Men!!

Shout out to all my Asexual Boys and Men!!

Shout out to all my AroAce Men and Boys!!

Shout out to all my Alloromantic Boys and Men!!

Shout out to all my Demisexual Boys and Men!!

Shout out to all my Greysexual Boys and Men!!

Shout out to all the other ones I haven't mentioned!!

You all are very much appreciated in my book!!!

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #alloromantic

[aroosprey]

Ace, Aro, OR BOTH?

I have made some ace/aro pride sea monsters,,, as a treat

edit: just so you know this artwork is made by an aroallo artist who doesn't appreciate being erased

tagging it as aspec/aro/ace and nothing else is fine, but if you're gonna tag aroace, don't exclude the other intersections represented here

#aromantic #aro #aroace #aromantic asexual #aroallo #alloaro #aromantic allosexual #asexual #ace #alloace #aceallo #alloromantic asexual #bright colors #lgbtqia #pride art #art #sea monsters #digital art

[wrench-ed-little-thing]

let ace people exist. let aro people exist. let aroace people exist. let alloace people exist. let aroallo people exist.

leave them be if they choose to have sex. leave them be if they choose not to have sex.

leave them be if they choose to have romance. leave them be if they choose not to have romance.

leave them be if they prioritize friendship. leave them be if they do not prioritize friendship.

leave us be, and let us live our lives.

#aspec #a spec #aromantic #aro #aro spec #aromantic spectrum #asexual #ace #ace spec #asexual spectrum #aroace #aro ace #aro/ace #aromantic asexual #aroace spectrum #alloace #allo ace #alloromantic asexual #aroallo #aro allo #aromantic allosexual #not a reblog

[fun-k-boards]

EDIT : Sorry if your identity isn't on here, I can't edit the poll after it's been published. If I make another poll like this I'll be sure to add more so more aspec people can be included in the vote, apologies.

EDIT 2 : You guys do know that you can just say no, right? There's no need to backpedal and run around in circles, it is honestly not a nuanced question. Do you think there's too much romance that commonly comes across as forced, or not? If it's a no, then answer no.

#aromanticism #aromantic #aro #asexuality #asexual #ace #aroace #acearo #aspec #arospec #acespec #allosexuality #allosexual #allo #alloromantic #alloaromanticism #aroallo #aceallo #alloace #alloaro

[nyancreeperpony]

Alastor Shipping Discourse is so weird to me, because, on one hand, I get where people are coming from when it comes to being against shipping him.

But on the other hand, I'm pretty sure that a good percentage of the artists I follow on Insta who do ship him with other characters are some flavor of aro and/or ace.

#“god I hate that these allosexuals/alloromantics are out here shipping Alastor” #Like excuse me...but what kinda circles have you been hanging around? #because from my point of view...the call is coming from inside the house lmao #genuine discoursers dni #I just found this funny as someone on the aroace spectrum who witnessed this discourse twice. #radiorose #(I don't ship the rest of these I'm just tagging them for the engagement) #radiostatic #radiohusk #radioapple #radiodust #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #hazbin hotel #asexual #aromantic #nyanbles

[our-aroace-experience]

So years and years ago I remember seeing that different ace orientations were connected to ace playing cards. Alloro was the ace of hearts, but I don't remember anything else.

Is that still a thing?

i haven’t seen them around as much anymore but as far as i know they are still used sometimes!

for context, aspec people sometimes use playing cards to represent their identities, here are what the different cards mean

Ace of hearts- asexuals who feel romantic attraction

ace of spades- aroace people

ace of diamonds- demisexual and greysexual, or anyone who isn’t 100% ace or 100% allo

ace of clubs- questioning aspecs

the reason they aren’t used as much anymore is because not everyone who is aspec will fit into these 4 categories, but if you want to use them, feel free!

#our aroace experience #aroace asks #asexual #aromantic #aroace #ace pride #aro pride #ace #aro #questions #demisexual #greysexual #alloromantic #aspec

[shk0lstun-flagz]

AlloAce

An Alloromantic Asexual

AroAllo

An Aromantic Allosexual

Symbols

Left AlloAce and Right AroAllo

#alternative flag #pride flag #queer flag #lgbt flags #a spectrum #a spec #aromantic #asexual #aroallo #alloaro #alloace #aceallo #allo allo #alloromantic #allosexual

[entropy-sea-system]

If you're alloace you need to understand that you enjoy more rep than aros. If you're aroace you need to understand that you enjoy more rep than non-ace aros including alloaros! If you're alloaro, you need to understand that rep for non sam aros, neu aros, etc. Is practically nonexistent. And so on.

If you're aro and/or ace and allotertiary you need to fucking understand that atertiaryspec ppl like aplatonics are also not represented at all despite being part of the aspec!! Yes we all need rep. Yes aspec rep as a whole is needed more regardless of the identity! But please don't erase the fact that some of us literally have way less rep than some other aspec identities and respect that we are allowed to be upset about how we are ignored in favor of another aspec identity all the fucking time.

#aspec #asexual #ace #alloace #aromantic #aro #alloaro #non ace aro #atertiary #anonrose #aspec rep #a spectrum #a spec #aroace #aromantic asexual #aromantic allosexual #alloromantic asexual #arospec #aromanticism #acespec #aterspec

[celestial-artisan]

Cakes and sexuality

There's a buffet restaurant full of cakes of all sorts- The two most popular ones are the chocolate cake and the cheesecake, but there are many others as well. Cakes are also sorted into two types, ones with a stronger flavor and ones with weaker flavors.

When you enter the restaurant, you get a ticket saying 'typical menu', with one of the popular cakes written on it.

Heterosexual: You eat the cake written on your ticket.

Homosexual: You eat the cake not written on your ticket.

Bisexual: You eat both. It's a buffet, so why not?

Omnisexual: All cakes are great, but you do take note of the flavor before you eat it.

Pansexual: You don't care about what flavor the cake is- Cake is cake. You can even put a blindfold around yourself and eat whatever you feel like.

Polyamorous: You eat two cakes at once, flavor of your choice, because why not? The combination's nice.

Demisexual/demiromantic: You need to know enough about the cake before wanting to eat it. You don't feel the urge to eat random pieces of cake.

Asexual, alloromantic: Cakes with strong flavors aren't to your taste. You go to the line of cakes with weaker flavors and pick one you like.

Asexual, aromantic: Cakes aren't for you. This doesn't mean you hate people who like cakes. You go to a different restaurant and have whatever food you like.

It's that simple. Cakes. Everyone has different preferences, and it's nothing to get worked up about. Basic common sense to simply respect each other, right?

Unfortunately, this isn't what's happening in our world. Just because you eat the cake not written on the ticket, people are condemned, berated, and abused. You're deemed wishy-washy or a fake when you say you like to eat more than one cake. People don't understand when you say weak-flavored cakes are fine- "Why can't you eat the strong ones, then? Those are 'real' cakes!" You're either called a cold-hearted psychopath or swamped with people trying to find you 'the cake' that can 'warm you up' when all you want is no cake.

But I want to tell everyone reading this, you're not alone. Whatever way you want to eat(or not eat) your cake(s), I fully support you. 'Cake is cake', and people who don't like cakes or can't eat them? Cool!

Have a nice day and don't be deterred by whatever may block your way- I'm sending a week full of good luck to you!!!!!! :D

#lgbtqia #pride #gay #lesbian #heterosexual #homosexual #bisexual #omnisexual #pansexual #queer #polyamory #demisexual #asexual #aroace #alloromantic #aromantic

[creapysummer]

things that my allo friends don't understand

-I want to date people but I don't want to kiss people

-I want to date people but I don't actually want to date people

-aesthetic attraction

-I find people pretty but would never want to be romantically involved

-physical looks aren't the only thing I find attractive about people

-I find people attractive but im aroace

-shirtless people scare me

-I find hands really attractive

-VOICES ARE A BIIIIGGGGG THING FOR ME

-not just how their voice sounds but also their manner of speaking like the rhythm that they talk to

-i just want to say; running/messy makeup especially eye makeup SDJFKKSK

-I kind of want to be people I find attractive

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #alloromantic #allosexual #aesthetic attraction

[redysetdare]

I keep seeing posts where people are saying "Valentines doesn't effect asexuals!" "romantic relationships have nothing to do with asexuality!" And while i understand the point they are making is to stop conflating Aromanticism with Asexuality, it is still extremely annoying to find people don't understand the nuance that comes with asexualities connection to romance - because it DOES have a connection to it. It DOES have problems in relation to romance. To say it doesn't is ignoring a huge set is experiences that ace people face.

One of the most common experiences for asexuals is the struggle to be in romantic relationships because they are asexual. a lot of romantic relationships expect you to have sex. if you're someone who doesn't have sex then unfortunately that causes a lot of people to lose interest in you romantically as well.

There's also non-sam aces, and let me tell you it's so very strange to hear someone bring up non-sam aros but then ignore the existence of non-sam aces in order to prove some point of it somehow being ace peoples fault that aro and ace are viewed as the same. Some non-sam aces do not date either. they are still ace and they can still face similar problems to aromantic people because of that. they are still effected my amatonormativity.

Aces DO have connection to romance. Asexual DID have a reason to trend on valentines day along with Aro and Aroace. Asexuality is effected my romance and amatonormativity. Sop acting like it isn't. stop acting like aros and aces have absolutely nothing in common. We can work together and have similar experiences and still be seen as separate identities. there is overlap. stop treating this as black and white where one identity can only be effected by one kind of problem. It's naive at best and down right hateful at worse.

#text #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #i might get hate for this one but as an aroace who for a while was a non-sam ace (before i found out about aro) #romance DOES effect aces #not in the same way that it effects aros but #treating aces as if they can never know or understand amatonormativity and have never faced similar issues? idk it's ignorant to me #some of the way ppl in the aro community talk about asexuality and aroace identities is just...idk frustrating #i understand the frustration on their end but also i need you all to not fall down the rabbit hole of becoming acephobic #and blaming ace people for all the problems that allos caused #and understand there is nuance to identities and just because someone is asexual alloromantic #doesn't mean they aren't effected by amatonormativity or that they have no issues related to romance at all #asexual and Aromantic are not the same thing but also stop acting like they have no overlap at all period #we used to help each other man. stop throwing some of us under the bus to try and make a point #romantic expectations are not an aro only problem

[ace-culture-is]

alloace with no ace friends culture is your friend sending you a picture of a person you find aesthetically attractive and awkwardly replying 'step on me' (or something of the like) because you are completely unable to articulate your grand desire to cuddle with them until you melt and that's how your friends respond to attractive people. (bonus points if you don't understand the appeal behind being stepped on but still use the phrase frequently despite this.)

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#asexual #asexuality #ace culture #ace culture is #actually ace #anonymous #alloace #alloromantic