#asexual confusion

[annemae]

As an asexual who figured herself out pretty late (mid 20s) I tried to have a talk with my family about not having ever been in a relationship and not feeling the need to be in one. Unless some criteria are met first - as in me being comfortable to be honest and open - and even then I'm not sure how romance positive I am.

How do others react to hearing this "but how do you know? You just haven't met the right person yet. You don't even know what you're missing "? This is my experience and my body and mind and I feel like I can't get them to listen since they think they know it better. It feels like I'm missing the right words to make them understand. Anyone have experience or advice on this ?

#asexual #acespec #aromantic #asexual confusion #asexuality #asexual issues #lqbtqia

[theravenmuse]

Allosexuals are so weird. They’ll say something like “he’s hot, I’d totally fuck him” and mean it?

#asexual confusion #as usual #ace #asexual #asexuality

[affectionatepanda]

Maybe this is an ace thing but seeing really intense kissing scenes just looks…. Kinda gross to me? Like I’m not trying to yuck anyone’s yum or shame anything but it just looks Unappealing(tm) to me. Like you’re just swiping your lips across someone else’s… Am I missing something? Genuinely asking because I don’t get it.

#asexual #asexual confusion #lgbtqia #y’all have fun tho #it just looks messy to me #ace lesbian #acespec

[rainypaperangel]

what...... what does it mean when people say legs go "all the way up"??? is-is it supposed to be hot??? but if they go all the way up, there's no....... parts?! aren't that what people actually like????? seriously, help, i'm asexual and very confused!!!!

#asexual #ace #asexual confusion #queer confusion #confusion #confused #help #please #ace meme #asexual meme #not a joke tho

[gingerlaserbeam]

Something I just remembered about the only relationship I’ve been in, that I still have Asexual Confusion™️ about.

When I told him that I didn’t really enjoy kissing that was more than a brief *MWAH* (after we’d kissed for the first time) he was like “but if we don’t kiss how am I supposed to show my affection for you?” And I was just like ????? Is kissing the only way you feel affection??

Yeah that relationship didn’t last.

🖤🩶🤍💜

#asexual confusion #asexual #ace

[no-nightingalez]

I don’t understand the concept of sex as the natural progression of romance. I understand having sex, I understand how it can be romantic, I just don’t understand how it is seen as the only course that romance takes.

Like love confessions immediately turning to sex is always so ???????? to me. Like ok get it I guess but how did we get here???

#it’s just very confusing to me #i don’t quite get how romance and sex are connected #to me those are two very disconnected things #like yeah i could probably hook up with a hot girl at a club #but i don’t think id ever confess my love to someone and immediately #jump their bones or whatever #what even is love actually #might be aro #idk #asexual #aroace #cw sex mention #asexuality #cw sexuality #arospec #acespec #my txt

[p1x3l3d]

My friends talking about their relationships:

Me:

#arospec #aspec #acespec #ace #aroace #aro #aro ace #aromantic #asexual #lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #romance #confused

[meowzet]

hearing [heteronormative] people talk about romantic relationships will never not be confusing

#huh??? #so many rules… and for what?? #beyond confusing #queer #going to tag my lovely aspecs because y’all understand what i mean :3 #aspec #ace #asexual #aroace #aro #aromantic #<2 to you all #i’ll also throw in a #queerplatonic #my meows

[sandeewithtwoe]

Happy Valentines Day! Ink is asking Broomie on a date

Ink belongs to comyet/myebi

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#art #utmv #ink sans #ink x broomie #they got married the same night #everyone was invited #Reaper was the pastor #ink probably ate his ring #his dads were confused but very proud also #i still think is ink is aroace #but specifically cupioromantic and asexual #dating Broomie was supposed to be a joke but then he took a step further and married it

[ivydbomb]

I’ve been seeing a massive influx of Aroace posts. I am Aroace and completely unaware of what’s going on. What poll? What discourse? What happened 😭 do we need to invade another country again? Isn’t it the darn year of the dragon? DO I GOTTA BURN SOMEBODY????

#aroace #aro rights #aromantic #asexual #ace rights #ace #aspec #arospec #aromanticism #aroallo #aro pride #IM CONFUSED HELP

[fanvoidkeith]

sometimes being aroacespec is confusing. what do you mean, most people can tell the difference between platonic and romantic and sexual attraction? what do you mean people don't "choose" crushes? what do you mean that people can imagine themselves in a physical situation with someone else?? isn't dating just Friendship Plus??? hell, isn't marriage just Friendship Plus?????????

what do they mean??????????? what are feelings???? why am i so confused????????

*edit: changed "aroace" to "aroacespec", since several aromantic people felt that this was not an Aromantic Feeling. i see you, i hear you, and so i changed it to be more accurate to me personally, since i am Confused About Feelings Always

#void keith talks #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aromantic asexual #i'm so confused as an autistic aroace person #about every emotion i have about another person ever #and i also read a lot of romance so like. i know what romance is *supposed* to look like #i know the ideal and the not ideal #but i have no idea about any sort of romantic social cues irl #because i'm bad with social cues. i miss them a lot or i misinterpret them #i'm good with body language because i was taught a lot of it early #but social cues are different and some change over time which is INCREDIBLY confusing #and also like? i don't feel stable enough or mentally healthy enough to be in a relationship #i feel like it would be unfair for a potential partner(s) for them to be in a relationship with me #because i just Don't Have My Shit Together. like at all #i Only Like Fictional People That Way #fictoromantic #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #arospec #aromantic spectrum #aroacespec

[vroomvroomwee]

As an aroace I have a genuine question: why do people kiss?

It's so weird man. You just mush faces? Literally why? And everyone acts like it's taking you to Heavens doorstep. How? You're in someone's saliva and it's messy and awkward. Why do that when you can gaze into each other's eyes or HUG?

#confused aroace here #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #aroace #aspec

[the-aaaaa-battery]

Being aroace but also feeling a tertiary form of attraction (alterous attraction) was one of the most confusing parts of my identity to figure out. Before I knew what alterous attraction was, I only knew sexual, romantic, platonic, sensual, and aesthetic attraction.

I had a crush on one of my friends (and I still do). It made me kind of scared because at that point, I was 99% certain I was aroace, and I couldn't tell if I was experiencing romantic attraction or not. I didn't like the idea of dating and I didn't like the word "romance," and yet I also felt like I wanted to be more than friends with that person.

It wasn't until months after discovering I had a crush that I learned about alterous attraction. I liked the definition and I thought that if fit me best, so I started to use it to describe my crush. I felt way more confident using aroace again, because it felt right! And I had a way of explaining my feelings for my crush.

But oh my God, it was so hard to figure out.

Shoutout to people who are confused about their identity right now! Gender and sexuality is tough to figure out, but it's okay to question.

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #sexuality #aroace #aromantic #asexual #romantic attraction #aromanticism #asexuality #alterous attraction #demialterous #questioning #queer #unsure #confused

[aspecpolls]

Hello, I'm back again, and I'm kinda in an emergency rn to find out about something, and Google doesn't help so I think a poll would be the best way to know.

I recently found out that sexual attraction and sexual desire are two different things, so if they are, then that changes everything. So what are ace people mostly?

Asexual experiencing sexual desire

Asexual not experiencing sexual desire

Please add more of there are other possible additions, these are the only ones I know, thank you!

Hope it's okay to add a little note here! If any aces out there would feel comfortable explaining how their attraction and desire are separate(if they are for you) and maybe how you sorted those out for yourself, I think that could be very helpful for anyone who may be confused on the difference or trying to figure themselves out! If you'd like to but that's not something you want to talk about in somewhere like the tags/replies, my askbox is always open with anon on

#ace #asexual #acespec #aspec #confused-spood #polls

[fun-k-boards]

I've never understood the excitement around marriage. I've never understood the 'rush' around the idea of a relationship. I've never understood the heartbreak or annoyance people feel when they're alone for valentine's day, or when their partner doesn't give them a gift for it. I've never understood why someone would like kissing with their tongues or on the lips. I've never understood why naked bodies are sexual. I've never understood why I should feel my world shatter when someone rejects me. I've never understood why I should be expected to 'just give the relationship a try' when someone confesses to me. I've never understood why friends will demean someone by implying they just 'aren't good enough' because their friend got rejected by that person, no matter how gentle or respectful the rejection was.

I've never understood why sex and romance need to be brought up and hyper focused on in every conversation imaginable.

I'll probably never understand.

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #acearo #there's nothing wrong with people who enjoy romance or sex by the way #this is kind of just a vent post #i guess? #im sort of just confused about romance snd sex so thats what this is about #to be clear i dont want to experience either #im not at all ashamed to be aroace

[do-angels-dream-of-starry-seas]

Losing my fucking mind yet again at how gaiman says in a response tweet that aziracrow isn't shown as a sexual relationship and people IMMEDIATELY go "oh so you mean they're friends???? You mean they're just buddies that kiss neil????? You think gay people can't be sexual neil??????"

Gonna print out a large "ace people exist" sign and tape it to a piece of wood so I can smack people in the head with it

#good omens #let.me.dream.with.goodomens #thoughts #asexual #asexuality #aphobia #was confused until i found the source #and now im just mad #like way to jump to conclusions dumbass