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traceyshortfilm · 2 days

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***TW ACEPHOBIA*** TW HOMOPHOBIA *** TW TRANSPHOBIA***

For all the people that always try to debate Yasmin on Twitter, saying: "Why do aces need rights? No one is attacking you, no one cares that you're asexual"

Well, this is just a fraction of the hate we received on Facebook after publicizing our Tr(ace)y project last May:

People seem to care a lot!

Until we can post freely and unapologetically about being ace and get a much bigger ratio of support than hate, we will always keep doing the work. If this is what our project received, I can't even imagine what Yasmin gets in a day. Shoutout to the most badass ace queen ever. Always reminding us to block out the haters!

Promoting education, understanding & compassion always! 💜

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notebookpapers · 7 months

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Hey, fellas! It’s time for

Ace✨Education✨Power Hour!✨

As an ace person myself, I forget that this is a concept that, for some people, can be hard to understand. So, in an effort to hopefully make it a little easier, here’s the best analogy I’ve found for it so far:

Asexuality is kind of like the inverse of what you feel for a one night stand.

I know how it sounds, I know, but bear with me here.

With a one night stand or a casual hookup, you don’t have to have romantic chemistry. You definitely CAN, but in some cases, even though you might be sexually attracted to each other and have great sexual chemistry, the romantic side isn’t really there. Sure, you’re sexually attracted to them, but you can’t really see yourself going on a date with them or building a life together.

Asexual attraction is kind of the opposite of that. If the sexual can exist without the romantic, then the romantic can also exist without the sexual.

And now, you might be asking yourself, “well, how is that bond any different from what you’d feel for a close friend?” And, to be fair, it can be similar.

You want your partner to be your friend, first and foremost, but there are things you’ll do with a romantic partner that’s different from what you’d do with a friend. For example, I wouldn’t daydream about taking my friends on a cute sunset walk on the beach while I hold their hands and kiss them under the moonlight. I don’t get that same flutter in my chest when I hold my friend’s hand.

Now, obviously, friends do hold hands sometimes. Hell, I’ve kissed my homies goodnight before, ain’t no shame in that. But it’s a different kind of intimacy. Does kissing your girlfriend feel the same as kissing your friend you’ve known since grade school? No. No, it doesn’t.

Asexuality is different for all people. Some feel small amounts of sexual attraction, some feel none at all. Some still have sex for their own reasons - to bond with their partner, to help them sleep, or to just have fun. But some people don’t have sex at all. It’s not the same as sex repulsion or abstinence - they’re just not interested. Many aces still feel romantic attraction, but some are aro-ace, and they don’t.

I hope my weird little tired-o-clock ramble helped somebody who’s struggling to understand. At the end of the day, though, if you don’t, that’s okay with me. I’m not expecting everyone to understand us. All I ask is that you respect us and those who have found comfort in the label of Asexuality. Our ace identities aren’t hurting anybody, and so all we ask is that you don’t hurt us, in return.

Hope my little 3 am word vomit helped somebody. That’s all from me for today, folks! :)

#rambles #tired o clock #asexual #asexuality #ace #ace price #asexual pride #asexual post #asexual education

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codthefishgod · 19 days

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To all the people who think aspec people aren't LGBTQIA+ because we aren't "discriminated against enough", here's a lovely list of reasons why you need to educate yourself:

- We suffer from dehumanisation, people actively devaluing or even erasing our humanity because of our identities (The voidpunk community is heavily supported by aspec people because of this)

- We suffer from self hatred due to feeling as if and being told we are broken, that no one can be happy unless they're in a romantic/sexual relationship, because of allonormativity and amatonormativity that actively damages our mental health

- Amatonormativity shapes laws that put us at an active disadvantage, such as giving married people financial and legal benefits

- Aspec people have been victims of conversion therapy, correctional rape, a lower quality of life, and other effects of being a marginalised and oppressed group

- We suffer from our identities being pathologised and deal with medical stigma because of this, causing many of us to feel unwelcome in and even avoid health care settings

- We suffer from our identities being erased, which can range from people completely denying our existence and people equating it to celibacy, to an almost complete absence of aspec representation in the media (It's been getting better lately, especially for alloaces and aroaces, but I have yet to ever see a canon aroallo character, and representation for those on the spectrum rather than in the extremes is often ignored)

- YOU are creating a hateful, exclusionary space in a community meant to be about inclusion. The same thing that happens to us happens to bisexual people, to polyamorous people, and other identities that are "disputed." In a community meant to be about rejecting the norm, YOU are shoving us out because we don't fit the norm of being LGBTQIA+. Because we're not enough like you.

These are only a few examples of aphobia that people like me deal with. Discrimination and oppression against aspec people stretches far beyond this.

But even if it didn't, it is disrespectful and harmful to everyone involved to gatekeep membership in the community based on oppression and discrimination.

We aren't LGBTQIA+ because we experience oppression. We are LGBTQIA+ because our existence alone goes against heteronormativity and other societal norms forced upon us.

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theartofmadeline · 1 month

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new zine about asexual history! this one's been rattling around my head for awhile

#asexual #asexuality #ace #zine #lgbtq #lgbt #pride #asexual pride #asexual history #mini zine #theartofmadeline #ive been wanting to do this one for awhilllllle #i love researching things teehee #there's obviously more accounts about the word asexual being used #especially in the 70s-90s #but this is an educational zine not a research paper #not sure if i'll print this one (digest size) but maybe??#zine making #zinester

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ayo-edebiri · 6 months

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SEX EDUCATION (2019 - 2023) I 2.04

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dollopheadsandclotpoles · 7 months

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I did try to make friends. But I couldn't let people in without giving myself away...

#mine #sex education #sex education spoilers #O #Sarah 'O' Owen #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #aroace #ace #aro #aro stuff #ace stuff #aroace tag #I... honestly don't know how I felt about this storyline + this season as a whole #I loved this scene #but none of this stuff was shown in the show #i'm not opposed to her being a villain it's more that this wasn't handled storytelling wise in the way they wanted it to come across #i read what yasmin benoit put up on her insta and she basically said this #that she was also disappointed cause they cut and edited it in such a way that none of these things were breadcrumbed in before this #and for real like... when Otis was like were you lying about being ace to make me look bad #LIKE IT DID SEEM LIKE THAT #that's how they played it!!!#idk this whole season needed more work I think cause there was too much telling and not enough nuance #not enough fun not enough messiness #not enough build up to the tracks idk man #like it wasn't bad just... not quite what it should have been #wasn't organic #also she just calls herself ace but she said she doesn't have crushes so... aro too ig

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milfclarke · 1 month

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Long time no tease 🤭🤥

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goondah · 7 months

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As much as i enjoyed season 4 of Sex Education, its frustrating to see another character (O) describe being aromantic and asexual and only ever have them call it ace. Referring to aroace experiences only as "ace" hurts all of the aspec. It erases aromantic experiences as a part of asexuality and reinforces the assumption that all asexuals are also aromantic.

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #aroallo #alloace #aspec #netflix sex education

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acexualien · 2 months

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textk4kira · 3 months

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what lgbt specific resource do cisgender, straight peopel who do not feel sexual attraction need that they cannot safely get elsewhere?

Hello,

I assume you asked this question in good faith, so as an AroAce trans person I will happily respond!

I would like to start off by saying cisheteromantic asexuals and cisheterosexual aromantics have always been a part of the queer community, period.

To answer your question, asexual and aromantic people need:

1. A community that accepts and affirms their non-cisheteronormative identities.

2. Many asexual/aromantic people have experienced conversion therapy for their sexual/romantic identity and need access to therapies and other treatments to heal from their trauma.

3. Similarly, they may have also experienced religious trauma due to a cultural upbringing that pushed a heteronormative, puritanical view of relationships.

4. Aromantic men in particular are demonized as sexual predators and need the love and support of our community to help them.

5. Asexual women and women-aligned/feminine-aligned people such as myself have experienced fetishization due to our sexuality orientation. Corrective rape has been used to correct people's asexual identities.

In summary, cisheteromantic asexuals and cisheterosexuals aromantics face many of the same issues as the rest of the queer community.

The rest of the LGBTQIA+ community must support their asexual and aromantic siblings.

I hope this was helpful! 💗

#ask #anon ask #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aromanticism #cisheteroromantic asexual #cisheterosexual aromantic #queer education #queer resources #lgbtq #lgbtq+#lgbtqia #queer #queer community #aromantic men #cishet aro men #aro men

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loveyouanyway · 12 days

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happy international asexuality day 🖤🩶🤍💜

Sex Education 2x04 | @lgbtqcreators // creator bingo – quotes

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acespec-ed · 2 years

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Since it’s so hard for people to wrap their heads around asexuals being anything other than sexless beings with no libidos...

I want you to think of being hungry. I want you to think of your appetite. I want you to think of cravings.

Your libido going off, is like being hungry. Your current mood for sex, is like your current appetite. Your cravings, are people you’re sexually attracted to.

You can be hungry and have no appetite. You can have an appetite, but not be hungry. You can be hungry and have an appetite, but have no cravings. I’m sure most people can relate to experiencing a combination of these factors.

Most of the time, when you’re hungry, that hunger is often paired with appetite and cravings. You’re hungry, you want to eat something, you want to eat something in specific.

Libido, sexual desire, and sexual attraction typically works the same way. You’re horny, you want to have sex, you want to have sex with someone in particular.

When I say “want,” I mean “want.” Not no “I’ll go along with my partner cuz it’ll make them happy” or, “I’m comfortable enough with this person to do it,” or “I’m sensually/romantically/aesthetically attracted to this person and they’re willing so I’ll do it.”

Those reasons would be the equivalent of eating a food a partner made because it’ll make them happy. Simply eating something that’s already in front of you. Eating something you don’t mind eating even though you’re not in the mood for it. That’s not a craving. That’s settling.

When your libido goes off, and you’re in the mood for sex, but there’s no one you’re sexually attracted to? You might settle for sex with whoever is available. That might sound depressing to some allos, but imagine never craving any foods in particular. Are you just going to, sit there and starve because you have no cravings? Are you going to ignore your mood to eat? No. You’re still going to eat something because you want your stomach to stop growling. Or maybe you just want to eat for the sake of eating. So you pick the best option available. And since you’re never craving anything, you’re never “missing out” on anything. It’s not like, wanting pizza but everyone around you wants steak so you have to settle for steak while wishing you were having pizza instead. It’s simply, there’s nothing specific you want but everyone else wants steak so you all go to Outback Steakhouse because, it’ll get the job done, even though you’re not craving it, it’s something to eat and now your hunger has been satisfied.

That right there, is how an asexual can still get horny. How an asexual can want sex. Many asexuals are only missing the sexual attraction component. That’s it that’s all that’s missing.

Graysexuals might get cravings rarely, or have very weak cravings. Demisexuals might start craving donuts if they hang around a donut shop long enough. Fraysexuals might start craving donuts but, after hanging around the donut shop, lose that craving. Aceflux is when your craving levels fluctuate. Quoisexual is when you’re not sure if you even have cravings.

And that’s what it all boils down to. Cravings.

#asexual #asexuality #gray asexual #graysexual #acespec #ace spectrum #education #original posts

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allthegothihopgirls · 19 days

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I love the asexual Bruce Wayne agenda and I totally agree with it. What I want to know though is how Bruce (asexual queen that he his) deals with his hormonal teenage boys?

Cause like Bruce never got the sex talk (I mean his parents died when he was young, and the family Buttler is Not giving his former employers son the sex talk) and that’s fine by Bruce. Cause he’s never felt these ‘urges’ that everyone talks about. Honestly, sex is overrated.

But, Batman prepares for everything. And one thing that people ALWAYS stress about parenting is having to give your kids the sex talk.

I just really want to know about the hijinks like;

Bruce: *Standing forlornly in front of a ‘Sex Ed’ PowerPoint* So, I understand that you probably have no desire for these… urges. That everyone talks about. But the parenting book (and society) decrees that to be a good parent, I need to give my children a proper education on sex.

Dick: *Very much not asexual* Yeah, no thanks dad this really helps!

Bruce: *Bewildered* How???

although the idea of bruce uncomfortably giving his version of a 'talk' is amusing, i don't think he'd give one at all. none of the boys would really give him any reason to, until he gets to tim at least (he's like, the only one i haven't fully projected my asexual agenda onto at this point).

dick's always been very responsible, so when he starts dating, maaaaybe bruce has like, a single thought contemplating whether or not to sit him down, but i think he'd get off with a "you know that you should always treat a woman right, yeah?" whether dick's actually dating women is up for debate but you get the point and a pat on the back. i believe that bruce operates predominantly under the 'if they have questions, they'll ask' mindset, so he trusts that if dick needs an answer to something, he'll come to bruce. (or just source an answer elsewhere)

i do also think that if anything, alfred would be the one to pull bruce up and ask if he'd adequately informed the boys of things 'one on one' (because he KNOWS that he hasn't). and even then, if bruce were to actually sit dick down, he wouldn't get so far as an introduction spent dancing around the topic because bruce is himself, mortified, before dick stops him and says that he doesn't have to give him this talk, because "wally already did" (much to bruce's disapproval).

as for jason, dying isn't great for a guy's love life. as i pretty much said previously, i don't think bruce would approach anything until it was absolutely relevant (when the boys are already in a relationship). so jason not getting a chance to really date before he died, means that bruce never had the opportunity to talk to him about it. i also believe he'd assume that jason already knows, with the crude jokes he makes, and the kind of people he grew up around on the streets. and obviously, by the time he comes back as red hood, he's too old to 'not know' and it's just presumed he knows his stuff.

i think tim might cause him a little bit (a lot) of trouble though. it definitely scares the shit out of bruce when he finds out about steph getting pregnant by her ex. it prompts him to fling fully into action mode to prevent tim ever being in that situation. that'd be the first time he's properly spoken to one of his kids about it, lots of emphasis on protection and what NOT to do.

however for any other talk pre-steph, i really do think he'd try to palm off the responsibility onto dick (he's very thankful that he's got kids old enough to do it for him), asking him to talk to tim. bruce would probably pull out all the cards "i'm too old" "he'd think it was less weird coming from you" "i don't know what you kids get up to, he's better off hearing it from someone who he can relate to" "i don't want to traumatise the kid" etc etc.

i do think the whole steph situation would be a bit of a reality-check for bruce though, and he'd have the realisation "that could have been any one of the kids" and he would be on his toes for a bit. especially with the amount of girls tim is rumoured to have relations with. him getting with bernard would be a big relief for everyone bruce i think.

once again when he gets with bernard, bruce is 100% palming off the responsibility of having that talk, onto one of his other kids. most likely jason. this is getting super far into my own personal headcanon territory, but literally none of them are straight to me, and i think jason would be the most 'comfortably' gay (mostly just his lack of care about the subject, being percieved as open-ness). bruce would 100% ask dick to talk to tim if it weren't for how private he tends to be with his love life in adulthood. (even getting him to just have the general 'talk' with tim was pushing it)

i don't think he'd ever talk with damian, the league definitely taught him (although objectively). i do think out of all the kids, he'd be the one to have questions though, mainly about the romantic aspect of relationships, as he struggles to wrap his head around the concept of 'love', (which really tests bruce's parenting abilities) i do think dick (having the bond he does with damian) would go out of his way to have a talk with him as he got older though.

as for cass, i don't think she would have ever been taught, with her irregular upbringing, as well as not going to regular school and all. but girls are new in the batfamily, and bruce doesn't want to touch that conversation with a ten-foot pole, so he calls diana in to do it for him.

final note, i also really do think a large contributing factor to bruce most likely never approaching the subject out of his own free will is just how private they all tend to be with their love lives. like i can see dick telling bruce that he's dating someone (as a teenager), but apart from a name and how he knows them, he's not really giving much else away. jason on the other hand just completely leaves it up for everyone else to figure out on their own (it lives entirely in my head that he's like this with his family, but is super close with his partner's family, which is a shock to everyone). if anything, tim's the only one who ever wants people to know about his relationships, for them to 'meet the parents' (bruce) etc etc. it probably all stems from bruce himself being a pretty secretive guy.

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