#asexual experience

[miss-americanbi]

Token Straight Friend™️ strikes again

#@texan-leslie-knope thanks for this iconic exchange #lgbtq friendships #lgbtq #asexual pride #asexual #ace pride #asexual positivity #asexual thoughts #aroace #aroace pride #lgbtqia #lgbtq shitpost #asexual community #asexual culture #asexual visibility #asexual vibes #asexual memes #asexual experience #asexual umbrella #gray asexual #demisexual #americanbi’s posts

[gray-ace-space]

a funny side effect of being demisexual is that i'm disproportionately attracted to my own characters, because i created them and control everything about them, and therefore know them as much as it's possible to know anyone. it's true love.

#og post #demi ace #gray ace #acespec #humor #actually asexual #asexual experience #lgbtq+ #lgbtq #lgbt+ #mogai #ace #demisexual #gray asexual #graysexual #asexual

[chrysalismandtea]

coming out as asexual is way harder than it should be - because the majority people still have no idea what asexuality is. plus it is very different for each person.

I always struggled with coming out - I still do! - and I thought it was because I’m too protective of my inner peace. which in a way is true, only when I used to think I was bi, or gay, I thought ���when the time is right I’ll just tell people and be done with it”. guess what! every time I have considered coming out as ace I freak out because I will have to ✨explain✨.

my point is, I wish people knew about asexuality, and I’m not just talking about cishet people but also the lgbtq+ community. it would just be so much easier.

and of course, it would take the fucking shame away, because it’s time. (but that’s a whole other discussion).

#lgbtqiia+ #lgbtq #ace spectrum #asexual #asexuality #acespec #ace memes #ace pride #asexual issues #asexual is valid #asexual inclusion #asexual community #asexual culture #asexual experience #asexual lesbian #asexuallity #asexual moment #asexual pride #asexual positivity #asexual post #asexual problems #demisexual lesbian #demisexual #demisexuality #demisexual issues #greysexual #grey ace #lgbt #lgbtqplus #lgbtq community

[samijami]

Me: *accidentally finds something in Google I shouldn't be looking at*

Google: Condoms can be used on toys-

My thoughts: *a fucking condom on a transformer action figure*

#asexual aromantic #asexuality #asexual spectrum #asexual #acearo #aroace #ace/aro #aro/ace #asexual experience #asexual things #asexual post #aromantic asexual #asexual stuff #asexual humor #asexual jokes #asexual memes #asexual community #ace stuff #ace humor #ace jokes #ace memes #ace community #ace #aseuxal #bad jokes #offensive jokes #im dumb lol #being ace #stupid me

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

ACESPECS: Have you ever come out to anyone irl? How did it go??

#asexual #ace #asexual experience #asexual spectrum #asexuality #ace pride #international asexuality day

[bloggingboutburgers]

Allo anon again, I just wanted to come in here one more time to say that I didn't mean to make you cry, but I am happy that I have brought you and other people joy! I will take any chance I get to gush about my gf because she is a wonderful woman and deserves the world. :3

I don't know much about France, but I do know that in North America there is starting to be more asexual awareness in the medical field and outside of it. Many people still find it weird, but at least within LGBTQ+ spaces, I've seen it become more welcomed. I hope that within my lifetime, it can be far more accepted.

I may not fully understand the asexual experience, but as an autistic person, I know what it's like to know that you are in some way invisibly different from your peers. To have wants and desires that make people look at you sideways. To have people say to your face that they think you are a fundamentally broken person, and that your life is not worth living. I know how frustrating it can feel to be boxed in because of others' assumptions. But just because you do not fit into what is "normal" does not make your path any less worth taking.

The beauty of humanity comes from the diversity of its experiences. There are so many ways to make connections with other people, animals, and nature. No matter what others might tell you, I believe that the universe is not fundamentally cruel, but kind. The world DOES have a place for all of us in it, it just takes more time for some people to find their niche.

I also wanted to reaffirm to everyone out there that regardless of if you want sex, romance, or neither, and regardless of if you want a long term partner or not, you are valid. I'm friends with a couple other aces and aros, and they are amazing creatives, scientists, and friends. No matter what you want out of life, you, the person reading this, deserves people who will care for you and respect you in a way that honours your boundaries. You deserve acceptance and happiness. Even if things get difficult, I sincerely hope that you will find what you are looking for. And in the meantime, I am offering digital hugs, high-fives, and pastries of your choice :)

Have a good day or night, and even if it's only for 5 minutes, do something that makes you happy <3

I'm so sorry I'm replying to this so late, the past couple days have been a bit busy! But please don't worry about the tears, they were definitely happy ones, and this just almost brought up more of them 🫶

Thank you so so much for this, it's so uplifting to read and deserves to be shared widely. I hope you also have a wonderful day or night and I wish you and your gf all the happiness you can have!!

#anon #i'm so sorry i'm so late but seriously thank you so much #asexual experience #allosexual #autistic experience #i hope this is OK to include in the tags i just seriously appreciate your insight #so much positivity

[hyperfocuscentre]

3 stages of aroace discovery

1. Denial

No. . .Nonono. . . It can’t be true, I won’t let it be.

Metaphorical hands attempt to push rising denial downwards, back to the deep burrow it had seated itself in for the past few years. It’s never felt so bitter, so terrifying and sickly as now, when it fights to escape. Reality is sinking down to take its place, but reality is unkind and comes without acceptance.

It’s unfair, despicably cruel and a fucking prime example of life. Life is shit. Life leaves you wondering why it’s you, why you feel this way, why you lack the ability to feel something said to be so strong, so wonderful, so necessary. Love has evaded you for years, and it keeps doing so, twisting and spiralling its way through sharp gaps to keep itself away from cupped, reaching palms.

Your friend likes suchabody then somebody else, and you feel pressured to feel the same. Sometimes you wonder if it’s fake, if it really even exists or if people have been faking it since the dawn of time but then. . .that’s stupid. It’s not fake, it’s very very real and it’s just not for you.

But maybe you can force it?

It doesn’t work. You’re just faulty.

2. Reluctance

You do your research, denial way out of reach and acceptance lost but desperately trying to find it’s way back. You find microlabel after microlabel, some fit you, some don’t. You see people embrace what you struggle to, and it helps. It helps to beat off the isolation, to ground yourself in this newly found reality and to understand that it’s not just you! And isn’t that strangely wonderful, that unity can have such a large scale impact on how you view yourself. You may not love people romantically, or sexually, but you still look for their company, their praise, maybe even their love. You love your guardian, your friends, your pet and maybe that’s enough. Your heart expands, filled with joy and love and it’s okay. It’s okay that the love isn’t romantic, it doesn’t need to be.

Everything is okay.

3. Acceptance

Suddenly every comfort character has your sexuality and you may not announce it loud and proud, but you know and that’s enough.

You are enough as you are, you don’t need to change. You don’t have a missing puzzle piece that slipped from the box, you are complete and you display it with pride through wide smiles and eyes aglow.

#idk i got bored #enjoy this crappy thing #my writing #aspec #aroace #lgbtq community #lgbt #lgbtqia #acceptance #aromantic experience #sexuality #asexuality #asexual #aro #actually aromantic #asexual experience #aroace experience #aroace pride #aroace positivity #aroace problems #aromantic problems #aromantic pride #a spectrum #aspec pride #ace #acearo #ace aro #aro ace #asexual aromantic #aromantic asexual

[queerstudiesnatural]

remember that asexuality doesn't necessarily mean you don't have or enjoy sex, or that you're sex repulsed. asexuality is simply the initial lack of sexual attraction to people

*by "always" i mean like when you were a teenager and you started wondering about sex and your sexuality etc.

#rain posts #polls #asexuality #asexual #ace #ace poll #asexuality poll #asexual experience

[sebcosmothetransguy]

the asexual experience of finding sex and talking about sex gross, but at the same time not understanding why people are so squeamish about the subject and so hesitant to talk about it cuz it’s just sex for fucks sake, nothing special.

#seb/cosmo posts #asexual #ace #asexual experience #the asexual experience #sex repulsed #sex indifferent #acespec #asexual community #ace community

[coswinx]

I should be doing something for IAD but instead I'm reblogging others IAD posts

Why?

#aroace #asexual #ace #acespec #international asexuality day #asexual experience #asexual spectrum #asexuality #ace pride #ace day #i want garlic bread #< my blog tag btw

[aroace-cat-lady]

One of the funniest things about the ace experience is fandom being like Oh nooo he's hot!! while I'm like is he???

#ace experience #asexual experience #ace humor #ace jokes #asexual humor #asexual spectrum #asexuality

[voids-ideas]

I often feel that if I tell someone that I am asexual, they will comment on my appearance

And no, the fact that I look fucking amazing has nothing to do with whether or not I feel sexual attraction

It just says that I have very good taste in clothes, thank you

#I don't really know if I look that good #but no one has told me otherwise. #asexuality #asexual #asexual experience #asexual spectrum #greysexual #lgbtqia #lgbtq community

[gray-ace-space]

What baffled me most about finding out I'm on the ace spec is that apparently sexual attraction is not just an elaborate joke. Like, it's always been bugging me when people in fiction went "I cannot hold back anymore!! D:<" Of course, you can??? Turns out, they actually really cannot? Idk. Cheating as well? Couldn't be me. Never in my life did I look at a person I find aesthetically pleasing thinking "I need you in my bed right now" or whatever. Not even people I I'm romantically involved with.

Like, I'm married and sometimes I have sex and it's fine but we've spent so much time trying to "fix" the sex part of our relationship thinking something gotta be "wrong" with going weeks to months without sex and me never feeling like initiating anything.(Everything else is fine and we're happy) And then I figured I'm ace (and my partner might actually be on the ace spec as well, having ended a relationship once because his ex wanted way more sex than him) and now everything is just super chill? The (societal?) pressure (in my head) is gone, it's alright, I feel so much better about myself. There's more to a relationship than sexual attraction.

oh yeah, when you're given no resources to help you understand how you're different you make some weird assumptions. then when the assumptions are challenged you're like, wtf, this shit is wild.

regarding your marriage: that rules! i definitely relate, i pretty much only started enjoying anything sexual at all ever when i realized i didn't have to enjoy it in a normative way. so many people and relationships would be so much happier and healthier if we ACTUALLY TALKED ABOUT THIS

#asks #ace #acespec #relationships #lgbtq+ #lgbtq #lgbt+ #asexual #actually asexual #asexual experience #og post

[whiteladyofithilien]

I am not one for sharing controversial opinions on anything that's important or trying to stir up a problem so if y'all get nasty I will delete and block and all that stuff.

That out of the way

People are absolutely allowed to ship whatever they want to ship. That is not the problem here. You wanna ship Bagginshield like they bang eight times a day... Knock yourself out. Or Gigolas like all they did was make out in Lorien or heck if you ship Sauron and Luthien go forth write your fanfics, make your fanart, let your ship flag fly!

It's the people who insist canon characters are together that aren't that bother me. I'm specifically thinking of ships like MerryxPippin or FrodoxSam or GimlixLegolas because here's the thing.

If you say guys can't say they love each other without it being sexual. You're promoting Toxic Masculinity

If you say guys can't cry in general or over each other specifically. You're promoting Toxic Masculinity

If you say guys can't be physically affectionate with each other, guess what? You're promoting Toxic Masculinity big time with this one actually

If you say people can't have a deep abiding lifelong commitment to each other without it being a romantic thing. Not only are you discrediting the asexual/aromantic experience you're also at risk of promoting Toxic Masculinity

So ship your funky ships but be very careful what you start insisting is canon based on that kind of toxic masculinity mindset that men can't be physically affectionate with each other, cry, and be willing to die for each other or spend their whole life in companionship with another dude without it being "gay". We're not middle school boys and it's about time we stopped propagating these post-wwii ideals of what is "appropriate" behavior for men because it's very clear from his writing that Tolkien's views were shaped in a world before the gung-ho emotionally absent John Wayne type became the paragon of what masculinity was supposed to be. Also he traveled and if you look outside Anglo cultures you will find A LOT of cultures with nonsexual affection shown between men. And that's GOOD as humans physical touch is an important part of our health and when it's sexualized you end up with a lot of weird views on touch and this whole mess *gestures to America and its distortions of appropriate physical affection*

So please think about what viewpoints you're promoting when you insist things are canon because X or Y. Again absolutely ship whatever you want just maybe don't act like it's a fact if the evidence you're using is from the skewed post-war views of masculinity that permeate our society

*climbs down off of soap box*

#tolkien #jrr tolkien #lord of the rings #lotr #frodo #Sam #shipping #ships #canon #canon ships #non canon #non canon ships #thorin #bilbo #merry #pippin #toxic masculinity #asexual experience #aromantic experience #ship your ships #fandom ships #tolkien ships #hobbit

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

In honour of international asexuality day I have a lot of questions on my blog for acespecs!! First one is:

ACESPECS HOW DO YOU IDENTIFY?

#asexual #ace #ace pride #asexual experience #asexual spectrum #asexuality #international asexuality day

[foolishtobias]

A while ago when I first started playing Bloodborne I noticed that it had this strange “safe” and “right” quality to it that I’d never experienced before. I realized it’s because I’m asexual/aromantic and this is the first time I’ve seen something that feels like how I see the world. And yeah it just makes me love it even more.

#i saw a post a while ago that worded this much better but I can’t find it #bloodborne #asexual #asexual experience #asexual aromantic #aromantic