#asexual is valid

[chrysalismandtea]

coming out as asexual is way harder than it should be - because the majority people still have no idea what asexuality is. plus it is very different for each person.

I always struggled with coming out - I still do! - and I thought it was because I’m too protective of my inner peace. which in a way is true, only when I used to think I was bi, or gay, I thought “when the time is right I’ll just tell people and be done with it”. guess what! every time I have considered coming out as ace I freak out because I will have to ✨explain✨.

my point is, I wish people knew about asexuality, and I’m not just talking about cishet people but also the lgbtq+ community. it would just be so much easier.

and of course, it would take the fucking shame away, because it’s time. (but that’s a whole other discussion).

#lgbtqiia+ #lgbtq #ace spectrum #asexual #asexuality #acespec #ace memes #ace pride #asexual issues #asexual is valid #asexual inclusion #asexual community #asexual culture #asexual experience #asexual lesbian #asexuallity #asexual moment #asexual pride #asexual positivity #asexual post #asexual problems #demisexual lesbian #demisexual #demisexuality #demisexual issues #greysexual #grey ace #lgbt #lgbtqplus #lgbtq community

[hi-im-august]

Happy International Asexuality day my guys/gals/non-binary pals 🖤🩶🤍💜

#asexual #international asexuality day #asexuality #ace pride #acespec #demisexual #greysexual #asexual is valid

[laylachips]

#asexual #aromantic #aro #ace #aroace #lgbt #queer #polls #lgbt polls #lgbt poll #aromantic is valid #asexual is valid #alloaro cishet men are valid too #whether you like it or not bitch

[thetypingbeast]

Asexuality was compared to pedophilia in reddit thread

Edit: TW aphobia I saw a reddit thread recently where people were being aphobic so somebody said, "asexuality is not a choice" and someone said "neither is pedophilia, that's why it's a mental disorder." Absolutely disgusting. In order to act on pedophilia, a minor is abused. In order to act on asexuality, nobody is. It is NOT the same. If anyone saw this who is aphobic, I hope your eyes have been opened. We don't feel sexually attracted to others. It's not a crime.

EDIT: Omg this blew up! Thanks for the support guys, and for reblogging this to every corner of tumblr! Y'all are awesome!

#asexual #aphobes fuck off #aphobia #lgbtqia #a is for asexual #valid #asexual is valid #community #asexual community #pride #asexual pride #asexual awareness week

[seagull-michael]

Face reveal i guess bc this has been annoying the shit out of me for ages and I wanna say something 🥰

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aromantic is valid #asexual is valid #aroace pride #aroace problems

[memyusername]

To all the amazing AroAce Specs out there I say happy Ystävänpäivä Day to you. While everyone else is celebrating their partners on Valentines Day, I say we celebrate our amazing friends today instead.

And as a reminder, even if you are in a relationship, aren’t completely Aro, completely Ace, don’t completely identify is AroAce, are questioning. You still can be and are apart of the amazing AroAce Community no matter what.

Thank you for coming to my TedTalk.

#aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #lgbt #lgbtq #Ystävänpäivä Day #arospec #aro positivity #AroAceSpec #Aromatic is valid #Asexual is valid #even more tags

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Saw a reddit post today about a girl who was upset that her childhood best friend replaced a photo of the two of them in his wallet with one of him and his girlfriend. And while yeah, she was being unreasonable with a lot of what she was saying, I totally understand the sadness of a friend "replacing" you with someone they have romantic feelings for. Makes it worse when the top comment is this

Every single comment on this post is about how family and romantic relationships always take precedence over friendships. I don't have anything more to say to this aside from the fact that... this is why it's hard for aroaces to imagine futures for themselves. Society drills it into your head that you're going to live in a world where you are no one's priority if you don't have romantic relationships and it fucking sucks

#you know what's validating though #Daniel Sloss's bit on his best girl friend... the STARK opposite of this #aro stuff #ace stuff #aroace tag #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro #ace #asexuality #aromanticism #i feel like I ought to add more and make this like a powerful essay #but it's too late rn i'm too tired

[redysetdare]

The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."

The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."

Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.

#text #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #acespec #arospec #ik i made a similar post to this recently but i feel this one better words what i wanted to say with that one #ill leave the other posted but heres a more worded version ig #basically stop theowing repulsed and non partnering ppl under the bus #dont only validate favorable and partnering experiences when fighting aphobia #we are here too

[nothing-an-iratze-cant-fix]

I’m curious - people always seem surprised that multiple siblings are queer, as if it’s amazing the gay lightning struck twice so close together.

But human variation is down to our genes and external factors. Siblings are logically more likely to both/all be queer than not.

So a wee poll if you don’t mind!

Anyone can take part, there should be an option for anyone but please let me know in notes if I missed anyone.

For reference: queer is anyone who wouldn’t describe themselves as heterosexual or cis-gendered or allo-sexual. Anyone we would include in the queer group. And if you’re not including people by their own identification, we can have words after…

Notes:

If you only have one sibling use the relevant all option.

If you have an issue with the word queer I truly don’t want to hear about it - that’s your choice, this is mine.

Reblog if you fancy! If you don’t then no worries, but if you can it would be nice to get a lot of replies!

And hey everyone, happy Pride!

#queer stuff #lgbtq+ #queer #polls #asexual #and #aromantic #people - I want to hear from you too! You are valid and queer if you id as queer #if you don’t know about your identity or you don’t know about your siblings identity - first off; sending you love. #second; if you want to take part just put what you think is most likely or your most comfortable putting #❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[yagikidd57]

#tw acephobia #tw aphobia #lgbtqia+ #asexuality #asexual #asexuality is valid #ace community #ace space #lgbtqia community #queer community #queer #aroace #aromantic #asexual struggles #aspec #arospec

[drchucktingle]

happy international asexuality day buckaroos. your ace and aro trots are VALID and YOU PROVE LOVE JUST BY BEING YOU

#asexual #lgbtqia #valid #buckaroo lifestyle #ace #aro

[hazellush]

I would love having someone's d..k🤑🤤🥵

#trans #trans gender #trans woman #transgender #transgirl #asexual #trans community #trans pride #tr #trans men #trans model #trans mtf #trans dating #trans women are valid

[pikp0kcas3]

The Hazbin Hotel fandom’s issue with accepting aromanticism and asexuality

Now that it is officially Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, I want to talk about this!

I find that, as an aroace myself, I am constantly grasping at good representation and coming up empty— it usually ends up in one of two ways.

One: the character is portrayed as emotionless, cold, and robotic in nature. It’s the question aromantic and/or asexual people are often asked: “Are you heartless?” The answer is no, of course, but general media makes it out to be the opposite.

Or two: Their lack of attraction is seen as something to “fix” because they “haven’t found the right one yet”, and they end up with a partner as a “happy ending”.

It frustrates me greatly because of how little people actually see aromanticism or asexuality as a true part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

So when I watched Hazbin Hotel, and I found out about Alastor being aroace, I was over the moon. I was on cloud nine. I also saw how his voice actor has looked up the term as an attempt to learn about aroaces, which makes me OVERJOYED?? Amir is truly a blessing, and I love that he’s proud to embody a character that’s part of our community. It’s so beautiful to finally have a proper character, a fan favorite at that, who just so happens to be aroace— and that’s another thing I love about this.

It’s never explicitly stated in the show (though it is stated in interviews), but it’s rather clear when you’re watching, isn’t it? Alastor’s aversion to any sort of sexual advancement, coupled with Rosie’s blatant “I know you’re an ace in the hole” comment sort of spell out his asexuality pretty clearly, as well as what side of the spectrum he falls upon. In addition, his Valentine’s day card was strictly platonic, which caters to his aromantic side. It feels so validating to finally be represented, to finally have a character in media who shares the same lack of interest in romance and sex as I do.

When I entered the fandom to look for more content, I kind of expected to see the same respect for Alastor’s orientation there too. But that… wasn’t the case? I am fully aware that aromanticism and asexuality are both spectrums— of course, aromantic and/or asexual people can enter those kinds of relationships. I’m not denying that and they belong in the community as much as anyone else on the spectrum.

But, the more I see the same line again and again and again, the more it feels like an excuse to just ship what you want.

Usually I don’t mind shipping? I’m often a firm believer in people shipping what they like as long as it’s harmless and they don’t go crazy over it. I also know for a fact that Viv doesn’t have a problem with people shipping her characters. They are fictional, after all.

But in this case, people are ignoring the very thing that makes Alastor a part of the aroace community! People are ignoring his lack of romantic or sexual attraction!

Is this not the same as changing a gay character’s orientation to suit a straight ship? If not, how so? I’m told that we are a part of this community, so why aren’t we being treated like it? Why is it so hard to accept the people on the end of the spectrum who aren’t interested?

Something I’ve been noticing throughout my life is that society has not exactly progressed very much on the idea of accepting asexual or aromantic identities. Maybe we have, a little, since the old days— but hell, people in “the old days”, which in truth wasn’t very long ago, believed that asexuality was a medical condition to be “fixed” by taking the right medication or having sex. That’s a pretty low bar to clear. And on the romance side, you’re seen as a “late bloomer” or “boring” if you don’t express interest. These days, being friends with someone is treated like a gateway to them possibly becoming a lover. Not getting married, not going on dates, not wanting a partner— it’s all treated like a crime when it’s not.

Maybe I’m selfish, or sensitive, or I’m butthurt over nothing, or I’m making it all about me. Maybe I’m gatekeeping or whatever the term is. But please, please, please, I just want an aroace character like me who simply is not interested in sex or romance.

And I want fandom to respect that. I admire the creations that fans make— the art, the animatics, the writing and the character analysis. And I want people to keep creating because creation is indeed a beautiful thing.

But I really would like people to treat aroace identities like they’re important. Like it’s more than just a spectrum to get wiggle room to wrangle in another ship.

#aromantism #aromantic #aroace #asexual #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin alastor #lgbtqia #alastor aroace #PLEASE i just want people to LEAVE HIM ALONE #“but it’s a spectrum” STOP USING IT AS AN EXCUSE #RESPECT AROACE PEOPLE WITH ZERO INTEREST IN ROMACE AND SEX #let us have this #we barely get anything as it is #but just to clarify i don’t believe that most people are being intentionally rude about it #nor am i discouraging people from creating fan content because it is FAN CONTENT and you can express yourself #i just would like people to understand a little more that #yes it is a spectrum and it covers an extremely wide range of orientations #yes ANYONE who identities as someone on the spectrum is completely valid #if you wanna argue with that i am showing you the door and kicking your sorry aphobic ass out #my point is that the spectrum is not a loophole. it is not an excuse and it is NOT okay to just use it willy nilly for your convenience

[memyusername]

Just finished making my coming out instagram post that ima post on my private account on V*lentines Day. (Ystävänpäivä Day)

So pumped and nervous

#aro #lgbtq #arospec #ace #aro positivity #aromantic #aroace #aromantic asexual #coming out #asexual is valid #valentines day #ystävänpäivä

[aceatbeingace]

How to tell someone you're asexual:

"I'm asexual" ❌️

This is boring and not everyone will get what you mean

My blood line shall end at me" 👍

This makes you seem super cool and makes your point well

"The blood of my ancestors will cease when I eternally rest for I have no intention to breed" ✅️

Makes you seem Shakespeare-esque and articulates your point well 🧐

#asexual #asexuality #ace #ace pride #acespec #lgbtqia #acespec pride #asexual pride #asexual spectrum #coming out #aceness #asexual content #asexuality is valid #ace memes #aceatbeingace #asexual post

[aroacewolfic]

I hate it when people's first reaction to me saying I'm aroace is "oh but don't you wanna have a partner and kids in the future, won't you be sad without that" Like no bitch I'm gonna be happy living alone in the peace and quiet with my cats and dogs and 1000 books to keep me company and I'm gonna be just as happy and complete as every other person out there if not happier.

#rage post #aroace rage #like yes i can find people attractive #BUT THATS BECAUSE IM NOT BLIND #im probably demiromantic but at the same time romance looks boring so imma just say no #aro #aromantic #aroace #ace #arospec #asexual #acespec #aroace pride #aromantic asexual #ace pride #aro pride #aspec #everyone is valid #but aroace is better