#asexuality resources

[kaufmann-6]

Happy International Asexuality Day fellow aces and allies!!

Here are some links you can look into to educate yourself on asexuality from the Asexual Visibility & Education Network website:

Here’s an overview of what asexuality means.

The gray area. Have you ever heard of graysexuals and demisexuals? Some people in the spectrum still experience some kind of sexual attraction but are still included in the ace umbrella.

Asexuals & Attitudes towards sex. Many asexuals have different opinions about sex. Some may be sex-positive, sex-neutral and/or sex-negative. Asexuality is not black and white, that’s why it’s called the Ace Spectrum.

Romantic Orientations. Many people are aroace, meaning they are asexual (experience the lack or little sexual attraction) and aromantic (don’t feel/feel little romantic attraction) but there are many ways of being ace, a lot of asexual people still have interest in romantic relationships (such as myself! I’m asexual and biromantic). Find out more about different romantic orientations in the ace community here.

Here are some useful FAQs:

General FAQ. Could you be part of the ace spectrum?

Family & friends FAQ. Do you have a relative or a friend you just came you to but they are struggling to understand your orientation? This is a good start for them!

Relationships FAQ. How does it work for asexuals to be in relationships? Asexuals and sexuals can find answers in this FAQ.

I hope this post was helpful to you! Let’s spread awareness about Asexuality today!

#international asexuality day #asexuality #asexual #ace spec #asexual spectrum #ace #ace spectrum #asexuality resources #the asexual visibility & education network #it was actually through this site I finally figured out I’m ace #I hope it helps more people!

[wilderflcwers]

I am BEGGING people at this point to make even the smallest attempt to learn something about asexuality/aromanticism before logging onto the internet to make sweeping & misunderstood generalizations about us

#without fail every time i see someone posting a bad take abt aro/aceness it's like. ok so you literally don't get it #there are resources you can access to learn more! or even real human people you can ask! idk #asexual #aromantic

[textk4kira]

what lgbt specific resource do cisgender, straight peopel who do not feel sexual attraction need that they cannot safely get elsewhere?

Hello,

I assume you asked this question in good faith, so as an AroAce trans person I will happily respond!

I would like to start off by saying cisheteromantic asexuals and cisheterosexual aromantics have always been a part of the queer community, period.

To answer your question, asexual and aromantic people need:

1. A community that accepts and affirms their non-cisheteronormative identities.

2. Many asexual/aromantic people have experienced conversion therapy for their sexual/romantic identity and need access to therapies and other treatments to heal from their trauma.

3. Similarly, they may have also experienced religious trauma due to a cultural upbringing that pushed a heteronormative, puritanical view of relationships.

4. Aromantic men in particular are demonized as sexual predators and need the love and support of our community to help them.

5. Asexual women and women-aligned/feminine-aligned people such as myself have experienced fetishization due to our sexuality orientation. Corrective rape has been used to correct people's asexual identities.

In summary, cisheteromantic asexuals and cisheterosexuals aromantics face many of the same issues as the rest of the queer community.

The rest of the LGBTQIA+ community must support their asexual and aromantic siblings.

I hope this was helpful! 💗

#ask #anon ask #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aromanticism #cisheteroromantic asexual #cisheterosexual aromantic #queer education #queer resources #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #queer #queer community #aromantic men #cishet aro men #aro men

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[dizzy-lights]

i originally started making star pixels just because somebody requested me to but since there are quite a few now might as well fill in the gaps! a huge batch of common flags, if you want to see ones of these of other ones then either they're in the stars tag or you can request it!

f2u for anything by anyone, tags in order of flags

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[quitefair]

Anyway. Aro and Ace Resources upon ye.

Since we're almost at 2024, and coming out of all this horrendous aphobic discourse, I thought I'd put together a bunch of aromantic + asexual resources for people who are maybe questioning themselves, or want to know more (heck yes for learning!) Most of these are long form (Youtube videos/articles) because that's how I feel is best for learning, compared to shorter form content like TikTok.

Long post, resources under the cut!

Yasmin Benoit (she/her, aromantic asexual)

The first asexual activist I stumbled across all those years ago. She was infamously the reason for a lot of aphobic comments on twitter, because hey, she's also a lingerie model, and lord forbid somebody who identifies as asexual present... yknow. Sexy.

She's also a researcher, who's putting in the effort to depathologise asexuality and aromanticism, especially within psychiatry and mental health.

Youtube

Instagram

Website

Ace Dad Advice (they/them, asexual/agender/queer)

AceDad is one of my favourite a-spec activists. Their simple, easily digestible posts on Instagram outlining the various aspects of asexuality, aromanticism and agender (the triple As lmao) are a comfort to read. There's also lots of affirming stuff on there that's helped me with my own spiraling thoughts.

They've also written a book about asexuality! Which is one that I've yet to read, but am looking forward to.

Youtube

Instagram

Website

Spacey Aces

A collective of neurodivergent a-spec humans making videos on asexuality, aromanticism, queer platonic relationships, neurodivergence... a whole lotta fun stuff! Their videos are soft and comforting and very affirming.

Youtube

Instagram

Nik Hampshire (he/him, aromantic)

So Nik doesn't make Youtube videos anymore, but he's done a series on what it means to be aromantic but not asexual, which I feel is super important to add to the online conversation! This one's for all the allo/aros out there, he's chill and confident and talks about things in a very enthusiastic way. Love him!

Youtube

Instagram

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Misc videos (I'm sure you've seen these around before)

Jayden Animation's coming out video

Being AroAce Doesn't Ruin Your Life | Alice Oseman's Loveless by shaggyjebus

Rowan Ellis' interview with Alice Oseman (author of Heartstopper, who is herself aroace)

Anthony Padilla

I spent a day with asexual people

I spent a day with aromantic people

(the titles are a little clickbaity, but trust me the conversation is honest and respectful. anthony is honestly such a good interviewer.)

The Sci Guys

Science of Asexuality

Science of Aromantics

bmudangel

My experience being Aromantic Asexual (AROACE)

I’m Happy To Be Aromantic Asexual

How being aromantic asexual affects my daily life

Questions Aromantic Asexuals Get Asked (Part 1)

#aromantic #asexuality #aroace #aspec #asexual #resources #reference #had this sitting in my drafts for a couple days now and needed to set it free lmao #happy new year lets be aggressively queer in 2024 #aroace tag

[magidragon12]

Big Mouth Asexual Healing - Part 3

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1, 2, 3

#asexual #asexuality #asexual pride week #happy asexual pride week! #ace positivity #asexual pride #big mouth #big mouth netflix #human resources netflix #big mouth elijah

[kuroguro96]

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[today-owner]

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[textk4kira]

I've noticed several queer folks describe their 'concerns' over certain demographics 'infiltrating' the queer community and taking up queer resources.

Most of the individuals I see making this claim are usually unable/unwilling to share 'resources' with their fellow queers, such as queer literature, history of the queer community (esp. non-US centric information), info on accessing HRT and other gender affirming care, or where to find homeless shelters for LGBTQIA+ youth (40% of homeless youth are LGBTQIA+), etc.

Usually, these biases are directed toward groups such as:

Asexuals (esp. cisheteromantic aces)

Aromantics (esp. cisheterosexual aros)

Bisexuals in 'straight-passing relationships'

Trans-hets

Literally, anyone who isn't a cis, white gay man or lesbian.

Note: This isn't an exhaustive list, they are just my observations.

My question for my fellow queers is:

What constitutes a queer resource, and how do the aforementioned groups STEAL resources from the rest of the lgbtqia+ community?

#lgbt discourse #lgbtq resources #queer community #queer resources #lgbtq #queer #lgbtqia #trans #nonbinary #asexual #cishet aro #cishet ace #aroallo #alloace #gay #lesbian #bisexual #pansexual #queer solidarity

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[beyond-a-name]

Polymour

I invented a word to describe someone you love

Polymour:

(noun) A person with whom you share a deep and intimate connection that is distinctly polyamorous and non-amatonormative; someone you love and share a relationship with, especially a relationship-anarchistic, non-romantic, and/or queerplatonic relationship

denotes love, significance, non-exclusivity, and a freedom from role-defined relationships

I think that practical use is the single best way to learn a new word, and certainly the best way to create one, so here's the gap in my life this word was made to fill.

So I've been in love with two people for a while, and we're all a-spec and very poly, and I'm very relationship anarchist. Relationship anarchy is in fact the only relationship model that makes any sense to me, that accurately works well with how I feel and doesn't feel like a trap, contract, or obligation.

I don't really like the word "partner", but these two people I loved and connected with, one of them did use the word partner and I wanted the validity of their other relationships. We will call this person MV.

The other person I connected with and loved, well they felt even more trapped by romance than I did, and it was clear we cared about each other very much, but "partner" was never going to be a word to enter their vocabulary, and I wanted to share in that too. We will call this person V.

So, I was MV's partner and V's friend, but to me, these felt the same. I loved them the same way, and our relationship structure was identical. They were (and are) both deeply important to me, but both words seemed insufficient. Speaking to anyone else, "partner" felt more obligatory than the way MV so freeingly used it, and "friend" sounded way more distant than the intimacy V put behind it. I didn't like either word, but more than anything, it hurt that I couldn't just say I loved them. It upset me that I loved them the same but our words were different.

What really sealed it was talking to a colleague about my two loves, I said MV was my partner and friend, and that V would never describe themself in those terms but that I loved them both the same. My colleague listened, and was happy for me, and it really seemed like they got it!

The next time I saw them, they had bought me two movie tickets, for me and my partner. It was sweet, but I could only think about how to upgrade the tickets to include all three of us, thinking those two would each go to Mv and V and I'd buy my own ticket to share treat them both to the movies and- And it hurt.

It was only a few days after that I invented this word in the shower. And it works so beautifully for us!!!!! V could relax because they knew that our love for them wasn't going to be the amatonormative trap we'd both suffered, and MV was just as relieved as I was to have a word that wasn't still so romancey and role-defined. We have a way to tell people that we're important to each other without worrying about those people's pressures or expectations, because well, we invented it.

Like everything good about relationship anarchy, instead of roles and contracts or hierarchy, we just get to focus on the love we feel.

When someone hasn't heard this word (because they obviously haven't), instead of managing someone else's baggage, we just get to teach them how we all love each other.

So it works well, for me and my polymours.... <3

#polyamory #relationship anarchy #amatonormativity #a spec #aromantic #asexual #queerplatonic #polyamorous #queer #polymour #I'm really happy to share this one :3 #If you put it on a wiki or online resource somewhere please let me know! That'd be so exciting to know other people want to learn and use it #don't worry about asking permission we put it online for a reason :3 In fact PLEASE use it

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Hello there!

Mod team:

I'm Jamie and I use any pronouns but prefer masc (he/him) thank you! I'm on the A-spectrum, specifically aegosexual and aromantic!!

My name's Noah Oats and I use they/them pronouns! I'm aroace, specifically aegoromantic and aegosexual! I have diagnosed ADHD and am an INFP :D

We’re here for all your Questions, Rants, Vents and Confessions!

Ask box is always open and we’re always here for your asks!

We are here to educate, explain and help with anyone who needs it!

Stay safe, remember you are valid and its your box!

LOVE U ALL U ARE VALID

Link to my Aro-spec post

Link to a post containing most Ace Spec identities

Asexual Wiki, Aromantic Wiki,

the Asexual Visibility and Education Network -Asexual resource

AUREA - the Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy

List of Aroace Spectrum resources

Connect to the community - aces and aros The Battle of the Phobics Link to link post

The comments section link to a helpful article on how to educate/beat the acephobes

Recommend blogs

please feel free to ask me first, if I don’t provide a good answer or you want more you can ask again or go to one of these blogs! Please tag more blogs I should add to this list!!

@asexualadvice - asexual advice! (Read blog but helpful info!)

@aegosexual-moments - the aegosexual blog of all time (excluding myself /j)

@aromantic-diaries - Very cool aro person!

(Yes I know my profile pic is off center, suffer)

(It’s seperate because aroace is unfortunately usually viewed as one identity, ace and aro are separated spectrums)

(If I hear one more complaint about my icon I’ll change it to what ever random piece of art crosses my dash next and you wouldn’t like that would you??)

The Blogs blogs that are kinda fan accounts???? wtf????

@aroaceplaceforsome they’re the neutral party here, they use pronouns

@throwawaysoiwontgeteatenbyjamie a whore

THANK YOU SO MUCH TO @the-knowable-entity for drawing our profile pic!!!

Banner art by @pride-flag-planets

The forces:

A collection of multi member blogs dedicated to one country of aspecs… all against Denmark

@aussieaspecforces

@indianaspecforces

@americanaspecforces

@british-aspec-forces

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