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ash-says · 1 month

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Tips for Dysfunctional Family Girlies Part 2:

1) Get your basics straight. Education. Boundaries. Financial independence. Further breaking it down and linking it if you get proper education at some point you are bound to get an awareness of this world, if you are able to adapt and improvise yourself and develop your emotional intelligence and get your boundaries straight you will save yourself a lot of unnecessary drama and problems. Education (formal and informal) both will help you in gaining opportunities and if you are financially independent, you are holding the power to make your own decisions.

2) Develop thick skin. Your mom is calling you names. Slut, whore and what not. Your dad doesn't trust you and abuses you physically. So, what now? Are you going to let them define what you are or internalize the anger and use it as a fuel to become successful? Choice is yours.

3) They say you don't owe an explanation to anyone. Sorry to burst your little bubble. Actually you do. We live in a society and have relationships that we need to maintain for survival. This hyper independent stuff is only good to read. We have responsibilities that we need to fulfill. If you don't owe an explanation to anyone then don't cry about a closure from someone too. If you can live by this go ahead and practice it.

4) Stop isolating yourself. That's it. That's the point.

5) First kill the fear inside you. Being a rebel outside the house is no good. Be disciplined. Know how to manipulate your family members in your favor and if you can't just find the weak points and threaten. I know it's difficult to implement but you learn through trial and error. Plus something is better than nothing.

6) Stop glorifying people who treat you with kindness and love. That's the bare minimum. Just because you didn't get it served in a silver spoon doesn't mean it is not served in a silver spoon. People can have ulterior motives and even if they don't fix it in your brain that's normal. No rose colored glasses allowed.

7) Don't be afraid of indulging in your sexuality. No I am not saying go and have sex with people. I mean it in a deeper sense. Connect with the repressed sexual side and try to find healthy outlets. Don't dim yourself to fit in others'expectations or to ease someone's insecurity. Be unapologetic about your wants and desires. Know yourself. It's a powerful energy source if you know how to use it positively.

8) Cry, cry and cry. Wail like a child. No need to keep it all in. No need to act like a macho woman BUT only in front of your god or your belief system. Max in front of your truly trusted people.

9) Question everything as easily as breathing. Doubt every thing. Every action. Every person. What proof do you have to not doubt ? Stop giving benefit of doubts. Stop looking for excuses on how they could be good and instead look for ways in which they can harm you. That's your lottery to be poised and composed. It's just what it is.

10) Obsession. We have it in loads. That's natural to us. So the trick here is to be obsessive. Hella obsessive but about things, topics, goals, subjects, inanimate things,etc. God forbid but never be obsessive about a person. Not even over your dead body. Why? For that I need to make another detailed post I think.

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winesharksea · 2 months

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julian: i've spent years protecting my siblings, but now they're growing up and i trust them to make good decisions 😌

ty: *starts dating the thief and con artist wanted by all of faerieland who broke his heart after helping him perform illegal necromancy*

julian: .... hmm

dru: *starts dating sebastian morgenstern's son who was raised by jace herondale's evil clone and has magic land-destroying powers, the ability to compel emotions, and a shady moral compass*

julian:

#this is a kit herondale stan account btw im just saying he is objectively a little sus from a parental perspective LMAO #the wicked powers #julian blackthorn #ty blackthorn #kit herondale #dru blackthorn #ash morgenstern

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ultrainfinitepit · 7 months

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Day 5: Shroud for Sancta’s Angeltober 2023 (by @sancta-seraphina)

#angeltober #angeltober2023 #sanctasangeltober #town of puddle #ocs #couldn't think of a good caption but this is Ash ahahaha #I guess some fun trivia is Ash originally started out as my Puddle angel self insert #I thought it would be funny if I was directly parenting Sam #but they've changed a lot since then and I'm not really sure how I would characterize them now #much to mull over for them

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l3irdl3rain · 19 days

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Just the Two of Them (they can make it if they tryyyy!)

Hope you are doing okay. I'm so, so sorry about Merrill. Also please kiss Arthur's goofy head for me

top 10 silliest looking creatures of all time. Numbers 6 and 7 will shock you!!!

I am doing okay. I’m in a little bit of a slump but the weather has finally improved after a week of rain and some snow. This was unfortunate timing though bc I now have a whole week off work at the clinic and I prefer to keep myself busy while I’m grieving, otherwise I just sit around and mope and that’s no good for my mental health. When I got home after the euthanasia yesterday a Kermit the frog shirt I’d ordered had been delivered. That was cool.

#I love your cats. head empty no thoughts looking asses #ask #the shirt is a bunch of famous artwork made to have Kermit instead of the usual subject tw #had my little brothers birthday dinner at my parents house today which was good for me. love to see family #and I’m about to go out with my friend Ashes to have a drink or two and chat #(I meant btw. not tw. unless someone needs a Kermit the frog tw)

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pokemonpowergirl · 1 year

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I did not expect this special to hit so hard in the feels like this. 😭💔

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heroinetales · 7 days

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The fact that Melinoë doesn't even know about her parents and older brother breaks my heart. But boy howdy when that game comes out you bet your ass Chronos is gonna catch these hands because I'm fucking coming straight for his ass

#shut it ash #zagreus already has a special place in my heart #so naturally melinoë does too #i just want these kids and their parents reunited damn it #hades #hades game #hades 2 #hades game 2

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julescarstairs · 1 month

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I for one am very interested to see what the Sebastian and Seelie Queen short story is about because think of the LORE we’re going to get? I don’t think Cassie’s including them because anyone asked for it specifically. I think she’s including them because it’s going to be a helpful companion to The Wicked Powers.

#they are ash’s parents after all #might have something to do with it #also they’re a villainy ship #and I LOVE villainy ships #the dark tension #to die for 🫶#the dark artifices #the shadowhunter chronicles #seasons of Shadowhunters #sebastian morgenstern #ash morgenstern

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pallanophblargh · 11 months

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I’m gonna have to accept my brain may always be soup at this point. But it beats feeling tortured all the time?

Anyway, pointless tattoo plotting. For myself. I don’t think it’s wise to consider what is basically an upper arm sleeve for my first, but it’s fantasy land if it’s just in the sketchbook and honestly? Anything to kick at the art block.

It’s all birds: blue Jay and Baltimore oriole, with fresh spring green ash leaves and an autumnal red oak. And maybe a hexagon in there somewhere, I can’t sort that out.

Anyway, this would encapsulate a lot of my favorite things in one go. All that’s missing is bugs! And a loon and pines, but that’s going on the other arm!

Maybe it’s futile to say this, but this humble scribble is for my use only.

#sketchbook #birds #wings #blue Jay #Baltimore oriole #favorite colors seasons trees etc all checked!#I had some wholesome moments with my parents when we went looking for orioles around my birthday this year #we found several so I’m giving them more positive associations #also they’re orange and beautiful what’s not to love?#green ash as a sad tribute to an icon I’ve resonated with since I was very young #red oak because blue jays and your stereotypical symbol of strength and perseverance #always loved the intelligence and beauty of blue jays I think they may have been my spark bird at a very young age #a messy sketch but it’s better than a whole lot of nothing #y’all I don’t even know where to begin with which bugs and where!#im getting ahead of myself #as usual!

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bonefall · 8 months

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Ooh, another based "Shellheart gets too much hype in canon" truther? Is it because he actually does shockingly little to stop or protest Rainflower's treatment of Crookedstar as a kit, or something else?

It's a few things honestly, all of them bug me just enough to make me pretty steadfast in feeling like Shellheart is overrated;

Crooked's renaming feels so preventable. Really, Dad Shellheart? You have no say in this? You can't protest this??

You too Hailstar, what the fuck. Leaders are theocratic dictators 90% of the time but TODAY you feel like just letting this woman involve your entire Clan in her emotional abuse?

So it feels like lip service, "Omg Rainflower's being so awful! Don't worry though us powerful men can still be likeable because we don't like this :( too bad our all-powerful hands are tied."

Shellheart wasn't very involved with his children BEFORE denouncing Rainflower, so he does this whole big show of it and theeeeen..... nothing changes.

I'm reminded of how deadbeat fathers will sometimes blow into town with a whirlwind of big talk about doing something big for their neglected family, only to be gone again before Christmas.

Or, worse, the idea that Shellheart ONLY stopped being official mates with Rainflower because he's deputy, and it would look awful if he did nothing at all in the face of such an unpopular situation. Washing his hands of it.

And listen. I know people will staunchly refuse to acknowledge that these aren't real people, they are WRITING CHOICES. But please. I'm begging everyone to stick with me for a goddamn second

Ask yourself these critical thinking questions:

Why have the writers chosen for the mother to be solely responsible for Crookedstar's childhood abuse, whilst portraying Shellheart's solitary big public denouncement as the pinnacle of fatherhood? As he's barely involved in his children's lives?

Do they functionally portray Shellheart as a father who helps his son through maternal neglect? Or are the scenes quite rare? If yes, then what did the author spend their time on instead?

Consider the narrative of Crookedstar's other main antagonist, Mapleshade. Does Mapleshade's backstory have any similarities to Rainflower? Consider the choice to give Crookedstar two cruel maternal figures who act on malice towards him as paternal figure Shellheart goes unexamined.

Is this a pattern that we have seen before? Are fathers typically held to a different standard in Warrior Cats?

I feel strongly that the answer is an obvious yes. So Shellheart, and all the praise and cooing he gets, bothers me immensely.

#and it's extremely common #Gray Wankposting again but he's an awful parent to everyone except Pebble. For like 3 scenes #and not even considered a Real Dad by those children #but he's incredibly popular and it frustrates me #Bramble too. Bramble gets lauded as an Amazing Dad when even before the reveal he was just better than crow #which is a low ass bar #He was still flattered into ALLOWING ASH TO THRASH HIS SON...#meanwhile poor squilf and leaf do absolutely nothing wrong besides try to not let the kittens grow up with halfclan stigma #and get treated like the antichrist for it #bone babble #warrior cats analysis

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imreszekeres · 1 year

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an alien came and knocked Jacob up. We did it, folks!

#lfl/#jacob #ash plays the sims #mpreg cw?#pregnancy cw #I cannot breed him myself HOWEVER. This baby is mine.#im its maternal parental unit you cannot stop me #im gonna name it Janie btw :3 its a goil #i checked with mccc lol #popular

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stinkyhyena9000 · 6 months

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Do think you can do something with ash and clay like father and daughter

PLEASE 😁

Clay-Ash, Father Daughter Edit

Of course, I would love to make a video showcasing how much Ash and Clay are father-daughter, sha!! I've always loved this relationship between them, and I hold it close to my heart.

Thank you so much for sending in this ask! The video was a pleasure to make. The video isn't crazy exciting, since it's not supposed to be a hype song. I instead decided to focus on the small details, like color correcting!

Song: Beautiful Boy - John Lenon [ x ]

#theyre literally father daughter #they told me themselves #clay calloway #sing ash #sing movie #sing 2016 #sing 2 #sing 2021 #mysing #ok but i cannot understate how good this father-daughter relationship is #first of all clays never had kids #i choose to believe that was just because they never chose to #meanwhile ash #we never see her parents despite her being relatively pretty young #i like to think that Ash used Clays music as an escape from her toxic parents and homelife and found comfort and solace in his song #ad thats why she calls herself his biggest fan before even meeting him #meanwhile Clay #Ash was able to help him realize the situation hes in and get out of him #(i can elaborate more on that Ash hc earlier btw)#they both helped each other out emotionally a lot #theres also the huge point in Out of This World when Clay decides to sing because he sees herself in Ash... LITERALLY #when the lights shine on Ash's quills they turn white like Clay's mane #and its just ohhhhh its so father daughter #also shoutout the several several clips of Clay looking at Ash to check on her #oh yeah also this song was a huge comfort song for me because of some past issues so i was glad to be able to use it here

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artharakka · 11 months

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On aivan kuin vihreää näkyisi enemmän kuin eilen. Sen täytyy olla omaa mielikuvitustani. On vielä liian varhaista. Vaitonaisena Maa kiipeää korkeammalle, virheetön, pyöreä vesipisara, jossa on kaikki: jokainen mennyt päivä ja tuleva. Tältä etäisyydeltä siinä ei näy ainuttakaan arpea. Minusta näyttää, että jos ojentaisin käteni, voisin silittää sen pintaa, silittää sen uudelleen uneen. Sormiini jäisi veden ja maan himmeä hohde, joka viipyisi, kun myöhemmin nukahtaisin huoneessani käsi posken alla. Kenties herättyäni löytäisin häiveen siitä kasvoiltani, kuin muiston, tai kuivuneen kyyneleen. — Emmi Itäranta. Kuunpäivän kirjeet

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It is almost like there is more green today than there was yesterday. It must be my own imagination. It is still too early. Silently, Earth is rising higher, a flawless, round drop of water that holds everything within: each day past and future. From this distance, there isn’t a single scar visible. To me it seems that if I reached out my hand, I could stroke its surface, caress it back to sleep. The faint glow of water and earth would remain on my fingertips, and it would linger there, when I would later fall asleep in my room my hand under my cheek. Perhaps, when I would wake up, I would find a trace of it on my face, like a memory, or a dried tear. — Emmi Itäranta. The Moonday Letters. Quote tranlated by me (unofficial)

#since there has been more notes in the little comic I made for Minni again #this is one more artwork for her #it's ground ivy that apparently is related to catnip which is why cats like it #Minni at least did #she found a stray sapling of it from our apartment complex' yard and proceeded to just hang out there next to it when I took her outside #it would've been her 15th birthday today #we buried Minni's ashes today in my parents' little forest garden #it's a good place for her to sleep #maybe we will plant ground ivy or something else nice for her there

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anxietyfrappuccino · 2 months

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i feel pretty secure this valentines so far. multiple people know i'm aromantic asexual. it's ash wednesday, which deviates some of the focus. my parents each bought me a squishmallow, one of which i received the day before. aromantic is trending as we come together in solidarity. i'm wearing a nice green and black outfit. i get to eat one of my favorite foods tonight. it's beautifully gloomy outside.

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jenna-louise-jamie · 1 month

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thinking about yassen gregorovich instead of sleeping (because i love him) and how he is a catalyst. yassen stabbs ash -> ash kills john rider -> ian rider raises alex -> yassen kills ian rider -> mi6 blackmails alex into becoming a teenage spy.

i have so many thoughts that i can't properly articulate. obviously this is a simplified chain of events, but yassen and his choices set off a chain reaction of the world's most unfortunate dominos. especially when you read russian roulette. to be clear im not necessarily trying to blame him for everything because that feels very mean. he was also just a 14 year old kid when everything in his life went wrong, just like alex. only difference being yassen literally had no one.

i think i should write an essay about this because i haven't even gotten into my thoughts about what yassen and alex's dynamic would look like past eagle strike. i would imagine it'd be similar to ellie and joel from the last of us part 2.

where obviously yassen loves alex and alex on some level cares for yassen back but struggles to reconcile that with the fact that yassen is responsible for his uncle's death. a very unforgivable act. it would be so messy and complicated and angsty, because on one hand here is an adult who truly cares about him and has a connection with him through his father. yassen could tell alex about john, and trust that yassen truly wants whats best for him. but he killed ian, and he cannot take that back.

while alex reels from those feelings, yassen is also trying to reconcile his love of alex with the knowledge that he on some level is responsible for the suffering alex endured at the hands of mi6. and possibly even the fact that alex's godfather is the one who killed john and helen.