someone has definitely said this better than me before, but let me just say it again…. a man doesn’t need to be “dumb” and “a himbo” to be deemed as a good person.
masculinity isn’t inherently bad or toxic.
it’s just… masculinity.
in extend, you also don’t need to joke about your male OC’s “himbo”-ness or “lacking brain cells” in order to… idk, rationalize their actions in your head? make them more acceptable?
male himbos OBVIOUSLY are valid and still valid, don’t get me wrong. dumb jocks and guys who only have half a braincell? guys who don’t perform traditional masculinity? valid!!
it is just that Tumblr has this very obvious pattern where people who have had bad experience with toxic masculinity (I’m one of those people too!) would hail every guy, real or fictional, who doesn’t perform masculinity or perform a “soft, feminized” version of masculinity–as if that somehow makes them automatically a good person (or at least, a “non-problematic” person considering this site’s fixation on purity culture).
toxic masculinity exists. and it deserves to be talked about, to be brought up in conversations so more people will be aware of it. but condemning every single guy and every single masculine/non-”soft/feminine” thing as “bad”… does not help anyone, nor does it help you.
also, yes, being a “himbo” doesn’t automatically make him a good person/character, either. (although we can argue that being a good person is one criteria of a himbo!)