#ask a borderline

[borderlinereminders]

hi there!!! i wanted to say thank you so much for this blog i’ve been following for a couple days and i’m already implementing skills :,)

recently i’ve been really depressed just overall about being in a town with no friends or distractions, to my appearance and less affection from my favorite person as she is going through something right now and can’t give me all the attention in the world which is okay!! i just was wondering if you knew something that worked for making negative thoughts stop, or something distracting? thank you <33

Hi anon!

For distraction, I recommend ACCEPTS as a skill to practice.

Activities: Focus on activities that you enjoy and/or involve thought and concentration. Maybe this is watching a show, playing a game, learning a new skill, etc.

Contributing: Focus on someone/something other than yourself. This may mean doing a good deed (even something small like giving someone a compliment like "I love your shirt!") or something like volunteering. These things can make you feel good and serve as a good distraction.

Comparisons: Compare your situation to a time you've been through a worse circumstance and made it through. This doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid now (they definitely are) but can serve as a reminder that you can get through this

Emotions: Focus on something that will create another emotion. If you're feeing depressed, maybe there is a show/movie that never fails to make you laugh. It's something silly, but I find it really hard to feel sad whenever I put on some of my favourite childhood songs like the "Hamster Dance" and I can't help but sing when I put on "I Just Can't Wait to be King." For me, singing and dancing can make me feel better, even if just for a little while.

Pushing away: Imagine yourself physically pushing away your emotions. Maybe it helps to even write them down on a piece of paper and crumble it up and throw it away, or even tear it up.

Thoughts: Focus on distracting thoughts when your emotions take over. This might mean counting in your head, reciting something you've memorized in your head, or engaging in an activity like reading.

Sensations: Focus on strong (but safe) sensations. Maybe this is sucking on a sour candy, or holding an ice cube. (This part of the skill is more useful for needing to ground in a moment and not something that's sustainable to do for longer feelings of time.)

All of these work for getting through short-term situations, but you may want to look into longer term solutions when possible.

#ACCEPTS skill #accepts #dbt skills #april answers #ask a borderline

[emry-stars-art]

That’s it, first person to draw aftg mers or royals for me gets a cuddle/kiss chibi request they want done next thing

#within my parameters of course #I am tired and getting a cough and I would like to see the children #I try not to ask for stuff but today #I am asking pls forgive me #(this is me also accepting sketches and doodles as holiday gifts and decently early bday presents #although no pressure obviously) #(bc I can’t help but feel borderline selfish to ask at all) #okay feel free to ignore I love you all #not art sorry guys

[allthegothihopgirls]

i love the genre of fic where it's just tim drake going to the most cartoon-ish lengths to reconcile with jason.

(whether that be to restore his own views of the robin he knew. or to get jason to see him as tim, instead of a replacement).

and it works every time too. at the end i'm always like, 'yeah buddy you go! but i feel like i just watched an episode of tom and jerry with those stunts you were pulling'

#shoutout to that one fic where he's being borderline murdered by jason and tim just asks out of nowhere if he could help him with english #AND he does #jason todd #tim drake #red hood #red robin #robin #the robins #batboys #batfam #batfamily #dc batman #dc comics #dcu #dc #gothihop speaks

[roasting-aphobes]

#shotout to #neurodivergent #people #but everyone else is included too #autism #adhd #bpd #disabled #actually autistic #actually adhd #actually bpd #actually disabled #actually borderline #lgbtq #queer #lgbtq community #before you ask #yes. lgbtq tags #why? #because a significant part of the lgbtq community is neurodivergent #roasting aphobes #roasting-aphobes post #i want some golden grahams #🦖

[bunniibpd]

send numbers in my ask box (pls do this, i wanna interact with you guys)

#bpd #bpd blog #mental health blog #trauma posting #get to know me questions #get to know me #send asks please #send asks #send anons #send me anons #i love answering questions #please send asks #asks are always appreciated #ask game #send me asks #mental health #bpd stuff #borderline life #borderline personality disorder #actually bpd #actually mentally ill

[baskeigh-ball]

Being a Nexus champion, Raph must have fangirls, right?

Like father, like son lol

Yep! He's pretty popular in the Hidden City and (during his time at the Battle Nexus) rarely goes out without running into a fan, lol

Having to go around with constant security turned into too much of a hassle for him tho, so his outings to the city ended up becoming few and far between

of course, that only means he's even more sought after the few times he does make public appearances. :]

#but yes he's borderline Lou Jitsu levels of popular in the Hidden City #mutant manhunt au #rottmnt raph #rottmnt huginn #rottmnt muninn #rottmnt fanart #my art #asks open #ignore the fact he doesn't have his scars in the last two panels #i am simply Too Lazy to add them in post

[frownyalfred]

Had thoughts about borderline. They've bonded and been through some shit so now they're ready to go into society again, yea? So that means galas in Gotham are going from rarely having the whole Wayne clan to having all of them all the time.

Is Jason legally alive? And if he isn't will he be brought back? Or just the Wayne family bodyguard? Or something like that~

*gasp* Have they become the delightful children from down the lane?! (I think they were called that lol)

Where one of them goes, all of them go! If Bruce goes to a gala, he has a whole bond with him. Visible, if they’re all concentrating hard enough — it’s like they’re standing in the room with him.

It’s impossible to be separate, even if they try to be. Those separate lives and duties all blur together. They don’t need to be in the same room together to lean on each other and grow distant from the ones around them.

A gala seems like the worst stress test for them while they continue to figure out their changed and changing bond. Everything that used to come naturally is stilted now. They don’t know how to be separate people, and it shows.

If they block out the bond for too long, there are side effects. And without the bond, Dick loses touch with his past humanity. He can’t go out in public. Jason can’t either, and he won’t leave Dick alone.

It’s massively fucked up. And how they choose to handle it will change everything, moving forward.

#asks #anon #borderline #myfic #theresurrectionist #bruce wayne #batman #dc #batfamily #thank you for reading friend!

[herssian]

#art #ffxiv #xau #zenos #zenos yae galvus #final fantasy xiv #comic #honestly truly truthfully by my own truth i think she keeps him as a bodyguard hound for the scions #but doesn't tell either side #just drills it into him that he's to protect the scions even if it means an innocent won't be saved #i don't characterize her as anything close to an anti hero because protecting people is always no.1 priority #...but that's when it comes to her. HE'S to make sure the people she loves the most never come to harm #saving alphinaud even if it means fifteen innocents will have to die is easier to coparmentalize because it's not her who made the decision #sometimes being the hero is is very close to playing god and sometimes god has clear favorites and that's a bit toxic #to be so heroic it turns borderline evil is very warrior of light ask elidibus

[genericpuff]

Under normal circumstances I would never rock up to the ask box but it feels like Smythe ghost wrote this

https://www.thecut.com/article/age-gap-relationships-marriage-younger-women-older-man.html

ok first of all, rock up to my ask box more often >:3

second of all, jesus CHRIST what am i READING-

I had to do some CTRL + P trickery to get around the pop-up window because no way am I giving this site my contact info LOL but yeah just- just read this shit y'all, what the fuuuuck-

as soon as i saw the word 'partners' in quotes like that i knew i was in for a treat /s

it's wild how they can be so close to the point of toxic masculinity and the conclusion they come to is "well clearly age gap relationships are superior and the women in same age relationships are just intellectually inferior to me"

ngl i know this is gonna come off just as misogynist as what i'm claiming this article to be (and let's please acknowledge that a lot of criticisms of female characters in media ARE rooted in misogyny), but the POV of the writer comes across like those insufferable indie movie love interests who try to sound deep over the most basic metaphors-

honey it's not your job to fix him no matter what age you are 😔

#i'm obviously the jaded 30 year old man in this story #but i'm also not solving that by dating borderline teenagers LOL ??? #like damn that's a whole lot of words that could have been saved for his therapy session ngl #anon ama #ask me anything #ama #anon ask me anything

[borderlinereminders]

i recently became friends with someone who has bpd, and im wondering about the best ways to support them? i myself have several conditions that make my life harder, and i know how much it can mean when someone helps you without you having to ask

Honestly, we’re all individuals and what works for some doesn’t necessarily work for others. My best advice is to ask. I promise it can mean a lot to say “hey, I really want to support you but I don’t know how. Can you tell me how I can offer support?”

With that said, reassurance randomly without asking can be really nice. Reassurance doesn’t even have to be outright saying “I care about you” all the time, though that’s really nice. It can be things like “hey, I saw this dog picture and thought of you because you like dogs!”

Messaging first can mean a lot. Maybe you do message first sometimes or even most of the time. But it can be super reassuring to us if someone messages us first. A lot of times, for a lot of us, we feel like we are bothering someone. If someone goes out of their way to message us first, it can be really nice.

It’s understandable to need space and time alone, but if possible, a heads up can be helpful (“hey, I’m not feeling very social. You matter to me but I need to take some me time because I’m feeling drained” for example). You aren’t obligated to at all. But if you’re able to, it can be really helpful.

As hard as it may seem on both sides, setting clear boundaries is helpful. Ignoring your feelings and not setting boundaries early on can lead to problems down the road. Boundaries can be things like “hey, you can rant to me anytime but I can’t promise fast responses. So if you rant to me, please don’t expect an immediate response”. (Also - this doesn’t mean that people with bpd expect fast responses. This is just an example of a boundary my friend and I have with each other. We are both free to rant at whatever time as long as we don’t have an expectation that the other drops everything for us. It actually helps because then I don’t feel guilty about ranting to her because I know she’ll only reply when she’s up to it.)

And of course, take care of you. That saying that you can’t pour from an empty glass is so true.

#ask a borderline #April answers

[honeypleasejustkillme]

“are you seeing anyone” you mean like a hallucination??

#actually bpd #actually mentally ill #bpd shitposting #bpd #actually borderline #bpd favorite person #bpd problems #bpd mood #bpd fp #bpd vent #we shitposting our bpd now #but when people ask this i say out loud ‶be fuckin fr″

[ashersanity]

Reading that big brother whitney piece altered my brain chemistry and now I'm thinking about cockwarming him during (forced) family movie night under the blankets

What a fucking mess that would be.

content warning! incest?, stepcest?, parents are nearby

Probably has you ‘comfortably’ settled on his lap, emphasis on the comfortably because fuck no, it isn’t comfortable with his dick up your ass, stretching you full, enjoying the way your puffy hole greedily sucks his entire length in, tight walls pulsing right around him. Only problem? You just won’t fucking stay still and it pisses him off, hissed order whispered into your ear to keep still unless you want Daddy and Mommy, who’s sitting nearby, snugly tucked under their own blankets to notice what the fuck you’re actually doing with your older brother which, by the way, isn’t very brotherly, is it now?

So yeah, with one last huffed, resigned breath, you decide with the better decision, limp legs dangling from his own as he has your back flatly pressed against his chest, chin resting on your shoulder. If only your parents knew, how this isn’t just some sibling bonding over here, sat on Whitney’s lap and warming his cock with your tight, warm heat keeping him much needed company. It’s laughable, how they brag to their own friends about how close you and your older sibling are, if only they really knew.

Unless you decide to do to the opposite.

Obviously, like the brat that you are, don’t listen either to his threats nor the tightening grip on your hips. Maybe you want ‘em to see, want to see the way your big brother has you uselessly humping around his cock, practically begging to fuck you right now. Maybe it’s a good fucking idea to cum all over big brother’s fat cock as he lazily fucks into you, gently bouncing you up and down with your parents close by, unsuspecting despite the increasing movements beneath the thick covers.

Well.

Big brother is not one to disappoint his little sibling, is he?

#you my dear anon #have met the requirements #if you don’t know #i updated my asks #only really answer them if it punches me right in the dick #and this one got me #so bad #hnnnghhh #having borderline sex near your parents with your older sibling #this trope goes so hard #just like my co— #dol #degrees of lewdity #whitney the bully #dol whitney #whitney dol #asher writes #asher gets asks

[haveyoueatenthis]

How long do you think it will take to get through the whole queue? As of sending this ask you're at 1648 submissions, and that number seems to be increasing at an almost shocking rate

With the pace we’re on rn?

If you submit something right now, it will be posted mid July

#asks #mod j #borderline considering PAYING someone to queue shit 😭😭😭

[hello-nichya-here]

Are narcissists incapable of feeling empathy?

Not necessarily - and that goes for any condition that people often associate with lack of/low empathy. The human brain is more complicated than that, so it's a lot better to expect variation while keeping a range in mind than to assume things will be black and white.

Also, empathy is not the same as compassion/caring about others. It literally just means "Ah, I can identify what emotion this person is feeling" not "I feel their pain/wish they weren't in pain", so having it doesn't automatically make someone good, nor does not having it make someone evil.

And this ask inspired me to make memes, so thanks, anon.

#asks #narcissists #narcissism #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #aspd #autistic experiences #ableism #mental health #npd safe #aspd safe #schizophrenia #borderline personality disorder #bpd safe

[nunalastor]

I wonder if Lucifer was somehow responsible for the upkeep of Eden and that's where the idea of a circus came to him. All those animals chased him daily because he made a funny squeak sound when they managed to bite him.

👀

#hazbin hotel #lucifer morningstar #nunalastor asks #tbh lucifer being responsible for the upkeep is such a good idea #it makes up for how borderline cursed this was

[frownyalfred]

I noticed the ask you got about Jason, Dick, and the passing on of the Robin mantle, and how you said you imagine the nicer version is how things went down in your fics. That made me think about borderline and how close Dick and Jason end up in it, and THAT made me think about how to me Jason feels like the kind of person where if you have his love and loyalty and can keep it, you have it forever.

All this rambling is to say that I headcanon that Dick being kind to Jason back then is why Jason cares so much about Dick in borderline, besides all of the usual family and mind bond stuff. Dick is such a good big brother that all his little brothers are ride or die for him, haha

Yes!! Thank you so much for bringing this up! I get so many questions and comments about Dick and Jason’s relationship in borderline — and tbh it was one of my favorites to write.

So much of their initial instinct to band together and support Bruce and the bond is predicated upon them being good with each other deep down where it counts, you know?

They might bicker and there might be friction externally but the bond revealed all; they care about each other, and as the first two Robins who had to have the first exchange of that title, their relationship is markedly different than the ones they have with the others.

Dick and Jason were able to be in lockstep with each other nearly instantly while Bruce and the others were still reeling from the bond. Jason’s friction with the family as Red Hood fell away almost instantly, save for some minor conflicts with Tim later.

Dick’s need to be the protector and older sibling was still present, but with Jason there at his side he wasn’t alone any more. Together, they could support Bruce as the center and try and save the bond itself.

This closeness, in my opinion, will be Dick’s saving grace in his new condition. Jason will be his lifeline. And they wouldn’t have had that in a world where bitterness over the transfer of the Robin title still existed between them. Or it would, at the very least, be much harder to find that closeness without time and bond-related revelations.

#asks #anon #thank you anon #I got to ramble about one of my favorite fics 💜 #borderline #bruce wayne #batman #dc #myfic #theresurrectionist #batfamily #Jason todd #dick grayson