#at this point some of you are just being misogynistic

[marzipanandminutiae]

The post about "we need feminism because there's a men's rights movement in LGBT" is from radfems. "Baeddelations" has a pinned post about being a baeddel, "men's rights" in this context pretty much means trans men speaking about being trans men. (I'm not denying issues in the community but I know you've wanted it pointing out when you've missed dogwhistles before, and the post is all very thinly veilled references.)

I did some looking into this, because I was not familiar with the term "baeddel."For anyone else who didn't know: It's an Old English word generally meaning "effeminate or castrated man" as far as I can tell, and some transfem people adopted it primarily back in the 2010s (although some still use it, like the user in question). Baeddels in the modern sense claim to focus on transmisogyny and trans women's issues...but as you say, some can lapse into prejudice against trans men. To the point where, while it doesn't seem like they ALL hold that view, it has become one of the most prominent things about the movement. Kind of like radfems and transphobia. The poster in question seemed, when I looked through their blog, to come down in the middle- there were some comments that raised my eyebrows, but not as extreme as things I saw on other blogs.

I went back and forth about what to do re: the post in question, though. Because I don't want to be associated with hatred of trans men, since. You know. I don't hate trans men. However, I do feel that the modern left, and even the LGBT community, believes misogyny has been fixed and refuses to examine the undercurrents thereof that women in these circles still struggle with.

(Trans men can be misogynistic. NB people can be misogynistic. Anyone can be misogynistic, and the community letting misogynistic people off the hook because they're not cis men, or the expectation thereof, is a real issue that I have witnessed/experienced IRL. Shoutout to the trans guy who insisted I let him do everything for me out in public, and got mad when I didn't want to, because it "made him feel more masculine" so I should apparently just shut up and act helpless, for example.)

(There's also been a lot of "not all men" going around in response to women expressing frustration with the bullshit we face for our gender, which is like. Come on. I thought we all figured out in the 2010s that no-one sensible is talking about LITERALLY all men; we just shouldn't be expected to water down our anger to make men comfortable. Tacking "but what about trans men?" onto that doesn't negate the entire rest of the conversation.)

I disagree that the post is "all thinly veiled references" because it looks like most people reblogging it are like me- folks who aren't familiar with that term but feel that there's a still a misogyny issue in progressive and queer spaces. However, because of the association with a specific movement I am not part of and largely disagree with an apparent key point of, I will be deleting it.

Do not mistake this for me recanting my personal sentiments on the matter. There is a misogyny problem in my community, because the misogyny problem in broader society remains. Trans men and NB people are not exempt from being misogynistic. This needs to be talked about, and it is deeply frustrating to me as a queer woman.

Do I even have to say "this is not for t*rfs?" Well, just in case, it is Not. Fuck off.

#ask #anon #long post #misogyny #feminism

[jechristine]

Something that’s being lost in discussions about Zendaya’s onscreen kissing is that the press tours themselves are in part a $$$$ concerted effort to blur the lines between acting and reality. You want to bring the cast together to see their chemistry to get excited for their pairings in the film.

I’ve been puzzling over this and I think that the crass questions about onscreen intimacy can be located at the intersection of 1) Zendaya’s personal “good girl” image that is a result of her Disney days (like @zendyval has been saying) and her publically wholesome relationship with Tom; 2) the opposite of that image, the oversexualized Jezebel stereotype that is doubly activated by Zendaya’s identity as a Black woman and the story and themes of Challengers itself; and 3) the blurred lines between character and celebrity that the press tours themselves encourage. Given 1 & 2 and how those circumstances and the paradox between them have set Zendaya up to be almost an irresistible target for slut-shaming in our very misogynistic & racist culture, it’s grossly unfair but still to be expected that some interviewers took the opening that’s inherent in 3. In a way, they said the quiet part outloud. They spoke the subtext.

I’m just trying to point this out because I see a tendency all the time to point fingers at fans and stupid interviewers but hardly ever at the workings of the industry itself or at larger ideological issues simmering below the surface. Or at the celebrities themselves who participate and benefit financially (a lot) from those workings—but at what cost?

[oddmawd]

I was trying to write before and it’s didn’t turn out good and I just stop writing and it don’t take practice you just have to be good at writing the first time you do it that is my opinion tho

i'm gonna assume you're like...12 years old...because there's no way an adult would be able to type that with a straight face

i'm not about to coddle you and give you a happy little pep-talk about ✨believing in yourself✨ after the way you treated that author...calling them a "bitch" because they don't PANDER TO YOUR SPECIFIC TASTES was a bully tactic and you should be ashamed of yourself

FURTHERMORE using a gendered insult like "bitch" and then demanding they write you a male reader insert story (while insulting female/gender neutral inserts in the same breath) is misogynistic as hell, i don't feel even the littlest bit sorry for you, so save the "woe is me, i can't write" bullshit for someone who gives a damn

but let me give you something to chew on while you throw yourself a pity-party about "not being good at writing" and pretend that gives you the right to bully people who actually TRY to be good writers:

Do Olympic athletes show up winning gold medals without ever setting foot on the practice field?

Do painters show up to their first class knowing how to use oil paints and watercolors and how to hold a brush effectively?

Did Hemingway roll out of the womb and write The Old Man and the Sea without writing a single damn thing beforehand?

no, they didn't...every writer you love wrote some SHITTY first drafts they didn't share with anyone because they sucked first (in private!) and THEN got good (in public)....and they got good by showing up and failing and trying again, and failing again and trying again and FAILING AGAIN (because that's what practicing is!!!!) until they finally started succeeding regularly...

UNLIKE YOUR CLOWN ASS THAT RAN AWAY SCARED WHEN YOUR FIRST STORY DIDN'T TURN OUT PERFECT

i'm not gonna take the easy road here and point out how fucking LAZY you sound when you say you tried once and gave up, because that's a cheap fucking shot and way too easy (you set me up so badly bro, like c'mon)

what i'm gonna do instead is point out that you just admitted that you were too fucking scared to try more than once

"BOO HOO, i wrote something, it was shitty, i was scared of what people might say and then i gave the fuck up" - you, probably

and that's the difference between we "lazy bitch" reader insert writers who actually post our work, and you: we show up and we TRY, every goddamn day, and we put ourselves out there despite the risk of being bullied by people like you who can't be bothered to try more than once

do you know what writing is, at its most fundamental level? it's showing your work to people and saying "please read this and enjoy it, i worked really hard," and PRAYING they don't tear your hard work apart for no reason at all, but that's what YOU did! you saw someone writing something they enjoyed and went "fuck you, i don't care that you labored and practiced for weeks and months, it wasn't to MY TASTES and therefore you're a lazy bitch," and you're apparently so un-selfaware that you don't realize the irony of YOU, a person who can't be bothered to try writing more than once, A) calling someone lazy, and B) demanding they spend their time/expertise to write something just for widdle ol' you, in the same breath

do you not fucking hear yourself????? huh?????

you tried writing ONCE and found out it was too hard for you, so now your answer is to bully writers and make demands of them? when you should know through your ONE attempt how difficult writing must be?

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK BRO?

you should never message a writer again with your demands when you can't even be bothered to live up to your own standards, you entitled tone-deaf hypocrite

writing takes courage, and you have ✨N O N E✨

#i've been writing for 25 years #i think i only got good in the last 5 #don't devalue our time and hard work to get good #demanding ass entitlement from a person who can't even be bothered to TRY #the only reason you don't realize how hard it is is because YOU GAVE UP #but we didn't #we wrote until we got good #now buckle down and TRY or take what we write with a smile

[mysillyside]

The way I completely lose all interest in Lawlight as a ship if Light isn't Kira. And frankly, I feel like L would agree with me on this one. I don't think he'd gaf abt Light in the slightest if Light wasn't Mr. Serial Killer.

#Lawlight only works if Light is Kira bc otherwise light is just some rly smart pretentious teenager. #Like you're telling me L a 24 y/o self made multi-millionaire and the world's greatest detective (top 3 if you count the aliases)- #would care in the slightest abt mr “i got a perfect score on my college entrance exam”. Be fr!! #Idk the ship loses everything that makes it fun and appealing to me if you remove Kira from the mix #Ik ppl do “Light isn't Kira” AUs to make the ship more wholesome but i'd argue it just becomes problematic in a diff way. #L is not only way older but also extremely rich and successful. If Light is innocent but still a suspect- L also has immense power over him #Ig i don't see the point of trying to make Lawlight wholesome. It's still problematic but without the goofy homoerotic enemyship. #Light being Kira not only makes them equals but gives them spice! #However I DO get the appeal of “Light isn't Kira” AUs where Light is still a fake asshole who's performatively nice but hides his real feel #But removing his misogynistic swag/superiority complex/his bitchy internal monologues to make him normal? No... #Imo even if he isn't Kira he'd still be a weirdo. The only Yotsuba!Light is so normal/nice is bc he's trying to prove to everyone- #but most importantly himself- that he's a good person incapable of being Kira. He's trying to be the best version of himself. #Pre-Death Note Light for example is never as outstanding and good as Yotsuba!Light for this reason. Yotsuba!Light is the exception. #Like the Death Note doesn't make you pretentious or hate women that was all Light Yagami. #this is such a random rant sorry guys XD again more power to ppl who enjoy this AU or normalguy!Light but I don't get it personally 😔 #death note #light yagami #l lawliet #lawlight #💬 katposts #🤪 sillygoofy

[sysig]

He’s my little meow meow, my darling, my bbygirl (Patreon)

#Doodles #Commander Peepers #I'm soooooo normal about him you guys <3 So normal! <3 <3 #*Looking back over the other Little Guys I've collected* Hmmmmmmm Evil Xisuma and Spamton and Sableye and Rick Diggins #I think there might be a theme here #Just casually making Venn Diagrams in my head - Evil X has the red/black - Spamton is trans - Sableye has Gremlin energy - Rick is too tired #And those are just the ones I can think of lol - if you look I did the same stretchy pose with EX when I was still drawing him lol #The Stretch Pose is how you can tell if I like a character lol - they stretchin'? I am infatuated <3 #I mean I'm normal I'm totally normal lol #Also had to give him a bbygrl pose - I for the life of me cannot find it again but the reference is very strong in my mind's eye! #Not that I couldn't go for another one at some point lol ♪ #Ugh the middle one lol - so that Word of God I mentioned in passing about female Watchdogs #I read it in passing as just a basic research of ''Oh here's what The Original Creator has to say alright neat'' #Except that it Immediately made me itchy and I was like ''What. What brain this is not that big of a deal what are you doing'' #And I was like ''No I'm being silly about this - just because I don't agree doesn't mean it's a big deal lol'' #Except then I had stress dreams and woke up Weird the next day and the last time that happened I left a fandom #And the time before that I wrote 4 consecutive pages of 20-something panels in like 18 hours of consciousness - I have normal reactions lol #But I opted instead to vent to smol about it and she agreed with me so basically I'm just saying I'm correct lol /s #Personally Peepers doesn't strike me as misogynistic - he's very much an Equal Opportunity villain in my eyes! #And yeah I considered a lot of different angles around it but like - based on the text of WOY I just don't buy it #If it's not in the show it doesn't count! For all we know there might not even be any female Watchdogs! Lol #Would also lead to the equally-to-Spamton interesting question of How Does Trans Work in that kind of situation #I've definitely not already put a lot of thought into it don't look at me lol #Don't ask me to write an essay about both of those things I'll do it and where will that leave us lol #ANYway lol ♪ He's still the absolute funnest to draw in distress and discomfort <3 And kneeling! He makes me want to practice :D #I always feel like I can try again and do better! >:3c

[teddykaczynski]

like it feels like oftentimes theres a post made by a conservative orbiter who hates gender nonconformity and is homophobic and many supposed radical feminists reblog that post just like laughing along like yeah it is disgusting for women to behave in ways i personally dont like :) im totally a feminist

#im not making a choice feminist point im just saying some of you see a tif and immediately start being misogynistic about her appearance

[craycraybluejay]

this is exactly what im talking about btw, baeddels harassing trans men but trans men are expected not only to shut up and take it but not do anything in turn. just like a specific brand of abuse on the tip of my tongue

like waow i guess im OpPrEsSiNg you for telling you its bad to call a whole group of people slurs as insults and being a misgendering and transphobic piece of garbage.

why cant we make 'theymab' a thing? oh yeah because its acceptable to abuse a trans person under the pretense of their agab if you see them as a woman but not if you're seen as a man. huh. i wonder what that reminds me of.

#wtf was the goal of that hate comment. stop #anyway to make 1 thing clear if you want to harass people and act patriarchal i really do not care ab how Most Oppressed you are #if you want not to feel like a man maybe stop degrading women and even calling people who arent women that so you can degrade them #like imagine being racist and crying about racism?? no one cares bro you are the asshole #i should not have to tolerate harassment because you feel that you deserve and still chase after the same pariarchal space that cis men have #because you want all the power to abuse inherent to being a cis man at the same time as saying you dont want to be seen as one #you could say its properly transmisogynistic to not let you abuse people for percieved womanhood even a LITTLE #how dare they? this was your birthright #i dont believe in karma but i believe you deserve to get what you give on some level #baeddels are clinging so hard to the conventions of toxic masculinity #and u have to stay quiet about it and try to reword that glaring fact bc its Misgendering #i am not the one running around trying so hard to be transphobic and misogynistic to vulnerable ppl #also yall act like oppression is always gonna align with your identity. its not thats the point. #but just bc you start experiencing misogyny for the first time does not mean you need to level it at transmasculine people #go find a better outlet. go the fuck to therapy #we are not your punching bag

[irregularbillcipher]

for anyone curious-- kryptos, esp. post dimension burning, defines his gender as Square and Shape but not really Male or Guy, like that part's whatever to him, that's not the important part of his identity to him. getting to freely call himself a Square and Shape with no pushback is exciting to him because, as his status as a square-born-to-a-square, he was consistently ignored, told he should have been something else-- namely a pentagon, very rarely an equilateral because as tragic as a descent in caste would have been, it would have been more Normal Than This-- and forced into weird arbitrary roles and rotating schools and castes in early childhood before it was finally decided that fine, he was a square, they guessed... but also barely and because he was Barely A Square by the stupid laws of configuration and because the circumstances of his birth were so Strange and his Abnormality was so Apparent, he had to go to school with equilaterals so that only the lower middle class kids were put at risk by his Weirdness, and not the other Much More Valuable Real Squares. so getting to the point where he was one of the only members of his species left and he gets to just go "yeah, i am a square, i'm the only square left, and i get to decide whatever the hell that means now" was meaningful to him, and the guy part is like. whatever. but he is a square

#his assigned role was always v. arbitrary and shaky. his dad even asks if it's possible that he's a line when he hears he's not a pentagon #because a line is a parallelogram and he was being described as a parallelogram and the barrier between a line and irregular square #would very likely be arbitrary tbh! and it was determined he Was a shape because of his regularity in terms of angles and sides #but of course the fact that by laws of configuration he Should Have Been a pentagon or whatever also was a point of contention #and even him being equilateral would have been Tragic But Sensible by stupid second dimension standards #there was probalby some Unaccounted For irregularity in the family line (definitely the mother's side because if you notice in my fic) #(they almost ALWAYS blame the side of the mother. even oliver cipher did. because well! the seocnd dimension is a misogynistic hellhole!) #but a square having a square son? especially a square with the social clout of his father? that's just unheard of! #so there was a lot of squabble of Where He Should Go and what his caste role should be anyway #so him being a square was always something that felt very arbitrary and like an identity that could be taken from him at any moment #and he doesn't give a shit about his Caste Role anymore but he personally just likes being able to go 'actually i am a square' #'i am a square and i always was a square and i'm the one who gets to decide whatever that label means now' #he feels similarly about being gay. like 'no i actually understand this about myself now and i LIKE this about myself now' #'so i get to say this word as much as i want to now :)'

[falled-over]

since pepper was asking for it something that girls do that always makes me think 'cool gender' is not change their names despite it being historically masculine and re-defining the name through their identity and relationship to it.

#dylan mulvaney springs to mind. of course. along with some less famous examples. #shes a great example to give because a lot of things about her align with ideals of cishet feminine ideals and she could've changed her nam #to match. but chose to keep dylan. great gender moment #another thing that i always think is a cool gender is girls who understand femininity as non-necessary addition and arent afraid of #masculinity being a detractor in their appearance #this includes things like girls who talk openly about their dick or dont tuck or a girl i saw recently who rocked a full beard with #lashes a wig and a full beat #and donning a butch identity as a trans girl is always a 'cool gender' moment. especially if she feels little to no need to change much #about herself. the pressures to change yourself as even a cis woman are so high that cis women earn 'cool gender' points from other cis #women for openly combatting them by not performing. the same should be extended to trans sisters #i feel like the 'cool gender' moments most often live in autistic transmasc communities. who are more interested in the metaphysical. #(and there are less fun masculine compliments out there to give so cool gender exists to fill that hole) #but i agree with her. more trans girls and transfeminine people should be seen as people with 'cool genders' #not thinking of donning femininity when thinking of cool genders is indeed misogynistic. dare i say transmisogynistic #hope you guys enjoy me dickriding (so to speak) for the girls every few months. as pippa has pointed out to me many times its a core part o #who i am #what did she just send me hold on #'i prefer “niche enjoyer” to chaser actually' #(in response to me saying something about trans women being the niche in the lgbt im most drawn to. theres no way to say that without #it sounding weird. something something fetishisation often means genuine appreciation reads as predatory making uncomplicated love seem #impossible which further marginalises the fetishised community etc... im just chatting shit u get what i mean) #im like a platonic chaser. unless youre interested in doing something unlabelled with an emphasis on the psycho of psychosexual in the note #i would say that that role has already been filled but who is interested in upholding monogamy in this day and age

[ivystitches]

i’m sorry do you guys really think that women cant be misogynistic,,,,,,,,,,,,,

#ted lasso #babe #i think all of us even were a little misogynistic at some point in our lives because of what we were taught #the implication that jack being misogynistic in this episode is weird considering that the himbos weren’t #sis the team was very clearly divided on the issue #it wasn’t that all the boys were so pure and good #it was that only some of the boys understood that the pictures need to be deleted #and the fact that jack didn’t understand that the leak is not on keeley #is i believe a class thing #have y’all been on twitter do you have any idea how many women react this way to such leaks #i really think tumblr needs to stop putting women on this pedestal as if they can do no wrong #like i’m sorry but women are also very much human and also very much prone to misogynistic tendencies #it may not be to the same degree as men but it very much is true #i don’t even think that ted lasso is very good this season #i’m just very sick of this mindset that if a woman is portrayed to fuck up on tv then that’s just not okay #women are also allowed to fuck uo actually they can’t help it they are also very much human #ted lasso spoilers #in the tags #jack danvers #keeley jones

[maddy-ferguson]

i think the reframing of girls disliking pink and other stereotypically feminine things as internalized misogyny that you should overcome by the time you're an adult woman is an immense feminist loss

#retrospectively... #and like i say: brf slt #like when you think about it. the needing to overcome it. that's crazy?😭 because in the end what are you ACTUALLY encouraging #do i think a lot of girls reject pink at some point growing up in part because it's associated with girls and girls and by extension things #associated with girls are seen as inferior yes...but i think that's kind of a superficial analysis? like maybe it's not just bc we hate #being girls it might also be because liking pink and whatever else is FORCED upon us. and pink itself isnt a big issue its a harmless color #but when you apply that logic to other big things women are encouraged to do...i dont KNOW but SOMEHOW we've come right back to women being #encouraged to like pink and makeup because if they don't they're antifeminists and 'not a girl's girl'? 😭 #i want you to know that as i'm writing this i'm wearing a skirt and tights with hearts on them i dont even have a vested interest in people #thinking stereotypically feminine things like stereotypically feminine clothes are like bad #but yeah when you think like that about pink it's kind of whatever because yes pink/blue is the simplest most basic gender dichotomy #but its not like theres anything actually wrong with the color pink. but when you extend that to things like say shaving and makeup things #that cost women time and money......if you think any critique of that is misogynistic because a lot of women do it/because its things #only women do (almost)...you just have a problem with not just critical thinking but with thinking in general. it's just...very frustrating #and i've thought like this in the past i think it's kind of a step when you're getting into feminism and going hm...this is kind of fucked #up...but i think it's still very superficial and i guess it makes sense that it has a lot of appeal Because it's superficial? #but it's like if you don't think anything needs to change and if you think women who aren't following gender norms as much and who aren't #interested in ''''''reclaiming''''' femininity (bc it's literally just doing what's asked of us 24/7 from birth) are misogynistic for #it...like it's actually crazy you do realize that at the end of the day you're saying you should promote/praise gender roles #and if you disagree you hate women #like at least acknowledge that liking makeup and shaving your legs isn't just about personal taste and liking how smooth legs feel when #in your bed it drives me crazy when people refuse to acknowledge that i remember in high school i told my sister like if you were on a #deserted island would you like heels and she was like yes i would :) and i was like NO we had this conversation for years then she had #sociology classes in high school and she was like okay i see what you mean...like yeah of course you do because i'm right #of course people who think like that are like its about respecting everyone's choices!!!! but they're also very much saying stereotypically #feminine things is the best choice and i think it's so insidious to be expected to get over your distaste (like that's literally just. #what's expected of girls/women in general. not liking things when you're a kid is frowned upon but you're expected to grow out of it and if #you dont then it becomes a real issue) and not being allowed to CRITIQUE IT from a feminist lens is literally crazy like it makes me unwell #they're like um only women wear dresses/skirts why are you implying that pants are more practical and advocating for women to be able to #wear pants do you perhaps hate women especially women who are brave enough to embrace their inner traditional femininity?

[anotherpapercut]

I just saw a post on Facebook that was like 6 paragraphs about how twilight fans have been oppressed by the general public and also the production company (???) who stopped "catering to [twilight fans] as soon as it stopped being profitable" so they shouldn't buy twilight merch at hot topic that's based on fandom popular memes akbdkajdksjd

#i mean this as offensively as possible but why are twolight fans still acting like people hated twilight for no reason #yeah some men hated it because they were misogynists but it literally was always criticized for being a bad racist and sexist franchise #like the main criticism i heard of it was that it glorified a really toxic relationship in a really weird Mormon way #and that it was super super racist 😩 you cannot act like people are just now pointing things out just because you didnt listen 15 yrs ago #why are there so many people who talk about boycotting harry potter but then talk about twilight like its a beacon of inclusiveness #'i can excuse racism but i draw the line at transphobia' the meme works on so many levels

[the-cat-at-the-theatre-door]

Definite ignorance of female characters or deliberate vilification of them in favor of male characters and m/m ships

strongly agree | agree | neutral | disagree | strongly disagree

I will say, however, the treatment of female characters in this fandom specifically, at this point in time, is far *far* better than it was back in the day. Does that soften anything? No; there's still more work to do. But trust me when I say it used to be so much worse. And I'm sure you hear that all the time, but it *really* used to be *so much worse*.

#and tbh it was still not great up to four years ago - how many people still followed the jelly's a bitch and i just don't like her rhetoric #member? you 'member #What I find interesting however is that some individuals who are very vocal about the inherent display of fandom misogny #(which is not a bad thing - it's good to point these things out and have critical discussions surrounding them) #also seem to toe the line of different elements of misogynic issues both within the media and outside of it #and fall into misogynistic thinking patterns with a more blasé attitude when it suits them #like do we want to talk about the queens' london based makeup post 97 being a product of misogyny or what? #The energy should be spread across the board #jellicles ask because jellicles dare #unpopular opinions #anonymous #i will say though the ship thing is 50/50 - i've seen just as much disdain #for ships involving women that don't happen to be in the wheelhouse of preference #so idk iffy on that one #just what i've observed overall

[dreamlanddoll]

Idk if this is mainly just an issue within straight/cis circles but genuinely tired of the way men talk about women like we're nothing but joy-sucking nagging leeches only good for sex and housework when they are the ones that have been making us miserable since the dawn of time. Treating us like property, blaming us for our own r/ape, just generally hating us (clearly they haven't stopped but you know), and then wondering why we're so miserable. Maybe because everytime a man like you opens his mouth we feel the need to defend ourselves but GOD forbid we do because then in your absolute fucking peanut mind we're just proving your point. Ugghhh I hate it here. Fuck.

#terfs do not fucking touch #I hate you terfs go away #bee talks #just #its so fucking frustrating #being unheard and unlistened to #by so much of the population #like #men will say the most blanantly misogynistic thing to your face and say because its a joke its ok #but the second you point out that its wrong and that they wouldnt find that funny unless they find some truth in it because how DARE #you defend yourself #they point and go AHA see youre triggered youre a triggered bitch I win see you proved my point so I will continue to mock and belittle you #!!! hahahaha!!!! #AAAAHGGGG #bite bite kill kill kill kill killl

[katyspersonal]

Hello, I just want to say that your art is amazing and not to worry because fandoms are made more fun and tolerable by people like you who really care about the source material and not using it to spread hate. I hope you keep making art.

Heeeeeey! Don't do me so dirty - I DO spread hate..... towards people that don't care for the source material and just want to hate. XD Aren't we all just hunters vs beasts loop, not realizing we are ALL beasts with the only difference in time passage?...

Ffgfuhhjv okay but seriously, thank you very much for the nice words, anon. It just sometimes feel like there is little to no point because not many other people are deep dive fans learning every single detail. Randos that do not even like the source material all that much come in a fandom to use the stories and characters that we hold dear to sell their products and their ideas.

And don't get me wrong - we love products! Keychains with Henryk and Gascoigne? Hell yes I'll take both! Doll plushie? I'm buying the entire stock! Like, good, THANK YOU for the products! Official merch is so often underperforming in quality or missing characters we really want to hold. But like... won't it be nicer coming from someone who loves the source material for what it is and is willing to listen to the actual fans when they correct them about wrong take or design error? I remember there was a newbie that started doing STONKS very soon thanks to their skill but I could tell they were dramatically lacking source material knowledge and just checked what takes were popular in the fandom to deliver them (leading to missing important characters, doing wrong lore assumptions and even drawing strongly wrong colors of characters). But they proven that they respect the hardcore fans and listened on being corrected, and it was so refreshing!

That's why no gatekeeping should be absolute, because any other person that is not well-versed might be willing to learn more and gives us credit. But reverse happens too - us 99 lvl autism fans get mocked for "having no life" or "being obssessive" or "having no girlfriend", and this is just... bad. Fandoms should be safe space for loosers, geeks, autists and alike first. The normies got the whole world yet they choose to come to one place where we can obssess over a thing and bully us FOR obsessing because... why? Right, because this is a good grinding ground for audience. Endless loop of 'but no one cares about original universes!' vs 'but we want people who care about the source!' that I don't know how to break either. Right, nobody should feel obligated to dive into [insert a fictional univerce] just to get enough people to hear out what they ACTUALLY wanted to say, but also there is a good reason WHY this or that fandom is so popular - because source material spoke with people's very hearts!

In grand scheme of things, of course, the true problem is that nowadays EVERY single person is looking for their purpose in creative field specifically, because alternative jobs are just so terrible and soul-crashing for the same low income. So as far as it goes on, fandoms ARE threated as grinding area for "platform" for those creative jobs to go swell. The big problem is that not everyone's very ESSENCE is to create, yet everyone has the potential and skill (if they study enough). And creative work is the last resort where peoples souls do not get destroyed. That's why I hate AI "art" so much - it is destroying the last place where a SOUL can exist and grow and heal. But really, the true issue is that alternative jobs should be less soul-crashing - so people who are not built to be creators can work at factories, in offices, malls, stores, transport, etc without feeling like such pitiful existance is not even worthy of this low ass paycheck. And that... well, not getting fixed anytime soon, if at all. I am speaking as someone who used to work a normal job but capitalism disease rotted it TOO, and now it is not about being useful but about doing the sales plans and too many jobs for one person, and it IS soul-crashing. -_-

Alright, sorry for the rant, I just have a lot to say on the matters of fandoms! I think the most ironic thing is how fandoms also often attract the opposite; so very dark, fucked up fictional universes that teach you how to just give up and die tend to attract nice and level-headed individuals, but wholesome, bright and lovely ones that teach kindness attract the most toxic people ever, but I don't have theory on why is that. I just know one thing - whatever will be my new fictional special interest, I am not touching any E or PG-13 rated universe with a ten yards stick. Only 16+ and darker, babyyyy!

#ask replies #fandomry rambles #awwwww anon said i make fandoms better :3 #about the last point.... yeah. i dont know why only opposites attract #the kindest most understanding people delve into fandoms for a thing thats just blood and insanity #but then shit like cookie run or animal crossing is the toxic pool that will make miyazaki feel incompetent #shame because deep down i am a baby and part of my brain will always need silly bright- #-colorful stuff for kids even when i am 40 or 50 or 60 #if you support all neurodivergency you will support me watching cartoons for little babies at morning!! #i will be real tho autistic men have it waaaaaaaaaay worse. #us autistic girls have it easy because people think us liking cartoons for kids is cute #but when man is the same? ohhhh boy the EXTENT of mocking and bullying #and fake accusations of being [REDACTED] #i am talking fandoms tho. fandoms for adult things are more reasonable and pleasant. #if you look at my kirby fanart era you will notice i have a bigger knack for drawing cute and silly stuff #bloodborne kinda suffocates that side of me with all the darkness and realism... #but people are nice! #some toxic maria fan: gehrman is misogynist creep because he made a doll of the dead instead of a statue or a portrait #me: EXCEPT THAT ONE!!!!!! #hgjjlhguj okay sorry

[gameofthronedd]

Ngl something about people stanning Rhaenyra & wholeheartedly supporting her as a BAMF anti-patriarchy protagonist but calling Alicent a myriad of names, belittling & disregarding her traumas etc. Grosses me out fr.

It doesn't surprise me because it happens quite a bit on social media but some of the shit I've seen people write without an ounce of self-awareness just baffles me. The lack of sympathy boggles my mind, seriously 😐

#hypocrite #love women #she wanted it #alicent wanted to fuck viserys #house of the dragon #hotd #rhaenyra targaryen #alicent hightower #especially when alicent is a but nyra stans are supposedly the ones who and want to emancipate women etc. #even worse is when alicent gets victim-shamed & belittled & accused of putting HERSELF in horrific situations aka #where is sympathy? where is self-awareness? #skskks i just hate it when ppl act like they care about women and then spit vile stuff at other women #obvs can work vice versa but i tend to see more hate towards alicent than nyra (but it isn't okay in either direction!!) #some of the worst takes are like and shit like that #idk if you're supporting team black for a woman to be on the throne & you're anti-patriarchy etc. but saying the vilest shit... #towards alicent then i don't think you can call Alicent a hypocrite #I'm always tentative about labelling things as like misogynistic and whatnot but some of the things I've read are like borderline... #misogynistic talking points #i can understand maybe not liking alicent #but being unable to have even a shred of sympathy or empathy for her not so much esp when you're all yeehaw for feminism & Rhaenyra etc #this is worded awfully but you get the picture lol