#autism in women

[kodoandsangha]

[alt text] Not diagnosing a child doesn't mean they won't notice they're different. It just means that instead of thinking "I'm struggling because I have autism, ADHD, anxiety, depression, schizophrenia", they will just conclude that they are struggling because they are stupid, weak, annoying, unlovable, etc.

I cried when I got my AuDHD diagnosis. Literally sat in the office and cried. I finally had answers why I was just... different... from everyone else. Why I laughed at things when others didn't. Why sometimes school work didn't make sense despite reading the directions 10 times. Why social interactions never went correctly. There are days I still cry. Not because I have it, but because of all the things that happened when I didn't have the tool set I have to now to face things differently. The world became a different place to live in once I learned what was going on with me the entire time.

#autism #mental health #actually autistic #neurodivergent #autism in women #adhd #disability

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Is it…?

@ItsEmilyKaty

Twitter

Autism

#autism #actually autistic #autism in women #autism meme #relatable meme #source: twitter #feel free to reblog/share #tw bright colors #tw eye strain

[henry-fox-biggest-stan]

“I grew up confident about my queerness. Girls at school made fun of me for it but autism’s lack of regard for social norms combined with my constant sapphic-novel-reading had given me confidence and I remained unruffled. I couldn’t imagine being anything other than bisexual and never thought of it as weird. It took repeated messages, over and over and over again, to instil a suitable amount of shame in me.

From what I can tell, a lot of allistic people I know are primarily motivated by social approval so push any rogue queerness down into their subconscious or suppress their thoughts and only get comfortable with it later in life. For me, it’s been the reverse. I was made to get uncomfortable with it. A combination of my rigid thinking with no grey areas combined with society’s messages about sexuality made me more muddled than was necessary. My teen years would be the last time, for a long time, that I felt being bisexual was normal.”

-Strong Female Character by Fern Brady

#she GETS it #!!! #fern brady #strong female character #autism #autistic #autistic spectrum #lgbt #queer #sapphic #autistic experiences #autism in women #autistic women #women #memoir #book recs

[ambientbroth]

First poll :) repost are welcomed!

#actually autistic #autism #self diagnosed autisic #autisic traits #autistic feels #autistic adult #autism in women #late diagnosed autistic #neurodivergent #actuallyautistic #undiagnosed autism #autistic experiences #self diagnosers #self diagnosis #autistic spectrum #autistic

[ineedfairypee]

Aww she's shy 🙈

#autism memes #autism meme #autistic memes #camouflaging #autistic masking #autism things #autistic problems #autistic women #autistic girls #i'm shy #autism in women #undiagnosed autistic #autism in girls #late diagnosed autistic #autistic adult #autistic woman #autistic girl #shy #late diagnosis #neurodivergent #autism #actually autistic #autism diagnosis #undiagnosed autism #girls with autism #women with autism #autism spectrum #psychology #psychology memes #ineedfairypee

[asexualenjolras]

Robin Buckley is autistic-coded. And I love it.

The line: "I don’t really have a filter or a strong grasp of social cues" is such an important line. It's always so refreshing to see such positive neurodivergent representation in female characters. Robin is highly intelligent, highly empathetic and struggles to contextualise and understand social situations but she is shown to be genuine and honest.

It's realistic that she doesn't have a diagnosis of ASD, given that this show is set in the 1980's and autism in females is so misunderstood still today, in 2022.

She says she is aware that her coming across as "mean or condescending" is a "flaw" because her "mother reminds (her) me everyday", which is something so common in undiagnosed autistic people.

We know from season three that Robin wasn't overly popular at school, and was the sort of student that played band and got high grades. We know that Robin doesn't do well when talking about her emotions and she can be quite straight to the point in conversations. She struggles to make friends and has quite a monotone way of speaking. I think it's been hinted at that her special interests may be movies, languages and band.

Additionally, she's shown to have sensory issues with particular textures when she talks about hating wearing certain clothing.

Robin is so well-liked, too. So having her coded to be autistic is such a lovely reminder that being autistic is okay. I think we all need that sometimes.

I headcanon she also has Dyspraxia because she says, and I quote, "I should warn you, I have terrible co-ordination. It took me like 6 months longer to learn to walk than the other babies." She can't run. I can't run very well. She has Dyspraxia. And that's co-morbid with ASD.

Also, there have been studies to show that autistic people are more likely to be LGBTQ+, so it makes sense. Robin is 100% an autistic lesbian and I love her.

Anyways, I haven't seen autism portrayed in a female character this well since Phoebe Spengler in Ghostbusters: Afterlife; these 80's set series and films really are giving us the most incredible representation.

Thank you, Stranger Things. This is such a genuine portrayal of autism. Thank you.

Edit: I'm seeing a lot of people saying that Robin wasn't neurodivergent in season three and I just wanted to add that masking is a thing. Robin didn't know Steve well enough to feel comfortable to lower that mask before. There are hints that she is autistic even in season three, like when she really struggles to find the words to describe how she's feeling and rambles when faced with difficult situations.

In fact, Steve even has to tell her that she "wasn't helping" when El was trying to sort out her leg in the mall scene. The hints were there all along but season four gave us an unmasked Robin and I am so grateful for that.

#robin buckley #autism spectrum disorder #autism in media #autistic character #autism in women #autistic robin buckley #stranger things #stranger things 4 #stranger things spoilers #female autism #netflix #autism coding #autistic coded #neurodiverse character #neurodivergent #1980s #phoebe spengler #autism spectrum #dyspraxia

[fionaappleenjoyer]

I’ve never heard someone sum up my experience so well, Strong Female Character by Fern Brady is genuinely the best written memoir I’ve ever read, definitely recommend if you’re an autistic girl/woman.

#fern brady #strong female character #autism #autism in women #autism in girls #autistic #neurodivergent #nd #actually autistic #books #bookblr #bookworm #book #memoir #quote

[secretg1nger]

growing up is realising you never had anger issues, you were just constantly overstimulated.

#autism #autism in women #undiagnosed autism #mental health

[lokifantasy]

Hi! I’m a 23 year old with autism and I’m writing a research paper about the lives of autistic people and what it’s like to be you. Going about your daily lives and living in a world not built for autism. Anything about work, school, relationships, positive or negative! I’d love to hear your stories or comments!

#autism #autism in adults #autism information #autism in the workplace #autism in women #autism spectrum disorder #autism experiences #living with autism #autism special interest

[kodoandsangha]

#mental health #neurodivergent #actually autistic #autism in women #adhd #disability #autism

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Understanding autistic girls, women and gender diverse individuals

Yellow Ladybug

#autism #actually autistic #autism in women #autism spectrum #hello ladybug (Facebook) #feel free to reblog

[deanwasalwaysbi]

Men get to be autistic. Boys get to be autistic. They get to have quirks, they get to be excused, why should they have worry if others around them are comfortable. But women don't get to be autistic. Women were girls who were told they were just being rude, and if they unmask or burn out they must be mentally ill. I'm sick of it.

#autism in women #Neurospicy

[ambientbroth]

Gatekeeping culture is like: “don’t get your information online it’s too easy😡!!!” Then offer “find research papers online it’s really easy🙄”

Then block you.

Self diagnosing isn’t TikTok videos and random blogs. It’s literally months to years of research. There’s a lot of reasons why someone can’t get professionally diagnosed.

Misdiagnoses happen a lot

People aren’t taken seriously

It’s expensive asf

Its inaccessible

People want to adopt

People want the right to their bodily autonomy

I’m disappointed when I go online and see my bullies are now nurses. That’s kinda the same thing when I go on here and see professionally diagnosed people who shit on undiagnosed for posting coping mechanisms.

Stop calling people “the problem” for coping. The real issue is people who post any “if you have these… you might have” THATS DANGEROUS. what isn’t dangerous is:

Finding coping mechanisms

Find organization tools to function

Therapy

Talking about experiences

Researching extensively on traits

Documenting

Unmasking

Printing off quizzes or research articles from well established resources (Embracing Autism, ASAN, AIM, awn network, A4A)

Stimming (if it isn’t harming)

Advocating for diagnosis is one thing. Being a bully online is another. It’s a disability not a quirk, a lot of self diagnosed people know it’s a disability. We can identify the actual problems in the self diagnosing community but a lot of us aren’t those.

We’re valid

#self diagnosed autisic #self diagnosers #self diagnosis is valid #autism in women #autism in girls #autisic traits #late diagnosed autistic #actually autistic #autistic feels #gate keeping #executive dysfunction #neurodivergent #undiagnosed autism #coping mechanism

[littleautiebird]

As a late diagnosed autistic,

I miss that feeling of when I first discovered my autism. I won’t forget those days when I finally felt seen, more than ever. And the multiple hours spent deep diving into my new special interest in autism as well. That was an exciting time for me, a time of finally finding myself.

#actually autistic #autism in women #autistic adult #high masking autism #neurodivergent #autism #late diagnosed autism #autistic things #autistic woman

[justabunchofquotesfromallover]

"I didn't know what I was supposed to eat now that I was living independently so I decided to only eat bagels as they were simple and didn't overwhelm me plus I liked their shape. Trying to work out what was a normal meal was too much when I had absolutely no idea how to find out where my classes were, how to electronically submit essays--basically how to do anything that everyone else seemed able to do effortlessly. If you're allistic you likely take for granted that when you're not sure of something you'll ask someone for help. Autism is so insular and self-contained that for us, asking for help sometimes feels like going against our nature. The dropout rate for autistic students is ten times higher than for non-autistic students and it's thought that's because most students tend to help each other by 'crowd-sourcing' information from their peers."

--Fern Brady, "Strong Female Character"

#quotes #memoir #autism #actually autistic #autistic #stigma #autism in women #autistic women #fern brady #strong female character #book quotes