#avoidant pd

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

Having AvPD is like: I’m so open, everyone knows everything about me. That’s terrifying, everyone must hate how much I share. God I feel so exposed I feel sick. And the last time you opened up to someone was October of 2021 when you told your mom you were a little stressed.

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[avpdpossum]

me: i know they’re you’re friends and they’re really nice but that just makes them even scarier because i really want them to like me and would be genuinely devastated if they didn’t so it’s just easier to never engage with them and endlessly wish i was friends with them without ever risking being rejected by them even if that means i never actually get to be their friend. like sure, strangers are scary too, but they’re easier because i’m not super invested in whether they like me or not. the people i already like? those are the most terrifying people ever. you know what i mean?

my boyfriend, who doesn’t have avpd: no. no i do not know what you mean. that is literally the exact opposite of how my social anxiety works. i can’t even imagine how that would feel.

#they get regularly baffled by my avpd shit #bc our bad-at-people-ness as socially anxious autistics looks similar on the surface #but when you dig into it ive got all sorts of weird avpd shit going on that they can’t understand #poss.speaks #personal #avpd #actually avpd #actually avoidant #avoidant pd #avoidant personality disorder #cluster c

[avoidantblob]

reaching peak avoidant by avoiding the account i made to vent about my avoidant personality disorder because i think other avoidant people looking in the avoidant personality disorder tag will think that i’m weird. this is great. i’m going to get a good grade in avpd, something that is both normal to want and possible to achieve

#actually avoidant #actually avpd #avoidant pd #avoidant personality disorder #avpd

[personalitysystems]

i feel like what a lot of people dont understand about npd + avpd comorbidity (or even npd + social anxiety) is that they are not opposites. they can function like opposites for others or they can just be an addition to someone's npd or someone's avpd.

i am someone with covert npd, however i have very overt avpd. i am so timid and anxious you wouldn't even think i would have npd, and for the longest time i didn't think i had npd either. so many of my npd-like behaviors were covert to the point i didn't even realize i did them until someone pointed out to me.

i would try to subtly nudge people into believing i'm really good at things. i would practice so hard just to be better than everyone. i was so competitive because if i wasn't the best then i was not good enough. but it was all unnoticeable. no one knew anything about why, they just thought i was really that good. i wouldn't brag, i wouldn't overtly show any of this, it was just something i subconsciously did. i didn't even believe i was good.

but it felt good to be admired, i liked when people would tell me how good i was at something. i was so happy with every good grade i got, i was happy to even follow the rules because i was then labeled as a good student. it was the only thing that made me feel like i was actually someone worth something.

but overtly, i struggle to make friends. i'm scared to talk to someone to order something, i show feelings of inferiority, i don't have any friends besides from two, i can't talk to strangers and other than very close people (and/or safe people) social interaction is basically impossible.

i didn't realize i had npd for so long, even after my avpd (and other disorders) had been apparent to me for years, because i felt like i was "too scared of people" to have npd. my partner who also has npd with social anxiety disorder had felt the same way, despite when we both looked into why we did some things we did, it was very apparent that it was npd.

npd and avpd can act like a cover for each other, in my case it was avpd covering the npd, but it is very possible for npd to cover avpd, or social anxiety, or any disorder. disorders can cover up others to make you look more neurotypical than you actually are.

the point really is that npd and avpd can present a lot differently than others with just npd or just avpd present, and that goes with every disorder. the more disorders you have, the more differently your symptoms will present from other people with that disorder.

#actually avpd #actually avoidant #avoidant pd #avoidant personality disorder #avpd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #npd safe #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissistic pd #cluster b #cluster c #avpd + npd #npd + avpd

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for systems with AvPD!

AvPD (avoidant personality disorder) is a serious mental illness that can have negative affects on many systems. However, the plural folks living with this disorder still deserve to live happy, healthy lives to the best of their ability! This post is for the systems out there with AvPD!

🐠 Shoutout to systems whose severe social anxiety led them to develop AvPD!

🌊 Shoutout to systems who struggle to maintain relationships or form bonds and positive connections with people in their lives!

🦀 Shoutout to systems whose trauma history led them to form both a dissociative disorder and AvPD!

🐬 Shoutout to systems who don’t want many friends, and who feel the most safe, happy, and comfortable when they are by themselves!

🏝 Shoutout to systems who have been diagnosed with AvPD professionally, to those who have self-diagnosed, and to those who are questioning if they have this disorder!

🐟 Shoutout to systems who are in treatment for their AvPD, and are trying to learn how to cope with their symptoms in positive ways!

🐚 Shoutout to systems who do want friends, who feel lonely all the time, and whose AvPD causes them lots of pain and distress!

🐡 Shoutout to systems whose AvPD has caused them to feel hopeless, listless, sullen, and dismayed! We promise there’s still hope for you yet!

🐳 Shoutout to individual headmates who are AvPD symptom holders, or who struggle with their disorder more than the rest of their system!

🏝 Shoutout to systems with dissociative disorders whose AvPD has caused them to split new alters!

🦈 Shoutout to nontraumagenic systems who consciously created their system as a way to cope with their disorder!

It can be so hard existing in society with a disorder that makes it difficult to form interpersonal relationships or have positive interactions with other people. However, for folks with AvPD out there, we want you to know that there’s hope in your future, and potential for peace, joy, and happiness!

Please treat yourself and your system with kindness, and try to not judge yourself too hard by societal standards! Having a disorder that affects how you form and maintain relationships does not make you unwanted, unloveable, or unaccepted by the people in your life or the plural community. Whether or not you’re too scared, nervous, or shy to interact, please know we care about you, we’re rooting for you, and we wish you the very best in all that you do!

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#multiplicity #pluralgang #plurality #actuallyplural #system positivity #plural positivity #plural pride #system pride #AvPD #avoidant pd #avoidant personality disorder

[one-without-a-name]

Pertaining to the self ship community I keep seeing posts about this so, yeah it's a community, but no one is obliged to like or interact with your posts, it doesn't matter if you don't get a single interaction, no one is obliged to interact with you just so you don't feel left out. People are allowed to stay in their bubble and in their comfort zone because guess what! they self ship for their enjoyment, not yours!

Not even need to mention how some neurodivergencies make you want to stay by yourself and how disrespectful trying to force those people to interact is!

Pro/com-shitters fuck off!

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[the-cluster-c-culture]

AVPDt culture is feeling like there's a line dividing you from other people and it is Illegal to cross the line

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#cluster c #cluster c personality disorder #avpd #avoidant personality disorder #avoidant pd

[ask-me-about-therapy]

using ERP strategies to heal yourself from Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD):

Identify Avoidance Patterns: Take time to identify specific situations, activities, or social interactions that trigger avoidance behaviors and anxiety. Pay attention to recurring patterns and the underlying fears driving your avoidance.

Create an Exposure Hierarchy: Develop a hierarchy of anxiety-provoking situations, starting from the least distressing to the most challenging. Break down each situation into smaller, manageable steps.

Gradual Exposure: Begin exposing yourself to the least distressing situations or triggers from your hierarchy. Start with small, controlled exposures and gradually progress to more anxiety-provoking scenarios as you build confidence.

Response Prevention: During exposure, consciously resist engaging in avoidance behaviors or safety-seeking strategies. Refrain from escaping, avoiding, or seeking reassurance. Instead, focus on staying present and tolerating the discomfort.

A Helpful Tool for Those Who Want to Work on Themselves . https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B86H2BCK

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[avoidantarlo]

I have a weird relationship with self esteem, I think. it's bad, yeah, but it's not the "I hate myself" or anything that I hear about. I don't really hate myself, but I don't really like myself either. I'm not content with myself, I find myself really embarrassing actually. I'm horrified that someone's going to see the "real" me and feel the same disgust I feel about myself. but it's not full blown hatred. I'm not angry at myself enough for it to be hate, it's just pure disgust.

#avpd #actually avoidant #actually avpd #avoidant personality disorder #avoidant pd

[occhiolism888]

it’s so crazy. i met someone. i like him. he is a walking green flag. he’s so charming. and we get along so well. but the closer we get, the more we text, the more i get the feeling this is getting serious, he even told me he likes me… i get this urge, deep inside of me, like a knife that is turning in my stomach, to distance myself. i don’t want him to get to know me. i don’t want him to know what i think.

but… why?

i like him?

why am i acting like this?

why can’t i just for the first time in my life when the right person walks into my life act right?

i want to let him in but it’s like the more i want to let him in… i automatically try to build a polar energy that tries to dim this desire.

it’s like i don’t allowed it myself.

how do i end this cycle…

#insecure attachement #attachement style #attachement #actually avoidant #dismissive avoidant #avoidant #avoidant pd #avoidant attachment

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

I feel like it isn't talked about enough, but AvPD is frequently caused by trauma. It's totally valid if you have AvPD that wasn't caused by trauma, but I want to shoutout:

Folks who have AvPD because of childhood abuse

Folks who have AvPD because of childhood neglect (physical or emotional)

Folks who have AvPD because of overly critical parents

Folks who have AvPD because of parents who were doing their best. And parents that truly loved them (That doesn't change how damaging their actions were)

Folks who have AvPD because they had another form of neurodivergence

Folks who have AvPD because of bullying

Folks who have AvPD because of being LGBTQIANP+

Folks who have AvPD because they’re physically disabled

Folks who have AvPD because they’re mentally disabled

Folks who have AvPD because they’re intellectually disabled

Folks who have AvPD because they’re developmentally disabled

Folks who have AvPD because of domestic violence

Folks who have AvPD because of abusive relationships

Folks who have AvPD because of another PD

Folks who have AvPD because they were undervalued

Folks who have AvPD because they weren’t believed

Folks who have AvPD because they have physical differences

Folks who have AvPD because they’re a racial or cultural minority

Folks who have AvPD because of poverty

Folks who have AvPD because of religious trauma

Folks who have AvPD because of medical trauma

Folks who have AvPD because academic trauma

Folks who have AvPD because they’re alterhuman+

Folks who have AvPD because of sexual trauma

Folks who have AvPD because of manipulation

Folks who have AvPD because of gaslighting

Folks who have AvPD because of reasons I forgot

Folks who have AvPD because of multiple traumas

Folks who have AvPD because reason they’re unsure of

Folks who have AvPD because something other than trauma

Folks who have AvPD

You’re doing a great job

I’m proud of you

You deserve to take up space

You’re perfect as you are

I love you.

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[avpdpossum]

avoidance is so weird because it’s so temptingly easy to pretend it’s not there when it’s not at its absolute worst.

when i’m at my lowest, my avoidance becomes volatile and dangerous — it means almost daily mental breakdowns, it means probably wanting to hurt myself or worse, it’s means things are bad bad. but times like now? where i’m in a better place and i don’t have to interact with people often enough to trigger it too badly? it’s easy to pretend i’m fine.

and that’s not because i don’t have symptoms — there’s a big glaring reason i don’t have a job yet, that i stay in the house pretty much every day and (aside from the family i live with) only ever see my safe person, that there’s a million important doctor calls i haven’t made yet, that i have my name change papers all ready to go but haven’t changed any of my documents yet. the avoidance is obviously still there and still causing problems, and i know my life doesn’t look how it should.

but because it’s not destroying my default mental state right now, it feels like i’m lying to myself and i’m totally mentally healthy and i have nothing to worry about. and when i see my therapist, the way i describe things sounds like there’s nothing going wrong in my life because there’s no active bad shit, just a lot of things that aren’t happening. and how do you quantify the absence of something?

how do i explain that the problem isn’t that i’m unhappy, it’s not that there’s bad things to fix, it’s just that most of the time, there’s nothing at all? that i’m mostly happy because i don’t have much of a life right now, and if i were to get my life to a better place from a practical standpoint i would almost definitely be thrown back into a worse mental state?

i’m trying to find a balance that allows me to have a decent life and decent mental health, but god, it’s hard to do when it would be so much easier and less exhausting to just stay stagnant forever and hold onto the relative peace that comes with that.

#tbh the only thing stopping me from staying like this forever #is 1) i hate not having money to get little serotonin trinkets with and 2) i Cannot keep living with my parents long term #also yes hello im not dead and neither is this blog #poss.speaks #avpd #actually avpd #actually avoidant #avoidant pd #avoidant personality disorder #cluster c

[avoidantblob]

hanging out with other autistic people after being told that you only feel isolated and overwhelmed in social situations because you’re solely socialising with allistics and then coming to the soul crushing realisation that even around other neurodivergent people, you still don’t fit in and you’re still just the weird little girl in the corner of the room that doesn’t speak to anyone and nobody really likes

#actually avoidant #actually avpd #avoidant pd #avoidant personality disorder #avpd #actually autistic #autism

[april-likes-lilacs]

no sweetie of course im not gonna text you if i need anything, i have avpd and i will spontaneously combust if i ever show signs of dependency

#avoidant personality disorder #avpd #avoidant pd #actually avoidant #actually avpd #avpd things

[fantasy-store]

Cluster C Disorder flags

Flags for cluster c personality disorders. do not use unless you have these.

transx stay tf away.

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cluster a, cluster b

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Avoidant Personality Disorder

Dependant Personality Disorder

Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder

Cluster C flag

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[the-cluster-c-culture]

AvPDt culture is feeling intense loneliness because you have no or minimal human connection but in order to get the connection you crave you need to put yourself out there and risk being rejected/embarrassed so you're stuck in a self-fulfilling prophecy

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#cluster c #cluster c personality disorder #avoidant personality disorder #avoidant pd