backofftubby replied to your post “i’m sure there’s a way to point out how awful this situation is for...”
But what he did to aaron is cruel, there is no way around it. It’s not badmouthing robert at all. Just stating the fact. And it is cowardish, because he didn’t tell aaron himself. But I get why. Letting aaron go was the hardest thing he had to do. He knew that aaron was going to ~hate him for it, he didn’t want his last memory to be aaron being angry. And you know, plot. It’s in no way badmouthing robert when you call his actions what they are. We know he did it out of love (and plot) but aaron
doesn’t - yet. He thinks his husband gave up on him without even having the guts to tell it himself. That is cruel and cowardish. Aaron will understand it in time, I have ni doubts about it.
But see, you’re thinking entirely of Aaron’s point of view here! You’re thinking about how Aaron feels about it. I’m not doubting the fact that to him it feels cruel right now, of course it does. It’s awful and heartbreaking and Aaron is understandably in pain and angry. But we know why Robert did it, we understand Robert’s character (well..).
Yes on the receiving end it’s awful and cruel, but Robert’s actions aren’t, because the reason he did it is literally to allow Aaron to have a life. It’s sad because he doesn’t think he’s worth Aaron hanging on to him for 14 years even when he knows Aaron would without any doubt.
He thinks Aaron deserves to have a husband who is there for him, with him, sharing his everyday life, christmases, birthdays and funerals. A husband he can touch and kiss and have children with. He knows he can’t be that because of the circumstances and it’s killing him because it’s all he wants. And yes he knows that Aaron will hurt for a while, and he knows that Aaron will hate him, but Robert’s thinking long-term, and he knows that one day eventually Aaron will be better and build a new life, the kind of life that he deserves. And he’s willing to sacrifice his own happiness for Aaron’s future one.
This situation is horrible but it’s not like he’s having the time of his life in there. He’s not choosing to hurt Aaron just for kicks you know?
It’s not even about him being wrong or right (it’s irrelevant), it’s about the fact that this is why he did what he did (and plot) and there’s absolutely nothing cruel or selfish behind it.
A bit of a Valentine’s Day redo from the past two years. Robert decides to make pasta again but this time actually just for them. He gets a bit sappy with it and once again Aaron can’t keep his eyes off of him. This time it’s real, Robert’s his husband and it’s perfect. And all of a sudden dinner doesnt matter anymore. This time it’s an early night that neither one of them forget.
backofftubby replied to your post: I just want Robron to go on one holiday together...
If I recall correctly, Danny/Ryan/Isobel had time off mostly at the same time and only a little bit apart, so I find it lazy that ED couldn’t work around their schedules more to not make it so messy. This is supposed to be the big story, and at least for me, them not being around together takes a lot of the enjoyment away. And I kinda think the writers miss the importance of them all being around, even if it is supposed to be Rob vs. Lachlan.
We can’t really know when they had time off though, can we? We only know about the holidays they’ve been on because they’ve been posting about it on Instagram for example, but they also could just have had more days off and spending it doing stuff we don’t know about. But I agree, this also takes a lot of the enjoyment away for me and I also believe they could have done something about it to make it less messy. I especially feel that Liv also should have been a part of this more, because she was the one who was suspicious about Lachlan and I really expected her to eventually be a part of Lachlan’s downfall and now it looks like that won’t happen at all? But there’s still a lot of stuff we don’t know, so we really just have to wait and see what will happen.
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So, I think most of us were upset when we saw the Bromance Buddie video the other day. My undying source of ideas and inspiration @etre-libre-dit-combeferre said that it should be fixed, so I did. Thank you to @backofftubby providing the video because I couldn't find it anywhere else.