This is the reason I don't back and forth with feminists online, and block those who feel they have to have the last word. In their pea-brains, women are never wrong, and men are never right. Best to avoid the mental exhaustion in dealing with them. They simply lack the ability to engage in objective introspection...and the integrity to even try.
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How to know you are being gaslighted p1.
Your power of free speech is completely destroyed.
For example:
You are watching a dumb reality tv show. You say something about it being fake and make a few jokes about it. ( no big deal, no personal attacks on the person u are watching with)
The person you are watching it with gets annoyed at you for talking during the show so they start screaming at you for talking telling you you're opinions are wrong and "shut up!" 😒 ( that seems a little harsh for making fun of a show right?) 😕 😳
You try to calm yourself down but it is very hard so you start to angry twitch a bit to calm down without words (obviously the mood is off now) ....the person notices this and they get even more triggered by it.
They say "why are you so angry?!" As if they weren't the one who started screaming at you for just talking during a dumb show.
Now if you try to defend yourself with speech and say
" I'm sorry for talking during the show"
They will say:
" Omg it's not just the TV show I'm angry at you for!, it's all the things you've said in the past!!" ( that came out of nowhere)
So now while they completely yell over you and your ability to defend anything you've "said" in the past...they will bring up every incident where you have "SAID" something they didn't like and instead of using exact quotes they will say:
"idk exactly what you've said but it was somthing like that" 🙄
So now you are playing emotional cat and mouse trying to do penance and apologize for a word you've said yrs ago. Even though both of you don't have any idea what it is. 😲 😱
When you try to fix the current argument that started for no reason its unresolved because this moment will probably be usable against you in the future. Lol
And in their own words your oh so "wrongdoing" of commenting on a TV show " is not the problem in the first place"...
so if they are mad at you for not even doing something wrong how are you supposed to resolve this? No redemption under Satan I guess 🤷 lol
How do you redeem something that isn't redeemable? Just like your past "words" lol they can't remember.
It's always YOUR "words" never YOUR ACTIONS that they have a problem with. You know why? Because words don't mean as much as actions! So they are easy to manipulate and change. It's easier for them to say you SAID something emotionally offensive ( when it can literally be anything!) Verses you bringing up them screaming at you or hitting you!) But if you bring that up they will say they were "going thru a hard time" as an excuse. But YOU are not allowed to say somthing like that. YOU are the monster, they are saints who excuse themselves.
Which brings us back to your current argument of commenting on the dumb TV show.
And now that I think of it, were the things you've said in the past even wrong to begin with? Or were they just using it as a trigger point to throw their kitchen sink dirt at you ? 🤔 like the current situation. " it's not about what you said to the tv!"
And now you are at the point of the argument where this person is yelling at you for 15 minutes and now you get so worked up that you actually do say something mean to them. Yes finally!! the reaction this person wanted comes out.
They have accomplished their task of breaking you down. Even if you said something about their bad actions like "screaming at you, or being physically violent towards YOU you lose because they will have this nasty thing you said to defend yourself out of anger, and put it in their back pocket for the next time they want to fight with you. ( just like a crooked politician using past quotes on twitter and not STATS and ACTIONS to defeat their opponent)
If you apologize they will get mad at you for not breaking down and crying and call you a "cold bastard" even though they mentioned that they don't even know what you guys are arguing about. Lol so now you actually start crying because they are stressing you out by starting a fight over NOTHING!
It's insanity. Stay away. use that only drop of silence they give you to remove yourself from them. For good.
( sorry tumblr for the rant, but this is a helpful ⚠️ warning to all of you)
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“2 BORDER GIRLS SENT TO PRISON ! FOR VAGRANCY,” Border Cities Star. September 2, 1931. Page 3.
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Annie McKeen, 20, of Windsor, and Evelyn Martell. 21. of Sandwich, arrested during the week-end by Sergeant Bert Herod, were sentenced yesterday on vagrancy charges their appearance in Windsor Police Court and leave in charge of an escort today for Mercer Reformatory, Toronto.
Miss Martell was sentenced to pay a fine of $100, with the option of a year in reformatory, and with an additional year indeterminate, while Miss McKeen will serve six months determinate and one year indeterminate. The arrests followed a long series of complaints received at police headquarters.
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love when men cry about body hair bc "it's hygiene" and yet 15% of cis men leave the bathroom without washing their hands at all and an additional 35% only just wet their hands without using soap. that is nearly half of all men. that means statistically you have probably shaken hands with or been in direct contact with one of these people.
love when men say that women "only want money" when it turns out that even in equal-earning homes, women are actually adding caregiver burdens and housework from previous years, whereas men have been expanding leisure time and hobbies. in equal-earning households, men spend an average of 3.5 hours extra in leisure time per week, which is 182 hours per year - a little over a week of paid vacation time that the other partner does not receive. kinda sounds like he wants her money.
love that men have decided women are frail and weak and annoying when we scream in surprise but it turns out it's actually women who are more reliable in an emergency because men need to be convinced to actually take action and respond to the threat. like, actually, for-real: men experience such a strong sense of pride about their pre-supposed abilities that it gets them and their families killed. they are so used to dismissing women that it literally kills them.
love it. told my father this and he said there's lies, damned lies, and statistics. a year ago i tried to get him to evacuate the house during a flash flood. he ignored me and got injured. he has told me, laughing, that he never washes his hands. he has said in the last week that women are just happier when we're cooking or cleaning.
maybe i'm overly nostalgic. but it didn't used to feel so fucking bleak. it used to feel like at least a little shameful to consider women to be sheep. it just feels like the earth is round and we are still having conversations about it being flat - except these conversations are about the most obvious forms of patriarchy. like, we know about this stuff. we've known since well before the 50's.
recently andrew tate tried to justify cheating on his partner as being the "male prerogative." i don't know what the prerogative for the rest of us would be. just sitting at home, watching the slow erosion of our humanity.
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I feel like the way ai is currently being used is one of the various things that completely shatters the incel argument that every woman on earth wakes up hoping they get an opportunity to falsely accuse a man of sexual assault or abuse.
If that were actually true we would have thousand upon thousands if not millions of cases of women using ai to try and frame men for crimes they didn’t commit. but we don’t have that.
but you know what we do have? thousands upon thousands if not millions of men using ai to sexually harass women and little girls.
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