#bc my mom won't help me pay a hospital Bill

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for not helping my family pay for hospital bills?

🎷🔥 so i can find it later

This is going to need a lot of context right off the bat. I (20'sM) am a gay man that comes from an extremely conservative family. My sister (20'sF) is also a lesbian and recently got married and adopted a child. I'm very proud of her, but that's not the issue.

My parents seem to have little to no issue with my sister marrying a woman. They do have a very big issue with me liking dudes, however. Like, it was the reason my parents got divorced "big issue." I'm not gonna go into everything, but my sister ended up with my dad and I stayed with my mom for reasons I'd rather not share.

Our last parting was on... less than decent terms. Upon finding out that I was of the homosexual variety, my dad flipped his lid. He called me several slurs and said some other very hurtful things, and even made moves to physically attack me. My mom, also a very homophobic woman, stepped in and thankfully talked him down. Then divorce, etc etc.

I saved up enough money to move out when I turned 18 and may have done some impulsive things including completely trashing my mom's bathroom, which I know I'm definitely the asshole for, but in my defense my mom kept "forgetting" to pick up my prescriptions and I was manic (I have bipolar). But, again, I know I'm the AH for that.

I now live with my two best friends R (20sNB) and P (20sM) in a house we all pay for. R comes from money so they help out a lot, and I love them both to death. We kind of have a sort of situationship but none of us are poly? Idk it's weird we're just going with it rn.

Anyway, I bring them up bc we all went to my sister's wedding together, and my parents separately chewed me out for bringing them (and for R daring to wear a dress. They're amab for context) and I obviously argued back bc hey they're my best friends and my sister specifically said it was okay for me to bring them (she and R are also friends and they wouldve been invited regardless of me bringing P) and also because R looks very good in a dress and i can handle them shit-talking me but i will not tolerate slander towards R or P.

At the wedding, I went full no contact with them and told them to lose my number. They, ofc, did Not lose my number and I got several calls from extended family saying about what you would expect them to say, so I switched numbers and gave only my sister and her wife my new number.

My sister. I love her to pieces but sometimes she gets on my nerves. She gives my number to my mom to have "just in case," but she reassures me that she won't give it to my dad or any other family. So far, she's made good on that promise, I just have to deal with periodic calls about getting a girlfriend and having kids.

Now, my dad isn't the healthiest guy out there. He has arthritis, osteoporosis, and several other things that i don't really wanna get into. As he's aged he's only gotten worse and there have been several times he's almost died, but recently he's been put on hospice and has an estimated Not Very Long to live.

Here's where I may be the AH. My dad calls me while I'm at a very important, personal event for R (he got my number from my mom) and goes on a long rant on how I'm an unlovable disgrace and how he fed me and clothed me and I could make up for all that by helping him pay off hospital debt. I say no immediately and tell him that he's never been my dad, only my dna donor, and that he's going to be dead anyway and that selling his house could cover all the bills. He calls me many more names and tells me he wishes I was never born (calling my mom some very derogatory names too (she's asian)) and that i should just go ahead and off myself to save the world someone like me. I tell him he should die faster while he's at it because God knows the world already has enough bigots in it and there could never be too many mentally ill queers.

I hung up, but now I'm thinking I went a bit too far. AITA for not helping out with his hospital bills and yelling at him?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[abnormallycreative]

I haven't had an anxiety attack in years but I think I'm about to have one

#over money #out if all things to have an attack over its over money #bc my mom won't help me pay a hospital Bill #I fucking hate it here

[askthetotallynotsquad]

if rich and Jeremy won't have a fun and chill hangout can Brooke and Michael have a fun and chill hangout??

Jeremy: well I’m sorry I don’t want to get shipped with HIM-

Brooke: oooo okay!

Michael: brookeeee we can watch hallmark

Brooke: of course!

Rich: okay I'll leave now but Jeremy I'm low-key offended

Michael: Brooke lets go to my epic house

Brooke: I’ve never been to your house! This should be fun!!

Michael: my mothers will be very excited I’m finally bringing a girl over

Brooke: oooo! I’d love to meet them!

Michael: you should be very scared

Brooke: well I bet they’re very nice

Michael: they’re too nice

-when they get to Michael’s house??-

Brooke: *walks in* ooooo it’s very pretty!

Michael: mOMS I HAVE A FRIEND OVER

Michael’s mom pt. 1: is it jeremy again?

Michael: no mom it’s not jeremy again

Brooke: it’s an actual girl!

Michael’s mom pt. 1: wAIT I THOUGHT YOU WERE GAY? AND DATING JEREMY?

Michael: mom I swear to god it’s my friend Brooke

Brooke: and I’m lesbian!-

Michael: ok we’re gonna go like- watch a movie? in my room? bye mother *wwwalks to the basement door*

Brooke: your room is H U G E!

Michael: yeah- the only other person who’s ever been in my room has been jeremy and my moms- and that’s it- so you’re speciallll?

Brooke: ooooo! So, what movie do you want to watchhhh?

Michael: uh- I dunno- what movies are you into

Brooke: hmmmmmm I like love stories- but I like horror too! But anything works!

Michael: yooo what about hairspray

Brooke: oh yes! I’m so down to watch that- only!, if we can sing

Michael: of course what kind of weirdo wouldn’t

-in the middle of the movie-

Brooke: *is singing and dancing to Mama I’m a big girl now*

Michael: cAST BROOKE AS EVERYONE IN HAIRSPRAY

Brooke: *actually dying of laughter*

Michael: wOO

Brooke: where’s your bathroom *still laughing* I might pee myself!

Michael: shoot don’t do that that’s groSS

Brooke: well where’s your bathroom? *laughing ha*

Michael: up the stairs- the door is like- next to the kitchen table

Brooke: okay! I’ll be right back! *runs upstairs and accidentally bumps in the Michael’s mom pt.1* oh my gosh I’m so sorry!

Michael’s mom pt. 1: sooo... are you dating my son?

Brooke: oh! Nononono

Michael’s mom pt. 1: are you sure? I hear a lot of noise coming from down there

Brooke: *almost laughs* I was singing from the movie we were watching- and besides and respect all facts that he is dating Jeremy

Michael’s mom pt. 1: that’s what I said to my boyfriend in high school when actually I was gay and cheating on him with a girl

Brooke: o-oh- well I’m not dating your son, he is very nice tho

Michael’s mom pt. 1: hmmmm.. *shuffles away*

Brooke: okay then- *uses the bathroom and walks back to the Michael’s room and sits next to him* your mom thinks we’re dating-

Michael: *the movie ended so now he’s playing epic™️ video games* but I’m dating my boyfriend-?

Brooke: that’s what I said- she said she “heard noises”

Michael: the fuck??

Brooke: exactly??

Michael: ughhh my mom is an idiot *plays some epic minecraft*

Brooke: I bet she hears noises when Jeremy is here *laughs*

Michael: obviously he’s so hot

Brooke: *slowly claps*

Michael: *hahahahaha giggles uwu* *epic minecrafting* do you wanna like- play Minecraft with me?

Brooke: sure! And do you mind if I sleepover? It’s so boring at my house

Michael: oh sure as long as my mom doesn’t think we’ll do the do’s *casually gives Brooke an epic controller*

Brooke: why the hell-

Michael: she’s a weirdo

Brooke: this is gonna be my first sleepover!! * v excited*

Michael: should you like uh- call your parents? I dunno that’s what jeremy always does-

Brooke: oh- right! *calls up her parents*

-after Brooke calls her parents-

Brooke: they said I could as long as we don’t do the do’s-

Michael: iM GAY

Brooke: IM LESBIAN

Michael: uGH *jumps onto his bed face first*

Brooke: do you need another Brooke talk?

Michael: *hhhis voice is muffled bc his face is in a pillow oop* mmaybe

Brooke: *sits in his bed and pats the michael* anything I can help with?

Michael: I don’t know Brooke- life is g ross

Brooke: very true, very true

Michael: I just don’t know anymore and that’s disgusting

Brooke: I think I have something to slightly help, c’mon *sits him up*

Michael: *epically fixes his glasses* hhhhuh

Brooke: *takes out le face mask they use every time they hang out*

Michael: OHMYGOD TRENDY VSCO GIRL TIME

Brooke: *laughs* knew it would make you happy! *gives him le package*

Michael: *b ecomes trendy vsco girl*

Brooke: squad goals! Oop be careful! *puts his hair back so it’s doesn’t touch the mask*

Michael: I look so damn hot all the guys will be after me

Brooke: jeremy would be drooling at this point

Michael: yes he would be more attracted to me than his dolphins

Brooke: oh definitely

-10 minuets later-

Brooke: Michael, why did we do this- *is in pain trying to take it off*

Michael: because pain is beauty or something *casually takes off the vsco girl face mask bc epic gamer moment*

Brooke: and this is why you’re my friend- Wait no- best friend!

Michael: I’m honored *bows awkwardly oop*

Brooke: you are an actual goofball

Michael: thank you very much kind maiden

Brooke: you are very welcome kind sir

Michael: ew it’s getting late

Brooke: you can go to sleep if you want

Michael: ew don’t creep around if I do

Brooke: nah I’m probably going to sleep now too- goodnight michaelllllll *lays down on the couch*

Michael: sleep well fair maiden

Brooke: same to you kind sir

Michael: *s leep yeehaw*

Brooke: *sleep..ha*

Morning: hello I’m arrive

Michael: *awoken*

Brooke: *still sleep*

Michael: *epically plays Minecraft on his phone bc he doesn’t wanna awoke Brooke oop*

Brooke: I heard Minecraft *awake v fast*

Michael: o h- it’s on my phoneee?

Brooke: oh...sorry *awkwardly laughs*

Michael: you can play on the tv if you want to *gestures to the epic tv*

Brooke: n-no it’s okay..

Michael: uh- are you okay??

Brooke: yeah!

Michael: okay cool beans *epically minecrafts*

Brooke: *walks over and hugs the michael* I don’t know what’s going on but I felt the need to do this-

Michael: oh that’s fine I like hugs I’m so damn cold all the time *hugs the Brooke ùwú*

Brooke: *laughs* Same

Michael: ugh squad goals

Brooke: what time should I go home?

Michael: whenever- I don’t know

Brooke: *falls off the bed* ouch

Michael: yoooo are you okay??

Brooke: I’m good-

Michael: rrrrad

Brooke: eeeepic

Michael: yooo I wanna be an egirl

Brooke: oooo! I can do your makeup! *runs to her bag and take out this like huge makeup bag thing*

Michael: make me a hot egirl I need to do the hip thing with the skirt

Brooke: I’ll try my best!

-when Brooke finishes doing his makeup??-

Brooke: aaaaand done! Go look

Michael: *l ooks in a mirror??* iM SO HOT HOLY SHIT I NEED A SKIRT NOW I BET I OWN ONE *ddigs through his closet*

Brooke: why would you own a skirt-

Michael: because Jeremy

Brooke: makes sense

Michael: I found it be right back sister *ggggoes to the bathroom to become egirl™️*

Brooke: oh no

Michael: iM AN EGIRL *trips down the stairs* sHIT IM FINE

Brooke: you look so hot oh my god!! Sis, we need to send a picture to Jeremy!

Michael: my phone is on my bed take a picture sister

Brooke: *takes a picture and sends it to jeremy* he’s gonna love this!

Michael: I’m so attractive right now holy lord

Brooke: *claps*

Michael: has he responded yet

Brooke: he said “Brooke what did you do to my boy”

Michael: iM A BIG KID NOW- ohmygod I want heels *runs upstairs to steal his mom’s heels oop*

Brooke: Jeremy is gonna kill you

Michael: *returns* jeremy can suck an egg

Brooke: Michael calm down he’s your boyfriend-

Michael: if we’re being honest he’s sometimes an idiot

Brooke: I mean- true, yes very true

Michael: he’s a very cute idiot

Brooke: *facetimes Jeremy on the Michael’s phone* HI JERRYYYYYY

Jeremy: BROOKE WHAT DID YOU DO TO HIM

Michael: jEREMY LOOK IM AN EGIRL

Jeremy: MICHAEL WH- Wait you look really hot oh my god

Michael: JEREMY IS HORNY SOUND THE ALARM

Jeremy: MICHAEL WHY THE HELL- NO

Michael: Jeremy dont try to deny it you know I’m right

Jeremy: STOP

Michael: whyyyy

Jeremy: it’s too hot

Michael: *;)*

Jeremy: *hangs up*

Michael: he’s no fun

Brooke: then why do you date him? *eating a banana*

Michael: because I love him

Brooke: makes sense- want a banana

Michael: nah it’ll mess up my epic egirl look

Brooke: should I make myself an egirl or a soft thing

Michael: what about vsco

Brooke: omg yes!!

-when Brooke finished her vsco outfit-

Brooke: how do I look?

Michael: Chloe could never

Brooke: I should call her!! *calls up the Chloe*

Chloe: Brooke I’m trying to sleep- oH MY GOD YOU LOOK LIKE MY SISTER (apparently Chloe has a sister now)

Brooke: IM TRENDY AND MICHAEL IS AN E-GIRL

Chloe: why do you two always do the dumbest things?? why an egirl?? where did he get the idea to be an egirl??

Brooke: he wanted Jeremy to be horny I don’t know

Chloe: wow kinky- well you two like have fun- since you woke me up I gotta watch my sister now and make sure she doesn’t like- die from too many scrunchies byeee *hangs up djsksn*

Brooke: she didn’t say I love you! How rude

Michael: uGH I’m suing her

Brooke: I am so sad now *falls onto the bed*

Michael: oh noooo whatever will I do *pats the brooke*

Brooke: *fake cries*

Michael: would going out and getting food in our new hip outfits help?

Brooke: HELL YES- LETS GO! *runs upstairs and bumps into the Michael’s mom pt.1 & pt.2* oh hello!

Michael: *runs up the stairs slower bc heels suck egg*

Michael’s mom pt. 1: what is happening

Michael’s mom pt. 2: Michael did you steal my shoes AGAIN?

Brooke: Michael take those off- those are a pain to walk in and if you fall I’ll just say “I told you so”

Michael: nO THEY MAKE ME LOOK HOT AND I WANNA BE TALL

Michael’s mom pt. 2: if you break your ankle I’m not paying the hospital bill *sashays off with Michael’s mom pt. 1*

Brooke: Michael you are a pain sometimes

Michael: I’m aware- it adds to my personality *wwwalks to the epic gamer car*

Brooke: okay then *gets in the car*

Michael: ok where are we off to

Brooke: can we go to Chloe’s house first- I need to get something

Michael: alrighty then *skrt skrts over to Chloe’s house*

Brooke: *runs to the door and knocks* answerrr

Chloe: *epically answers the door* what- oh hi brooke

Brooke: hi! *runs up to le Chloe’s room and takes a hoodie and leaves* thanks! Love you! *gets back in the car*

Michael: okay we good? because like I wanna get chipotle

Brooke: yeah let’s go

Michael: *skrt skrts over to chipotle* mY HOME

Brooke: *walks into epic chipotle with the Michael*

Random lady: awe you two make a perfect couple!

Michael: oh my god shut up lady I’m gay

Lady: *looks at brooke* I understand that you are trans, it’ll be okay, you’ll pass so well as a boy *leaves*

Brooke: wait wha-

Michael: why can’t I have a friend without people thinking I’m dating them gOD

Brooke: seriously-

-at le Brooke’s House bc that’s where they went after??-

Brooke: now we can chill at my house!

Michael: radddd *epically fixes his glasses*

Brooke’s little sister: oooooo is this your boyfrienddddd

Michael: *>:(* eVEN CHILDREN *angrily spins with his epic egirl skirt*

Brooke: no it’s not, I have a girlfriend! *bring Michael in her room and locks the door* sorry about her, she’s really annoying

Michael: if we’re being honest, almost everyone today has been annoying

Brooke: except for you! Anyways, what do you want to do? We could just order pizza or sushi and chillax

Michael: I dunno uh- we can like- watch a horror movie-? and eat food? that sounds rad I guess

Brooke: okie dokie! I’ll go eat some snacks! *runs downstairs*

Brooke’s sister: sooooo, who are you?

Michael: I’m a person. Who are you?

Brooke’s sister: I’m a human who breathes air. So if you’re not her boyfriend are you gay or something

Michael: if I’m not her boyfriend that automatically makes me gay? Wow rude

Brooke’s sister: never said that but go off! *walks away*

Brooke: I’m ba!- *gets tripped by her rude sister* ow..

Michael: ew your sister is like a vsco fetus *helps Brooke up bc she fell apparently???*

Brooke: ugh I hate you (insert sisters name) *walks into her room* thanks Michael

Michael: haha yeah I’m super epic

Brooke: *hugs the michael and doesn’t let go....Brooke is having a sad moment*

Michael: is something wrong?? *pat pat*

Brooke: she doesn’t leave me aloneeeeee *sob*

Michael: it’s okay-? I’m the worst at this- *pppat*

Brooke: it’s okay *smiles at the michael*

Michael: ccccool *aaaawkward level 100*

Brooke: Michael, why are you getting more awkward around me? If something is wrong you know you can tell me, or Jeremy

Michael: nonono it’s fine I’ve just been thinking over my actions a lot more and it’s making me kinda awkward? Ew I feel like such a jeremy

Brooke: you can go home if you want! You’ve been with me for over 24 hours- I would find myself annoying at this point

Michael: omg you’re not annoying- I’ll leave if you want me to

Brooke: nooooooo! We need to watch Little Shop of Horrors!

Michael: oH RAD

Brooke: *plops on bed*

Michael: *sits next to bbbbrooke*

Brooke: *le epicly falls asleep*

Michael: *pats the Brooke and starts to leave bc n ice dude- oops he bumps into Brooke sister*

Brooke’s sister: watch out (insert bad f word)!